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My friend is pregnant! She has the mind of a 6yo even though she is 21!
my name is Rachel and my friend Jessica she's 21 almost 22 on march 18th and she's pregnant but she's mentally retarted she has the mind of a 6 year old on some things and other things she has the mind of a 3 year old and her mom declared her mentally encompetant and her mom's going to make her have an abortion and she's so scared and I can't blame her for being scared but her boyfriend is supporting her and is there for her and he is 24 with no mental health problems and I was wondering she she has a childs mind would this be considered rape even though the boyfriend had her concent to have sex with her? My friend and i both go to a mental health center and I was wondering how I could help her and what kind of advice i should give her? I think she shoud look at the option of adoption becouse she's not mentally stable to take care and raise a baby right now and there is so many woman who would like to have one but can't and it would be a hell a lot better than having an abortion and I think she should talk to her mom about giving the baby up for adoption if her mom dosn't want her to keep it and I agree with her mom on one thing she's not ready take care of a child right now. How can I help my friend?
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Yes, it could be considered rape if she is found by doctors and a court to not be mentally competent enough to consent to sex. He could be charged with several sex crimes if that's the case - and in some states, with rape.
I think the best advice you can give her is as little as possible. Listen to her, she'll probably need to vent a lot, and encourage her to listen the advice of her doctors and her mom.
Just be a support and someone who cares for her. The decisions now aren't yours to make, and unfortunately, they aren't really hers to make either if she is cognitively incapable of making them. If she truly only has the capacity of a very young child, she might not even be able take care of herself well enough during a pregnancy -- I know it's scary for her and for her friends, but the best thing you can do is support the professionals and her caregivers. They might not be perfect, but they probably have her best interests at heart and understand a great deal more of the situation than you or her.
If you are worried she is being abused or coerced, bring that to someone's attention, but if she is being cared for well, leave the decisions to her and her caregivers - you just be her friend, listen, love her and support her no matter what happens.
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