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drinking bad?
uh, i live a far ways away from my boy freind (juss temp.) and he does not like me drinking. he said that if i want to i can he wont control me, but he doesnt like it. well, about 2 weeks ago i was drinking with my room mate. She and i only had 2 drinks each and no one else was home. so i dont see it as a problem. but the next weekend her boyfreind and 2 of his freinds came over. Now, they are in their late 20's early 30's, and we are 18 and 19. We all got drunk that night...and i know i didn't do anyhting cuz i kept saying i was not gonna betray my boyfreinds trust. my freind even told me i did nothing...she was the least drunk of all of us. she said i kept yeling at them everytime they asked me to dance for them. my question is...did i betray his trust? I haven't told him yet but i feel bad...should i tell him?
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What I'm about to say is not for the purpose of hurting your feelings at all. I also am not about placating people and telling them what they want to hear. That really wouldn't be helpful to you. Sometimes that which will help us most is that which we don't want to hear or deal with. There are two things that are bothersome concerning your drinking experience with those 2 guys that came over. The first one is if you drank to the extent that you can't really remember what you did then this is a bad sign. This could mean that if you continue down the drinking road that you are on you are headed for alcoholism. It would be best for your health and well being if you quit now before it gets to the point that you can't quit. If you didn't drink that much and still don't remember what you did? Then I'd seriously question what those guys may have put into your drink. There are all kinds of drugs out there that people are slipping into drinks to get what they want(sex)without the other person remembering. Has this type of blackout ever happened to you before? Be careful about the people you drink with. Really know them first. Now why is it that these guys wanted you to dance in front of them? This just doesn't sound innocent and just friendly. About your boyfriend...I think you feel bad because you aren't happy with yourself. You don't like what may or may not have happened or what you may or may not have said. You don't feel that you have been true to yourself. You don't feel comfortable about what happened that night with these guys. If you don't feel comfortable with yourself about it than you have betrayed yourself. If you have betrayed yourself than you've betrayed all those who love you because you are not being your true self. You see, whenever we do something and a negative or bad feeling comes up for us and we ignore it we are ignoring our wisdom (inner true selves). We are going against what our true selves are trying to tell us. This is your knowing self. Don't ignore this part of you. This is your wisdom. If you start to go with what your wisdom tells you no matter what you may think you are giving up, then in the long run you will have a much happier life. You will see that your wisdom was correct. As for telling your boyfriend...you can do that. Be ready for his being really upset. Understand where it is coming from. Be patient and let him vent. Then apologize to him and asure him that you will not do anything like this again. It's not that I think you did anything wrong, it is just his perception will different than mine. He will probably want to know what the second guy was doing there. And if it was so inocent why did thay want you to dance for them. Oh, and I can't see why you would want to have anything to do with those guys anyway. It doesn't sound to me like they are up to any good. Good luck.
Namaste
LULABELLE
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who really cares if you drink somewhat? im only 13 and drink all the time. my friend lindsey is 11 and gets drunk every night.were still alive
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I believe you should respect your boyfriends wishes but also do what you think feels right. It is okay to drink and have a good time, but be straight forward and be careful who you are with. If you go past your limit drinking another guy make take advantage of that causing you to betray your boyfriend (a mistake I think we all have made) one way or another. Anyways you did not do anything wrong, just be careful in the future.
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well, he knew you were drinking, but i woldnt say you did because you were somwhat aware of not wanting to betray him. but if those guys were (and im guessing they arnt) THEY would be the ones betraying his trust by asking you to do stuff like that, not you.
ANK
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Well he knows that you might do it and he told you he wasn`t going to control he just doesn`t like that you drink.. You didn`t promise that you`d not drink at all so i would guess you didn`t betray your trust.. You just feel bad probably cuz you know when you tell him he`ll be mad.. And Yes i tink you should maybe tell him that way he knows you`ll come out and tell him things..♥ Dez
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