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what if your boyfriend asks you to have a threesome with him and your best friend what would you do and what advice would you give to others in this situation? (link)
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I'd tell him if he wants to get that kinky he can pay a couple of prostitutes.
If he didn't care enough about me that he wanted to do that...He needs to be sent packing. :)
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my ex-man said that he cant be my friend cuz his girl dont like me but he knew me first, and he had the nerve to cheat on me with her so does it sound like she needs to be the one hatin me. but anyway she called my phone yeling and cussin and tellin me not to call her man when obviously her man didn't have a problem with it, but he cant be friend causeshe dont like me , i really want to be his friend i feel like it'll help me to get over him faster.i still care for him a little so what should i do. (link)
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She is very insecure about her relationship with him. She sees you as a threat, and hey, you might be if you still like each other!
The thing is he cheated on you. It was with her. She knows damn well he is capable of cheating because he did it with her when you were dating him. She doesn't trust him.
I would steer clear of calling when you know hes with her. Other than that I see no reason you can't be friends with him. Don't try to cause a problem or anything, hang up on her if she calls you again. He isn't saying anything to you about it so he must not mind your calling him.
You do want to make sure he isn't using you to play games with her. That's just not nice to do.
I don't think their relationship is going to last long though if you want that info. She doesn't trust him. :)
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I regularly attend Episcopalian diocesan(basically, state-wide) youth functions. all of my friends there are very close-knit, though we see each other so rarely. there's lots of love. over the summer i fell into crush about a boy who i met at these, and although he lives 1 1/2 hours away, i've been able to hang out with him a good bit(it's slightly convenient). well, we've been talking for a few months, crushing on and off. i thought we'd finally decided that it was stupid-plus, he's obligated to be loyal to a girl who lives on the other side of the state; they've had connections for a long time. well this weekend we spent two nights in a church together, she wasn't there, and we ended up having a passionate.. "connection". most amazing kisses EVER. well we're very infatuated, and he's a really good person so of course he had to tell this girl who he's loyally obligated to, and she's really disappointed.. especially because she and i are friends too.. i love her to death.. well, he's basically in love with us both, and i'm basically in love with him, and i don't know what to do. she's amazing and i can't believe i'm hurting her. he needs advice too. please don't say confrontation. thank you for reading (link)
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Seems you all have a pretty bad deal. Neither of you girls is really close enough in location to him for him to really, really get to know either of you well. You can't get to know him real well either for that matter.
You all need to stay friends. Sooner or later if you communicate with him back and forth, one of you will outshine the other in some aspect.
Since it is long distance, I think you should all remain friends. One day, maybe one of you girls will pair up with him in the dating sense. Until then, there is no reason he can't get to know you both. I believe it will all work out in the end.
You should all date too. Don't pine away waiting for a decision. I know that isn't a wonderful answer, I think it is the only one for now though. :)
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Every time (not that I wanted to advertise) I tried to mention I had Karen Liberman on from the Mood Disorder's Association in a 40 minute unedited raw interview on mood disorders for teens, educators, parents nobody would allow me to post the link. See it below.
The show is going well we have had Karen Liberman, Bill Sturrup (Film History), Ken Mogg, foremost Alfred Hitchcock Expert, Tommy The Clown from the documentary RIZE about new forms of hip-hop dance and this week author Paul Kropp joins us about writing novels.
I have Kyla Christoffer booked on photography and a lot more. Band New Point is on next week. Tons of contests--loads of fun doing it. This ONE interview was my way of addressing mental health issues having been there and not outting myself as BiPolar to the professional world.
My point? This interview needs to be heard. I would send Russell the links (and will of course) but he hasn't got back to me since the show started 6 weeks ago. He's swamped no doubt. Here is the link and please pass it along as I intended to do so with our young people here.
http://www.newvoices.info/audio/ttn/talk3.ra
Thanks,
Geoff (link)
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Dangernerd has been on vacation for a couple of weeks. I am sure you will hear from him when he gets to your message.
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i dont know what a siggy is or how to make one and i really want to know help!!!! (link)
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It is a signature. Usually your name.
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i,ve been with my girl friend for5 month.
until now she,s not quite ready 4 serious sexual relation just fleutring
what to do?? (link)
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If you care about her and want to continue to have a relationship with her, then you wait it out. No matter how long it takes.
If its sex your looking for then find someone who just wants sex.
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i went for a drink with a nice looking 27 guy,well i thought we got on great, talked for 2hrs before i had to go home/ he has my moblie number, but he hardly texts me now, since sunday, i was wondering how do i know for sure that he likes me& wants a relationship with me ?? (link)
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If he does, he will ask you out again. He has your number. Sunday wasn't that long ago. He may have work or school keeping him busy. So, don't give up on him yet. :)
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this will be very long. so please just read it and help me ok? good?
well it all started back in well like april. i met my best friend's cousin and i had a crush on him. but the summer before that he was forced to move out of state to live with his dad. so i mean i liked him but i didnt see anything coming out of it. then that july he came back for the summer. and on my best friend's birthday me her and him went bowling. that was fun but to the bathroom and they set me up! when i came back he "got up to go get a drink" and she told me that he liked me and wanted to know if i liked him... so i was like heck yah i do! well since we were having so much fun we all spend the night at my friend's house (her, him and me) and she went to bed at like 2 AM and me and him stayed up late and well we started kissing and stuff and all we did was kiss but i really liked him and the next week he had to leave for his dads and the summer was over. we talked on the phone for a while back and forth but becuz he hates it down there he makes himself really busy so that he never has to be at the house. but before he left on the day he was leaving i took this rubber band of his hand and was popping him with it. when he was leaving i tried to give it back to him but he told me to keep it. so i did and then later when we talked on the phone we made a bet. that i could/couldnt keep up with it until he came back for christmas. and me being me said "i need a bf" and he siad "well if/when i get to move back there you'll have one" i was like yay! but the thing is i am not good with waiting. so i have a bf now and all that. and i love my bf and wouldnt dump him for her cousin. so when he comes back for christmas (in about 2 weeks) what do i do???? do i give him that rubber band back? (yes i still have it) can me and him be friends without the akwardness? i want to be friends do you think he will? i am in love with my bf but i still have a thing for this other guy. i will not let myself lose my bf. but well advice please! (link)
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I don't think being friends with him will mess things up.
He will be leaving again before you know it and his keeping to busy to have any communication with you at all is a bunch of bull anyway. Nobody keeps that busy, especially if they have feelings for someone.
If you want to be friends, then I think it is perfectly fine for you to be. Oh, and being a boy, hes probably forgotten all about the rubber band anyway. :)
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My friend think she has herpers she said she has lil red bumps down there some times but there not big or anything...went to the doc. but he didnt say anything what you think? (link)
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If she had herpes her doctor would have said something.
Herpes is more like an open sore. Not a red bump.
Have you ever had a cold sore inside your lip?
Herpes is the same virus...different location.
Little red bumps can be anything from razor burn to pimples. Tell her not to be concerned. :)
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this a serious question, might be weird....jus wanna know if there is any kinda of penis diet...i mean to say...is there any diet which helps it to keep healthy coz i havent had sex? will rate high..help me (link)
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No special diet needed.
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am 25 yr old guy, virgin....off late feel like have sex...but masturbate at least thrice a week...would that cause problems in future? i have been doing this for quite a few yrs now. (link)
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It will cause no problems in the future. You can do it as often as you'd like. :)
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Am I the only one in ADVICENATOR land that isn't a highschool student?
Every question that I read has to do with either a girl or boy in hs who has a relationship problem. I never see any adult questions. Does anyone know of any other sites like this that are more adult oriented? (link)
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I know of no other site.
I am not a teen either. Believe it or not we have been getting questions from a few older people lately.
I really hope it does get to where we have people of all ages asking a lot of questions soon.
All we can do is give our best advice and hope that word spreads that we have something to offer everyone.
Good place to start is to try and get the advisers to spell like you aren't a grade schooler. Knock off the chat speak. No adult wants advice from someone who can't even spell.
And, my personal pet peeve, calling people honey and sweetie.
OK, got me to vent a little. Stick it out a little longer and hopefully we will get more variety. :)
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone if you're not attracted to them pysically?
I have feelings for an older man (he's 45 and I'm 26). He isn't very good looking, he is overweight and has grey hair.
He is really nice to me though and we get along and have a lot in common.
Most younger guys that are cute don't make me feel the way he does.
Should I go for him or just stay with guys that are closer to my age? (link)
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I think you can love someone you have a lot of common interests with. I think if you are talking long term physical relationship though, there has to be some physical attraction. If not then it just won't work out. It is a very big part of a relationship even though it shouldn't be the sole reason for one.
Close to 20 years age difference is quite a gap. At your age it is really up to you. I'm pretty sure if you saw him 24/7 some major differences in how you think about things would be a problem.
That is a personal opinion though.
Good luck. :)
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Ok so i asked a question a few weeks ago about doing something with a rose for Xmas for my girlfriend and i got alot of positive feedback about it.. you might of read it.. had to do with a glass rose? well if not i decided to change it up a bit, tell me how you(a girl) would feel if your boyfriend did something like this for Xmas::
Along with your other presents, brough over a vace we 11 roses in it, and one glass rose, making a dozen roses total. And put a card in there that says, "I will stop loving you when the last rose dies." (for all the not-so-smart girls out there, 'a glass rose wont ever die') Sooo how would you like it? yes? no? maybe? (link)
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Yes. That is a better idea yet. I Like it. :)
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do you think im a nerd b/c im on the middle school orchestra? be honest...i wont get mad if you say yes...im just curious (link)
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NO, why would you think that?
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Okay my friends I have 2 friends and they are mexican and soooo today I told one of the mexicans that my other friend smokes witch she dose and so then my other friend says SO DO I and i am like holy sh*t and I am only in 8th grade should I still be there friend? See I love them and I am WORRIED theat they are going to die my 1st friend said she had 5 and then my 2nd friends said she had 17 or 18 should I be there friend??????? (link)
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Well, smoking doesn't make them evil. Its up to you really, if you can stand the smell of smoke and enjoy their company then remain friends.
You may want to say something to your mom about it. If you hang around them you will come home smelling like smoke (if they smoke around you).
Might cause mom to think you are smoking. Better to say something now rather than try to prove your innocence later on.
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My boyfriend had some acne problems at the beginning of the year, like most 16 year old guys do, but then he started to take some medicine for it. It's starting to look 100% better already! Is it wrong for me to comment that it's looking better? would it offend him? (link)
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I don't think he would be offended. He might appreciate the compliment. :)
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Last night, my middle school had a dance. I finally got the courage to ask (let's call him "Will") Will, this guy I've really liked since April of last semester, to slow-dance. I told him on AIM two months ago. He doesn't like me back in that way. That's fine. Well, the song was really short, and we're fairly good friends (we usually talk most of the time on AIM) so he said to me "Hey, Penelope, can I tell you a secret? I really like Catherine. Do you think I should ask her to slow dance?" Of course, I didn't want to show I was pissed so I said "Sure! Go for it." But now I'm trying to decide whether he's an asshole, because if he remembered/knew that I still like him, and said that he likes someone else anyway, that's really really rude. I'm thinking maybe he thinks I don't like him anymore or he forgot, considering the fact that I told him online, at the beginning of the school year, and that I never show it (I'm never comfortable showing affection. It makes me feel like a sap.). Is this realistic? Because aside from that, he seems to be a good person. And when I say "good person" I mean genuinely nice, not like player. He respects everyone, is really sweet, friendly and funny. But what he said wasn't very nice. What do you think? (link)
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I don't think he necessarily forgot you care for him. More likely he just assumes you have moved on since he told you he didn't feel the same.
I think he must consider you a good friend. Enough of a friend that he can talk to you about who he likes, and get your opinion.
So, I really don't think he was being an asshole (not on purpose anyway).
I think if you are uncomfortable hearing who he likes and all that, you let him know why. Tell him you will help him with anything except his love life.
Or, you could help him out until he realizes that he already has a girl he is comfortable talking to. :)
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okay so is it just me or do other people have this ?? like when you makeout wiht someone (like french kiss) its really really liquidy and slobby. its sick as crap. and with some people its not and others it is.. is it me that too spitty or them? or am i just weird? kthanks...
female by the way (link)
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Since it doesn't happen every time, I would have to say its probably them and not you.
You're not weird. Find someone who doesn't slobber! :)
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My friend is going to have this totally awsome party this saturday, and she invited me YAY! Anywho today i asked my mom if I could go and she said that she didn't know her parents so probably no! So she wants me to find out like everything about her family and where they live and she wants to call other people that she knows parents to see if they are a "nice family" she is making this a big deal and it's really stupid. I don't know wut to do! SOMEONE PLEAZ HELP ME! (link)
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Have your friends mom call your mom and tell her what will be going on. That would probably be the easiest way to get permission. :)
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