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I'm friends with benifits with my bestfriends boyfriend
A day before Easter, this guy said he wanted to be more than friends with me, but I had a boyfriend, so I told him we could be friends with benifits, and we
were pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend, we did everything together! So, eventually I dumped my boyfriend for him! So then, we were pretty much really boyfriend and girlfriend. But recently, my friend Jessica, she's like, my bestfriend, asked him out, and I guess he said yes, so then, him and I became friends with benifits again! And that was okay with me, except for that he told me he doesn't like Jessica, and He only wants me in his life, he told me he is in love with me and he is going to dump Jessica for me! I told Jessica everything, I mean EVERYTHING! She wasn't mad, only upset! She is a good friend, and she understood that she couldn't be mad because I had him first! But in my school, I'm really popular, and she is kind of a Geek! Nobody likes her, and she hardly ever gets any decent boyfriends, and I get whoever I want, whenever I want, pretty much. But since she finally has a really hot guy, i don't want to hurt her but taking him from her, but really i had him first! but he's gonna dump her, and i want to go out with him, not only be friends with benifits! and he feels the same, but she is in the way of everything! him and i are in love, you could say, we both love each other, and he dosnt have feelings for her like, at all, so what do i do?!?!?!?
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He's playing both of you. Look at it this way, if you had a friend with benefits without your boyfriend knowing (which I assume is the case and is also another issue altogether), then your 'friend' was somebody who is the type who is willing to go behind people's backs in relationships.
If he loved you, he would have never started dating your best friend.
You're going to lose your best friend if you keep this up. She says it's ok but it's not, especially for a girl who has a hard time getting dudes.
Best friend's x-boy/girlfriends are pretty much off limits if you want to maintain your friendship.
If you date him, he'll cheat on you too.
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First of all, this is deliciously ironic. The fact that you dumped your boyfried for another guy and then he turns around and pretty much does the same to you. Sounds to me like this guy, however great he may be, is ruining your friendship with Jessica. You would both probably be better off not dating him. Or if he's worth it, it comes down to who is more important. But if you can have "whoever I want, whenever I want," then you should probably just wait for the next shallow guy to come around. Hope I helped Ms.Popularity, weaver of impressive tangled love webs.
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You must tell Jessica to step aside,let you two be together,that if she doesn't accept it she's not being a true friend anyways like you said that he has no feelings for her.If she keeps getting in the way break your friendship with her,tell your boyfriend to stay very far away from her because you never know she might try to get him back.It's good that you follow your happiness.
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you might consider sitting down and talking to jessica and tell her that her first good boyfriend should be someone who really likes her and then tell her how your "boyfriend" doesn't like her.Then also you should sit down and talk to your "boyfriend" and ask him why he said yes to jessica if he doesn't really like her.
here for u,
Erin(fARGO)
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Ok, I'm not pinning this all on you; but I've been in this situation before, and when a guy wants to be friends with benefits, it's usually just so that way he can get what he wants. I'm not saying that this is all the guy wants from you but what I am saying is he most likely doesn't love you if he couldn't just ask you out in the first place. By the looks of it you are probably in middle school or just starting out in High school; and most guys at your age are only looking for one thing - what any horny guy wants. Trust me, it's not love. You probably really really like him but when it comes to friends with benefits, it means "The guy gets what he wants my spitting game to you, while the girl believes every nice compliment he tells you and falls for him"
With the situation of your friend, if she doesn't get too many boys don't step in the way. You may have had him first but if he asked her out he had to have liked her, and it wouldn't be fair to get inbetween the relationship anymore than what you have. You can't help people's feelings. If he then decides to break it off, then wait a little bit so you don't seem like the rebound girl, and then if he comes on to you again go for it. BUT TRUST ME: Don't do too much because you will get a rep, and believe me, you don't want that.
I hope I helped!
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well you should think of your friend.to but if he is going to dump her, then i would go wit him as long as you dont loose a frined from all this. make sure she dont care. and if she was a true friend she shouldnt...but remember dont let a guy come in between ur friendship
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Go back to him
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