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the good girl
alright. im an asshole. its as simple as that. im 17, i get with multiple girls at a time, and then get bored and move on. thats just what i do. or did. i dont know. the thing is theres this one chick i really like, or i think i like her alot but theres a problem... she knows me haha. she knows that i play girls all the time, and because of that she wont even give me a chance - not that i can blame her... but still. shes a real good girl. as in, an innocent, clean cut, straight a's, goes to church every sunday kind of girl. not what youd call my usual type. and at first thats why i thought i liked her. she was that innocent girl that i couldnt get so of course i wanted her, but i dont think thats it.. it just doesnt feel like that. i want to protect her, and keep her innocent, ya know? and then i start thinking about doing things with her that i do with other chicks and it makes me sick. and its kind of almost freaking me out. but i really like her (because we do talk, and i think shes one of the VERY few girls that i have a for real friendship with) and i want her to give me a chance and show her that im serious. because i think i am. but i also dont want hurt her. you know, if she were to some way she would possibly give me chance, i dont want to screw up. i dont want screw up with her. god i feel like a loser. what should i do?
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You need to talk to her and explain to her everything you just said in your question. Tell her theres something about her that makes you feel so much different, and you just feel so much more commited with her. All you can do is ask her to trust you. But first, you two should hang out together, build up that trust again, get to know each other more. If things work out from that point, then ask her out. If she says yes, then you need to prove to her that shes the only one for you, dont pressure her into anything, be extremely respectful, and take her out alot. Always update her on what you are doing, or where you are going (only for a couple weeks or months or so this way you can keep reassuring her that you arent the old player she once knew you as.) Your not a looser, you may have been a jerk at one point (:-) sorry) but its never too late to turn over a new leaf!
Good luck! If you want to talk, Im here for you!
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ok, well take it from a girl thats had guys do to her what you've done to the girls you've been with.. thats a girls worst fear, its the worst possible thing that could happen to a girl and once we know its a possibility we shut down immediatley.
like the other people said, she knows the kind of guy you are now and so she obviously doesn't trust you when you say that its different with her and that you really do care. all you can do is be her friend at this point. if you stick around for a while just being her friend, not trying to get with her constantly or anything, and you dont do anything like you used to with other girls, eventually she might give you a chance.. key word is might. i know for me, which i'm 17 and a girl :P if a guy like you was trying to get with me i wouldnt give him the time of day. but if he stuck around for a while and showed me that he cares enough to be in my life even if its only as a friend. it would show me that he really does care and that i really am different to him.
as for messing it up if and when you get a chance with her. you just have to not be an asshole and you'll be fine, dont push things, dont be a jerk, dont treat her bad, easy as that :P like you said shes the good girl, so shes probably just as scared of getting hurt as you are of hurting her
-lorr
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Well, you seem actually sincere about this so here goes:
Since she knows about your reputation and doesn't wan't to give you a chance, you have nothing left to do about that for now.
Start by being her friend. The MOST impressive thing to do right now is show her that you are capable of having a TRUE, GENUINE friendship with her. Don't tell her she's pretty/innocent/cute/you-like-her/blahblahblah! Let her know you are interested in being friends....really good friends. She needs to start finding out more about you, not just the girl craze. She'll start appreciating you the more she gets to know about you.
You are already in the "friend-zone" because she doesn't want to date you, so you might as well expand that friend zone into closer friends. Know what I mean?
Once she sees a different side of you, she might open up a little. Now this could take a REALLY long time, because she's a smart girl. And seeing as you feel sick about yourself when you think of playing her, proves that you wont. It's that simple. If you've never felt this way about a girl, then its something you shouldn't let pass by.
Hope this helped, sorry for the rambling lol. Good Luck!
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