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my niece kicked me in the chest.
my 8 year old niece kicked me in the chest 4 TIMES while she had her tennis shoes on becouse I popped her 6 year old brother on the hand becouse he told me that he hated after I had just got through telling him that I loved him I usually tell him that every day so my mom took me to the hospital to make sure everything was alright and the doctor said that my chest was badly bruised and that my blood pressure was over 140 over 95 and then after that he asked me if I wanted to press chatges of course I said no I mean it's my niece for crying out loud she probally wouldn't even know what was going on we told her we needed time to think up a good punishment for does anybody have any ideas it's to late to spank her we should have spanked her right away but my mom was to worried about getting me to the doctor to think about it iam 0 years old if that helps.
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Well I don't think 8 years old is past the age of spanking, by far. But if you don't want to spank, cause you don't HAVE to spank to get the point across, the I agree with the previous guy. One thing I learned from from Super Nanny and she is amazing is this. The first time you say something like this: I don't like "this" behavior, this is how I expect you to behave (but make it positive, like I expect you to be gentil when you are dealing with me, or this this case I expect you to not kick me ever again and talk to me in a peaceful way when you have a problem with what I have done)then you say what the punishment will be if they don't comply. Then if you have to say it again you say "this is the last time that I am going to warn you of what I expect you to do" Then, if it happens again you don't say anything you just lay the punishment down, taking away TV taking away desert, taking away phone calls and or texting, computer usage...etc. My mom used to take away multiple things. make sure the punishment fits the crime if you will. So in this case, I would take away a lot, and I would also talk to her mom about starting to do something with her to help her manage her anger or use her inner violence for something positive like putting her in a martial arts class. This way she learns to chanel the anger and use it for something that will help her to defend her self, meditate, expand her mind and learn when to use fighting. It's sounds like a double standard, but it actually works out. A lot of times people will do that with kids who fight cause the classes teach them how to channel that into something positive...it really needs to be released and of course not on you but onto a bag or in a competition. I would also do some meditating with her or something artistic. Something to calm her down you know what I mean? It sounds like pinned up anger and frustration. It just needs to be channeled. Ok hope this helps.
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Seems to me that there is enough violence going on in your family. You don't need to add to it. The violence is escalating. Do you think your nephew should file charges against you for "popping" him? Bet he thinks he should be able to. Ah, but you think your hitting your nephew was justified, but you don't think your niece was justified. Well none of it is OK, all of it is against the law in civilized countries, and there are better way to deal with things that don't involve violence.
To punish someone for bad behavior, first you tell them that you are gravely dissapointed in them, then you remove priviledges. If you ground someone one for a week or take away TV or Video games, that sends a message ,but you HAVE to stick to your punishment. Don't change your mind after three days. If you say a week it is a week. Mark it on the calendar.
Please stop the violence.
- Michele
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