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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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everytime we have sex he gets off and i dont the moment he is done there is no fooling around extra bit or anything. its he is done now i feel used and depressed because once again i dont feel satisfied. then it makes me not want to have sex at all. are there different tips we can try or something new we can do for both of us?

Sometimes it takes more than just sex for a girl to have an orgasm. I would suggest trying oral sex since that focuses on stimulating your clit. That should work.

You could also try new positions to see if he can hit a spot that feels good to you that can get you off.

Yesterday I hung out with my friends all day. At 6 I went over to their dorm and hung out until 10. There were a couple guys there too but just friends. When I get back he is mad at me because I did not spend the day with him. He says that I have to apologize and that I am wrong. The next day he says that I can't hang out with those friends anymore because they tend to sleep around. I hardly hang out with anyone besides me boyfriend in the first place. Their sleeping around does not affect me at all, they are nice and never push anything on to me. They only do that when they are at parties which i am not allowed to go to without my boyfriend. So because I still want to talk to them he broke up with me. Is this controlling?

Yes, that is definitely controlling behavior. He is trying to keep you all to himself, and he's starting to do that by demanding you stop hanging out with your friends. If you allow him to separate you from friends, he will eventually move on to separating you from your family and you will have no one but him.

You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders since you say you don't let your friends behavior affect you. You know better than to sleep around, especially when you're in a relationship.

He is definitely trying to control you though. He's trying to make you give up your friends, and he is making you apologize for nothing. You did nothing wrong, and he wants an apology anyways. He won't even let you go to parties without him. That's rude, annoying and controlling.

Be glad he broke up with you. You can do better and you don't deserve to be treated like shit. Hang out with your friends, and don't ever let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do.

15F
what is the best way to prevent scars when you cut yourself?

Don't cut yourself. That is the easiest way to prevent scars.

Whatever is bothering you can be sorted out, and you can get help for it. Talk to a friend, talk to your parents, or simply talk to a teacher at school. Ask for help, and they will get it for you so that you can sort your issues out and not get sucked into destructive behavior.

I cut for 5 years, and I still get urges to hurt myself to this day to start cutting again. The only reason I don't is because I know that it doesn't solve or help anything, and that the scars are ugly. Trust me, I've got lots so I know just how difficult it is to have to look at them everyday and relive that regret.

Don't cut yourself sweetie. It's really not worth it. If you'd like to talk one on one, e-mail me. Maybe I can help you further. 123abchristina@gmail.com

my friend thinks she is really ugly and fat and worthless but she isnt she is really pretty but maybe a little over weight but she is not ugly and she said she feels this way everyday and i don't know what to do about her because every time i tell her she isnt one of those things she gets mad at me and its ruining our friendship. sometimes i think she likes all these boys and makes-out with them just to feel pretty and she always gets her heart broken after they leave her. she has lots of friends who think she is really pretty but she never listens to us i just really need help with her because i love her(as a friend) and she is one of my best friends.
p.s. she is 14 and she also cuts. i am also 14 and i am a girl.

Sadly, there's not much you can do to help your friend realize the good within her. She is going to believe what she wants to believe no matter what she is told. But, keep in mind that just because she won't believe you, it doesn't mean you should stop telling her how wonderful she is. People really need to hear these types of things, especially people with low self-esteem.

Tell her everyday that she is beautiful, smart, funny, nice, etc. Let her know all of her wonderful qualities. She may not believe you now, but I'm sure she will believe you eventually.

Also try to keep in mind that sometimes confidence issues stem from a lot of different things. She may be having a problem at home that you don't know about. Ask her if there's anything going on at home that she wants to talk about. If she decides to open up, just be there for her. Listen to what she's saying and comfort her the best way you can.

As for her cutting, you need to tell an adult about that one. Cutting is a horrible thing to do (trust me, I cut for 5 years, and still battle with it to this day) and it's not healthy. It can only make you feel better for a split second, but the problems are still there after everything is said & done. I suggest you talk to her parents, or maybe a teacher at school. They will get her the help she needs. She may be mad at you for telling on her, but eventually she will realize that you were right to get her help.

Just be there for her. She really needs a friend, and you're being an excellent one by consoling her when she needs you the most. Continue what you're doing. She's a lucky girl to have someone like you as her friend.

I'm a 14 year old chick and I have a soft spot in my heart for horror movie psychos. I absolutely adore Leatherface. This can't possibly be normal, is it?

I would say it's normal. Everyone has different taste in movies and music. I think as long as you don't try to kill anyone the way they do in the films, you're fine.

Don't worry about it.

Iam going to my boyfriends sister's wedding on may 14th and Iam not really big on dresses do I have to get dressed up and if I do do I have to wear a dress can I wear jeans?

It is incredibly rude to wear jeans to someone's wedding and I recommend that you don't do it.

Wear a dress. It's only for a couple of hours, and once it's over, you don't have to wear the dress again if you don't want to. But don't wear jeans. It's rude and I'm not sure your boyfriend's family will appreciate it. The day isn't about you or your comfort.

I know this Guy who ive Known for about 15 years now.
He was around alot during my Childhood years.!
Hes not to much older then iam.
He's a really good friend who i tell everything to.
He told me he wanted to be with me & that he was in love with me.

I dont know what to do!

Take the time to think about it. Ask yourself some questions.

Do you feel the same way about him? Do you only see him as a friend? Do you find him attractive? Do you enjoy his company? Do you find yourself thinking about him when he isn't around?

If you think you might like him back, tell him that. If you don't see him as anything but a friend, you need to tell him that as well. No matter what the outcome, whether you like him or not, you need to tell him the truth.

i went to a party ,it was in a hotel// and i kinda GOT LOST with this guy. and we were holding hands..oh by the way we were alone .. we were walking i sat on his lap. he tried to kiss me but i refuese. He was touching me and told me that he wanted to DO ME. then he was on top of me ohh nd we were on the floor. We didnt do nuthing. he was on top of me toching me and then well a guy came saw us i stoped stand up and i told him we should go back to the party..I WAS REALLY HAVING FUN WITH HIM ...So we went back to the party and like 10 minutes later i saw him kissing another girl and dis girl give him a hickie i acted like i didnt care.. thats why i dance with this guy we danced perreo and i kinda lap dance him...I KNOW he was looking. i talk to him on facebook and he said it was my decision if i wanted to do it with him...THAT MADE ME FEEL BAD. the he said some really nice words in facebook. but i dont know if that was for me or her!!! **my friend show me a message asking her if i liked him... idk please help me!! DOES HE JUST WANT ME FOR SEX?! OR WAT?!!! I REALLY LIKE THIS GUY!! but im afraid if i do it with him imight get pregnent!! i noe diz is really stupid. i been liking this guy for like 2 years already!!!!
OHH AND IM 15 YEARS OLD!

Yeah, he definitely only wanted you for sex. He wanted it, you didn't give it to him, so he dropped you and went onto the next. It doesn't seem as if he likes you. He pretty much only wanted you for sex and that was it.

What should I do, I only go "potty" once or twice a day?

I'm not a doctor so I'm not sure how to exactly give you advice on this. I don't know if going to the bathroom only once or twice a day is unhealthy mainly because everyone is different. Everyone has different bathroom habits so I'm not really sure.

I think your issue might be that you don't have enough fiber in your diet, and that you're not drinking enough liquids. You need to eat more foods with fiber, and you can find a list of those here: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/high-fiber-foods/NU00582

As for liquids... drink juice, soda, water, etc. Anything really works. As long as you drink more liquids and eat more foods that are high in fiber, you should be going to the bathroom more. However if you change up your diet and you're still only using the bathroom once or twice a day, you need to see a doctor.

I hope this helps. Like I said, I'm not really a doctor, nor am I a nutritionist so I don't know what your issue could be. This is just a guess.

First of all, How do i inbox you? I am kinda new at this so I really dont know how to.

I hope if it is not a problem if I write to you.
I really need help.
I am kind of attached to this guy.. before I knew this side of him, WE had an amazing time together ..thats what makes me hard to believe he could actually do something like this to me. I used to consider him my best boyfriend ever. He would do everything just perfectly :) and though ofcourse we were together barely for three months it felt a long time to me cause we used to meet atleast twice a week or even more often most of the times!!
Thats why it is so hard for me not to get over him .I dont know what to do.

At the top of my column, there is a link that says 'Ask A Question' and that is how you inbox me. You've been doing it properly.

It's definitely not a problem for you to write to me. This is an advice site, and it's what I'm here for. If you need anything, I will listen and try my best to help.

I completely know where you are coming from. It is hard to get over people sometimes. It can be such an easy thing, but when what you had was special, the connection is harder to break.

What you need to do is remind yourself of what he's done to you. He may have been nice in the beginning, but remember, he cheated on you. He didn't respect you enough to remain faithful to you. When you find yourself wanting to go back to him, or not being able to let go, just think of what he did. You'll remember how it felt, and you won't want to be with him.

Getting over him will be a hard process. It won't be easy. Just take some time for yourself. Go out with friends. Start a blog, maybe pick up a new hobby. If you don't have a job, apply for one. Do anything to keep yourself occupied. The more you do, and the busier you are, the easier getting over him will be.

I hope you do manage to get over him, and that you don't go back to him. If you do, you are only setting yourself up for unnecessary heartbreak. Be smart about this, because you are the key to the changes your life can go through. If you need anything else, just ask.

okay so I have been dating this guy for the past three months and I recently found out he was cheating on me! He told the girl he made out with that he was single and that I was just his friend! I found this out cause i incidentally talked to the girl.I really got angry when I found out he had been lying to me all this while and I immediately broke up with him. when i confronted him about the whole thing he had to accept it but then for the first five hours after confrontation he was all like "i cant believe i could lie so well.." but after that he said sorry and kept on texting and calling me up! he wanted me back and told me he was very sorry and all and he actually spoke to some of his friends (who i know too) about the whole thing and how he really feels sorry about everything. he told some of our mutual friends to call me up too ..should i trust him again and go back to him or not????

In my honest opinion, no, you should not go back to him.

He's raised 2 red flags for me already, and I'm only reading a paragraph on the internet. That says a lot.

1. When you confronted him, he said "I can't believe I could lie so well." First of all, he's a liar, so that sucks because now you can't believe anything he says. Second, he seems so proud about being able to pull it off. He just seemed amazed with himself, like lying so well was a good thing. Disgusting.

2. He cheated on you. I hate to go by the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing because some people really DO change, but that's obviously not the case with everyone. If he has cheated on you before, who is to say he won't do it again? Yes, there's a small chance he's learned his lesson and will keep it in his pants this time around, but I've learned you can't always trust everyone and give them the benefit of the doubt.

I don't wanna tell you to be cynical, and fear relationships and have a wall up, but before dating anyone or even becoming friends with someone, always take a second to think about it and if it's something you really want. If someone gives you a weird vibe, it's best to stay away.

All in all, sweetie, don't go back to him. He'll probably cheat on you again, and he's a lying sack of shit. If he wants to hook up with a bunch of girls, cool, but he should have the decency to be single. Don't give him the time of day. You'll find a guy who really respects and deserves you eventually. I hope this helps, and I hope you feel better. Being cheated on really hurts, and it can really mess someone up. If you need anything else, feel free to inbox me again. :)

theres a song that was on tonights episode of skins while the guys were in the woods & lickin the frog lol. the music behind it is classical, i think its in fantasia & its pretty well known, they do a beat behind it. & the first line in it is 'twisted on these mushrooms'. Help? thanks.

With a quick Google search, I found out that the song is called "Trip to Feza" and it's by a group called Lionshare.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110222055510AAIGN4Q

There you go.

Well I resently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and I'm trying to forget about him but now his friends know what happen kinda and they are looking at me like I'm the evil one in this. They don't know how he treated me and what went on behind doors and they keep trashing me I don't know what to do I look really bad to everyone and I get dirty looks. How do I make peice?

The best thing to do is to just ignore them. They only know what they have been told by your ex, so if all he's said is negative, that's what they are going to think of you.

To be honest, as long as you know the truth, what other people say or think doesn't matter. You are who you are and if people want to judge you, let them. They know nothing about you and they are the ones making a fool of themselves, not you.

Just ignore them though. The best revenge is keeping a smile on your face despite all the negative going on around you.

I live in the US and shop at department stores like Macys, Kohls, and Jcpennys. When it comes to jeans, size 9 is a tight fit, yet size 11 is a little loose. I shop in the juniors department, where sizes are only odd, but I feel like I would be a perfect size ten. 9/10's feel like 9.5's to me, and if they aren't strech, they aren't working. What stores could I shop at, or what department and size should i get/go to, to get pants that finally fit right?!

Try Old Navy. Their jeans fit really well, and they even have some stretchy ones so you could go down a size or two and still be comfortable.

18/f

im having the worst period pain ive ever experienced. i have been at my wits end trying to find something to ease the pain, i have been trying these pills the last couple of months but there not helping at all. please help

I know exactly how you feel! When I started my period, I got the worst cramps in the world and they never went away no matter how many pills I took. I still get them to this day sometimes.

The best thing to know is that you should take a Midol BEFORE your cramps start. If you wake up and you feel fine, pop a Midol so that it will be active by time your cramps start to kick in. Lay with a hot water bottle on your stomach, or a heating pad. Stay away from caffeine, and try not to move around much. The more you move, the more it'll hurt. Laying still will help ease it.

If I were you though, I would definitely look into getting some birth control. I got on BC a couple of months ago, and my period doesn't even bug me anymore. You can get birth control for free (or at a low, discounted price) at your local Planned Parenthood. Make an appointment at your local center and they'll get you the things you need. :)

Does mastrubation hampers our health in any ways if it is done frequently?does it cause pimples on the skin or will it make a person go weak or skinny?please advice..

The answer to everything you asked is no.

The only time masturbation can become a problem is if it interrupts daily life. If you would rather masturbate than go to work, or hang out with friends and family, then it's definitely an issue. But if you're only doing it a couple times a week, I'd say you're fine.

Masturbation is actually very healthy, so I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.

I like to think about names for if I ever have kids, and I really love the name Alexei for a boy, but a lot of my friends say it sounds like a girl name. Would this be an ok boy name? Thank you answerers

I would definitely say that Alexei is a unisex name meaning it's okay for both genders.

If you really love the name, and you are sure that's what you would want to name your child, go for it! It's your kid, so anyone's opinion on the name is kind of invalid (unless it's your spouse's opinion, of course).

Besides, the obvious nickname would be Alex. I don't think you have anything to worry about. But don't let anyone stop you from giving your kid the name you want. I see Alexei as a fairly normal name. At least you're not naming them Leaf, or T-Shirt or something.

i just recently lost it, sunday night. i'm still pretty sore down there when you touch it and my thighs have been burning, not to mention the pain in my back. and i feel so dirty complaining about it but can't help but feel like this has gone on too long. is it normal?

I would say it's semi-normal. When I lost my virginity, I was sore for a couple of days, but I've never heard of the pain lasting almost a week.

I don't think anything is wrong with you. Did he pound you though? Because if he was thrusting really hard & fast, that could be why you're in so much pain. Sex is fun and everything, but it's best to go slow & steady when you're dealing with a virgin.

I'd just take some Aleve and relax. I'm sure you'll be fine and the pain will go away soon. Next time, have the guy be a little more gentle.

I like this guy at work and he said he thinks I'm cute. I'm 20 and he's 21. I know that he used to drink, but I don't think he does much anymore.I don't really know how he is outside of work. I am Christian and I'm not suppose to date a nonbeliever. I don't know if he believes in God or not. If he were to ask me out what should I say? Would it be ok if I said I had to think about it?

If he were to ask you out, you should say yes. You like him, he thinks you're attractive, so why not? You can go just as friends because you don't wanna make anything serious, and this way you can get a feel for who he is outside of work.

It would definitely be okay to want to think about it first. You don't really know him well, and hanging out with someone can sometimes be a big step. It's such a simple thing, but it's also something that can make or break the relationship.

If you do decide to hang out, religion could be something you talk with him about. In my personal opinion though, I wouldn't. Religion & politics are two subjects that cause nothing but problems when they are discussed.

And if Christians really aren't supposed to date non believers, I think my boyfriend (and most of my previous boyfriends) may be going to hell.

Have I met my true love?

How the hell should I know?

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