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I am ready..
I feel like I am ready to have sex with my boyfriend. My problem is that I was raped and thats how I really lost my virginity. This would be my real first time and I dont want to be nervous or bad at it sense my boyfriend is experianced.
first question: How can I stop my nerves
second question: How can I make it romantic and nice for him. making love not just sex.
and any other advice you have.
thank you
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Since he is experienced and you are not, it seems to me that HE should be the one making it romantic and nice for YOU. However, it is thoughtful of you to consider his feelings.
Accept the fact that you are, and will be, nervous. Heck, revel in it! Enjoy those butterflies and that sense of anticipation. Go ahead and tremble with delight. Your boyfriend will probably love it, and this is no time to be denying your feelings. The nervousness can make it even more exciting for you.
One more thing - you need not think of the rape in terms of losing your virginity. In a medical, technical sense, you did; however, of far greater importance is the fact that this will be the first time you share yourself willingly and happily.
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ok if i was you i would feel the same way. I can understand why your nervous. I know what it is like to be raped because i was raped when i was 11 and i was nervous to even think about sex, but anyway if you want to make it romantic use candles. Light some candles lock the door and turn off the lights! hoped i help
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Hi, you might be feeling nervous because you want everything to be right. There is no right or way to have sex because it's just shoving the penis into your vagina. Are you emmbarressed about showing each other your body parts? There is nothing to be nervous about, I reckon your nervous because it's your first time and you want to make it right. It's not about showing a good impression or doing it right, it's about showing him how much you care and how much you enjoy being with him. It should come naturally. The best way to make it romantic and nice is to perhaps just cuddle and lie next to each other after sex or explore and just simply kiss. Just have lots of fun, no one is perfect at this. Daniel.
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Hey..of course you will be nervous. Dont freak out though! He is your byoyfriend and he wont be expecting a pornstar for the first time you two make love. Your bf knows this is your real first time right?If not tell him! Communication..vvery big part of a relationship..especiially a sexual relationship. Go with what feels natural. You wont be bad sweetie...you wil be fine!
As for the romance idea..candles! making love by candle light is very sexy! maybe soft music playing in the backround. maybe arrange it so you two have somewhere lone so you can spend the night with the other person. think about how romantic it would be to fall asleep in the arms of your bf after making sweet passionate love....instead of haing to have to put your pants and everything back on before your parents get home for example. so maybe try and get a hotel room, cmap out somewhere under the stars..if not its ok! it will still be special..and hopefully you can still do my candle idea
definately tell me how it goes! inbox me sometime about it with details or IM me on eatapasty
<33 melissa
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babe, of course you will be nervous. everyone is their first time. what you eed to do is talk to him. i know it sounds dumb and corny but it's what i did. and hun, i was raped my first time to. by my boyfriend at the time. i didn't consent i was only 13. but you move on and you feel comfortable once again with yourself. you need to sit your boyfriend down and explain to him that you really want it to be romantic and you love him but your really nervous. if he truly cares he will understand and he'll take it slow. just talk about it, if you're thinking right now that you can't talk to him, clearly you are not ready. just take my words and think about it. hope i helped babe. <3 jes
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Well, use protection first off haha.
Uhm, you could light candles, play nice music, make the room look pretty, tell him you love him a lot, and all that good stuff.
About the nerves, just make sure he proves his love to you before you do it. If you know he truely loves you, there is no need to be nervous. Just be calm and relax. Don't worry about it becuz if you've seen the Notebook you know how that goes. c[=
Well I hope I helped.
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Well a way to get rid of your nerves is you shouldn't be nervous with your boyfriend you should be totally comfortable around him so if you're still nervous after this then maybe your just not ready yet, and theres no rush things like this take time. If you want to make it good for him their is a book called sex for dummies you may feel stupid reading it but it really can help. or explain to your boyfriend that your ready but nervous and maybe he can help you!
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well if your ready to have sex with your boyfriend, then you guys should be able to talk. you an stop your nerves by at least feeling comfortable about it and not doing it untill you [know] you won`t regret it. somewhere where he would be welcome, maybe candles, movie or dinner before then; giving you guys a chance to get more sentual. that might be romantic for him, im not exactly sure because im a girl but i hope i helped. just be ->sure<- that you are ready for this, just because he is expirenced doesn`t make it acceptable for you to be next yet. ♥jackie.
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