Nope. They're supposed to stop growing around the age of 18 or 19. Oh, and if you have a baby, they end up growing too.
They're not gonna stop growing 2 years after your first period...at least, that not what happened to me. I got my period when I was 12, and I'm 17 and my boobs are still growing, lol.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Aww, that's great! My guy and I went 11 months without a fight. Don't worry about not fighting...it's not necessarily bad. If you go out for awhile, you may find things that annoy you about the other person and fight about them a bit, but it's fine to not fight. Either that or my guy and I have real problems. We hardly ever fight. We just talk about everything...
Lol, I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Hey. Lemme just say that when I lost it, I felt like a total slut for months, until my friend reminded me that I couldn't be a slut. I'd only slept with one person, I was dating him, and we were/are in love.
So you're not a slut, if you're having those feelings.
You feel weird after you lose it, I think, and it's NEVER what you expect. I mean, I didn't expect it to make me cry, but it did (pain, ow). It frankly sucked. I can use one word to describe it: "OW". It got a lot better as it went along, but for me it hurt the entire time
You feel better about it as it goes. If you're having issues about yourself or whatever, you might wanna talk to the guy you lost it to and tell him what you're feeling. Guys, as much as I almost hate to say it, are usually pretty good at making girls feel better about themselves. So use that resource.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Hey!
That sounds familliar...Lol. I was in that situation when I was 16. Last year, with my boyfriend. (Still with him).
If you two really love each other, and it's an act of love, not lust, you won't regret it. I certainly don't.
If you're worried about people looking at you differently, don't tell anyone for awhile, and ask your boyfriend not to tell anyone. We made a deal that we could each tell one person we trusted, but only on the condition that they'd tell no one else. That worked for us.
It's an awesome feeling to be in love. Sex, as you know, can be painful, and it's a very intimate thing. To deal with that kinda pain, and to deal with the emotions, you're gonna wanna be with someone you love and trust. I was, and I really don't regret anything. I honestly don't think it's a bad idea, but opinions, you'll find, will differ.
I'd be a hypocrite if I said it was a bad idea. It's true, though, I believe it is illegal. HOWEVER...it's unlikely that anyone's going to turn you or him in.
Sharing something this intimate with a guy you really love can be the coolest thing in the world...but don't expect it to be amazing...lol. I can use one word to describe my first experience: "OW". Lol. But other than that...as I said, I have no regrets, and if your decision is out of love, you probably won't either.
Just make sure you're willing and ready, and more importantly that HE is willing and ready to deal with any possible consequences of your...actions. (pregnancy, stds, etc, however unlikely those are, he has to be willing to deal with them should the problems arise.)
The final decision, as you know, is yours.
I hope I helped a bit!
-Siren =)

Hey, I was in the same situation. If you stay on the pill the way you're supposed to (take it at the same time every day and all that) then you should be okay.
It is totally safe to use a condom and birth control at the same time, that's actually a good idea. It's about 97 or 98% effective alone, but with a condom it's increased to about 99%
If you're mom is okay with you having sex, really, take advantage of that. If she's willing to buy you birth control pills, go for it, because there are so many moms who aren't, and whose daughters either end up pregnant or sneak behind their parents backs and like, go to planned parenthood and whatnot.
Not that I'm saying I disapprove of PP, I just disapprove of sneaking.
But as I said, if your mom is ready and willing to help you out and all that, I would really take advantage of it. She'll take you to the doctor. It may be embarrassing, but it's a decision you're making, and you should be willing to support it.
Besides...it's better to be safe than sorry, isn't it?
So that's my opinion. The decision is yours, as you know, and I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

My definition of "making out" is kissing, touching, cuddling, etc. French kissing in my book, is literally JUST a kiss. It involves tonuges.
Making out, I think, doesn't always involve kissing with tongue. Making out is not a type of a kiss...it's an action.
French kissing is definitely a type of kiss. Lol.
At least, that's my opinion. I honestly think you're going to get a lot of different answers.
Hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Wow, in a situation like this, I think I would be straight up and tell him I like him. It might be a little difficult, but I think that's what I'd do.
I mean, he's leaving! If you don't tell him now, you may lose your chance. Wouldn't you regret it forever if you didn't even try? I would...
There doesn't seem to be much of a chance of him turning you down, but just in case, I suggest (if you do decide to tell him, that is) you tell him that no matter what, you don't want anything to change between you two - you just felt like you had to tell him. In your own words, of course.
You could always just mention something like your friends said you two would make a cute couple ("isn't that crazy?") and see what he says.
BUT if they haven't said anything remotely like that, I don't reeeeeeeeeally suggest lying.
You can do whatever you want, because in the end the choice is yours, however, I do strongly suggest telling the boy. You know him, you're already friends, etc.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

The first thing to remember is you should NEVER feel like you're yelling when you sing. Belting can hurt your voice permanently (in the long run).
The second thing to remember is loud doesn't always mean good.
Thirdly, breathing right and singing louder doesn't always take a couple of weeks. It took me a month and I learn REALLY fast. Heck, I'm still learning.
Okay. Now, as for projecting, I used to have the same problem, too, especially with my speaking voice. I felt like I had to scream to be heard.
First, set up your posture. Bring your shoulders up to your earlobes, push them back, and then push them down while pulling back. Your ribcage should feel lifted/really open. Lock in that feeling. If it helps, put your arms or hands under the bottoms of your ribs to remind yourself to keep that open. That's your singer's book. NEVER let it close.
When you breathe, feel like you're yawning. Your stomach should move, but not your shoulders.
You might practice by laying on the ground with your knees up like you're about to do sit ups, with your arms at your sides. Put a heavy book on your stomach, and inhale to see if you can knock it off.
My old choir teacher did that with us, and it worked really well.
Once you've mastered the breathing technique...(which you may not, in the time you need, but it's okay. They'll see that you're still learning. No one expects anyone in school to be perfect.)
Projecting. I think of filling the room with my voice, and if it's a small room, I think of filling the whole building with my voice. But don't yell.
Use all that air you've yawned in, and send it all rushing out. Let the air control the pitch. As you go higher, think like you're going down. It'll keep everything in place and keep everything in pitch.
Don't be afraid to use your air. For awhile, lose control of the notes if you have to and just practice using more air.
If you can spin the sound (vibrato, if you have it - if you don't, don't create it. Let it happen), it helps. But if you can't, don't worry about it.
However, if you're serious about singing, I suggest you talk to your choir director. He or she may be able to help you a little better than we can.
If you'd like anything here explained a little more clearly...lol...feel free to IM me at anytime. I'm going onto vocal performance in college, so this is my life.
I hope this helps, and good luck with the judges!
-Siren =)

Well, I've been through a nasty breakup, and the one thing that helped me get over him was to focus on his bad points (I know it's mean, but it forces you to be more angry than sad).
Spend more time with your friends, maybe even talk to your parents, or a relative about it. Vent to someone who cares about you. The best way to get over a broken heart is to develop a new crush. BUT it has to be a real crush, not just "oh he's cute, I think I'll like him."
Never, ever let a guy get you depressed. If he does, he's not worth your time. I know you may feel like he is (trust me, I did too) but he's not. The guy that is, won't make you cry.
If writing helps you get out your emotions, write bad poetry. Draw. Dance. Sing. Play the piano, do something constructive that will take your mind off him.
But mostly, I suggest hanging out with your friends more.
If it's the fact that he acts like he doesn't liek you, go up to him one day and ask him why he's acting like that. It takes a lot of guts, but if you do it, you'll get your answers.
If you feel the urge, feel free to IM me anytime (SirenCytherea). I know how you feel.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Rubbing alcohol will get permanemt marker off pretty much anything. Give that a try. I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

You're lucky! I go to a public school, I'm playing Marian in Music Man, and I actually have to kiss Harold Hill. (I have a boyfriend, and he's not in the musical. Lol.) Arsenic is a GREAT play, by the way.
There are a lot of different ways to stage kiss, and I'm guessing it'll be something like the guy will turn so his head is blocking your mouth, but not actually kiss you. At that angle, it's impossible for the audience to tell that your lips are not touching.
There are ways to do it where you (or he) put(s) your (or his) thumb over the other person's mouth and kiss the thumb, but those really do look fake, so I'm guessing it'll be something like the first way I described.
However, don't worry about it right now. I'm certain they'll go over it with you and teach you how to do it right. No one would just expect you to know how to stage kiss.
I hope this helps!
Have fun with the play!
-Siren =)

Sweetie, you've gotta follow your heart in situations like this. Age means NOTHING. Age is a state of mind, not being. Keep in mind, though, that younger guys will automatically be a little immature (hey, all guys are (no offense, guys)). But, if he likes you, and you like him, GO FOR IT!
There are a surprising amount of crushes that develop solely because the guy likes you, and you kinda go "...all right, why not. I like him too!" So if you really honestly like him, and he honestly likes you, I say go for it. I'm all about following your heart, though.
The final decision is, of course, yours, but I urge you to do what your instincts and heart tell you to do.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

You know what, I don't think we ever KNOW when we find the right person, or if. We just have to go with our gut instincts, and follow our hearts. You'll find someone out there for you. It might not be the "someone" it was supposed to me, but it will be someone, I think. It's all opinion, and that's mine. ^_^
-Siren =)

You can't make a pure black unless you actually have black. BUT you can make a very dark blue or brown that resembles black.
You're going in the right direction, blue and orange definitely work. Avoid yellow for that. Either that, or add yellow and purple. You should get a brownish color, I think, and add blue.
You probably won't get a pure black, but you'll get a dark color. I haven't played with paints in awhile so I'm not sure if that's right, but I think it is. I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Hey! I'm kind of in the same boat you're in, except without the age difference. My boy is 18 and I'm 17, and we're technically engaged. We thought about getting married when I turned eighteen, but then realized neither of our parents would approve of such a young marriage. We decided to wait until I'm 20 or so, that way mom probably won't disapprove. (We're big on parent approvals.)
The way I see it, if you two are really serious about settling down and getting married, stay the way you are. Getting married can wait, if the relationship can last, and chances are, it may. ^_^
Get engaged, if you want, but make it a long engagement, and just do the whole ceremony when you have enough money, when you're older.
You said yourself that you two are really sure about this marriage - if you're that sure your relationship is that solid, let it wait a couple of years. Trust me, I know a couple of years is a long time, but still - if you don't want to hurt your mom, talk to your boyfriend about extending the plans until you're a little older and your mom approves a little more.
Then talk to your mom about what you suggested, and what he said.
That's what I'd do, anyway. (My mom doesn't actually know I'm engaged...heh...heh...)
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Hey Mariana, I'm glad you like my column, I like your name! Lol. I'm playing someone named Marian in our school's musical! (Music Man, lol)
I never tell anyone anything they did was wrong. That's just wrong. (^_^) Heh...heh...anyway...
Okay, though, here's the thing - a guy who "loves" two girls doesn't know the meaning of the word love (at least not my meaning. I believe "love" indicates that the person you "love" is the one you want to be with for the rest of your life, and would care for no matter what).
As far as getting over him, I would, in your situaion, simply because you are indeed confused, and sleeping with someone at such a young age could really prove to be a mistake. I waited until I found the guy I'm pretty much engaged to to sleep with him, and I don't regret it. Sex with Joshua might sound like a good idea right now, but if you make a mistake (like, if he wants you for the wrong reasons...) and regret it, how would you feel? I don't approve of any guy cheating on his GF, so right from the start, I'm kinda biased against him, honestly. ^^
If you want to get over him, I suggest finding all his bad points and focusing on them. (That's what I did to try to get over a bunch of my crushes)
I do honestly think you should "get over him" but it will be very difficult, if you care about him enough to actually consider sleeping with him.
And more on that, you DO know all the risks that come with that, correct? If he got you pregnant, what would he do? I suggest you be on birth control of some sort before you sleep with anybody. And do keep in mind, though, that you are 14. You are young, you have so many years to have sex.
Granted, this is only my opinion, and the final decision is definitely yours.
Just weigh all your choices first and make the one you think is the best for you, and best for Joshua.
If you wanna chat about this more, feel free to IM me (AIM) SirenCytherea. I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

You're probably not doing anything wrong. I had that problem too, but then I switched tampon brands and all was well. Lol. I used to use playtex slimfits, and then they started leaking, so I started only using tampax pearl (very good brand, in my opinion) and I haven't had a problem.
The tampons you're using might not be the right strength for your flow. If you're using lights and your flow is normal or heavy it's not gonna work out too well, lol.
Another thing you might do is wear minipads with the tampons while you're experimenting with brands and sizes (if you decide to experiment), just to check for leaks and not stain your undies.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

It isn't wrong. People might think so because of the "middle school/high school" "gap" but there really isn't one. The two numbers are just one apart, and age is just a state of mind anyway. I'll never understand people who think that 9th/8th grade is wrong, but I think that's what they're thinking.
The whole high school-middle school gap thing.
I hope this helped a bit!
-Siren =)

Heehee.
I got my guy a teddy bear that says "You stole my heart" on it for Valentines day last year and he keeps it near his bed. Lol.
More guys like teddy bears than they'd care to admit, I'm sure. Guys generally don't hate them. That's a cute idea. Just go with your instincts, they seem to be good. Go look around and grab something that you could imagine yourself giving him, and imagine him smiling when he sees it. That's how I figured out what to get my guy.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Does it really? I never actually tried it because I hate lemon unless it's on salad or in very very sweet lemonade. I don't use Halls as a cure. I just use them to ease the soreness, and ricolas to keep my throat clear before an audition.
However, as you said yourself, everyone's voice is different and responds to different stuff. I just listed what my voice responds well to. I sing opera as well - not professionally yet, but that's my plan. As for sore throats...I very rarely get sore throats. I just get viruses that hit my nose and move directly to my voice...I had something this past summer that caused me to lose my voice completely, and it healed only when I lost it again, then regained it in the fall. Scared me, as I'm sure you can imagine, being a singer yourself!
That's really interesting about the lemon juice, though, I'll mention that to my voice teacher.
Thank you for the information, though I never did say lemon juice was a "be-all/cure-all" for a sore throat. I certainly don't think so, and my voice teacher just mentioned it a couple of times. There is no be-all/cure-all for a sore throat except sleep, water, and time. I think you may have misinterpreted my response to that question as stressing lemon juice, and it may have come off that way, but I didn't mean for that to be the stress. Thanks for telling me though, really. I appreciate it!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

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