Yesterday I hung out with my friends all day. At 6 I went over to their dorm and hung out until 10. There were a couple guys there too but just friends. When I get back he is mad at me because I did not spend the day with him. He says that I have to apologize and that I am wrong. The next day he says that I can't hang out with those friends anymore because they tend to sleep around. I hardly hang out with anyone besides me boyfriend in the first place. Their sleeping around does not affect me at all, they are nice and never push anything on to me. They only do that when they are at parties which i am not allowed to go to without my boyfriend. So because I still want to talk to them he broke up with me. Is this controlling?
christina answered Tuesday March 8 2011, 1:30 pm: Yes, that is definitely controlling behavior. He is trying to keep you all to himself, and he's starting to do that by demanding you stop hanging out with your friends. If you allow him to separate you from friends, he will eventually move on to separating you from your family and you will have no one but him.
You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders since you say you don't let your friends behavior affect you. You know better than to sleep around, especially when you're in a relationship.
He is definitely trying to control you though. He's trying to make you give up your friends, and he is making you apologize for nothing. You did nothing wrong, and he wants an apology anyways. He won't even let you go to parties without him. That's rude, annoying and controlling.
Razhie answered Saturday March 5 2011, 10:11 pm: Yes.
Fortunately you HAD a controlling boyfriend. Hopefully you can stay far away from him now, and not let him dictate rules to you anymore. It sounds like you can make reasonably good choices without a boyfriend managing your every move. [ Razhie's advice column | Ask Razhie A Question ]
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