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Alright so I have a youtube,
But I really want to know a good site that I can edit my videos on. If anyone ever heard of shane dawson, his video's are amazingly editted. Can someone tell me how or where I can get this?
Thaaanks :)

I don't know but I think he is really good about responding to inquiries. You should ask him in one of those send message thing. I do it and get responses from a lot of youtubers :) Like I really want to know what kind of camera Queen of Blending uses but she is NOT good about responding. Where as Glowpinkstah is really good about responding. :)

my 8 year old niece kicked me in the chest 4 TIMES while she had her tennis shoes on becouse I popped her 6 year old brother on the hand becouse he told me that he hated after I had just got through telling him that I loved him I usually tell him that every day so my mom took me to the hospital to make sure everything was alright and the doctor said that my chest was badly bruised and that my blood pressure was over 140 over 95 and then after that he asked me if I wanted to press chatges of course I said no I mean it's my niece for crying out loud she probally wouldn't even know what was going on we told her we needed time to think up a good punishment for does anybody have any ideas it's to late to spank her we should have spanked her right away but my mom was to worried about getting me to the doctor to think about it iam 0 years old if that helps.

Well I don't think 8 years old is past the age of spanking, by far. But if you don't want to spank, cause you don't HAVE to spank to get the point across, the I agree with the previous guy. One thing I learned from from Super Nanny and she is amazing is this. The first time you say something like this: I don't like "this" behavior, this is how I expect you to behave (but make it positive, like I expect you to be gentil when you are dealing with me, or this this case I expect you to not kick me ever again and talk to me in a peaceful way when you have a problem with what I have done)then you say what the punishment will be if they don't comply. Then if you have to say it again you say "this is the last time that I am going to warn you of what I expect you to do" Then, if it happens again you don't say anything you just lay the punishment down, taking away TV taking away desert, taking away phone calls and or texting, computer usage...etc. My mom used to take away multiple things. make sure the punishment fits the crime if you will. So in this case, I would take away a lot, and I would also talk to her mom about starting to do something with her to help her manage her anger or use her inner violence for something positive like putting her in a martial arts class. This way she learns to chanel the anger and use it for something that will help her to defend her self, meditate, expand her mind and learn when to use fighting. It's sounds like a double standard, but it actually works out. A lot of times people will do that with kids who fight cause the classes teach them how to channel that into something positive...it really needs to be released and of course not on you but onto a bag or in a competition. I would also do some meditating with her or something artistic. Something to calm her down you know what I mean? It sounds like pinned up anger and frustration. It just needs to be channeled. Ok hope this helps.

okay, i know that no one's face is perfectly symmetrical, but mine is so different on my left side than my right. my eye like droops down naturally or something and my other eye looks normal, and my eyebrows are different, too. no one has ever told me anything about it and i don't pay attention enough to notice in the mirror but when i see pictures of myself it's so noticeable. it makes me really self-conscious, is anyone else like this? or am i just worrying too much?

haha you don't have to rate this but Paris Hilton's face is lopsided and she's famous :)and people love looking at her. :P So love your self and yes you are too worried, chill baby chill :)

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by the way, I know this is kinda a stupid picture - it was taken at a party and we all got a little crazy with drawing on each other.

anyway i've always had a really huge crush on my best (girl) friend and i'm pretty desperate to know if she finds me attractive or not.

i get lots of comments all the time about how people think i'm really attractive. some girls even tell me i'm the most attractive guy they have ever seen. don't know about that but... haha.

really none of it matters to me. I only care about what my best friend thinks of me, and she has literally NEVER mentioned anything about how I look or anything...

but if you answer this, please don't be harsh haha i'm really just curious!

Well it's hard to say cause it really doesn't matter what other people think :P which I'm sure you know, what really matters is what You think and what She thinks...You know what you could do, you could ask let her know that you are thinking about asking out this girl but you don't know if you are that girls type...and then you could ask her what she thinks of you objectively and then she will say something like oh well i'm sure she will think you are cute or sure you are cute and then you could just add on a fun little well am I your type and then she is kind of caught up in the other chick that she wont really think anything of it and she should say yeah I would date a guy like your or she will say no i tend to like guys who are more emo or more goth or more hip hop or I have an asian fetish right now or something like that hahaha. I would say ask her best girl friend but there is a chance that she may go back and tell her that you asked. So my advice is even if you don't use this scenerio, is to find a way to ask her your self, unless you don't mind getting found out :)

My dog bit me..well, not so much a bite as a sharp snapping at me. I went to pick him up tonight to bring him upstairs for bed, and he growled (which he always does because he was already half-asleep), but then he totally freaked out and yapped at scratched and bit my ear. And he snapped pretty hard that it drew blood.

My mom didn't notice the blood though, though she checked my ear she just looked at the back.

It just freaked me out a little because my sweet little dog flipped out. Both my parents came in and yelled at him and I had screamed when he bit me so now he won't come near me. =\

My question is this: Should I be worried about the bite? It just drew a little blood. And also, if I do get it checked out will the doctor ask and then my dog will have to be put down? He's not usually like this, he's been feeling a little sick for a few days, not quite himself. =\
I want to make sure my health is okay, but I don't want to put my dog at risk in the process...
And also, is there something I can do to let him know I'm not mad at him? He knows he screwed up, I can tell, and so he's very nervous around me. Any suggestions on how I can show him I'm not upset and that I think he's a good boy?

You might find me crazy, but hey, I love the little guy like a person.

Well I don't know a lot about dogs, but I would think that you don't HAVE to put the dog down if it bit you. I would still go get checked out, I mean talk to your mom and see what she says...I think you should take a look at what might be going on in your dogs life to make him so stressed out. Maybe you could try feeding him something else. Something that I noticed about my birds, they will hiss and snap at night when it's dark and they can't see very well and I started whisteling to them in the dark and it actually calmed them down so they don't do that when I go to change the food or switch them into different cages etc. Maybe you could try doing something that might be soothing to him when you go to wake him up cause he might have some sort of night frights or something or just be haha wired you know :) Hope this helps. Also something my mom does with her dog is put herbs in his food that calm the nerves. You might want to try adding some cellery to his diet.

I am looking for a very good NATURAL deodorant to try. I have tried a few different ones but none of them seem to have a good reaction with my body. I also thought about trying chlorophyll tablets to help reduce my body odor but would prefer to try natural deodorant before I start such tablets. What is the best natural deodorant that you're aware of?

Thank you for all your help.

-Stinky.

The best one that I have ever used that did not break out my skin was the one Melaleuca sells, you'd have to find a melaleuca seller though or become a member and then you'd have to spend at least $34/mo...the best one that I have tried from stores has been Jason's...They smell good and they don't leave your skin that dry...The worst ones I have used are Tom's because they smell weird when they have been on your body for a while and they tend to leave my skin really really dry and sometimes broken out, and the other one that was just OK was the Trader Joe's one...it's their brand deoderant...it did not keep me as fresh as I would have liked it to. Ok hope this helps. :)But Trader Joe's organic non floride toothpaste is really good- it does taste like liquorish like most of them do but it is not as strong, just incase you were wondering. :)

I am a 15 year old male. I recently discovered that I have a foot fetish, and the thought of smelling girls feet really turns me on, and I'm not sure why. My girlfriend doesn't know, and I really want to smell her feet when she's done cheerleading one of my games. Is there any way I can ask her without her thinking I am a freak? I already feel like one, and she is kind of snobby, and was the Freshman Dance Queen last year, so I'm afraid that she will tell people if I ask her, and call me a freak. I don't know what to do. Thank you, and please don't be disrespectful or think I am weird.

Wow this is so funny...I love you but fettishes are so funny to me! Everyone has a fetish haha I like to watch anime tentacle porn :P hahaha Wow what sucks is that you are 15...in like 10 years that's going to be really hot. :) Man the first guy is totally right...you know what...hmmmm part of the question is how sensual or sexual do you all get? Like, if you are sexually active then you can ask her what her turn on's or kinky things are, then she can tell you hers and you can tell her your's...you know what FEELS REALLY GOOD! haha Getting your toes sucked...but you can only do this if you guys are like sensually active of sexually active...then you can make it a 4 play like kiss her up her knee to her inner thigh and then kiss her all the way down to her toes and smell her feet and suck her toes and she won't think anything of it cause it will be going with the flow...that is what you gotta ask yourself, "How can I make this flow?" there are a lot of ways to make it flow...foot massages...man my guy does this thing where when we are in missionary he kisses my ancle and my feet!!! oh I love it and hey you could just add a smell or a lick and man trust me! It FEELS GOOD...She will like it...but then too it depends on how comfortable she is in her sensuality...let me tell you...Foot Fetish is probably the most Common fetish there is, So be glad you got that one and not the one like the guy haha who likes to watch people shit (exucuse the language) but he would crawl into the sewar and find their out let and then look up as they shat and watch it happen and get off on this, or the guy who had the sneeze fetish and blew the pepper in the chicks face at the store and got arrested and charged with aggrivated assualt or something haha :) At least your is super common :) Ok hope this helps! Hey and if she doesn't like it...trust me, there are PLENTY of women who will.

i am considering buying it but im not quite sure if its all its hyped up to be..can i really lose 10 pounds in two weeks? has anyone tried it and have success or non success stories? please help!

any info appreicated!

Wow that looks really cool...this is not an answer, I am just posting this so I can see what other people say about it (this way it will save to my advice column). I am excited to see if anyone has tried it, it looks really fun! I hope they say it works :) Peace.

Freedom of speech is very important and should not be limited, assuming it doesn't offend or hurt others.

How is this relevant/acceptable to today? For example, people in countries without freedom of speech like America have to go through ridiculous things when they do try to speak up or change things. Any specific examples (American, preferably), or anything along those lines..?

I have to write an essay for a scholarship contest about that concept, but I can't think of anything especially moving/that will get me noticed..

Thanks.

Well, I can't offer you any specifics, but there are a lot of people who have been "punished" for their freedom of speech...People who maybe after they say something have their careers sabatoged...people who get put on trial for something they didn't do right before an election so that they can't run because of somehting they may have said that people didn't like. People who are in exile because of standing up for human rights. I would see if you could find some of these stories and talk about how even though there is freedom of speech there are some horrible loopholes. You can talk about how people went through these persecutions and keept speaking out until maybe many years later they were finally allowed certain rights, like the civil rights movement, and how now wether you agree with his politics or not, those same people that were persecuted have given black men the ability to become president, Hillary clinton...if women hadn't have spoken up, a woman could have never been where Hillary is and was trying to get. Saying you agree or disagree with the war in Iraq and what that means in society today, will you get beat up if you are in the wrong crowd and you don't agree with the people you are surrounded by? These are some ideas that came in my head. There is a woman in...Man, I think it's...man it's somewhere in Africa, but she is being "held" in detention (house arrest) for some BS and no one agrees with it, but they are pretty much hoding her until the election is over so that she has no chance of winning...even though the people love her. It's kind of sad :/ I mean pretty much every black leader in this country that has had any type of power has been taken out, especially when they start to preach peace and unity, casue the system is really trying to keep people devided. Also freedom of speech in the school systems and on the radio is not the same as freedom of speech let's say outside in times square NY. That's something you could touch on. I'm sure there are a lot of other types of activits too but you'd have to look them up. :) Hope this helped.

so my parents are really strict. by my friend is having like 10 girls sleepovver her house the night of her birthday, but before that were just gunna walk around town and stuff until like late. And she told me like 2 weeks ago that her mom said curfew would be at 1230. and then today she asked me if 2 oclock was okay. to which my mom said no obviusly. but since her mom already said 1230 before what changed her mind? so heres what im thinking...
what a lot of my friends do is that since they know my mom will be the first to say no, then if their [parents wont let them do something, they will ask me, knowing my mom will say no, so they can tell everyone it is my mom that said no and not theirs. so i think she was hoping my mom wouldnt let. which is true. but just to see if she was doing what i think shes doing, i told her mom said yes. and she was all "oh really? i thot forsure she would say no" but so far she hasnt told her that her mom wont let. what do i do if her mom realy did say 2? and how to i get people to stop doing this to me?

Well I wouldn't even lie, I would just straight up say, you ask you mom first...then I will ask my mom. That's it, and if they don't want to ask their mom first then say well hey...guess we wont be going haha :) you know just act like you don't care...maybe their mom is the same way and they just don't want people to know :) putting it on you distracts from them :) That's what I think :) OK Peace

15/f
okay so i like this boy named colin. i liked him for 2 years. in the beginning of last year we were really close. we would sit with eachother in lunch at school and have one on one conversations. he would always walk with me to class and stuff like that. i first met him in the beginning of last year, but the year before that we would always talk to eachother on facebook and myspace and we had conversations that would go on and on and on. so i knew he liked me, it was really obvious. he would hold me and i once fell asleep on his arms and i almost kissed him but i got too scared, i just freaked, our faces were so close and our eye to eye for the longest time but i just looked down and layed my head in his chest. he also had tons of other friends at this one table at lunch but he would sit with me. i felt bad cuz i sat at this table that had really annoying kids, but he never left me and he never asked me to move to his friends table. he was nice. but i really love him a lot. i was getting doubts that he didnt like me, so this boy named dan asked me to be his girlfriend and i said yes. so BOOM!..that was the crash of our close friendship. colin moved to his friends table while i was holding hands with a person i didnt love and deep down inside i was dieing. i cried every night. i am NOT lying. i did cry every night because he didnt walk me to class anymore. he would just wave to me in the hallway and thats it. after two weeks i left dan and i sat at the table with colins friends and i made friends with all of them. but colin wouldn't talk to me like he used to. just small conversations and no one on one time :(...so it's been a year like that, and i still cant stop thinking about him. so i sent him a message exactly like this "hey colin, um, i have feelings for you, so much so more than a friend. you dont need to respond to this."...he didnt have to respond but i thought he would. so it turned out he didnt respond. its only been a day since i sent him the message and i knew he got it because it said that he opened it. i dont know what to do. everytime i see him i want to cry and i shake when i am next to him. we dont even have classes together like last year. so when i see him in the hallway he justs gives me a wave and i just look down :( i hate this. please help me.

Well you are going to have to talk to him in person. He may have gotten his heart a little broken when he saw you with that other guy. You know it's really hard for guys with feelings and stuff. I would maybe ask him if he'd like to go to the park or something with you just to hang out and then let him know how you feel. Hey, you'll be no worse off :) Just say he you know...I really like you and I went out with that guy cause he asked me out and I was lonley and I didn't know if you liked me, but I wasn't happy and that's why I left him and I feel like I should follow my heart" and then go from there. :) Hope this helps :) It's hard I know...I told a guy I liked him before and he had a girl :P I was hoping he would leave her cause I thought he liked me more. He told me he liked me and that if he wasn't with his girl he would date me, for like 5-10 min we had a conversation about it, I mean he spilled his guts because he was drunk...not falling over, but just more honest you know and a few days later he denied it. Not like Totally RAH but like "what? what are you talking about i never said that" I knew it was because he didn't want to mess stuff up with his girl. But it worked out cause I found the right guy for me, and I actually talked to him first too and it turned out he felt the same way but he is just a really shy guy. Just be honest and put your pride aside and be willing to just hear whatever and know that what ever it is you can move on...without him or with him :) ___________________Girl Let me tell you...men fear rejection a lot more than women. Men have to deal with rejection ALL THE TIME. haha We almost have men falling at our feet, and if you don't right now...you just wait, as you start to get older you will be getting free stuff all the time and more just cause you are a woman and attractive :) Imagine the fear you feel, and double or tripple it, that's probably what he's feeling. Especially if he really likes you. :) It'll work it's self out. :)

ive have trouble sleeping at knight and its irritating its been going on for years and im not sure if its insomnia or what but my usual time i fall asleep is 11:00 to 12:00 ive tried warm milk and ive tried non sugary cereal but nothing works

OK...I wrote two answers because I re-read it a second time and got a different feeling from what you wrote so here is my answer if it is not insomnia 1. Stop taking naps during the day if you are doing that...add a heavy cardio workout before you are ready to go to bed... Wake up earlier...so like if you wake up at like 10 or 11 wake up at 8, if you wake up at 8, wake up at 6 or 7... Watch what you are eating through out the day, are you having green tea? Coffee? Red bulls? Don't get freaked out but...masturbation...one of the health benifits of masturbation (and you can look this up) is that it helps people to fall asleep. In fact I think they tested it out on a bunch of women that had insomnia and it helped the majority of the fall asleep and sleep well. Putting on a meditation tape..those are some ideas. Now this is my ansewr if it is insomnia: 2. I could be wrong...but I Think most people that have insomnia have something on their mind that is keeping them up. I think what you gotta do is pay attention to your thoughts and figure out what's got you so wired. Are you scared, worried, stressed, depressed, anything? Fact is no matter what you take you are going to be awake mentally until you deal with it. I remember when I was having insomnia for a couple months maybe, it was because I has having a lot of fear dreams and general fear thoughts, I was so paranoid that I couldn't sleep. I had to take Rosemarry tea just to be tired enough to sleep and I would still wake up at some point out of fear from my dreams. I had to start meditating more and working on calming down my mind. I also took Folic acid vitamins and vitamin B6 and B12, and drank juice made with cellery, because they are good for calming down the nerves. When I started to do exercises on calming down my mind and dealing with my thoughts and not letting them all bother me, I was able to sleep and eventually the fear dreams went away, and when I did have them I was able to deal with them with a level head. It may be a challenge to go deep inside and figure these things out, but if you want that rest, you may have to go inside your self and deal with some stuff. That is my advice. Hope it works for you.*****Funny enough, as soon as I answered this, they had an article on yahoo on foods that help you sleep better so here is a link: http://health.yahoo.com/experts/eatthis/38272/8-perfect-sleep-better-foods/

My P.E. class is swimming for the next 5 weeks or so, and I'm not doing so hot. The past couple of times I'm fine on the first few laps, but on the last few, I honestly can barely make it across the pool. Today, actually, on the last lap, I just didn't have the strength to keep going and I had to start doggy-paddling, etc. to make sure I got to the other end. I thought I was going to drown.

So my question... does anyone have any tips for me? I would love to just not dress out and all that jazz, but my mom doesn't really want me to get an F, and neither do I. (and my teacher is kinda weird - it's a male teacher, too) Is there any way I can make it easier? Or does anyone know a good excuse to get out of it? (I'm a girl, and yes, I know about faking my period to get out of it - but no one has a period for 5 weeks!)

Thanks!

man I SUCKED at Swimming in PE and I asked them if I could use flippers to help me get through, and man it made a WORLD of difference! It totally helped me pass. this other kid was sooooooooooooo bad at swimming that he ran every day instead(which he didn't mind cause he was a great runner) he and I were the worst! hahaha Flippers man...see if they'll let you.

what is the name of this style of hat?
Where can I get one?

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I think they have a lot of names: Peruvian hats, Trapper hats, fur jockey hats or russian hats. I think it's a russian origin style with different variations. Ummm...I see some at target.com if you type in trapper hats...there are some at sears under trapper hats, there are some at kohls.com (under trapper hats and a more basic style under peruvian hats)...ummm I don't know if you like the more basic one with the tassels but that kind is called tassel hat and it's the same ear muff thing but it has tassels and it's more like the peruvian one. Hats.com has a lot under trapper hats...some really nice ones. Furhatworld.com, timberland.com, I think bebe.com usually has them but they are out of stock...haha ok that should hold you over :)

i'm semi-new to being vegetarian, like i've been on & off for forever now, but i only stop, because i get sick of the same old thing. i need help thinking of really simple recipies i can make myself. like i found vegetable burittos, that were very easy, and i want other vegetarian/vegan snacks/recipies that are simple & quick to make. i'm the only vegetarian in my house, so yeah. & i like vegetables, and all that, and i'm open to about anything. :)

Well this isn't really simple but it's not hard either and it's really good and it's a really great receipe. Curry Boulanger (Curry Eggplant) Ok So you are going to need:
about a teaspoon of diced garlic
Some curry powder...Taste it to see if it's seasoned (if it's not seasoned then you will have to add salt and peper and what ever other nice spices you like, nothing too hot unless you like it really spicy cause the curry should already be pretty hot).
You will need an Eggplant cut into chunks maybe like 1x1 inch chunks.
An Onion (small to med) diced.
maybe like 2-3 tbs of cooking oil (just enough to get the bottom of the pan fully covered)
and you want to get either some roti from the indian store or you can use tortilla but you will have to either fry the tortilla or put it in the oven on broil just enough for it to get warm and get a few bubbles (turn it around a couple of times to warm both sides).

Ok So here is what you do. You heat up the oil, I like to cook on medium high. Heat up the oil and when it is hot (like you were going to make some eggs or something) then put the garlic in and fry the garlic until it's like golden brown. Then you want to put in a bout a pot spoon of curry. Sprinkle it around. When it starts to become a gravy...then you want to take your diced eggpland and put it right in the pot and mix everything up so all of the eggplant is covered in curry. Then you can put in your onion and then you can put the heat on medium (cause it's pretty much just going to simmer at this point) and I like to cook it down really soft...but you don't have to...just cook it until the eggplant has a softer texture and it's done. If the gravy starts to get too thick just add a little water at a time...like literally no more than like a 1/4 of a cup at a time. Then when it's done to your liking...keep it on low, cover it and fry your tortilla or broil it in the oven...or fry your roti you got from the store or what ever the directions are...and then! You take that curry put it in a bowl and break the flat bread and use the flat bread to pick up the curry...you eat it with your hands :) or if you don't want to do bread or don't want to eat with your hands you can put this tasty vegi curry over rice! It's sooo good and it's one of the only ways I like Eggplant. You can get curry at most big grocery stores if you live in a pretty diverse community and especially if you live in an area with a large east indian/west indian/caribian community.
You can also get it at places like Papa Joe's or The International market or even Whole Foods I think. :) Bon Appetit!_______________________ Hey I had another great thing I tried and I thought you might like it. YOu can use soy meat...I recommend the Smart Start one in the "Jimmy Dean like package" These are really good. Take that and fry that up, and then make some Mac and Cheese...just the package, and then add a little cheese in the pot, and then put some Mozzarella on the top to cover the whole thing and the let it broil in the oven until the cheese is brown and crispy. IT IS SOOOO GOOD! and PS if you want me to send you some more, hit me up with your e-mail.

Hey everyone, if you go to google and look up "William Suh arrest". Im the victum in that change. I dont know what to do, i still love that man and the people dont even have the facts stright about any of it! they are making himout to be a horrible person and he is NOT. I love him and belive he did nothing wrong, i really want to talk to him, but i cant sit here and listen to the horrible things people are saying about him. They dont know him, I DO!
what do i do T_T

Weeeeeeeeeell...Hmmmmmmm This is a tuffy...Personally (if the stuff about the "terroristic threats" with a "loaded fire arm" are true...then I would wonder about his stability as a person...I would also wonder why this is the second time he has done this...Now...I'm not saying it's wrong for you two to be in love. Ok Let's get that straight. Now I don't know him and I know the news has a way of blowing things out of porportion. The question ultimately is What do your parents think. From my knowledge, and I could be wrong, but until you are 16 you can't have any sexual relations with anyone over 18 and that is with your parents permission and you have to be married. I knew a girl that was 16 and she wanted to marry an older man and her parents liked him and they gave her permission. So that is what 3 more years...now I want you to mull this over in your head...Love does not = Sex...SO the truth is, if he is really in love with you (and assuming he has already tried the "goods", not to sound vulgar) then if he really loves you then he will respect the law and you and wait to do sexual things with you until you are 16 and get parents permission to get married, OR He will wait until you are 18 and you can make your own decision...If he is just about the Booty (again not to be vulgar) then he will not want to wait. Sex is a part of love, like anything else...cooking for someone, paying bills and helpig clean, kissing and holding hands...but these things do not define it. There are many parts, it's like a puzzle, it takes all the little parts to make the whole thing. So I say that if you really love him and you think he is safe to be around and will be an ASSET to your life and RAISE YOU UP...Then you should talk to him about waiting and just wait and be together as a celebate couple until it is the right time. These laws were made to protect young girls from being forced and manipulated into marriage (amongst other reasons) So the laws are good...I say the age could be lower, but you know that's government...This will also give you a chance to see if he is going to be able to be faithful, if he just likes you cause you are young (and I am basing that off of the fact that he has done it before) at least you will know that this has nothing to do with the fact that I am young and when I am 20 or 30 he's not going to go looking for another 13 14 year old...ok...and it will give you a chance to see how deep his love is. Patience and Respect is what he will be showing you if you two decide to wait...and If he says something like well I can't wait that long to have sex and do sexual things, well then you know what the relationship is about...and if he says well what if you find someone else? Then you say well, you know that's the chance we have to take. Are you willing to trust my love? Are you willing to trust his love? That's what I would say. If he is the true man for you, he will be there, he will be patient, loyal and his love will last this short span of time within your long and wonderful lifetime together.

how do you fake an orgasm?im not that great at moaning lol..are there any other things? and please don't tell me not to fake it..im just wondering ;)

hahaha that was the first thing I was going to say was DONT FAKE IT hahaha ok well sometimes when you have a real orgasm your body starts spazing out so you could do that, i know there have been times where i just like flopped out hmmm how do i describe that...just kind of get totally bodily limp and just like see stars hahaha like a bright white light, that's a great orgasm! So you could fake that...not good at moaning...that's a hard one cause the body just kind of naturally moans when you are getting it good so I would practice cause that is going to be your best deal to make him think you are having a good time, unless you are doing this for a show or something...you can do the silent moan haha where everything is in your face...you know like you are feeling so good, but no sound can come out cause you got neighbors or parents in the next room so your mouth is open really wide but no sound is comming out hahahaha that would be a good one to learn. hope i gave you some good ideas...if you can get your hands on a porn and watch what the girls on there do and try to do it with your body and face without any sound then that will give you a good idea of how to do it without moaning. :)

There is this guy I have a crush on that lives in the apartment under my Aunts house. His name is A.J. and I met him when I was in grade school. I had moved away though, and didn't see my aunt so I forgot about him for a few years. When I moved back I saw him again as I was reunited to that part of the neighborhood. I was leaving after a visit to my aunts and he was staring at me so bad that he almost ran into my mom and then something else too as he walked by. I thought he looked really familiar at the time. I couldn't figure out if he was staring because he thought I was attractive or if he was trying to figure out who I was. I saw him at school and heard the name of his older brother mentioned as well and I immediately remembered who he was. So one time I stopped him and was all "Hey I know you" and he was like "Well I don't know you," so I was like "Im Caroline's niece," and he goes "oh yeah!", and then walks off. So I really haven't gotten the chance to talk to him since then, but every time I have a class with him he smiles at me, or says hi, or something. He said Bye to me recently when I was leaving my Aunts house again. He looks at me all the time too but looks away really quick, and its never a stare more like a glance. I can't tell whether hes just being friendly or whether he has a small crush on me. What do you think? What should I do?

It sounds to me like he has a crush. It's hard to say how it will turn out though cause sometimes that fear of being rejected or hurt can make people deny deny deny! haha but maybe you could do something like invite him bowling or something fun and out in the open like that...Something that could turn romantic if he was willing to go that extra mile and then you sould be able to find out. Good luck!

Ma always asks me about my day at school, and I always tell her. Sometimes my brother overhears, and lately he has been. And after hearing about this boy I sit by in a couple of classes, he's said "That means he likes you."

I mean... I don't know... he steals my pencil sometimes, tries to mark me with a pen, throws small objects such as erasers at me then when I look at him he grins great big, and we both end up laughing when he keeps doing it. He always tries to make me laugh.

How is that all such a sign of being liked? O.o

My brother said it all is...

Am I really THAT dense????

Girl you will grow to see that haha they stay that way through out manhood... in so many ways they just don't get it... Yeah it sounds like he likes you...maybe not in the girlfriend boyfriend way maybe just in the i want to hang out with you more way...but then again maybe...you'll find out as you hang out.

17/f.

i'm dating this one guy, who well. isn't captain of the football team or whatever, he isn't cool, but hes so nice & i like him a lot. I've never liked jocky/popular boys like my friends have. I just like sweet nice guys, who are into music & stuff. Well, my friends are ggetting so annoying about it! I never bring him up, because they will just be rude. They'll be like "why are you dating him, he is so weird", "you could do better" & so on. its just little remarks any chance they get to say it. & i really don't appreciate it! i like him, and their opinions really won't change it. but its just getting to the point of unbearable to deal with. i tell them to stop, and they won't. i can't stop being friends with them, because it is my whole group of friends, and that's all i really have for friends. so yeah.. how can i get through to them to tell them to stop?

The way I see it you got 2 choices, you can stay with them and ignore it...the more you ignore it the less they will bring it up casue they will see it's not bothering you and the Fun wont be there of watching you get upset
your second option is to lay it out on the table like look, i like him and i am entitled to like who i like and if you can't respect that then maybe we shouldn't be friends and you gotta be ready to back that up. Or you can leave when they start to make fun that way they know you are serious. It's not even about him, it's about respect...people will treat you how you allow them to treat you so you gotta make a choice for you, do i like my friends enough to put up with their bs or do i not like them enough to put up with their bs. I mean there are some lame things you could do like scream and yell and do pranks or make fun of them to get them to see where you are coming from, but that just makes you just as immature as they are. If you like them enough to put up with their BS then you are going to have to learn to ignore it (cause talking hasn't worked) or you are going to have to gently remove your self from the circle when they start talking shit and when they are done come back. If they are your real friends they will respect you and you shouldn't have to go through all of this.

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