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Rape charges
Hey everyone, if you go to google and look up "William Suh arrest". Im the victum in that change. I dont know what to do, i still love that man and the people dont even have the facts stright about any of it! they are making himout to be a horrible person and he is NOT. I love him and belive he did nothing wrong, i really want to talk to him, but i cant sit here and listen to the horrible things people are saying about him. They dont know him, I DO!
what do i do T_T
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Dear rape charges,
I think you need to tell the people who say they are everything that you just said right there. If he did nothing wrong then dont listen to what other people are saying about all the bad things he did and go and talk to him. if you know the real facts, then there's no reason to not talk to him. If you do love him, you'll do the right thing because love doesn't always come around.
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I agree with LagunaBabe.
First off, You're 13, and I'm sure even though you think you love him, you really don't.
Plus you met him online, and he raped you. To you, it might not seem so wrong. But to everyone else- including police- it is wrong. What he did was sick, and illegal.
As LagunaBabe said, you might not understand it now, but eventually you will.
Sorry.
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Though I do understand that you feel as though you love him, and maybe you truly do, however, what he did was wrong. Maybe not in your eyes at this time, but in everyone else's -- it most definitely is. You see, society sees that as him just taking advantage of a very young girl, whom is not old enough to really be sure of what is right and wrong and he can manipulate you and/or brainwash you into thinking it's ok. My friend, please understand that what he did was wrong and he has to pay for the crime he committed. When you get older, I think you will understand -- or hope you will.
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lmao ur just as sick as him...i tell it how it is. if you dont like what i said about that guy well its too bad, you need more than mental help...n like you said everyone is entitled to their own opinion and what i said i mean it.i dont care what you think about..deal with it.
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I was a 14 year going out with 21 year i knew what i was doing i loved him but i didnt have sex with him he respected me and waited until i was ready and since i made my own decisions i never slept with him if you were not forced there's nothing wrong with loving an older man. But this man should have stayed away. Older people have the power to manipulate and charm. you will never know if he loves you for real men in general are power seekers and since your a young he will have all the power. By now you haved probably have so much hatred for your parents they are only trying to protect you. this took there little girls child hood even tough you willingly gave it away you will continue to lose respect and trust from your parents and friends and you will give that man what he wants leaving you with know onefeel but this love you WILL FADE and you b left all alone because he manipulated you is that what you want icanhelp365@gmail.com
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What he did was illegal. He new what he did. He is a sick man that needed/needs psychological help. In the future, when you're actually old enough, you'll understand why the crime was wrong. It is considered rape because you are minor. I have a friend that does this, and I've reported it... apparently where I'm from the Police don't care. You should be thankful someone cared enough to report it. You might be young, but you should never have met him in person, there's a reason parents, educators and other adults tell children/teens the rules of a computer. He's done it before... if he didn't learn the first time, he will never learn and it will happen again. He is/was a sick man for what he did and deserves to be punished. What happened to you was not okay or even legal. I feel very bad for you, I have no sympathy for the pedafile that did what he did to you and others. I hope you get the psychological help you'll need to overcome what has happened to you.
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The media always makes things out bigger than what they are. they make up things along the way. theyve made this guy sound soo horrible and im sorry your in there too. what i dont understand is why you told your father?
William knew that you were 13 right?or did you tell him you were older?because if you did then police need to know this. this man could be in prison because of nothing.
on the other hand if he knew you were 13 then he took advantage of you. he knew you were well under the legal age and manipulated you. your still young sweety and he used that as a privlage to him. you body is still young for sex you dont understand that if he got you pregnant and either way you had to choose between keeping the baby or not both paths would end badly, he knew all this, he knew your body was not physically ready for sex. even though you love him you both shouldnt of been having sex. he got in trouble because he understood the out come of this. sorry theres nothing you can do but unless he thought you were 16 then you need to tell police this or your father.
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He fought the law and the law won. Such is life.
He may not be some horrible person, but the bottom line is he broke the law. Sure, you love him, sure, no one really ever know the emotional relationship that goes on between two people, but this is statutory rape, and it's illegal. He and you both should have known this going into the situation.
Your advicenators profile says you are 16, however, the victim in the case is 13, so I am naturally going to assume you are 13. You are not fully developed yet mentally or physically. A 24 year old man is. It doesn't matter if he loves you, he knows it is against the law to have sexual relations with a 13 year girl. The case also claims that he believed you were between the ages of 16 and 18. Ignorance of the law is no excuse. A 13 year old girl does not have the same body features of an 18 year old girl. I do not know him, so I have no right to claim he is a horrible person; however, he did use poor judgment.
You are going to have to get over this. Dating a man eleven year your senior when you are a minor is simply not acceptable. You may love him, but when you get older you will realize why this would not be a healthy relationship. Move on; there is not anything else you can do.
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Weeeeeeeeeell...Hmmmmmmm This is a tuffy...Personally (if the stuff about the "terroristic threats" with a "loaded fire arm" are true...then I would wonder about his stability as a person...I would also wonder why this is the second time he has done this...Now...I'm not saying it's wrong for you two to be in love. Ok Let's get that straight. Now I don't know him and I know the news has a way of blowing things out of porportion. The question ultimately is What do your parents think. From my knowledge, and I could be wrong, but until you are 16 you can't have any sexual relations with anyone over 18 and that is with your parents permission and you have to be married. I knew a girl that was 16 and she wanted to marry an older man and her parents liked him and they gave her permission. So that is what 3 more years...now I want you to mull this over in your head...Love does not = Sex...SO the truth is, if he is really in love with you (and assuming he has already tried the "goods", not to sound vulgar) then if he really loves you then he will respect the law and you and wait to do sexual things with you until you are 16 and get parents permission to get married, OR He will wait until you are 18 and you can make your own decision...If he is just about the Booty (again not to be vulgar) then he will not want to wait. Sex is a part of love, like anything else...cooking for someone, paying bills and helpig clean, kissing and holding hands...but these things do not define it. There are many parts, it's like a puzzle, it takes all the little parts to make the whole thing. So I say that if you really love him and you think he is safe to be around and will be an ASSET to your life and RAISE YOU UP...Then you should talk to him about waiting and just wait and be together as a celebate couple until it is the right time. These laws were made to protect young girls from being forced and manipulated into marriage (amongst other reasons) So the laws are good...I say the age could be lower, but you know that's government...This will also give you a chance to see if he is going to be able to be faithful, if he just likes you cause you are young (and I am basing that off of the fact that he has done it before) at least you will know that this has nothing to do with the fact that I am young and when I am 20 or 30 he's not going to go looking for another 13 14 year old...ok...and it will give you a chance to see how deep his love is. Patience and Respect is what he will be showing you if you two decide to wait...and If he says something like well I can't wait that long to have sex and do sexual things, well then you know what the relationship is about...and if he says well what if you find someone else? Then you say well, you know that's the chance we have to take. Are you willing to trust my love? Are you willing to trust his love? That's what I would say. If he is the true man for you, he will be there, he will be patient, loyal and his love will last this short span of time within your long and wonderful lifetime together.
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the only thing i can say is that you have to deal with it. love can be separated by a lot of things, including dumb laws. my friend has had a lot of boyfriends who are many many many years older than her and shes had sex with all of them, but when the police find out, they have to take them away.
i dont know why they have this law, when 12 year olds used to get married to 30 year olds back 100 years ago, but its just the law and you have to obey it. :
im sorry i cant help more.
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it is still rape of a minor you told your parents your parents can press charges tell your police department you wanted it you did no say no there for it isnt rape you lied abotyour age there how was he supose to know you were 13 unless you told him?? did you tell the police this?
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