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Do I have a Controlling Boyfriend?

Question Posted Saturday March 5 2011, 6:10 pm

Yesterday I hung out with my friends all day. At 6 I went over to their dorm and hung out until 10. There were a couple guys there too but just friends. When I get back he is mad at me because I did not spend the day with him. He says that I have to apologize and that I am wrong. The next day he says that I can't hang out with those friends anymore because they tend to sleep around. I hardly hang out with anyone besides me boyfriend in the first place. Their sleeping around does not affect me at all, they are nice and never push anything on to me. They only do that when they are at parties which i am not allowed to go to without my boyfriend. So because I still want to talk to them he broke up with me. Is this controlling?

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letters2jelisse answered Thursday March 10 2011, 10:17 pm:
To me it seems like he he's trying to be protective. Maybe he was hurt in the past and doesn't want anything happening to you. Then again, I could be wrong.

Some guys get jealous way to easily. Maybe he was so you to you being with him that he just wants you all the time. Some guys can't stand not having your attention.

So I wouldn't really say it's controlling it's more like being protective.

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christina answered Tuesday March 8 2011, 1:30 pm:
Yes, that is definitely controlling behavior. He is trying to keep you all to himself, and he's starting to do that by demanding you stop hanging out with your friends. If you allow him to separate you from friends, he will eventually move on to separating you from your family and you will have no one but him.

You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders since you say you don't let your friends behavior affect you. You know better than to sleep around, especially when you're in a relationship.

He is definitely trying to control you though. He's trying to make you give up your friends, and he is making you apologize for nothing. You did nothing wrong, and he wants an apology anyways. He won't even let you go to parties without him. That's rude, annoying and controlling.

Be glad he broke up with you. You can do better and you don't deserve to be treated like shit. Hang out with your friends, and don't ever let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do.

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TurtleChickThing answered Saturday March 5 2011, 10:13 pm:
That's just not right, yes that is controlling if he won't let you do anything. Good luck

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Razhie answered Saturday March 5 2011, 10:11 pm:

Fortunately you HAD a controlling boyfriend. Hopefully you can stay far away from him now, and not let him dictate rules to you anymore. It sounds like you can make reasonably good choices without a boyfriend managing your every move.

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