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My name is Abby. I'm 14. I am a freshman at DHS. I live in MA. I like to sing dance, write songs and poetry and I play softball.

I can give you advice on friendships, school, sports, things on your appearance, and relationships/love life.

I'm here to be honest, and give REAL advice. I won't lie to you to make you feel better about yourself, I won't tell you that you are gorgeous and perfect, and I will not judge you just because of some of the things you ask me advice about are sleezy and what not.

If you have any questions just come to my inbox. I'll be happy to answer them =]

advice

There is this boy that I like and I don't know if he likes me... He used to live across the street from me for like a year, and we used to play outside a lot but, then he moved and we talk on the computer and we talk on our cell phones a lot. And he had a girlfriend, but then my friend told him that I liked him and the next day he broke up with her. But then when I was talking to him on the computer, he said "so your going out wit 'blah' and then he said wrong IM, so I'm just wondering if he likes me or not?

Well, I can't say that he likes you. He probably does if you guys used to spend so much time together, and he still talks to you alot. Simply brag about yourself in a way that it isn't like so bold. Don't become self centered or conceited but talk about yourself so he can get to know you more, and talk about him alot to him. Ask him questions, and then ask him if you guys could hang out sometime for "old times sake"
I hope I helped!

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ok. so my best friend is my brothers g/f. she is so nice,and she helps me out a ton. well anyway. i like her cousin SO much. i would love to be his g/f. the problem is, hes too good for me. i feel like he would never go out with me. plus he is a year and a half older then me. im 13/f and hes almost 15/m but he is in 10th grade bcuz he skipped a grade. my question: what can i do to get him to like me and ask me out. p.s. ive never actually met him, but he goes to my church and i could meet him anytime i wanted to through my bff. thnkx so much.
i like him so much

Awww, that's so cute. Hun, don't ever tell yourself someone is too good for you. You are who you are and there's no changing that. If someone can't see it then they are stupid! Make yourself appear available but not desperate. Look his way when you see him and smile, don't be afraid to be yourself around him if you finally do meet him. Have your BFF talk you up so he will become interested. Try to make your appearance at its best when you see him. Be kind, smart, funny, relaxed, and innocent around him. Age isn't anything... I've gone out with older! I'm 14/f by the way... Well, thankyou for coming to me with your question and I hope I can help you!

IM me anytime if you need anything @ BabyyGqirlx3
Love always, Abby

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Here's the situation, me and this guy have been going steady for 4 weeks, we've been on 3 dates he lives 30 minutes away we met on myspace and I guess you could say that we're both "interested" in eachother. The problem is that I feel like I want this relationship more than he does. It seems as if i'm always the one who makes plans for us to go do something and I feel that he holds no initiative when it comes to us. It is both our first time in a male-male relationship and yet I feel like i'm more ready for an "us" than he is and when I asked him where he thinks this relationship is going all I get are "idk" and "wherever 'we' want it to go" which I think is very cliche. Also, i'm out to most my friends and family and he is getting there he just hasn't told his mother, however, some parts of his immediate family like his older sister and brothers want to change him and make him "straight." Amongst that whenever I want to come over to his house when he's feeling down he won't let me and keeps me at a distance and it just bugs the hell out of me. Also, we talked last night on AIM and it basically killed me talking to him because I'm just so confused about "us" so I told him that I was depressed (which I was do to him and just pondering about "us") and I started to cry... well I told him that and just ended the conversation by saying," I can't take this I just can't." Then I signed off and cried myself to sleep and he knew I was crying and still he didn't try and call me to cheer me up... All he did was just message me on myspace and was like, "I know our last date didn't turn out very well, but me and Stephanie were planning on watching a movie on Thursday and I was wondering if you wanted to come." I just don't know what I should do because everytime he plans a date it's always with one of his friends and it makes me feel just like another friend. So the question I keep asking myself is whether or not the only reason why i'm keeping him is because I like the idea of saying that I have a boyfriend as opposed to actually having a boyfriend... if that makes any sense. Thanks if you can help me out and sorry this quesiton was so long.

Awww, that is so sad. I'm sorry you feel that way... This situation is a toughy. He is probably putting it off for the fact that like you said, he hasn't really come out to everyone and for the reason of his family wants him to be straight. I know its hard but just give him some time because if its both of your first male-male relationships it might be weird for him to get used to. Just give him some time. Tell him that if he needs to talk with you about ANYTHING let him know you are there for him. If it's meant to be it will go according to plan.

I hope you get the best out of this situation!

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A day before Easter, this guy said he wanted to be more than friends with me, but I had a boyfriend, so I told him we could be friends with benifits, and we
were pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend, we did everything together! So, eventually I dumped my boyfriend for him! So then, we were pretty much really boyfriend and girlfriend. But recently, my friend Jessica, she's like, my bestfriend, asked him out, and I guess he said yes, so then, him and I became friends with benifits again! And that was okay with me, except for that he told me he doesn't like Jessica, and He only wants me in his life, he told me he is in love with me and he is going to dump Jessica for me! I told Jessica everything, I mean EVERYTHING! She wasn't mad, only upset! She is a good friend, and she understood that she couldn't be mad because I had him first! But in my school, I'm really popular, and she is kind of a Geek! Nobody likes her, and she hardly ever gets any decent boyfriends, and I get whoever I want, whenever I want, pretty much. But since she finally has a really hot guy, i don't want to hurt her but taking him from her, but really i had him first! but he's gonna dump her, and i want to go out with him, not only be friends with benifits! and he feels the same, but she is in the way of everything! him and i are in love, you could say, we both love each other, and he dosnt have feelings for her like, at all, so what do i do?!?!?!?

Ok, I'm not pinning this all on you; but I've been in this situation before, and when a guy wants to be friends with benefits, it's usually just so that way he can get what he wants. I'm not saying that this is all the guy wants from you but what I am saying is he most likely doesn't love you if he couldn't just ask you out in the first place. By the looks of it you are probably in middle school or just starting out in High school; and most guys at your age are only looking for one thing - what any horny guy wants. Trust me, it's not love. You probably really really like him but when it comes to friends with benefits, it means "The guy gets what he wants my spitting game to you, while the girl believes every nice compliment he tells you and falls for him"

With the situation of your friend, if she doesn't get too many boys don't step in the way. You may have had him first but if he asked her out he had to have liked her, and it wouldn't be fair to get inbetween the relationship anymore than what you have. You can't help people's feelings. If he then decides to break it off, then wait a little bit so you don't seem like the rebound girl, and then if he comes on to you again go for it. BUT TRUST ME: Don't do too much because you will get a rep, and believe me, you don't want that.

I hope I helped!

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do guys only find skinny girls with absolutely no fat on them attractive? is just a little bit of fat okay do you think? what else do they find attractive personality and looks?

No, most guys think that girls that have absolutely no fat is unattractive. Guys like a little fat that they can grab and hold on too, like love handles. Guys also like it when a girl has a nice personality consisting of being smart, kind, generous, not too shy to talk to them, but at the same time being innocent. For looks, they just like girls that dont look trashy but have a nice clean face. They don't like too much make up, and most guys dont like sluts. The less you hook up with guys, the more they will like you. Boys like girls with less experience so they don't have to worry about not trusting you.

These are all the tips I can think of at the moment. Hope I helped!

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What do you do when a friend for 9 years gets upset because they were told that you said something supposedly They won't talk about it. They say that they are upset and won't tell you what was said so that you can deny or explain

well a friend for nine years is important to keep. But it depends, I mean.. if they wont tell you its because its not true. tell her you didnt say anything and you arent going to be concerned because if she wont tell you, there is nothing you can do. Its just drama. it will pass. It happens all the time. I hope she will tell you though because I know how it feels to be in your position. I'm sure shes just over reacting. Just try to talk to her about it and sound really concerned; if that doesnt work then like i said before, dont let it phase you.

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I feel like I am ready to have sex with my boyfriend. My problem is that I was raped and thats how I really lost my virginity. This would be my real first time and I dont want to be nervous or bad at it sense my boyfriend is experianced.

first question: How can I stop my nerves

second question: How can I make it romantic and nice for him. making love not just sex.

and any other advice you have.

thank you

Well, use protection first off haha.
Uhm, you could light candles, play nice music, make the room look pretty, tell him you love him a lot, and all that good stuff.

About the nerves, just make sure he proves his love to you before you do it. If you know he truely loves you, there is no need to be nervous. Just be calm and relax. Don't worry about it becuz if you've seen the Notebook you know how that goes. c[=

Well I hope I helped.

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I'm a guy and when I talk to my guy friends I can really express myself but when I talk to a friend thats a girl I act all different and shy....now I know when people say guys act different around girls
I need help just expressing myself and I usually and talk about anything but im having some trouble. O if anyone could give me some advice and some topics to talk about to my friends that are girls please tell me.

Hey.. im a girl so i can give you some tips.

When boys talk to me, they are either too quiet or they are perverted. Girls don't really like either. Girls like guys that can tell them anything * except the gross stuff - unless she asks you * Girls like it when a boy is sensitive but at the same time wld defend them if another guy was being rude. Girls like boys that can be theirselves and not care.

When you talk to a girl just be like, hey how are you.. what did u do today.. hows ur summer been.. and dont be afraid to talk about her. Girls like it when you keep the conversation on them. If shes pretty tell her she is. If shes ugly.. well dont tell her that. haha. just give her compliments and even if you dont like her, girls need it sometimes from her guy friends.

Uhm, if there is anything else you need help with feel free to IM me - Babyy Gqirl x3

love always, Abby

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Does anyone know any good sappy teenage romance novels? I need something good to read. =D

a walk to remember, the notebook and a bend in the road... ANYTHING BY NICHOLAS SPARKS its all lovey dovey

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This guy liked me for several years. He told me and asked me out several times. I started to like him too. We decided to try it out, and for several months we were blissfully happy. And then it all went wrong. I got mad about something I heard about him cheating on me, he got mad I didn't trust him and dumped me on the spot. First issue in our relationship and we're over. He then expected me to be friends with him but I said screw you and blocked him.

My mom reckons he was just using me. I just can't understand why he would, but then why would he give up on me so easily? I know he had liked me a long time yet one bad thing happens and it's over. Just like that. No attempt to work things out.
I tried to make a complete break of him and get him out of my life and for a few weeks I didn't hear from him. Then he messaged me out of the blue and we started talking. And we discussed where it all went wrong, and he said he had been planning to do it for a while but he was going to do in person. Then he said "let's meet and work it all out, perhaps get back together, at least let's be friends" and agreed and went up to him the next day, and he made me feel like a fool by saying there was nothing else to work out. He said he only wanted to be friends again. So I yelled at him that night and said I no longer wanted to try and be friends and he said I was a bitch because we had been friends for so long and I was throwing it all away. I told him it was no longer my concern and if he wanted to work things out, he had to come up to me and do it in person and he was the one who gave up on us so easily. Haven't heard from him since. The truth is, I didn't wanna be friends because I couldn't get over him that way.
We work together so I see him all the time. And I can't get over him even though he's such an asshole and he's probably over me. What should I do? Am I a bitch for not being friends with him? And why would he give up on us so easily if he had liked me so long? That makes me so mad.. I wanted to work things out and he didn't.. I can't figure it out.

thanks.

Well getting over someone you love takes a lot of time. If you think about it non stop, and you always stare at him, always talk about him, and when you hear his name you smile; you're in love.
The thing is, you just have to work on it. If he doesn't want to be with you, then you just have to try to get over it. Try to like someone new to get him off your mind. I know, you probably think its impossible but it really helps.


I hope I helped.

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ok
im 13/f and im gonna be going into 8th grade.
with not ever having a boyfriend, no first kiss no nothing!
and it sucks.
my love life better get better before i get to highschool
any ways i could maybe get a boyfriend or have boys get to like me more?!

Hey, don't feel down on yourself, I didn't get my first kiss until january of this year. I was 13 too. But you shouldn't feel bad because you've never had a real b/f or a kiss. Wait for someone who will make it special. If you are worried about not having a bf just go after guys with a better personality, then looks. Be friends with them first, and dont be afraid to be yourself. Guys hate girls that are shy and quiet. But they also can't stand girls that are ALWAYS loud and annoying. So, just be in the between. Hopefully it works.

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Ok, I have been having dreams of being with other men even though I have a bf. I love my bf and would never cheat on him. I used to have those dreams a lot but it stopped for a while but now there back =/. I hate it, I used to just get up and forget about it, its just a dream right? But now they are really bothering me. I love my boyfriend so much and our two-year anniversary is coming up. We tell each other everything but I haven’t been able to tell him about this cause he can get very jealous. He tells me stuff like that and it really wouldn’t bother me. Should I tell him? Is there anyway to make the dreams stop? Do they mean something? I used to like all the guys that I dream about, but i really don’t like them anymore. This is how my last dream went...

We were on school busses and they left us at what looked like a mall but also a school. Any way my bf was with me but we got separated and I hung out with my friend and we found out there was a concert on the roof. we went up there and one of my bf's friend that I used to like was there. Anyway during the concert someone bumped into him and he feel on me and kissed me, I kissed him back and then stopped and started crying. He said come on you don’t like him he doesn’t treat you right don’t cry, don’t you like me? Which made me cry more and I ran downstairs and then woke up.

This guy is the one I dream of the most and he’s attractive but I love my bf and think he is much more attractive so why am I having these dreams! And do I tell my bf? I really want these dreams to stop I never even think of those guys and I end up dreaming about them! AH! Please help

Dreams are there sometimes to show you a clue to a part of your life. It isn't saying that you want to cheat on him, and that you don't love him; but it could mean that the relationship for one of you ( or both ) isnt as strong as it used to be or could be. Try to do more activities with eachother and try to make the relationship more fun like it was in the beginning. Hopefully that will work.

If it doesn't work, then confront your boyfriend. Don't tell him about the dreams just yet. Simply respond to it as in, do you truely care about me because I really love you and I don't want anything or anyone to ever come between us. And after his response, in a calm and polite manner tell him about your dream.

I hope I helped.

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My hair is really poofy. Even after I straighten it bottom layer, then top. I've bleached my hair and all that good stuff. I was wondering, if I got my hair chemicaly straightened, would that make it non-poofy?

Sorry, for the bad spelling.

chemically hair straightening is good if you have a LOT of hair. I mean, you still have to straighten it, but what it does is it makes your hair less poofy, frizzy, and thin. It would be good for you, but you lose some hair; so make sure your hair is thick enough. Go to a special salon to do it, not the do it yourself ones.

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What are some of the early symptoms of being pregnant? like first 1-3 months

heightened smell, tender breasts, and throwing up a lot. You crave foods you don't like too.

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ok..im going to say this straight out iv got small boobs is their anything I can do to do make them bigger i heard sleeping with out a bra but so far nothing ? anything i can do? ... and i work with this guy and i reallly want him to ask me out ... how can i get him to do this?

There really is nothing else you can do. Who cares, if a guy likes you for your boobs he is a jackass. If you still want bigger boobs then maybe sleep without a bra, and try to gain a little weight.

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Okay, so i don't have any friends. frankly alot of people don't like me because of all the drama that went on last year in 8th grade. Now i am really scared to be going into freshman, when almost everybody hates me when i only have about 4 girl friends.. and would've i`m not in any classes with them? well thats not my problem.. my problem is.. the people that don't like me are going to harass me and get everybody to gain up on me.. i`m now a religious christian && not many people know that, except for the people that went to church camp with me. i don't know what i am going to do. what should i say to people who are trying to fight with me.. should i like apologize to them.. so that they don't cause drama for me in 9th? i really just wanna stay out and be like unknown.. but thats not going to happen.. what do i do :[[ please please help.

Hunny, it's highschool. Through out your life people will try to bring you down. But kids in highschool HATE drama. And if you cause it, they will turn you away. You have to act like none of it phases you. Just go with the flow. If people start with you be like look I'm sorry for whatever happened in the past, and if you don't like me I don't care. Get over it. You don't have to explain to people your reasons for being you. Just be yourself, stay away from drama, and don't let jealous people ruin your freshman year. There will be tons of new faces for you to be friends with. Forget the people who try to bring you down; they aren't real friends anyways.

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hey im jackie and im 14. and this question is for my friend. she just turned 15 and her ex boyfriend is 14 and they've been going out since october,(8 months) and they have gone pretty far. hes gotten her to give him a hand job and let him finger her, for the first time. before she went out with him, she hadnt even had her first kiss. anyway, he broke upw ith her 2 days ago and she is miserable! he siad it was b/c he wanted to move on. I ;d like to know how to help her get over him. help pleasee

♥ Jackie

There's not much you can do. Just tell your friend that you will be here for her every step of the way. And even though you don't know exactly how she is feeling, you will try to. Broken hearts suck BIG TIME. Just try to boost your friend's confidence. And if any guy wld get what he wanted, and then say he wants to move on, he is pathetic and totally not worth it. Believe me, boys at her age are losers. That's all they want. I know first hand. =/
Just remember that there is so many good things about your friend, and if one stupid boy can't see it. He was never important. Try to be straight with your friend and tell it like it is, but as nicely as possible. Cuz one day she needs to hear it. Even if she gets bitchy, that is the only way it will work.

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How long do hangovers last and is there anything I can do to feel better?

Drink lots of water and eat bread. It soaks up the alcohal. Also get a lot of rest.

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well my boyfriend wants the metal tag that say like age sex name, that sort of stuff. i know that there are alot online but i want to go to a store and buy it. the thing is i dont know where they have any.
so thanxx

Walmart has a machine in the animal section - it's for like the dog information. They are called dog tags. You can make them out with your information. They have a variety of kinds, so its not just for pets. They have the army tag ones you are looking for in the machine.

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What`s the best thing to use for pimples that actualy works? & that I don`t have to orde.

Anything from Cleasil or Nutregina or Aveeno.
What ever is a daily wash or a scrub. You can buy them at drugstores like CVS or Walgreens/Walmart or the grocery store. They range from 5 - 14 dollars. But be sure to buy a moisterizer because dry skin also causes breakouts.

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