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Has my friend gone too far with his attraction to his teacher?
Recently, my friend has been talking about how hot he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room having excuses just to walk by her and at the end of the day waiting to see her leave, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and at any pictures of her in them, saying "pictures of my hot teacher are like what pornography is to other people. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to rape him he'd be all for it, and he also said he hopes her boyfriend dies. This sounds kind of funny but also weird to me. I guess you could find a teacher hot, but still. Is this normal, or has he gone too far?
friend is 16 teacher is about 26
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It's pretty normal for a guy to fantasize about his teacher. Some of the things he has said are a bit over the top. You should stop and bring him to the real world and tell him that shes an older teacher and shes already going out with someone, and she should just stay friends with him.
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lol yes it is very normal, for girls and guys to like their teachers. the stuff he says sounds sarcastic like he is just trying to be funny but at the same time serious that he would get with her. its not a big deal, hes a 16 year old boy with raging hormones. lol
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Most guys are attracted to a teacher at some point, and most girls are, too.
It's normal. What he says is a little stalkerish and creepy, but, I guess as long as he doesn't like act on any feelings he has, it's whatever. Haha.
--Jack
(18/m)
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This is normal. Sixteen year old boys have a high sex drive and obviously fantasize quite often. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If he acted on his feelings, this would be wrong. However, if he does not, let him have his fantasies. Thinking about it isn't hurting anyone.
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I don't think it's normal seeing as it is a teacher
they are just there to teach students you should confront him about it and tell him that it isn't normal and that he shouldn't wish death upon her boyfriend nobody should have that wished towards them he'll never have her so he should just move on teachers are just teachers to students nothing more i find what he's doing creepy like he's stalking her he needs girls who are around his age also needs to stop obsessing over her
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ugh well i think this is going thurh a faze he think she sooooooooooo perfect but one day hell find something wrong with her or do some thing i do...tell hym things about her thats true like ''u kno how bigs her neck iz or some thing like that'' he'll start to see the things about her than he wont think shes sooooo perfect but make sure thta it dosent go to far that he gets mad.....do it suddel then,he will start to look at it then he'll just focus on that one inperfection...
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Regardless of this being normal or not, you are well within your rights to let your friend know that you don't want to hear about it anymore.
I would bet, although I might be wrong, that a large part of why he does this is that it gets the attention of his friends. They laugh at him. They tease him and make fun. They worry about him. They think about him and talk about him.
Even bad attention, is attention.
So, one good way to discourage his behaviour, is to stop giving him that attention. When he talks about it tell him simply and firmly, that you aren't interested and that you don't want to hear it.
If he keeps on about it, don't argue with him, instead, walk away from him. The more of your friends you can convince to stop playing along, and giving him attention for talking about this stuff, the better.
In addition to no longer feeding into his little over-dramatic obsession, you might want to talk about it with a teacher or staff member at school who you trust. Teachers talk to one another. They know a lot of what’s going on in their student’s lives. Way more than you’d think. They might be able to tell if this is a symptom of a bigger problem with your friend, or just a weird thing he does.
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Oh boyyyy-
Uhm, I believe it is normal to have little teacher crushes.
Boys do have these weird sex fantasies about hot women they wish were theirs. You cant help how this boy feels, or control it for that matter. If it makes you feel uncomfortable when he talks about this, then tell him that. Make sure he knows not to talk about it with you. Maybe the other boys who want to have sex with her.
GOOD LUCK
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others
It is normal for a boy going through puberty to have the hots for a teacher he admires. I remember two teachers one in particular I was deeply in love with. She was my middle school Chemistry teacher. I did everything I could to get her attention including failing tests to cause her to keep me after school for extra attention. Then there was a teacher in High School that every senior boy was after. She had been a senior when we were all freshmen and was now a freshman English teacher. She even rode to and from school with one of the seniors until the Principal put a stop to it. I do not think there was a boy in school that could walk down the hall without holding their books in front of them when she was in the hallway. This all came to an abrupt stop when her boyfriend came to school. He was a Marine Gunnery Sergeant. Now when I think back on it; it is funny how even though she was just as pretty she no longer turned any of us on.
I would say your friend has not yet crossed the line from youthful admirer to stalker, but he could be very close. It would be a reasonable and cautious thing to do, to advise this teacher that your friend is developing an unhealthy admiration for her. Even better it would be best to tell your parents what you have observed and let them decide how to approach the situation. In fact that is probably the better idea as it takes you out of the middle and leaves it to the adults to handle.
My advice then is to talk to your parents about what you have observed and what you feel. Then follow their advice.
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hay okay don't worry to much cause it just a phase that he is going through let him just be the boy he is lol...now when there is physical action being used or if you think later dwon the line physical action will be against your teacher like him wanting to touch her body and may try to one day if he get a chance then you should warn your teacher so that she may deal with it...but as far as that may goes it just seem like he being a normal hormones boy....so no worry
if there anything eles you want to talk about
just leave it in my box and i will get with you right away....
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