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It seems as thought I'm the only one who can't get a boyfriend
Hi,I'm 16 years old and I've never had a boyfriend.
I've talked to a few guys but most guys don't see past sex with me.
I know im not bad looking so it's looks aren't the reason.
Guys say im pretty all the time and I take it as a compliment but I just really want to get involved with someone.
For 3 years,one of my guy "friends" would have sex with me all the time and I loved him so much,I thought he liked me too he just didnt ask me out because we were too young and I figured he would do it eventually...I ended up having sex with someone else besides him and he got mad and went out with someone else and stopped talking to me.Finally i found someone new ,and we were "talking" but then he told me he just wanted to be best friends but yet he would hookup with me.
I still like him but he's like my best friend.
And I don't know what to do,because I just really want to find someone but I don't know how.It seems like I'm the only one who can't get a boyfriend or even a guy just to get involved with...
I need help!
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You thought you guys were too young for him to ask you out but old enough to have sex?
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Im actually in my first "serious" relationship right now, and im almoost 17. I mean, I've had boyfriends in the past, but like .. with my boyfriend now it's different. yuh know ? Like with some people you just know ... but anyways, back to your situaion :]
I think the problem is that you're sleeping with the guys because you think that they'll become emotionally attatched to you afterwards, but with raging hormones and all of that, some guys are just looking to get laid, and it's so wrong and unethical, but they'll use you and tell you what you want to hear for a little while until they get you into their bed, and then it's like they had their fix and are now done. What you need is to not move so fast with guys. just take it slow. Get to know a guy you think you'd be interested in first, become his friend, and then build a relationship off of that. If you REALLY want to sleep with the guy you become friends with, wait until he asks you out and make sure its clear to the guy that you are NOT planning on having sex with him until like you guys become official and you know that he respects you. it's all about respect and maturity on the guys part, you just have to wait a little to see who the good guys are and i PROMISE you'll find one in no time :]good luck ! have fun and keep me posted ! xxo.
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ok, wow idk where to start.
first of all. i'm 17 and i didn't have my first serious boyfriend untill a little after i turned 16, and i've been with that same boy now for almost a year. you just have to wait for the right person to come along. i tried and tried and nothing every became of me looking and trying to find a boyfriend. so after a while. i just stopped looking for one and stopped trying to find one. i concentrated on going out with my friends and having fun and a few months later the boy i'm currently dating approached me and asked me for my number and we started dating.
Guys can tell when your really trying to start something and that can make them feel preasured and make you seem a little desperate. which trust me guys do NOT like girls who try to push themselves on them or try to force them into a relationship. you just have to sit back, enjoy life, and let things happen. whatevers meant to be will find a way :)
The only other thing i'm going to say and this may not be my place but be careful about the whole sex thing. idk about you but for me sex is a big deal and everytime it means something.. having sex means everything to girls but to most guys its not as meaningful. you shouldn't just give it up to a guy right away because again that could give them the wrong impression of you. and could hurt you in the long run.. its your life and i'm not trying to tell you what to do. just becareful :)
hope i was some help
-lorr
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