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My 14-year-old daughter identifies as gay. Let me make it clear right from the start that I have absolutely no problem with that. If she wants to date girls, I'll treat her girlfriends exactly as I would her boyfriends, and if she got married to a woman someday I would totally welcome my new daughter-in-law into the family.
The thing is, I'm not sure she really IS gay. The reason is that those who I have known who are gay say it's something they've known all their lives (I've certainly always felt hetero). That's not the case with my daughter; in her childhood, she talked about "cute boys" and such, and she's even said that this is something that evolved in her over time. And I don't think it's that she was afraid to tell us; my wife and I have always been very open with her about our position that there is absolutely nothing inherently wrong with being gay. She, in turn, tends to have very little shame about revealing her feelings about people and things (often to a fault!).
My question is: Is it possible for one's sexual preference to change with the onset of puberty? Is it even possible for it to change AT ALL? (link)
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It is very possibly that your daughter could be bi-sexual. And could like boys as well as girl. Or it could be just a stage she is going through. Girls at that age are experiencing so many different new feelings,. she could just be wanting to 'experiment' as she isn't sure if she want to be with a woman or a man.
I would say it is totally possible for her sexuality to change as she goes through puberty.
Hope this helps :)
Jasmine
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It's not very frequent and fairly irregular, but sometimes my leg bothers me, usually the left but sometimes both, when I'm trying to sleep. It's a weird tingling, ticklish sensation, but not the sort of tickle that feels good. It doesn't hurt, but it makes it almost impossible to get comfortable and sometimes leaves me crying from frustration and irritation. It usually occurs in the area directly around my thighs where they joint to my pelvis, but sometimes happens in my knees too. I don't think it's restless leg syndrome, but not really sure. I'm female, 16, almost 17. Thankyou! (link)
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It could be just your legs losing circulation. Try sleeping with a pillow between your legs and stretch out if you wake up or in between sleeps
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Hi I'm 14 and I hump like once a day and I'm wondering does dry humping not make u not have ur period cause I'm scared that I might not have my period please help. I have never ever gotten my period and if you do help thank you. (I'm a female) (link)
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Dry humping wil not stop your periods
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I recently started talking to someone who is charming, intelligent, motivated and relatively good looking. He is about 2 and a half years younger than me, but judging from the last times we spoke, he seems more mature than most men his age. At the moment, he has a very impressive job, while currently still in college, at not even 23 years old, he is the head of finance at his friend’s brewery startup.
During one of our previous conversations, he told me things that I really needed to hear and I doubt that he knew how badly I needed to hear those things. He told me that he thinks that I am smarter than the people who I am working with on a project for my finance class, and that he notices that I am a very hard worker.
My best friend, a married 31 year-old male, believes that he likes me. The new interesting man has sent some flirtatious gestures my way, like he smiled at me when I said hello to him, and winked at me when I stood on the line to talk to one of my thesis advisors. Realistically, a man like him… I am thinking to myself, either has a girlfriend or does not want one.
At the same time, I have a long-term boyfriend of five years but I think that I am more secure with him than anything else. I feel semi neglected by him, he NEVER class me, he DOES NOT pay proper attention to me.
By that I mean, since we live in different states, and we are both students, we do not always get to see each other. So, he will sit on the computer and play video games, instead of touching me... which aggravates the shit out of me.
The last time I was down there he touched me maybe like two days out of the entire week I was down there, after not seeing me for two months previously. I feel like he definitely loves me, and does not want me to go anywhere, but I am starting to feel really taken for granted. Also, I see someone who does not care about his future as much as I care about mine.
With as long as we have been together, unless I am 100 percent sure about wanting to marry him, I am starting to feel like we should break up. However, I do not want to make a mistake, I want to see him again before I do anything, and breaking up with someone over the phone is tacky.
What should I do about this situation? Should I go with my gut, which is visit my boyfriend, make sure that I am 100 percent certain that I no longer feel passion for him, and then get to know the other guy as a friend?
I think that I like this other guy as a person, so even if we are both interested in each other I do not want to make a mistake move too fast and lose out on his friendship at the very least. The thing that really sucks is that my boyfriend and I are both graduating college next month, and I really do not want to screw up his last semester, but at the same time… is there ever a good time to break up with someone?
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I think it is verry possibly that you may have fallen out of love with your bf. Sure you can still love him but not be in love with him.
Distance also plays a big part. Because there is space between you it can create a separation between you too. But if you feel that you may not be inlove with him i would make sure of it prior to breakup.
Remember the grass is not greener on the other side. If you love your bf and dont want to lose him or the love talking to him about what needs are not being met is a MUST
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I am 20 yo guy... And had been in a relationship with a girl for nearly 14 months. I really loved her a lot and it was a dream, Unfortunately shortlived. Things began souring within the 2nd month itself.Here is how it went
2nd month-She failed in her exams. I called & calmed her down.i happened to say i ll be there for u no matter wat the result. She lost it and did not talk to me fr 2 days.i somehow convinced her i was sorry & i did nt mean it
3rd month-she broke up because i said that if we were ever to break up i ll always keep her in my heart. She broke up saying i din say i ll always love her.again i begged n convinced her.
4th n 5th month had a break up again over something trivial
6th month she got soo angry insulted and humiliated me.i made her a card she asked me throw it. And that i did not deserve any1.i begged again
7th month. A huge fight coz i din ask how she was cz she had been ill.i sd i m sorry. Cheered her up. Then my agony began in the 10th month
She had her exams and so did i. She sd pls support and understand me. I did bt then during my exams i sd i might gt frustrated.plz bear with me. A huge fight broke coz " now that she was with me i was takin her for granted and behave rudely with her" then it was our month anniversary. I had my exams so i sd can we meet tommrw cz it was my bday as well. She got so angry even when we met she was behaving rudely in public to the point i was going to break down in tears. I prepared hand made gifts for her birthday and saved money. She broke up and asked me to never talk to her. And when i did not she sd i really did nt love her coz i din try to win her back. Ultimately we did meet on her bdae after lot of persuasion. Then i had gone out with my parents for some days. On the day i was returning she called up n sd she scored less in exam.i cheered her and said that i wud meet her a day later. She got angry ,accused me of never supporting her coz i did nt say i would meet her tommrw rather i sd
A day after tommrw. I told that i was really tired and would nt b able to spend time properly. Again a break up. I finally lost it when she flushed my ring down the drains and broke up. What followed was a series of tantrums,blackmail. I somehow lied that my parents forced me out of it coz they are against us. We broke up but now she says she wants to be with me. I really never want to see her again. But her friends sometyms call and make me feel guilty. My friends also support me but i desperately need help.i m worried if she harms herself i might get into trouble. Please help & sincere apology for making it long ! Please help
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This is a very unhealthy relationship. from the get go., she has been using your emotions to manipulate you into apologizing for a thing you never did. You deserve to be treated like a human being. and after so many break ups,. she is not fully committed to you. however. she is not happy that you are done with her, and so she is trying to manipulate you by saying she misses you. then get's angry when you won't drop everything your doing to see her. she should understand and just be excited to see you when she can.
I hope you move on from her and find yourself a nice person that treats you well.
Thank you,
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So I am a male and I'm 21, this past weekend I attended a party with at my best friends girl friends house (there were other friends as well. We were all having a good time then it came time to go to bed because everyone has had enough. I send them to bed and My best friends girl asked if I would cuddle with her. Before I tell you what my response was, I became friends with this girl before I knew her boyfriend, I even asked her out. So when she asked me I said yes, I knew where this could have gone, we downed quite a few drinks and we weren't ourselves. So we are cuddling and then we start talking and she asks "do you still have feelings for me" I didn't want to reply but I ended up saying yes anyways. We continue to talk about how she felt sorry that she didn't give me the chance I deserved and how the past two days she saw how much I really cared (I am just a caring kind of guy). After a little bit of conversation we are face to face and I ask her what are you thinking, I don't really remembered what she replied but we ended up kissing, I stopped her and I told her " why did you do that" she had no clue but I didn't question it and kissed her some more. We talked some more and I told what we are doing is really wrong I love your boyfriend we are practically brothers, and she understood but she kept repeating that "I don't think it's fair for you to be alone while i'm happy with him" I said I rather you be with him than with me and I knew when I said that I should have left but I stayed in bed with her, and we continued talking and we ended up making out some more. I once more repeated why are we still doing this, she then started talking as if she was going to leave him for me, and I told her to not do such a foolish thing. We continued talking until I fell asleep around 4 am. I get use the rest room and go across the room to another area to sleep in. We wake up the next day and we talk about it and she felt horrible about what she did, and she had no idea why she asked me that question, I hated myself to my core because I allowed it to happen. We both ended up agreeing that we are not going to tell her boyfriend anything because it would hurt him greatly because this girl was his first girl and maybe the last. I told her that I wouldn't want to hurt him either. So that's that, but ever since then I cannot stop thinking about how passionate our kisses were as if she truly felt something for me. The kiss didn't mean much to me I really liked it but it didn't have any umph. I guess the question how do I deal with this because this guy is my best friend I talk to him every single day and to know that I made out with his girlfriend makes me hate myself because his girlfriend is his world. Help me find closure. Side note: the worst part is we had full control of our actions, the alcohol didn't effect much at all. (link)
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What you did was wrong. and you have to live with the fact that you betrayed your best friend. if you chose not to tell him. okay. but if and when it comes out it will not be good.
You have to understand that she is not your girl. and move on.
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Is my second time going to hurt?
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The first couple times will hurt a bit. using Lubrication (Bought at the store) will help to decrease pain, and increase pleasure.
Hope this helps.
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I like to watch this girl, Aspyn, and her husband, Parker's vlogs on YouTube. In one of her recent videos, she is driving in the car with Parker. She working on her computer in the passenger seat and is talking about how she has wifi on her computer even though there isn't wifi around because she is using it from her phone. I was just wondering how that could be. If it is an app or if she had to buy a software for that to happen. I'm coming up on an international vacation soon and if I can get wifi on my computer when there isn't wifi around, to get me through the traveling, that would be great. Thanks for any help! (link)
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BE CAREFUL. If you don't have a DATA Package,. you will end up with an INSANE amount of Data charges on your phone. And being international,. it can add roaming charges on top of your Data and you can end up paying an arm and leg of hundreds!
However, If you wanted to you can set up your mobile device as a 'hotspot' this will allow you to access your internet connection through your phone. It may be a slower connection.
As well, Many hotels, places you stay do offer free -WiFi for their guests,. so I would also look into that as well.
Hope this helps :)
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I have a friend, we have been friends since Pre-K. I have always had strong feelings for him, but I never saw him interested in being anything more than friends. Now he claims that he likes a girl in our school and grade but he couldn't tell me who because of 1 thing. So, naturally, I asked him what that 1 thing was and he said he couldn't say. I think his friends know who he likes, but he wouldn't tell me. Finally I pestered him enough and he told me he liked a girl at our school named Lauren Freeman, but I checked the directory and there is no one named Lauren...do you think it's me? Should I tell him I like him after 10 years of friendship? WHAT DO I DO? (link)
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The best thing to do, would be to talk to him about it. And let him know that you are interested in perusing something more than just friends.
Men are not mind readers, unless we open up to them, and are honest with them they don't have a clue.
yes, It is probably the scariest thing ever, but if it works out that he does like you, and he is just to nervous to push forward, and is making the first step by talking to you about his crush,. then this could be perfect for you, and him to be together.
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I'm 17,F. I've had a crush on this guy for a couple years, and recently I've been trying to get up the courage to tell my friends and then try to talk to him/tell him I like him. However, just this morning I found out that over March break he went on a date with another girl.
My friend who told me was all excited, because she thinks they will make a great couple, and I see her point, but this news left me totally shaken. I felt betrayed, even though no one knew they were doing anything to me, because no one knows how i feel about him.
How do I get over my feelings for him? I've had a crush on this guy for 3 years, and for the past 2 months I've been crushing especially hard...Also, the girl he's with now is sort of one of my friends, and I don't want to hold a grudge of any kind against her, but it's really hard...every time I saw either one of them in the hallway today, I nearly started crying. I couldn't concentrate on anything.
How do I move on? I think I have sort of had like a fantasy in my head for a while where I started dating this guy, but now that fantasy world has been destroyed! For the past few months, I have thought about this guy every day, so how do I stop now that he is no longer available? Because I don't want to go on wanting him when I can't....
I'm just so confused and upset...I don't know what to do...please help! (link)
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Since this girl is now your sort of friend, there is no way for you to hold a grudge. since over the last 3 years you didn't make a move on him or initiate conversation he was fair game. I am sorry to hear that he is dating someone now.
On moving on, It is almost like obsessing over him. (Not that you are, but I was in a similar case). When ever you start thinking of him, stop your self and think of some one else, or someone else. Every-time. Start thinking about him oh, no i can't.. hmm hockey. Or another way is to focus on what you are working on at that time. Either it be school work or be watching tv.
Hope this helps :)
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Hi, so this girl that I thought was really nice... I just found out she b****ed about me. I thought she was the nicest girl I knew. If people have a problem with me why don't they just tell me or feel the need to tell others? (link)
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You will find that growing up, Girls can be quite nasty. They back stab, pretend to be your friend and lie. If this girl is your friend I would confront her and ask her what is going on?
If this girl is not a close friend, then I would move on from this friendship,. as anyone who does not treat you with respect does not deserve your time.
Hope this helps :)
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What do you think? Is it ok to love your partner even when you can't stop yourself cheating on him? I know he does cheat on me too but of course I can't blame him. Is it ok to still love each other this way?
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You may love this person,. but you might not be IN Love with him. I strongly believe that if you are with the one you are 100 percent in love with then there is no reason to be with someone else.
It could be that you were once in love and now that has turned into a different kind of love. and maybe your are missing something in your relationship that is making you search else where for that missing something.
Hope this helps :)
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Hey I'm 18 years old and in 3 months I'll be going to Spain with a few hundred people I know to celebrate exams ending. It's a beach and pool holiday where everyone spends time shirtless. I'm about 5'11,74kg and about 17% body fat. Shirtless I feel very uncomfortable and even sitting down with a t shirt on I suck in my stomach. I'm up every night thinking of how I'll avoid going to the pool or beach and how I'll get an excuse to keep my top on. There'll be girls everywhere so it concerns me to reveal to them that there's quite a belly down there. When fully relaxed I look pregnant. I changed my diet a few months ago and eat eggs every morning,less white carbs,more fruit and veg but haven't seen any results. I don't have a particular question but was wondering if anyone can give me advice on what to do? Considering I have a lot of study to do,is it too late to trim the fat in 80 days? Thanks in advance (link)
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First, i must congratulate you on the diet change. That is definitely a great first step. However, it is not just what you eat, but it is also exercise.
Exercise will help your calorie loss to equal a difference of burning and eating.
In 80 days it is absolutely doable to loose a few. try running, or the elliptical with a bit of weights. www.toneitup.com has amazing work outs that are just challenging enough to feel the burn.
Hope this helps :)
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I was wondering what you thought do you feel it is really that big of a deal nowadays to have a nude image of yourself online not a sexual one but like just of yourself nude on a beach or similar?
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Absolutely it is a huge big deal. You do not know who is seeing this image. Even if you make sure that it doesn't show any location items in the picture, or your face. your location can still be found via picture index. computer file trails. any hacker person who want to find out can and will find out where you are.
Even if it is just a picture of your body on a beach that is something that should only be shown with your significant other. It is definitely not a good idea to post suggestive content of your self viral for every person in the world to see.
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My boyfriend of 3 years and I are 21 years old, he loves going on vacations/holidays and travelling to new places. I, however, cannot stand going on vacation/holiday. I live in a small town in the country in the UK and all my family live in the area. My family are the most important thing to me and I'm perfectly happy where I live. Travelling and going away really stresses me out, I do not find it relaxing, it's often expensive and I do not have a lot of money, I'm saving up for a place of my own. My boyfriend knows this but he's always really pushy about going on holiday.
I've compromised, a few months ago I went to the other end of the UK for a week's holiday but I was so stressed the whole time, all I wanted to do was to come back home. I get really anxious about having a car accident, cities getting bombed and people getting stabbed for example. What if I went away and something happened to us? Or what if something happened to my family back home and I wasn't there? My boyfriend's demanding that we're going on 3 more holidays in the next few months. He gets angry with me when I say I don't want to go and he just keeps saying that I HAVE to go. I compromised by going on that holiday to the other side of the UK and I don't mind going on day trips (but not to huge cities). I've told him that in a few years, when we're older and have more life experience (we're both still living with our parents) that I would consider going away more. But he keeps going on at me to go on holiday now, further and further away each time. Has anybody got any advice on what to do? (link)
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First odd, i want to say that this sounds like a very unheathy relationship. Your boyfriend is disregarding how you feel entirely. And your thoughts are null to him. As long as he gets his way he doesnt care.
I get being with someone for three years and thinking about breaking up is scary. But this guy is demanding you have to do something you dont want to and that makes you feel uncomfortable. That is NOT okay at all! You are right to think travel when you are a little bit older as you are still very very young,.
I would advise taking some time away from this man. ABSOLUTELY no person especially someone you are in a commited relationship with should ever put you in a situation that makes your stressed to the max or uncomfortable.
I hope thia helps hon :)
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For all those make up experts out there- I need your help! I am currently on tretinion gel for my face which is an acne medication. It is making my skin super red, blotchy, dry, and flaky (which is the process of it). Is a liquid foundation or a powder foundation better for dry skin? Which foundation do you prefer when having dry skin that actually works, and still covers everything without drying my skin out even more? Thanks in advance! (link)
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Look into youngeevity make up. Its a tad pricey BUT!! It is extremely pure clean make up. Compared to others its amazing. It inly has 5 ingredients!!! No additives animal products or fillers. I have seen the foundation be put on, it is amazing coverage!!
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So...what did you do Specifically to get your boyfriend hard (particular moves while grinding)? Was it easy to tell? And what did you to "help him out" afterwards? ;) (handjob, bj, etc...) (link)
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Well grinding is pretty straight forward. You cane make out with him,. And to tell if hes hard.. well. Its hard. If its not hard then its not. Im not sure wwhat you mean by help him out after.. by the way how old are you?
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I must not have explained it right. He does treat me like I'm important, but not completely in the way I've always imagined me being treated. I don't want to try to change how he is, I just want to care less and be happy with the effort he does put in because I truly love him. (link)
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Hmm. Every girl imagines their prince charming. Their knight in shining armour. We as little girls grow up expecting men should treat us a certain way. And be the perfect person.
I think you have to realize that he is not perfect and that although he may not have all the qualities you imagined your partner to have. Or doesnt treat you exactly how you want he does treat you right and that is huge!
As for not caring about stuff that bothers you, if it is not a big deal try to forget about it by awitching thoughts to something else as soon as you start to think of it.
However.. if these things are current or oftenly happining that you dont like what hes saying/doing etc. I would advice you to talk to him about it. Because if you dont talk to him about whats bugging you it could grow into bigger worse issues.
Hope this helped :)
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I have this guy friend, (that i really like but i'll save that for another day) who likes to talk with me about a lot of things. Recently he was talking about my good friend Kristina and how he thought she was moving too fast. Kristina has been hugging him a lot and holding him arm (almost clingy if you get what i mean) and laying her head on his shoulder in church. For my church that's really awkward and jaedon (the guy friend) finds it all too awkward and fast. he also said that he thinks they haven't been talking long enough. So i thought about telling Kristina, but i have never told anyone anything jaedon has said to me privately. They are both my friends and whenever me and him talked before it would always be someone i had no relation to. So i don't want to betray him by telling Kristina what he told me. But i also don't want to see my friend unhappy. What should i do?
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Express to J. That he has every right to speak to her about this matter. And that it should be done sooner rather than later. He needs to address to her that he is feeling uncomfortable with her touching and that he is not resdy for that yet.
It is best to not tell your friend K as she will not take it well coming from you and it could turn very ugly. But you should not get in the middle amd be there to support both friends..
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about nine months now. He is a smoker and I have expressed my dislike for it very much and how I just want to keep him around for as long as possible as I have experienced quite a few of my family members passing away due to smoking and he agrees, he said he wants to stop and I would be the perfect motivation to do so. He has since joined the gym, he says working out makes his desire to smoke very minuscule and I am so proud of him for that.
We were watching a movie the other night when he brought up the idea of me joining the gym with him. He has expressed numerous times that he does not think I am unfit or overweight, he just thinks that since he is quitting smoking for me, the least I could do is go to the gym with him. I don't think it is a bad idea at all but I am thinking about whether it would be weird or not. He and I are close but I have not a single clue about anything gym related and he's been doing this for a while so I don't want to look incompetent to him or anything or get out of breath doing things while he is just motoring along.
I do jog (definitely not run) and he does too so he brought up us doing that together as well but I think I have the same issue, that i am not as fit as he is. For instance, when I jog, if I get tired, I walk until I'm not tired anymore....I went for a jog the other day and texted him when I got back home to come over and hang out. When he did come over, he told me the entire hour he was out, he ran the entire time, two miles around the local high school track and then back home... I just don't think I would be able to keep up and I'm nervous that he would see that and not so much think differently of me but change his perception of my fitness or physical abilities, I guess.
Anyway, I want to do this with him - it would be better for me to get healthier and work on my willpower to actually go and work out every night with him and I think it would bring us closer together (my brother and his girlfriend work out together and they love it and says that's what keep them as close and as strong as they are that they experience that hour workout together everyday). I just want to know how I can get over this nervousness of not being able to live up to his standards or look unfit to him.
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First thing to know is that every person is at different levels of fitness. Just like everyone is sh app ped differently. It is awesome that he wants to share this experience with you. I would definitely talk to him and explain how you feel. And that your not sure how to use the equipment. He will definitely support you as you are supporting him. It definitely gets less scary after the first tume at rhe gym.
He will never think you are incompetent or not fit enough because you may go slower than him. He will just be excited to have you there to share this with you.
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