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Is it too compllicated to have a relationship?
I met a boy on holiday, yeah I know typical. I’ve never had any experience with boys (16/f), but with him i was defiantly comfortable and so was he. When it came to intimate stuff, we could talk openly about things, for example, whenever we tried to lock fingers i couldn’t do it properly and we laugh about it and stuff like that, he is a gentleman. We spent four hours on top of a hill, talking. Hugging. Nothing else. We were alone and he didn’t try a thing. He didn’t want to scare me away, infact he told me all of this.
We have an amazing connection – we both like the same football team – we even went to the same game, he fishes like i do, he goes horse riding like i did, just things like that – these aren’t lies because he showed me pictures and videos of him fishing etc etc, so its not him trying to fool me etc.
He is in the year below me but I am only three months older. We get on so well. He broke up with his gf in January and they went out for a year and a half, so he has pretty had a lot of experience and stuff. We just get on so well, and even though i don’t have a lot of experience with boys, i know i really like him, and that he really likes me. He lost his mum when he was 13, my mum was diagnosed with a disability called MS when I was 6 – so we both share some sort of similar pain.
The only problem is he lives and hour and half away from me. Its not too hard to get there and stuff but I wouldn’t know how we would juggle things – me with work and college and him with his GCSE’S. Last year, this happened to my friend but in the end he didn’t give a shit about her. I don’t want that happening to me but if anyone is making a bigger effort its him. He sent me a message on facebook an hour after we said goodbye and sent me a text message to wake up to. Little things like that – my friend’s “summer” crush never did that. Infact she was the one making the effort. I know he is making and effort and I know I want to.
Should I give it a try or should I leave it, on a high?
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Hey there,
I would say, give it a try. You don't neccisarily have to have a bf/gf relationship, but you could start becoming even closer friends. There is nothing wrong with long distant relationships, they work out just fine. It is the equal effort that will help you make it through everything. Most relationships rely on 'things in common', so it is good you have alot in common :) But don't tell him everything right away or he won't have anything more to discover about you.
If at any time you feel as if something is wrong, that is a sure sign that you should probably not be with him or just watch your back. Trust your instincts, they will help you the most. Give it a try and good luck!
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Keep communicating. Enjoy this stage in your life. You've found someone you feel a connection with. Just because you can be together doesn't mean you can't communicate. Its fun to have a "crush" that lives somewhere else. Talking to that person can be an escape from your real life and the people in it. Just enjoy this new relationship, even if it can't be what you want it to be right now. Things may change in the future, you may not talk as much or decide the distance thing is too much for you and just talking and texting hurts too much, but until that time, enjoy yourself and enjoy getting to know each other even better through the phone and computer.
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