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annoying friends.
17/f.
i'm dating this one guy, who well. isn't captain of the football team or whatever, he isn't cool, but hes so nice & i like him a lot. I've never liked jocky/popular boys like my friends have. I just like sweet nice guys, who are into music & stuff. Well, my friends are ggetting so annoying about it! I never bring him up, because they will just be rude. They'll be like "why are you dating him, he is so weird", "you could do better" & so on. its just little remarks any chance they get to say it. & i really don't appreciate it! i like him, and their opinions really won't change it. but its just getting to the point of unbearable to deal with. i tell them to stop, and they won't. i can't stop being friends with them, because it is my whole group of friends, and that's all i really have for friends. so yeah.. how can i get through to them to tell them to stop?
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hey, i'm 17 and a girl in high school that delt with your exact same problem when i first started dating the guy i'm with
hes a jock, and is cute and "crushed on" by alot of girls, but in the mornings, before school starts he likes to go into the library to hang out with his friends, well whe my friends found out that he wasn't with me because he was in the library they instantly started making fun of him and it used to piss me off to no end. i tried telling them to stop and it didn't work.
eventually i just started ignoring it and it eventually stopped. they do it to get a rise out of you and to get a reaction, as soon as you stop giving them a reaction, they'll stop doing it. just like an annoying little brother
the question you have to ask yourself is if this guy is worth going through this. i lost a really close friend because she told me it was either him or me because she didn't like him and i told her that i love her to death but that i'd fallen for my boyfriend so me and her didn't talk for a really long time. if you think this guy is worth it then like you said it doesn't matter what anyone else says. Just keep your head up and remember that the only opinion that REALLY matters.. is your own :)
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I know how you feel I am the same way and I am dating the same guy. I admire that you like him no matter what people say. As for your friends your going to have to tell them how you feel and give them an ultimatum. Either they accept your dating him or they find another friend. If they care about you than they need to respect your relationship like you would respect theirs. If they keep saying bad things about him than you need to walk away and not talk to them. If they are truly your friends than they should accept your boyfriend for who he is and respect you enough not to talk bad about him.
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Tell them straight up.
Make it clear that they're not the one dating him so they don't have to kiss him, talk to him or do anything with him. If they don't like your boyfriend, that's their problem but that doesn't mean they need to be rude about it.
Just mention how he's nice to them or about them & has no problem with them so there's no reason for them to have one with him. Be a bitch about it if you have to.
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The way I see it you got 2 choices, you can stay with them and ignore it...the more you ignore it the less they will bring it up casue they will see it's not bothering you and the Fun wont be there of watching you get upset
your second option is to lay it out on the table like look, i like him and i am entitled to like who i like and if you can't respect that then maybe we shouldn't be friends and you gotta be ready to back that up. Or you can leave when they start to make fun that way they know you are serious. It's not even about him, it's about respect...people will treat you how you allow them to treat you so you gotta make a choice for you, do i like my friends enough to put up with their bs or do i not like them enough to put up with their bs. I mean there are some lame things you could do like scream and yell and do pranks or make fun of them to get them to see where you are coming from, but that just makes you just as immature as they are. If you like them enough to put up with their BS then you are going to have to learn to ignore it (cause talking hasn't worked) or you are going to have to gently remove your self from the circle when they start talking shit and when they are done come back. If they are your real friends they will respect you and you shouldn't have to go through all of this.
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