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(prefers answers from guys, but girls OK) wat does it mean if a guy..
\So there's this guy. I don't have any feelings for him at all, honestly. He's just really nice to me and we could be friends. But there's something he does that really annoys/confuses me. I want to know what he thinks of me.
During class, he's always calling my name and like whenever I'm in the hallway and he's behind me, he catches up to me just to talk to me. Sometimes he even ignores his friends for me.
Sometimes I ignore him but he insists on talking to me. And like usually when we talk I think he's fun and easy to talk to. He also does this to another girl in my class, Sarah. He is closer to Sarah than he is to me. He has a grlfriend too, Mimi.
Okay so here is the problem. I don't mind that he has a girlfriend and a girl friend that he's close to. I don't have feelings for this guy. If it matters, I used to have a crush on him and I told him after I got over it. It didn't affect him, so I don't think that's important.
But the problem is sometimes when we talk I think he's really annoying because he brings up Mimi and Sarah, right? And he's like, "You know, Mimi is so perfect. She's so frikking cute."
Like, literally, out of nowhere. We aren't talking about relationships, crushes, or who we prefer or ANYTHING. We could be talking about a movie or a celebrity or something funny that happened in class that has nothing related to Mimi or Sarah and all of a sudden he goes, "Sarah is so pretty and cute. So cute." It's like, why are you telling me this?
Whenever this happens, I pretend I don't mind and go, "Yeah, she is adorable!" and then like get quiet because I don't know what else to say.
To be honest, I find it insulting that he brings up girls in my conversations. I know he doesn't talk about me that way to Sarah or Mimi. I don't mind if he does, but, c'mon guys, you wouldn't like it if your girl friend (just a friend) talks to you constantly about other guys.
So should I stop talking to him? It's getting on ym nerves. He's nice and all, but is he disrespecting me? What do you, a guy, think is on his mind when he does this? Maybe I'm overthinking it??
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He thinks of you as a bestfriend, one that he can tell them anything. even about relationships.
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It sounds to me like he wants to see what your reaction is when he brings up these girls, and I also think that he is trying to make you jealous at the same time. It might not seem like this to you, but from what you told me, he's trying to figure you out, so maybe you should make it VERY clear to him that all you want from him is friendship, not a relationship.
Guys don't usually just bring up their girlfriend or other girls randomly ... and since he's IN a relationship and talking about sarah also, it's kind of strange ... and you're not overhtinking it, any normal person would feel the same way you are. and what's on his mind, are the girls, obviously haha. so I suggest you talk to him about this, and tell him it needs to stop, because you'd rather have a normal conversation with him then one that involves how "cute" he thinks certain girls are, because you KNOW.
But mainly, I think he just wants to figure you out. see how much he can say to you before you get pissed off or something, like he knows it bothers you and he just wants to push your buttons. alot of guys do this, it's very common, but communication is key :]
hope I helped, good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
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I agree with the other columnists below.
I think he's either trying to make you jealous, which is most likely what is happening, or he's just really bored and doesn't know what to talk about except how cute other girls are.
I think it's the jealous thing.
I would just stop talking to him, because he's using you, Sarah, and Mimi.
--Jack
(17/m)
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I think he's trying to make you jealous. I've seen guys do this before; heck, us girls do it, too.
Try talking to him and making it clear that you do not have romantic feelings for him. Just let him know how you feel, and maybe suggest that he go TALK to Mimi or Sarah instead of telling you how "cute" he thinks they are.
-Laura (17-f)
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First I think you should talk to him about it, and tell him it's bothering you. Maybe he's not doing this on purpose. He'll never know how you feel if you don't tell him. That's why talk to him about it. If it continues even after you guys talk, then I guess you shouldn't talk to him, bc he's basically choosing them over you..
Good Luck !
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from my view of this, he seems to wanting to make you jealous.
but i'm not a guy, just givin ya my p.o.v.
you could ask him why he brings up these girls?
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