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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
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Mae (pronounced May, just a cooler spelling), Rena, Lynette, Jesirae, Amira, Kiara, Lena, Kaylee, Amina, Rose, Anissa, Liliana, Arabelle, Lilibeth, Ayla, Nikia, Ciana

I LOVE unique names, and all of these rock, but my two picks would be..

- Lynette
- Lilibeth

those 2 names just sound really pretty and I would love to have one of those :] haha. god luck and have fun ! xxo.

For my tattoo, I'd like piano keys across my shoulders and a quote either above or below them. So far I found two beautiful quotes. Shakespeare's "If music is the food of love; play on." and Henry Ward Beecher's "Of all the music that reached farthest into heaven, 'twas the beating of a loving heart." Both have music and love, which is what I wanted since I am in love and love playing piano, but I just cannot pick!

The first one is amazingg. I love that one.
either one is good, it's just that the first one is just awesome.
good luck and have fun :] xxo.

This is driving me insane. The guilt is unbarable. I knew it was wrong and I did it anyways. The worst part about it is I can't stop. I tell myself I'm going to, then I find myself doing it again. I'm scared to get help. I mean, if they knew what I was doing, I thought they'd be able to keep it secret. I can't tell anyone. Instead I just wanna die. My secret will come with me, and I'll never have to worry about doing THAT again. Should I die? I'll at least see my mom...

Okay, take a deep breath, slow down. I agree with the previous advice given, everyone has secrets and regrets, and things you want to hide so nobody will ever know anything about it, but those things aren't reasons to end your life. You have SO much to live for, and just think about all of the wonderful things you'd miss if you decided to end your life..
There are many people who love and care about you, and if you just died, you wouldn't just be hurting yourself but you'd also be hurting everyone around you. You can get help ! Just ask someone to see a therapist or psychaitrist of some sort, what you tell them nobody will EVER have to know if you want to keep it confidential. And your mom is watching you, and I'm positive that she wouldn't want you to end your life either over somehting that is making you feel guilty.
Please don't go through with this, you can get help and things will get better. I hope you do the right thing !
Good luck, and I'm here if you need anything else, don't hesitate to inbox me ! hope i helped even a little bit :] xxo.

how do you roast/melt marshmellows at home

multiple suggestions are needed :)

thankyou

I LOVE roasting marshmallows ! :] okay so I either use, the grill, stove, microwave, or firepit.
- stove: out one of the burners on the lowest setting, put your marshmallow on a stick of some sort [something sanitary haha] and hold it over the flames until its the way you like itt.
- girll: turn the grill on until you see the flames, and then roast your marshamllows [with the above directions]
- microwave: put the marhsmallow in with anything you want.. that won't blow up [haha] and leave it in for about 25-35 seconds. the marshmallow will expand and then die down when you take it out.
- firepit: [these cost money] but if you have one, or maybe plan on getting one, it's just a fire and you can sit around it, roasting your marshamllows on sticks and whatnot.
hope i helped ! and have fun :] xxo.

14/f
So I just got my period today (not for like the first time in my life, I've had it since last September) and I know how to deal with it and all, but what I don't know is how do I go swimming with my period? My friends keep inviting me to the pool or the beach and I really want to go but I'm afraid something bad will happen...I've never worn a tampon in my life, by the way, and I don't know how to...I'm afraid I'd do it wrong or something. Also, I've never faced this problem because the only times I've had my period, it was like the winter, and now it's the summer... So...any advice please? thanks!

Okay, I was in the same boat as you for almost a year, maybe a little longer, until like 2 weeks ago. I HATED tampons, I remember trying to put one in but i just COULDN'T. and i never thought i was doing it right, and one time when i actually got it in, i felt it, which meant i did something wrong, or maybe I was thinking about it too much, and actually didn't feel it, but it was all in my head.. I dont know. and then right when i got it in i wanted to take it out because this "foreign" object was in me and i didn't like it, because it felt weird, yuh know ? so I take it out, and it hurttttt, because you have to leave it in until its soaked, I forgot that fact. and after that I was so scared that it was gonna hurt again, that i didnt want to do it. I mean, I was SO TENSE that it hurt putting it in and i stuck to pads.
so with that said, about 2 weeks ago I got my period while down the shore with my friends.. and I told them that i was never able to put one in and all of that, they told me to just do it, bought me a pack of tampons and i sat on the toilet and just ... did it. it wasn't bad at all. because i was relaxed about it, and if you don't thin about it, it's not so bad :] so i wore the tampon, but remember ! get the light ones, the really skinny one, like super skinny when you first try to put it in, i suggest tampax pearl, they are the easiest to use. and when you put it in, leave it in until you think you're leaking, because, trust me, pulling it out is not a good experience. haha. it's one you want to try to avoid :] but only leave it for 8 hours.
You just gotta do it. Don't think about it that much, OR if you want to motivate yourself, be like, "i gotta do this cuz i wanna swim with my friends." it really sucks being the only one sitting out because you're wearing a pad, i would know :/ so go out and buy the SUPERSKINNY tampons [tampax pearl] sit on the toilet, relax yourself, and take a couple of deep breaths. you can do this :]
good luck, hope I helped, and don't sweat it, it's scary at first, but you got thiss. if you need anything else, anymore help, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

okay so i'm going away on vacation to ocean city august 7th-11th (aug 11th 2008 was the day we started dating so it would be our 1 year, just throwing that out there) and i asked him if he wanted to hang out august 7th and he said yes and marked it on his calender, so hes free those days. i want to invite him to go with me but i don't really know how to bring it up...i also don't know if i should find out if he wants to start the relationship before i ask him to go on vacation or during vacation. and how should i go about asking him? i don't wanna come on too strong to be desperate you know? thanks lotss.

Okay.. well, thats a little while away, so see where things go in the next week or so ... if he keeps flirting with you and everything, and you guys talk alot, then bring up getting back into a relationship [if he doesnt do it first, he might be scared that thats not what you want or something, so turn on the flirt alert ;)]
If you want to invite him, i think you should do it ! I mean, what's the worst that could happen ? he'd say no, and you guys would STILL hangout the day you've planned to anyways, so either way, you can't lose. which puts you ina great position ! hahaa :] and there are plenty of ways to bring it up.. you could start off like this..
- you: "im excited to hang out with you on the 7th ! but it's only one day :[ i really wanted to spend more time with you, maybe you could come on vacation with me ?" OR..
- you: "i don't think we hang out enough, one day just doesn't do it for me, you should come on vacation with me!"
a combination of the two would suffice also :] just be creative, it could be arandom topic or you could just be talking about hanging out. whatever works, im sure he won't mind at all haha. and you should ask him about the relationship thing whenever you feel it's the right time. trust your gut instinct. I suggest that you ask him to go on vacation before, so it's not like all at once, yuh know ? and then if he does go with you, you could ask him when you're on vacation about the relationship thing. OR if he says yes then you could ask him like, "do you consider us as a couple?" or something along those lines, but if he can;t go down with you, just hang out with him and ask him about the relationship while you're hanging out. when boys feel pressured they tend to freak out, and coming on too strong or asking him all of this at once might push him away, yuh know ? so take it slow and take a deep breath. time is your friend, and you have lots of it :] so don't worry about it, just watch his body language when he's around you and make sure you flirt BIG TIME and see how he reacts to that.
If you do all of this, I guarentee a good outcome. have fun, hope i helped, and tell me how everything goes ! keep me postedd. oh, and if you need ANYTHING else, I'm always here. good luck :] xxo.

Hey,
I was just wondering;
what does it mean if myboyfriend calls other girls (like sisters and friends, ect) my name accidentally?
He loves me a lot, and i find it cute but why does he do that accidentally?

:) Thanks

awww ! that is cute :] and it's just because you're on his mind alot, it happens to alot of people when they're thinking about one person. and it could also be because that person did something or said something that reminded him of something you did or said or just you in general and that triggered him to say it without even realizing it. but still so cute :]
hope I helped give you some insight on that ! have fun, xxo.

do you think the police will ever get texting? what if you're in a situation where you cannot talk?

WOW. I just had this conversation yesterday with my friends. I think that they will, at some point in time, because our generation is all about texting and you're exactly right, what IF you're in a situation where you haveta be quiet ? you cant just call the police and be like, "oh hey, I'm in need of desperate help!" because uhm, duh, for whatever the situation is that you're in, and you haveta be quiet, doing that will most likely automatically screw you over.
It's a great idea and should definetly be put into action. I hope it happens, it'd make everything 10 times safer ... at least, in my opinion. :]
hope i helped, and good question ! xxo.

Basically, me and this girl have been talking off and on for a few months, but recently it's really picked up. Like texts, chat, or facebook status comments nearly every day now. I'm starting to really like her, and I'm curious if she likes me back. First question. She starts a lot of these conversations, so my first instinct is that she wouldn't be talking to me so much if she didn't kind of like me. Is that a good assumption? Second off, how do I even bring this up. Like do I just tell her that I like her? Or how could I do it subtly to kind of feel out what she's thinking too? Can you give me specific conversation starters please? Thanks a million!

You are EXACTLY right, if she didn't want to talk to you she wouldn't. We might be complicated, us girls, but sometimes, we're very easy to figure out. So with that said, she either is interested in you as a friend or more OR she could be some nasty girl who likes to lead boys on, although I highly doubt that it's the third guess, because we don't really like to waste our time :] Okay, to answer your second question, there ARE ways to find out if she likes you in the same way you like her..
1. does she do this with alot of other guys? maybe like your friends, like coommenting on their status and all of that? because if she doe, than it might just be a i-want-to-be-your-friend sorta thing.
2. when she comments on your status and talks to you and evertyhing, is she flirty? does she compliment you or playfully tease you? and does she try to keep the conversation going, like asking you questions and being interested and learning about you? if she does this, she's interested in you, most likely.
Okay so now that you know that, on to the conversation part. when you're talking to her, you could do one of 2 things..
1. start off by asking her if she's interested in anyone at the moment. either playfully or seriously. for example..
- you: "so I was just wondering if you were into anyone right now? if you tell me, I'll tell you. ;]"
- you: "wan to play 20 questions?" [she'll most likely say yes] btw, 20 questions can be either one person asking 20 questions or both people can, one of your questions could be, "do you like anyone?" that could be a great way to start off a conversation like that. oh and the rules? you HAVE to answer with a specific answer. :] creative, huh?
Her answers will let you know exactly how she feels. good luck and let me know how it goes ! If you need anything else, dont hesitate to inbox me :] xxo.

does anyone know a store on long island where i can find this dress
http://www.promgirl.com/shop/dresses/viewitem-PD406981
or something similar to it? or a store where they sell dave and johnny dresses?
thanks!

Here are a list of places that sell dave and johnny dresses in new york..
http://www.daveandjohnny.com/states/state28.php

I also found you a site that has a store located in new york.. I don't think it's on long island, sorry, but at least it's in new york and has the types of dresses you're looking for there.. but you might want to read about it first, to see if you wanna take a trip there..
http://www.promsgalore.com/servlet/-strse-template/store/Page

Hope I helped ! good luck and have fun :] and fyi, that dress in GORGEOUS :] feel free to inbox me with any other questions xxo.

where can i buy some " bohemian style" clothes for cheap??

Here are a few sites and places I know of where this style of clothing is sold..

- Target ... you might not believe it, but they have some bohemian style clothes for less money than a designer ! and the clothes are actually good looking :]
http://www.target.com/

- http://www.bohemiancloset.com/
check on that site often, they get new shipments alot, but sell out quick .. you might just get lucky with a great deal and perfect outfit ;]

- http://www.soul-flower.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=SOS&Category_Code=T
this seems like a really good site for what you're looking for !

- http://www.babygirlboutique.com/bohemian-clothing-all.html
you should check this site out too, because it has alot of boehmian styles, some cheaper than others, so you gotta go searching :]

- nordstrom sometimes has some GREAT deals on this kind of style
http://shop.nordstrom.com/
you should also check out thrift stores or places like TJ max, because you never know what you can come across :] also kohls and marshalls and such.
good luck ! hope i helped and have fun. xxo.

I'm obsessed with Twilight! Of all the things I never thought a book/movie could change my lifestyle SO much. I so want to find an Edward of my own and if he looks like Rob Pattinson- BINGO!! UGH!! I just need to come back to reality. But its just so difficult. I refuse to meet guys now because at my last date all I was thinking was how much the guy looked like Taylor Laurent!! Please tell me how do I get over this stupid obsession before I lose my sanity!!

Hahaa, o the wonderful side effects of twilight. They should really warn you before you start to read or watch the film that you MIGHT become obsessively infatuated with the characters portrayed in the story. It's a fantasy that every girl has, the dream guys .. the bad boys.. a;; wrapped up into one perfectly amazing lovestory that unfortunatley, isn't real. You have to stop watching the movie and put the books down somehwere you cant reach them.. and read another book. Twilight reallt set the bars high for what girls WANT guys to be, but in reality, you just have to face it that it's not going to happen. So don't let some fantasy and unrealistic image of makebelieve characters in a book stop you from gong on dates who are not, idealisticly, edward cullen or taylor lautner.
I am also a fan of twilight, and I think taylor and rob are hot as hell, but in real life they are also just ordinary guys with AMAZING looks and the talent to act.. think of it that way for a while, and you'll start to get over it :
hope i helped ! good luck, and if you need anything else feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

\So there's this guy. I don't have any feelings for him at all, honestly. He's just really nice to me and we could be friends. But there's something he does that really annoys/confuses me. I want to know what he thinks of me.

During class, he's always calling my name and like whenever I'm in the hallway and he's behind me, he catches up to me just to talk to me. Sometimes he even ignores his friends for me.

Sometimes I ignore him but he insists on talking to me. And like usually when we talk I think he's fun and easy to talk to. He also does this to another girl in my class, Sarah. He is closer to Sarah than he is to me. He has a grlfriend too, Mimi.

Okay so here is the problem. I don't mind that he has a girlfriend and a girl friend that he's close to. I don't have feelings for this guy. If it matters, I used to have a crush on him and I told him after I got over it. It didn't affect him, so I don't think that's important.

But the problem is sometimes when we talk I think he's really annoying because he brings up Mimi and Sarah, right? And he's like, "You know, Mimi is so perfect. She's so frikking cute."
Like, literally, out of nowhere. We aren't talking about relationships, crushes, or who we prefer or ANYTHING. We could be talking about a movie or a celebrity or something funny that happened in class that has nothing related to Mimi or Sarah and all of a sudden he goes, "Sarah is so pretty and cute. So cute." It's like, why are you telling me this?

Whenever this happens, I pretend I don't mind and go, "Yeah, she is adorable!" and then like get quiet because I don't know what else to say.

To be honest, I find it insulting that he brings up girls in my conversations. I know he doesn't talk about me that way to Sarah or Mimi. I don't mind if he does, but, c'mon guys, you wouldn't like it if your girl friend (just a friend) talks to you constantly about other guys.

So should I stop talking to him? It's getting on ym nerves. He's nice and all, but is he disrespecting me? What do you, a guy, think is on his mind when he does this? Maybe I'm overthinking it??

It sounds to me like he wants to see what your reaction is when he brings up these girls, and I also think that he is trying to make you jealous at the same time. It might not seem like this to you, but from what you told me, he's trying to figure you out, so maybe you should make it VERY clear to him that all you want from him is friendship, not a relationship.
Guys don't usually just bring up their girlfriend or other girls randomly ... and since he's IN a relationship and talking about sarah also, it's kind of strange ... and you're not overhtinking it, any normal person would feel the same way you are. and what's on his mind, are the girls, obviously haha. so I suggest you talk to him about this, and tell him it needs to stop, because you'd rather have a normal conversation with him then one that involves how "cute" he thinks certain girls are, because you KNOW.
But mainly, I think he just wants to figure you out. see how much he can say to you before you get pissed off or something, like he knows it bothers you and he just wants to push your buttons. alot of guys do this, it's very common, but communication is key :]
hope I helped, good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

Hey! 131/2 f (Long..i'm sorryy)

I met this awesome guy (Jimmy)last week at the public pool with my friend. We thought he was cute. ha ha :) He thought the same thing and we talked and everything we had fun together. After that day we started texting and talking on the phone and stuff like that. Well i found out that he liked me,and i was SOOO happy because i really like him to. Well we text each other and..he talks dirty. ha ha I also do.. but not LIKE he does, i just say makeout..and stuff like that but he wants to "Do" me. ha ha ;) Well i saw him again today at the pool..with his friend Erica (she's also my friend)i think he knew that i was going..because he didn't act like he was suprized that i was there. Well i went with my cousins and i had to watch them. I didn't talk to them until probably a half an hour than i started talking to them. We were having so much fun. We played a joke on him, and when we were walking away from him he followed because we were going to go swimming together. He started massaging my shoulders IT FELT SO GOOD !! Ha ha. I think he might of untied my bathing suit top a little bit?? I'm not sure though because i was giving my cousins piggy back rides. Well after we got in the pool Erica asked jimmy if i could lick him anywhere. I said i wanted to lick him to her..AS A JOKE, and he said " ;) anywhereee?? Suree". He said. well..i didn't. Well he put his arm my waist and picked me up and dunked me in the pool (safely ha ha) He did that twice. It was cute

I'd like to start of by first saying that ... hun, he doesn't LOVE you. Love is a very strong word, and this seems more of a strong liking towards you. Sometimes, guys tell you what they think you want to hear so they can get something out of it .. I'm not saying that these are jimmy's intentions, but from what you've told us, it seems like it might be..
But to answer your question, I think you should wait it out and not jump to any conclusions. If he wants a realtionship with you, he'll properly ask you out so that you KNOW for a fact that you guys are going out. Otherwise, he's not really as into it as you are. Also, realize what you are potentially getting yourself into, he had sex with erica, and he went kinda fast with you in the pool and stuff, if you know what I mean. But that doesn't rule out the possibility that he is actually a really nice guy who could care for you in the future. so talk to him about it, ask him what's going n between you two, if you don't ask, you won't know. and maybe he's waiting for you to bring it up because he doesn't know what to say. Teh possibilities are endless, but if you like him, go for it, just be careful and don't forget that he's older and has obviously had more experience than you..
good luck, ask him what he would "call" you guys, like if you're together or both single. then you can decide how you feel and what you want to do :] have fun and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

Alright, this seems like a really stupid question but I've never really been in a relationship before. I have a friend that recently I've begun to like in "that way." I'm somewhat getting signals that she may like me too. Anyway, what I'm asking is how do I go about talking to her about becoming my girlfriend? We hang out and stuff, so I'm not sure whether to just profess my feeling towards her which could get awkward, or ask her if she likes me, or what?

Awww, that's sweet :] and it's not a stupid question, it's a good question ! You actually care enough about this girl to actually want to bring this "conversation" up the right waay. Okay so here it goes..
Don't just jump into the whole i-like-you-do-you-like-me topic of conversation, because it will really make things awkward and she might shy away from you if she thinks you're coming on too strong, yuh know ? But since you guys are friends and hang out, it makes it 10 times easier. So take a deep breath :] act normal around her and just go with the flow. Don't be nervous either, just pretend like it's no big deal. When you're talking, kind of switch the topic around, and be like, "you know, I've been thinking about alot of stuff lately.." [kinda let your sentence trail off, like you're still thinking about it now] and she'll probably be like, "yeah?" or "yeah, about what?" [something along those lines] and you could say something like, "I don't know how you'll feel about this, but, I really like you as more than a friend and I just wanted to know if the feeling was mutual or not."
Just tell her :] if you make it awkward, it WILL be awkward, I would know. haha. and don't start of by saying, "this might be really awkward but..." because then it's just bound to be awkward, but dpeneding on her answer then you could ask her if she'd want to be your grilfriend. Just have confidence in yourself and everything will turn out spectacular :]
good luck, hope I helped ! and don't sweat it, go with your gut instinct :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! have funn. xxo.

okay so recently i've been hanging out with my ex. things have been going pretty gooddd. i went over and we played catch outside and listened to music, it was chill and i think we both had fun :) he was doing things like hitting my butt (joking around not in a perverted way) then when i had to leave he asked if he could come with me and he asked his mom but she said no =/ (i heard him pretty much beg her and he was getting into an argument over it) so i left and he gave me a big hug. what do you guys think? we broke up about 3 months ago if that matters.

In my opinion, it kind of seems like he was flirting with you :] which is totally good if that's what you want .. to be in a relationship again. Because it sounds like, that's where it's headed if you guys keep this up :] Maybe he's realizing that he lost someone [you] that was so special to him and hanging out with you has made him put things in perspective and now that connection is "back" he wants to see where things will go with you.. again. haha. If that makes sense. But really, you need to talk to him, thats the only way you'll get anywhere close to knowing what his intentions are. I mean, him wanting to come with you when you leave is a REALLY good sign, because he wanted to spend more time with you, and usually "just friends" wouldn't beg their parents to go if it wasn't that big of a deal. But maybe you are just a big deal to him :] yay. It's also good that he hugged you, because it's his way of showing true affection without going overboard like kissing you or whatever haha. But really, talk to him and see what he says, I'm sure it will be what you want to hear.
good luck, have fun :] and go with the flow ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
p.s. maybe it just took him 3 months to notice that he misses you and wants you back, or that he just cherishes your friendship and wants to keep it in the friends zone.. just putting those toughts out there :]

Okay, well I wasn't really sure where to put this but uh here goes. So I'm 13/F and he was 14/M. He is an awesome friend but he's always been a perv. Anyway, he took it too far this time and I flipped out. We were walking in a group and some other guys that we were with were making fun of him about how he "can't get a girl" and he says "I can get any girl I want!" so he grabs me, pins me against a wall, and sticks his hand down my pants. I freaked and kicked him in the balls... He looked like he was in severe pain. I almost felt bad but not really cuz what did he expect? But now he's super pissed at me. I don't think he has a right! Does anyone else think I was out of line?

You go girl ! I would have done the same exact thing. Kicking him in the balls might hurt like HELL for the guy, but afer what he did, I would have wanted to get a wrecking ball and send it flying into his groin.
ahaha.. just kidding about the last part, but honestly, that's sexual harassment and he should NOT have done that. You were completly in the right and he was totally in the wrong ... the VERY wrong.
Hopefully he apologizes, but if he doesn't, at least you stood up for yourself :] good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me xxo.

I'm 17/f and I don't even have my permit. Before you laugh and giggle in your computer chairs please understand that I would rather jump off of a building than drive a car. I've tried the whole empty parking lot, empty field, empty everything, but the second I start the car it's like I tense up. I hate it with a passion, but it's hard to watch my friends out and about with thier liscences (don't care if I spelled that wrong) and I'm still getting rides from my mom. I could have my own liscence right now if it weren't for the stupid panic attacks and the other people driving on the road. How do I get over this? Any one?

Thanks,
ScaredyCat

I have my permit and I am 16/f. I've had it for a few months now, and I haven't driven since I got it.. I've driven maybe 2 times, and that was because my parents forced me because they say that I need to "get my liscense" BUT I HATE IT. Driving scares me 1/2 to death. I always feel liek Im gonna kill someone or gonna get killed myself by the stupid drivers out there today. But reality is, you don't want to be driven around for the rest of your life or paying for busrides. yuh know ?
So here's what I did, I told myself that I NEEDED to do this. You have to just not care that people may beep at you or try to pass you, go at your own pace and your own time and you'll be fine. Just the other day I broke down in the car because I didn't want to go on the road, but you really need to push yourself to the limit. and sometimes youve just got to.. drive. hahaa. If you don't go for it and face your fear, you'll never be as independednt as you want. Do you want freedom ? the key is driving. so go for it before you don't have the chance and regret not driving. You can do it, you just have to go headfirst and suck it up. That's what I did, and I still hate it, but once you get your liscense, it's your choice if you want to drive or not, just get your permit and then your liscense and choose what you want to do.
good luck ! hope I helped and if you need anything else or a little more encouragement, feel free to inbox me. try to have fun :] ! xxo.

(18/f) One of my really good friends confided in me and told me that they are thinking of committing suicide, and he made me promise i wouldnt tell anyone. I'm really scared for him and im not sure what i should do. i tried talking him out of it as much as i could but i am still scared he might do something.

I have been in your sistuation before, and I know that this has put you in a tough spot, but sometimes, promises need to be broken. Your friend reached out to you because he WANTS your help, they told you because they wanted you to know so that you could help them get help. They might not be obvious about it, but really, they wouldn't have told you if it wasn't something they really wanted to go through with. You need to tell someone, because honestly, do you want them to commit suicide when they CAN get help ? Why try to hide the problem ? just SOLVE it by telling someone and getting your friend help. I know it's hard, and they'll be mad at first if or when they find out that you told somebody, but I promise that they will forever thank you for saving their life. Just be there for him and help im through this tough time, but don't keep this a secret, if you're his close friend, than you'll get him help, and he WILL forgive you. :]
good luck ! hope I helped, and I know you'll make the right decision, good for you that you care enough about him to be worrying and helping him liek you have been doing already. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

16/f
Well me and this guy had a 3 month relationship that ended in may. We still like eachother so we want to try to date again. We talked really good for a long while. Then all of a sudden he is acting different and not talking to me as much. I don't get it. He says he wants to date really bad and he really really likes me. But why won't he text me as much? Now he says he's just busy all the time. Well apperently he wasn't that busy before. Help?

Hmm, well .. have you talked to him about this ? Maybe he's scared to start dating you again because of the previous relationship you both had. Or maybe he doesn't want anohter relationship right now and realized this after you and him talked about it. OR he might have found another girl and is exploring his options but if his othe "options" don't work out, you might be the backup plan.
But then again, these are just my guesses, I could be totally wrong or totally right. I think you should talk to him about this asap, so you can get it figured out. Just be straight up with him and ask why he's being so weird. Maybe he REALLY is busy, he may not be lying. But boys are pretty complicated and can give off mixed signals. They also can lose intrest if they think something "better" is coming their way. Stupid boys ;] justkidding. but realy, the only way to solving this is talking to him.
good luck ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. oh, and don't worry, I'm sure he has a good explanation for the way he's been acting. xxo.

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