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Well, I'm Lori, i'm 17 and a Senior in high school. My friends are my life :)I Love giving advice and i always be honest even if its brutal.
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I've gotten headaches basically for 4 years straight now, and I'm pretty sure it's from stress. I got my eyes checked and they're 20/20 but my left eye has been slightly more blurry than my right lately. A few months ago I had a couple sharp pains in the left side of my head for about 2 days. They were off and on.
I don't know why I did this but one day I was feeling my temples and noticed they're slightly different (inside?). My left temple seems to be lumpier inside, and my right is more smooth-feeling inside. I don't know if this is good or bad? The lump doesn't hurt, and it doesn't show from the outside .. could it be anything bad? After checking just now, the right side has the same feeling bump but it's not as noticeable when I feel it ... I don't know what's wrong or if this is bad? It also slightly hurts when I push on my left temple on that lump.
ALL HELP IS APPRECIATED ;)
You need to get it checked out asap. My uncle hAd the same symptoms and it ended up being really serious cause he didn't get it checked out. So Trust me. Get it checked out.
well i have a friend that we get together sometimes. please no judging! anyways he has trouble getting it in! i mean hes cool and what not. but its a total turnoff. what should i do?
my boyfriend had that same issue for like ever everytime we tried to do it with me on bottom. one thing that we figured out works is me being on top. it really makes it so that his penis has no where else to go but in. haha. after we did it with me on top for a while we tried me on bottom again and it worked and now it works everytime :P so , thats just a suggestion.
im a 15 a girl and my boyfriend and i went to have sex and he couldnt get his penis in it hurt
a bit we tried again and it happened again
its not real big what can we do?
i had the same problem my first time :P
like the others said, letting him finger you or using a lubricated condom helps
or, if you get on top and do it that way it basically makes it so it has to go in.. just make sure you do it gently
alright. im an asshole. its as simple as that. im 17, i get with multiple girls at a time, and then get bored and move on. thats just what i do. or did. i dont know. the thing is theres this one chick i really like, or i think i like her alot but theres a problem... she knows me haha. she knows that i play girls all the time, and because of that she wont even give me a chance - not that i can blame her... but still. shes a real good girl. as in, an innocent, clean cut, straight a's, goes to church every sunday kind of girl. not what youd call my usual type. and at first thats why i thought i liked her. she was that innocent girl that i couldnt get so of course i wanted her, but i dont think thats it.. it just doesnt feel like that. i want to protect her, and keep her innocent, ya know? and then i start thinking about doing things with her that i do with other chicks and it makes me sick. and its kind of almost freaking me out. but i really like her (because we do talk, and i think shes one of the VERY few girls that i have a for real friendship with) and i want her to give me a chance and show her that im serious. because i think i am. but i also dont want hurt her. you know, if she were to some way she would possibly give me chance, i dont want to screw up. i dont want screw up with her. god i feel like a loser. what should i do?
ok, well take it from a girl thats had guys do to her what you've done to the girls you've been with.. thats a girls worst fear, its the worst possible thing that could happen to a girl and once we know its a possibility we shut down immediatley.
like the other people said, she knows the kind of guy you are now and so she obviously doesn't trust you when you say that its different with her and that you really do care. all you can do is be her friend at this point. if you stick around for a while just being her friend, not trying to get with her constantly or anything, and you dont do anything like you used to with other girls, eventually she might give you a chance.. key word is might. i know for me, which i'm 17 and a girl :P if a guy like you was trying to get with me i wouldnt give him the time of day. but if he stuck around for a while and showed me that he cares enough to be in my life even if its only as a friend. it would show me that he really does care and that i really am different to him.
as for messing it up if and when you get a chance with her. you just have to not be an asshole and you'll be fine, dont push things, dont be a jerk, dont treat her bad, easy as that :P like you said shes the good girl, so shes probably just as scared of getting hurt as you are of hurting her
-lorr
Im 15 female and virgin. i heard that the first time u have sex it hurts! well if u pop Your cherry would it hurt less your first time? and what would be the safest way to pop it? using a tampon???
like everyone else said for all you know your cherry could already be popped..
as for it not hurting as much, my boyfriend popped my cherry while he was fingering me, before we ever had sex and when we had it the first time it still was kinda uncomfortable. your vag is wicked tight your first time so it has to stretch in order to allow his dick to go inside it, so either way its gonna be kinda uncomfortable.
ok my boyfriend and i had sex and he never jizzed in me but i am scared i could still be pregnat?? am i?
if you used a condom then odds are your not pregnant
if not, then yeah there's a chance
wait for your period but try not to stress out
-lorr (17/f)
when i give my guy a hj/bj he cums and it gets on his shirt and like all over the place and im sure it isnt comfortable for him..im not going to lick it off of him or swallow ...are there any other things i can do so it won't get all over his shirt? and any other advice?i just started doing this lol thanks
try kinda tiltin his dick down ward a little as he's about to go and cupping your hand over the top and he goes to cup it in your hand. it sounds gross but it works
other than letting him blow in your mouth all i can suggest is use tissues
and make him take his shirt off :P
is it awkward to moan or like deep breathe when being fingered? or is it like a turn-on for a guy?
guys love it :P deff a turn on
so my boyfriend fingered me and ate me out (first) then after we both cleaned up a bit i gave him a bj, he went to the bathroom to clean up, then about like 10 mins later i had to pee lol so i went...im nervous that like some of his cum might have gotton on the toilet seat or toilet paper...i looked at it first to make sure there was no cum on it but cant sperm by invisible too? im freaking outtt :( could i be pregnant?
oh wowowowowow
girl, you sound just like me when in first started doing stuff with my boyfriend, he was the first person i ever really did stuff with and all my parents tell me is about how you can get pregnant and blah blah blah
Your fine girl, i can 100% gaurentee that your not pregnant, esp seeing as how the sperm (cum) dies after being outside the body. just relaxxxxxx
17/f.
i'm dating this one guy, who well. isn't captain of the football team or whatever, he isn't cool, but hes so nice & i like him a lot. I've never liked jocky/popular boys like my friends have. I just like sweet nice guys, who are into music & stuff. Well, my friends are ggetting so annoying about it! I never bring him up, because they will just be rude. They'll be like "why are you dating him, he is so weird", "you could do better" & so on. its just little remarks any chance they get to say it. & i really don't appreciate it! i like him, and their opinions really won't change it. but its just getting to the point of unbearable to deal with. i tell them to stop, and they won't. i can't stop being friends with them, because it is my whole group of friends, and that's all i really have for friends. so yeah.. how can i get through to them to tell them to stop?
hey, i'm 17 and a girl in high school that delt with your exact same problem when i first started dating the guy i'm with
hes a jock, and is cute and "crushed on" by alot of girls, but in the mornings, before school starts he likes to go into the library to hang out with his friends, well whe my friends found out that he wasn't with me because he was in the library they instantly started making fun of him and it used to piss me off to no end. i tried telling them to stop and it didn't work.
eventually i just started ignoring it and it eventually stopped. they do it to get a rise out of you and to get a reaction, as soon as you stop giving them a reaction, they'll stop doing it. just like an annoying little brother
the question you have to ask yourself is if this guy is worth going through this. i lost a really close friend because she told me it was either him or me because she didn't like him and i told her that i love her to death but that i'd fallen for my boyfriend so me and her didn't talk for a really long time. if you think this guy is worth it then like you said it doesn't matter what anyone else says. Just keep your head up and remember that the only opinion that REALLY matters.. is your own :)
*sorry if it's a little long but I really gotta break it down for the best answer* ok so my guy is wonderful... let me set some stuff up for you: if he has money and I need gas in my car he will let me gas up or take me to gas up. If I want to cook a fantastic meal he will get the groceries. He takes me out to dinner and we go to the movies and stuff like that. Like right now we moved cause he got a job in Iowa and he is paying the rent until I get a job (which he should, my mom taught me that any proper man would do that) He is generally a nice person and we have fun together. but there are some big things and some little things that are making it really hard for me to have a clear mind when it comes to staying with him. ok let's do the big stuff first...So sometimes he will like spaz out...like the other day he asked me to turn off the lights (cause he had to get up for work) but I was only going to cuddle with him for litterally like 2 mins and then I was going to cut it off...he asked me like 2 times and i was like sweetie I'm only going to be a minute and then I will turn it off...he like jumped up in this flailing way, pushing me out of the way and like yanked on the light cord and looked so heated. I know he has anger stuff he is working on letting go of. Ok here is another big thing, let's say this, we're in the car and he says can you turn the radio down and I say let me just finish this song and he may not want to wait that day for whatever reason and he asks me again and i say theres like' one minute left let me finish it, he'll maybe slam off the radio and look at me with this RAGE and I'm just like what the F**K? (like shock, like is this really happening)(and I am NOTHING LIKE THAT SO I DO NOT UNDERSTAND IT AT ALL!!!!) and then I'll say something like why are so you heated and he'll be like I'm fine, and I know he's not. Then maybe I'll change the topic and say could you roll the window up and he may respond with something like "Well, You should have worn a FUCKING SWEATER!!" And I'll just be like WOW what world am I in, cause this only happens like once a month and it's out of no where. Now we talk about that stuff and he is really working on it...here's a small thing, let's say we are supposed to share a medium drink...he will finish it all and not even stop to think oh kay hasn't had any yet...or he will defend other people over me and he doesn't even know them or know the whole story, or he will do something like today when i was sad about something he did (he didn't know what i was sad about) and he asked and i said it's girl stuff and he said you know what kay one day i am going to stop caring. Now that kind of stuff happens weekly. My thing is this, I am not the nag type...so i feel like I am already trying to work with him on the big spaz out stuff that I don't even want to bother him about things like why did you not save me some fries or why did you eat the entire sandwich except for 2 bites when you were supposed to split it with me? But that kind of stuff makes me a little sad and I just don't want to put a lot of pressure on him to be "perfect" cause that is what he is always saying "you know i'm not perfect and i'm really working on it and you should have seen me 2 years ago" and he is studying spiritual books so I know he has goals... but what do I do in the mean time to get through it? Do I just mention every little thing that bothers me? Sometimes i have felt like the only way to get through to him is to do it back but i am just so past that behavior and i feel like if i have to do that then I am not with the right person...but i feel in my heart that he is my soul mate, i just don't know how to keep it going. Sometimes I feel like I have to teach him how to be in a relationship, but he does SOOOO many things right! Like Important things. But he can be SOOOOO mean sometimes :( Now don't get me wrong, I don't want to seem like a victim, I don't feel like that...I feel like I have faith in what I feel he is and what he feels I am and that is each other's soul mate...cause i could leave but I really want to make it work and I know he does too, again he is really hahah he is really trying and that's what's so sad is to me it's like why in the world would you need to try so hard to be consistantly nice and considerate to someone? So I don't want to just be like Fuck you and leave after I get a job, I want to make this work for the long run...how do I deal with this? How do I pick my battles? How do I let stuff go? When does it go from letting him know when soemthing is wrong to nagging? Are my expectations too high? I don't feel like they are cause I treat him very well and he has like NOTHING to complain about...the worst he can come up with is when I am on my period I don't like to be touched and I am less patient with his BS and when he says something mean i get sad and those are literally the only 2 things about me that REALLY bother him. We have talked about it. What are you all doing out there to get through these types of things? and there's sooo many other things that I can't even get to covering with him, like more romance, because of this stuff...Thanks again and sorry for the length but I had to give some examples :)
ok. well, in my opinion, after 2 years if he's STILL doing these things and still claims to be "working on it" then it seems to me like he's either not trying to hard or he has something else like a serious problem going on..
i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. around 6 months he started doing things that really hurt my feelings, like defending other people and making little jokes about me. i talked to him about it, he said he would work on it and for the most part it stopped. every so often he slips but he instantly realizes when he does and he apologizes.
as for when to choose your battles and not to nag. if its something that really hurts your feelings then he should know about it. but if its something that you just feel like saying something about then you should probably just let it go unless it has you worried.
my thinking about relationships is that whats meant to be will find its way. if you arent meant to be with this guy then something will happen to make you realize that you need to leave.
if your in a situation thats to the point where when he gets into a rage or whatever and it scares you or your scared for your safety or he hits you or anything then you deffinatley need to leave him.
my opinion is that you and him need to sit down and have a serious convorsation about everything, no yelling, no screaming. just talking. tell him exactly what you said in this question thing and tell him how it all makes you feel.. it'll all work out, dont worry :)
Hi,I'm 16 years old and I've never had a boyfriend.
I've talked to a few guys but most guys don't see past sex with me.
I know im not bad looking so it's looks aren't the reason.
Guys say im pretty all the time and I take it as a compliment but I just really want to get involved with someone.
For 3 years,one of my guy "friends" would have sex with me all the time and I loved him so much,I thought he liked me too he just didnt ask me out because we were too young and I figured he would do it eventually...I ended up having sex with someone else besides him and he got mad and went out with someone else and stopped talking to me.Finally i found someone new ,and we were "talking" but then he told me he just wanted to be best friends but yet he would hookup with me.
I still like him but he's like my best friend.
And I don't know what to do,because I just really want to find someone but I don't know how.It seems like I'm the only one who can't get a boyfriend or even a guy just to get involved with...
I need help!
ok, wow idk where to start.
first of all. i'm 17 and i didn't have my first serious boyfriend untill a little after i turned 16, and i've been with that same boy now for almost a year. you just have to wait for the right person to come along. i tried and tried and nothing every became of me looking and trying to find a boyfriend. so after a while. i just stopped looking for one and stopped trying to find one. i concentrated on going out with my friends and having fun and a few months later the boy i'm currently dating approached me and asked me for my number and we started dating.
Guys can tell when your really trying to start something and that can make them feel preasured and make you seem a little desperate. which trust me guys do NOT like girls who try to push themselves on them or try to force them into a relationship. you just have to sit back, enjoy life, and let things happen. whatevers meant to be will find a way :)
The only other thing i'm going to say and this may not be my place but be careful about the whole sex thing. idk about you but for me sex is a big deal and everytime it means something.. having sex means everything to girls but to most guys its not as meaningful. you shouldn't just give it up to a guy right away because again that could give them the wrong impression of you. and could hurt you in the long run.. its your life and i'm not trying to tell you what to do. just becareful :)
hope i was some help
-lorr
When I saw the dropdown for the category, I had to sit and think about it for a minute. I ended up classifying my problem as a love life problem. But, as my subject suggests, there really isn't a love life. I'm a junior. I play varsity soccer. I'm sixteen. I'm popular. I get all A's. Girls like me, but I have this problem. I can't feel anything real for girls any more. I have been led on too many times, I think. I know this sounds like I'm bitching. I'm not. I fell in love with this girl about a year ago. I just got over her, and I never had a chance with her. I'm not good-looking, and she was absolutely gorgeous. But now, I can't even think of her as a friend anymore. I can't feel anything for any of my old friends. All of my friends are leaving for college. They were seniors last year. I didn't know what I would do when this girl, Sarah, left. Now I don't even care. My question, I guess, is how do I feel something for girls again?
hey..
i'm 17 and going to be a senior in high school and i know exactly how you feel, except towards guys cause i'm a girl :P
i fell for a guy last year and he ended up just screwing me over. i'm over him now but ever sense him everytime a guy comes along that wants to start something or that i think i could possibly have feelings for his face and what he did flashes into my head.
what i've discovered is that theres really nothing you can do except give yourself time to recover..
it gets easier. trust me it really does.