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i have big issues with my weight and would like to know from experienced poeple what the best way is to start dieting and what is the best diet to do?

Well, dieting is very hard. Dont refer to it as a diet, but as a change in your eating and fitness habits. You should start slowly. Set realistic goals for yourself. Do you eat the right foods? Excercise at least 4 times a week? Get back to me.

good luck!

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I read that if you eat breakfast everyday you will lose weight, is this true? If so, then how can I start eating breakfast without gaining weight because I have not been eating breakfast for a few years? This is so confusing! Please explain and help. Thank you so much.

you should always eat breakfast. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It is true that eating breakfast does help people lose weight. Studies show that people who do not eat breakfast tend to eat more later in the day. Eat a healthy breakfast, maybe whole wheat cereal, or oatmeal.

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Okay so I masturbate like 3-4 times a week and I like to alot. The problem is, I feel so perverted and gross. How can I sto pfeeling so disgusting? 14-f

just keep in mind that masturbating is totally NORMAL and most people do it.

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I am 13 years old. i weigh about 100 pounds & and i'm about 5'2 (girl) but i play a spot everday and dont lose weight...i don't get it! im pretty sure its not mouscle bc im not the muscular type-ish i mean im not fat but i'm scared im going to get fat. is there anything besdies sports that i can do? thank you!

well first of all, you are most definitely NOT fat AT ALL. Weighing 100 pounds and being 5'2 is thin, and maybe a little under weight. Keep doing your sports and if your worried about getting fat in the future, just eat healthy foods instead of junk. For example, eat an apple instead of doritos, or something like that. Other than that, you have got nothing to worry about.

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hey there! hehe can u wear pads with a thong? like i doubt a g string but how about the thicker ones? thanks babe!

well...i am not positive cuz i havent gotten it yet. lol

sorry i couldnt help =(

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Okay I don't know if this is sex or something but like i've been getting this white snotty stuff in my underwear. I don't know what it is or what it's from. I'm 13/f to if that will help.

Hey, there is absolutely nothing to worry about. It is just discharge. Every girl gets it.

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Are guys supposed to masturbate? This was a big issue at school today. I was wondering if most guys masturbate. K thanks .. ♥ Tiff

i am in 8th grade and every single guy i know masturbates. It is completely normal for them too.

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My mind always fills dirty things about guys. I always fantasize about their penises like how big they have, shaved or un-shaved, fat or thin. Its about all men, young and old, known or unknown. Imagine when I talk to a man, my mind goes fantasizing about his penis, Is this sickness?
I am 15/F.

its called being peverted.

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Do u think im too young for sex? I WANT TO SOOOOOO BADDDDDDDD! uhhhh..hes 17, but he promises me i wouldnt get pregnant if we used a condom in he took it out before he cummed in me..is that true?

do not have sex yet. you are WAYYYY too young.

and hes 17!
he is just taking advantage of you.
and he should not promise you something like that because he does not know the answer.

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im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?

**sleepiesheep**

break up with this guy...QUICK.

i suggest telling an adult you trust or maybe even the police.

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I really like this guy and he told my friend he thinks im cute and he knows that i think hes cute yet he still hasnt said more than 10 words to me. My friend takled to him about me and he acted ike he really liked me because we have alot in common but now he jus stares at me and smiles but he wont say anything and thats whats confusing me so much! HELP!!!

he is so shy because he likes you! knowing that he is shy, you gotta be the one to make the first move by talking to him.

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well, ive liked this boy for months! hes a really shy sweet guy and i dont think that hes ever had a gf before. but a couple of nights ago, i found out that he liked me to. i was having a party, and he was there, and we sorta hung out. hes a very nervous and shy person, so he doesnt really tlak to me that much. but im a shy person to. well, last night, he asked me out. and i said yes. but today, we barely said more then 2 sentences to each other. and i have no idea what to do. im shy, and hes shy, and we cant have a relationship if were never going to talk to each other. but i realli like him, and i really want this to work. does anyone know what i should do so that we could communicate more, and like make our relationship work..?

thanks

well, the only thing you can do is talk to him. i know it is really hard, but u gotta do it. just think, what are u worried about? hes not gonna make fun of you! you already know he likes you. so talk to him, theres nothing to worry about.

GOOD LUCK!!

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hey um i've hu a couple times before but i dunno if i was like good hehe, how do u hu like really well? like is there anyway that u can be really good, if so please tell me haha sorry i dont like make sense hehe k bye thanks babe x0x0!

well, there is no right or wrong way to do it. just do whatever feels natural. if this does not help go to myjellybean.com

good luck!

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16 f. sophmore likes sophmore guy as well. never had a conversation with him. hell i doubt he knows i exist. but i still want to approach him.

1) He is scene or w/e and is quiet. he seems almost depressed. he just sits there at lunch with a friend or two and does nothing(though he is kind of popular) hes medium height. super skinny. pretty smile :]
2) i dont dress scene or goth or punk or ghetto or preppy so ive no clue wtf i am. im very shy. not too quiet but a lil quiet. short. im a lil chubby and i have a pretty face(like that matters all that matters are a hot body)

when i approach him what should i say?? could we ever be compatible? should i just give up all together? and how can i get him to notice me?
Sorry its long i rate 5's, thanx.

this is all totally normal. all you gotta do is make the first move. i know it is hard, but you gotta try. just go up to him and be like hey..whats up. say it really casually and friendly. seem interested.

good luck!!

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This boy that i love...yes for real...we went out about 4 times and the last time he broke up with me because he liked another girl.He doesn't like that same girl anymore but he likes another one. Anyways, we still talk a lot like we're very good friends. But he found out that I kinda liked one of his friends and ever since he found out all he says to me is about me liking his friend. It's getting annoying like we talked 3 times yesterday and all he said was " oohh you like *****.." "I saw you around **** sittin with him i saw you.." "i know you want *****" and i dont know why that's all he ever talks about now. I asked a couple of friends and they think he's just jealous. Do any of you guys know why he does this?? If you need any more information just write it in the answer and I'll tell you. THANKKK YOUU

ok, well it seems like this guy is not totally over you yet. if he was, he would not care about you liking *****.

i think you should ask him why he cares so much.

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Hey I'm Christy and I'm 13. okayy ill give you thw low down (haha sry i'm not a grate explaner...) so last year i had a bf (started in like january) and everything was fine and then in the end of the summer he went on a vacation and his best friend told me he hooked up with some1. i was soo sad and when he got back i just had to dump him but i still luved him...then in october he asked me out and i said yes. we were going out and everything was good just like last year. then he dumped me saying he didnt want a gf but still wanted to hook up with me and all. then about a week later we hooked up and he dosnt tlk to me for like a week! his best friend (the one who told me he hooked up with a grl in the summer)then told me he dumped me bc i have no ass and very little boobs...im not gonna lie haha im a pretty slow developer but anyway after that he stated to go out with this girl who has a huge butt and boobs and well not a pretty face and they seem totally different...he talks to me a lot lately but is always talking about her and saying oo shes so hot im like hehe and all bc i dont no what to say and i just cant help likeing him and and so sad...wat do i do?

ok, think about this lame guy. he cheated on you, broke your heart, dumped you because u have no boobs or ass!!! he was using you. you should not like someone like that. i know it may be hard to get over him but you will soon. just think of what an ass this guy his. you should not take him bullshit anymore. hes an ass.

good luck!!

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i found this guy from a couple towns over through myspace. we met today and totally hit it off! we like each other a LOT . but he lives 1/2 hour away..making it hard to see each other. i think i have to tell my parents..so maybe they can drive me out there sometimes..but how do i word it? i always kept my love life private from them..i never had the need to tell..im afraid of their reaction. help please?
16f

i think you should just say that you met this really nice guy who lives an 1/2 hour away. would you be willing to drive me on some weekeneds?

or somethin like that

i wouldnt really mention that you met him on myspace though, unless your parents wouldnt care about something like that. cuz most parents would think that myspaces are dangerous or whatever.

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My friend has being going out with her boyfriend for two years now - she's just turned 16 and he's just turned 18. They've always got on really well, and he's always been a really good boyfriend, but lately he's been pressuring her for sex.
She's really not comfortable with this and is happy to carry on as before, but he's been saying how selfish she is.
He also spoke to one of his girl mates about it (someone my friend doesn't even KNOW), and this girls said very nasty things about her.
How can I help my friend? What should she do?

your friend should defintely break up with this guy.
Clearly, he is the selfish one and if he really liked her, then he would not pressure her into doing anything she doesnt want to do. Make sure your friend DOES NOT have sex with this guy.

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okay.. this may be long..
I really like this guy. We are best friends to like, the fullest extent. He is also my ex-boyfriend. He is known throughout my school as "the flirt" because he flirts with EVERYONE. Well, he is always telling me about girls he thinks are hot and who he likes and how his relationships never work out and like, how he wishes he could just have a good relationship that isn't shitty. We tell eachother everything. He came over a little while ago and we were hanging out and he started kissing me. To say the least, we began to make out. He came over again a few days ago and we were hanging out in the same place and we were really close, and cuddling and stuff like we did the other time but he went in for a kiss and i told him i promised myself i wouldn't make out with him. he understood. ive been trying to get over him. so we just hung out .. cuddled and stuff still but didn't make out. we kept getting closer and i couldnt help myself..we ended up making out again. but in between that, he kept saying things like "i dont want to love you" and then he was like "i don't want to makeout with you but i can't help myself" and i was like "why" and he was like "i don't know. i don't understand myself.. but i can't stop myself from loving you" and this was basically in between breaths and he was kissing my neck and stuff. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO

Well, i dont really think you have to do anything. you are basically boyfriend and girlfriend..right?

i mean, you could talk to him about all of this since you two are obviously really close. ask what he feels.

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I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. I like him alot and want to spend time with him. He on the other hand likes to spend alot of time alone. I wouldn't see for a week or longer and I was starting to get really sad. I asked him about it and he said that while he loves me, he just needs time to himself. I told him that I needed to spend time with him and go out and stuff and he agrred to see me more often.

I want to feel connected to him, but he wants to go home everytime I start to feel happy and start to feel connected to him. He won't spend the night. I know he is NOT cheating and he only works part time. All of his friends say that he has always been like this. I am afraid that there I will get to a point where I want more than he is willing to give me. He is great to me otherwise and we have a wonderful time whenever we are together. I know we haven't been together that long, I just am not sure what to do.

I think you should tell him exactly how you feel. If he respects your point of view than...great! if you both want to make this work, you have to compromise.

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