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Grinding
So...what did you do Specifically to get your boyfriend hard (particular moves while grinding)? Was it easy to tell? And what did you to "help him out" afterwards? ;) (handjob, bj, etc...)
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Well grinding is pretty straight forward. You cane make out with him,. And to tell if hes hard.. well. Its hard. If its not hard then its not. Im not sure wwhat you mean by help him out after.. by the way how old are you?
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Hopefully it's not a medical problem he has with getting hard. You didn't mention age so by the question I can only imagine that you are young and just starting out on the path to discovering sexuality and sex. So if you are older, sorry but this is geared for beginners. If an older man, he should see his doctor. Some men even in late 20-30's can have a problem and its due to his testosterone levels being way too low and he'd have to take meds rest of his life.
So for the young female, there are several things you need to know that do not include grinding. Any kind of grinding will make a partner hard. Its what you didn't ask but need to know that I will share. Men are visually stimulated first, thats what starts the attraction process that might lead to sex. Lets talk about visual attraction and sexual desire in a male. He can be aroused and have desire and not be hard. Do not ever in your life assume a man is not desiring you because he is not hard yet. Here are a few reasons why it happens: An older man just doesn't get hard and stay hard as easily as before, the situation my husband has, but the desire is still there, so its Viagra to the rescue. A young man may have low testosterone as I already said, he had too much alcohol to drink and alcohol will often cause a man to have trouble getting hard or staying hard.
In my experiences, I've found sometimes it is performance fear, sometimes cus its the first time or being with a new partner and once comfortable they will do fine. Or some men who may love and desire the lady and want to pleasure her need to build up a trust and emotional bond in their subconscious first before they have more ease getting hard.
Young boys can get hard just thinking about or looking at a girl and have many hard ons during the day and probably masturbate what seems an enormous amount of times daily. This is all normal and does not even require the presense or touch of a female, so grinding is nice but overkill as he will have been hard already long before you started grinding unless one of the reasons above apply to him.
I will not be giving you a step by step instructional how to grind or do hand jobs and oral sex as it can be different with each partner and different on some days for him. What you do need is to ask him what he likes and have him show you exactly what to do. This doesnt mean you are dumb cus you have to learn all new for each new sex partner you will have over your lifetime. Yes, some of the tricks you learned may work on the next guy but you have to ask him to let you know if its working for him. A lot can depend on how hard, or soft your touch, how slow or fast and often the changes from one to the other are what will bring on orgasm, the same as it is for many females. So get used to talking as in "do you want me to go slower, faster? Tell me what you want me to try next or should I keep doing the same? Don't be disappointed if he doesnt cum the first couple times, it takes time to get used to a person. I will share my husbands story. Most past girlfriends didn't like oral sex. Of the few who did do it, he didn't have that emotional bond to her so he never orgasmed from oral sex with them and told me that he couldn't do so. Well, after a period of time of getting used to me as his girlfriend and then wife, and no orgasms from oral sex, at last, the emotional bond was really strong in him to me, and now its no problem at all. Heck, I sometimes don't have to do anything to get him hard cus just the act of him running his fingers through my hair will do the trick. Hope this helps you out a bit.
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