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can we be friends?
this will be very long. so please just read it and help me ok? good?
well it all started back in well like april. i met my best friend's cousin and i had a crush on him. but the summer before that he was forced to move out of state to live with his dad. so i mean i liked him but i didnt see anything coming out of it. then that july he came back for the summer. and on my best friend's birthday me her and him went bowling. that was fun but to the bathroom and they set me up! when i came back he "got up to go get a drink" and she told me that he liked me and wanted to know if i liked him... so i was like heck yah i do! well since we were having so much fun we all spend the night at my friend's house (her, him and me) and she went to bed at like 2 AM and me and him stayed up late and well we started kissing and stuff and all we did was kiss but i really liked him and the next week he had to leave for his dads and the summer was over. we talked on the phone for a while back and forth but becuz he hates it down there he makes himself really busy so that he never has to be at the house. but before he left on the day he was leaving i took this rubber band of his hand and was popping him with it. when he was leaving i tried to give it back to him but he told me to keep it. so i did and then later when we talked on the phone we made a bet. that i could/couldnt keep up with it until he came back for christmas. and me being me said "i need a bf" and he siad "well if/when i get to move back there you'll have one" i was like yay! but the thing is i am not good with waiting. so i have a bf now and all that. and i love my bf and wouldnt dump him for her cousin. so when he comes back for christmas (in about 2 weeks) what do i do???? do i give him that rubber band back? (yes i still have it) can me and him be friends without the akwardness? i want to be friends do you think he will? i am in love with my bf but i still have a thing for this other guy. i will not let myself lose my bf. but well advice please!
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Trust your instincts, its the best thing for you to do. If you love your boyfriend alot then i would stay with him, especially if the other guy is going back to live with his dad. ♥
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I don't think being friends with him will mess things up.
He will be leaving again before you know it and his keeping to busy to have any communication with you at all is a bunch of bull anyway. Nobody keeps that busy, especially if they have feelings for someone.
If you want to be friends, then I think it is perfectly fine for you to be. Oh, and being a boy, hes probably forgotten all about the rubber band anyway. :)
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this is a tough situation, but i think you definitely need to give him his rubber band back. i also think you should just tell him that you have a boyfriend already. don't continue to lead him on. if you want to be friends with him, i'd say go for it, but be careful. if you are attracted to him still don't hang out one on one with him even if you tell yourself you're "just friends" bad things could happen even if you don't want them to. good luck.
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yeah give him back his rubber band and of course you can be friends. if you feel ok with it but if you have feelings for him then break up with your current bf now so things dont get messed up n crap. If you truly love ur bf then tell him honestly whats going on and if hes ok with it. Don't assume your friends cousin still had a thing for you cause it might have been just a one time thing. Long distance relationship is hard to keep up since you never know whats going on in the other person life. this decision is up to you. I can't tell you who to choose or wat to do dats all up to you no one can tell you who to go for except for you. But make sure your friends cousin still likes you before you make your final decision.
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It sounds like you and the first guy really hit it off. I'm sure the whole thing will be fine, you just have to think positive. You definatly shouldn't leave your current boyfriend because of him. Besides, the cousin lives far away from you and long term relationships just dont work. If you love your boyfriend, then thats all there is to it. You can tell the guy thats visiting, you still want to keep the rubberband to remember the friendship. Or if you dont want it, then go ahead and give it to him and tell him to remember the friendship. He should understand.
Hope I helped
D A N I ♥ ♥
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