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well i like this boy right and he's spanish and i have no problem with that b/c he''s really sweet and cute. but all my friends do b/c im like white and we're totally diff and some of my friends are sort of racist. i don't know what to do b/c i rlly like this boy...what should i do

I would ignore my friends and hang out with him. Who cares what other people think? Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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There is this guy i have liked for a while, but he thinks of me just as a best friend. When i see him do things with other girls i tend to get pretty jealous. He asks me for advice with girls he really likes sometimes, and that kind of hurts my feelings because i like him. I try to make that clear but he just doesn't seem to be getting it. We are both fourteen so i guess i'm not ready for something extremely serious, but i want to go out with him. what do i do?

It's best to just stay friends with him, because you definitly DON'T want to ruin your relationship. This has happened to me before with a guy at school. We were friends, then we went out for a week, and decided to stay friends, because things were just too uncomfortable between us. Just try to accept him as just a friend. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Whats up everybody! I smoke weed and love it. But i want to quit. They say weed is not addicting, but if it isnt, then how come i can not quit? I love it so much. But know it will get me nowhere. So how can i quit? Or should i not quit?

Yes, you need to quit. Yay, that was a good choice! If you really plan on quitting, you'll need all the strength you have because even though it's not physically addicting, it is mentally. Try to occupy yourself by hanging out with friends (who don't smoke weed!) or playing a sport you like. If you feel like you have to smoke weed, fight it and maybe chew some gum or something. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Ok i know this guy online and he thinks im rich .I met him because he made this site called y terror and i went to it and ever since then we became good friends.Well to get to the point he is selling ALL his sites that he worked so hard @ to get money for a car and i dont even think he is using it for a car so i LIED i know i feel really bad now .. and i said i would give him the 800 dollors so he wouldnt have to sale his site now he thinks since i promised him i would send him money from western union that he will get it but the truth is when he goes the money wont be there because i dont have it either and when i lied and said ill give it to him he said

Thank you so much your really nice my mom kicked me out ( he is only 17 ) and i live in my buddy's attic and eat mac and cheese every night and then he said now i wont have to eat mac and cheese every night


i really want to be his friend but i cant tell him im not giving him the money so what do i do ??

p.s. he told my sister he wanted to go out with me

You could say you tried to send it, but it didn't go through. Or maybe save your money until you have enough. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Theres this guy at school.This will be an average story but anyways,He waits for me by my locker and he will hold my hand and flirt with me.He just makes me feel really special.We're not going out but sometimes i feel like we are.We've known eachother since we were 5.We are now teenagers.Can someone tell me if he might like me??im a female.
Signed,
Crushed

It definitely sounds like he likes you. When you guys are alone, be like, "My friends keep telling me we'd be really cute together. What do you think about it?" If he says no, leave it at that. If he says yes, then there ya go! Lol. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Okay, I have been sick for almost a week now, I have really bad diarrhea and I can't keep any food down! Everytime I eat it comes up, I even took three bites of a yogurt and it came up. My mom refuses to take me to the doctor and I am starting to feel weak. i usually get dehydrated really easily and now when i drink it doesnt stay down either. My mom keeps an attitude towards me when i tell her what is going on and she says she cant afford to take me to the doctor, WHAT DO I DO?

Wow, that sucks. Talk to her about how bad you're feeling, and that if she doesn't take you, you could get a lot worse. Ask her if she thinks money is worth more than you. If nothing works, try talking to a friend's mom or your school nurse. Get well soon!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Last night I did my washing but I was really tired so I just dumped it all in without looking to see what went in. Then when I checked this morning, I had found that I had slipped a fur coat into the mix.

Things happen and bada bing bada boom,

The coat feel apart,

Well I'm not that upset about the coat falling apart (a bit but not much) but now all my other clothes that went in that wash have fur all over them. I have tried shaking them off but they are still covered- what would be the best way to get all the fur off easily?

Try using a lint roller, like for animal hair or maybe use duct tape. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Alright yall, i believe in God and that Jesus is the son of God. But i dont like church one bit, and i dont like the bible. I think i'm a good person, but i do also sin (obviously). And i have a wonderful relationship with God. So am i going to hell because i dont like church, and because i dont believe alot of what the Christians believe? Please help me out if you can. Thanks alot.

Hey I'm like, the same way. I sin sometimes too, but as long as you go to confession and are truly sorry for what you've done, God will forgive you. Faith and wisdom grow with age. Don't worry about it, you'll be ok, you won't go to hell!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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There is this guy at my school Rick who asked me out 2 years ago (and told me he loved me), and i rejected him. But now, I think I am in love with him. I have been in love with Rick from the moment I rejected him, and I don't know what to do about it. And if I go up to him and be like "Hey I love you" then that will just be really akward and he'll be like wtf? I talk to him at school sometimes, but never about dating or anything. It's just casual conversation. And the conversations usually only last about 2 minutes or so, because then we have to each start heading different ways for our next classes. (And I look forward to those 2 minutes every day.. they are the highlight of my day, they are what I wake up for.. hah i know that sounds corny but it's true!!) What can I say to Rick, but make it sound casual? And also, I'm not sure if he still likes me or not. Sometimes in the halls he will catch up to me and talk to me. But I can't tell if he likes me or not. Please help, I don't know what to do, but I know I need to do SOMETHING. Please don't delete this!!

Just go up to him and casually be like, "My friends keep saying we'd be really cute together. What do u think?" If he says no, just leave it at that. If he says yes, then there ya go! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Well, i know this girl that i really like, but she lives too far away to meet. I wanna know if you think there is a chance that we could meet and maybe this relationship would work out. What do you think?

I think you're hott, David! Yes, there's definitely a change we'll meet. We have to, we're practically soulmates, lol! It'll work out. Luv ya!
~*Erin*~

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Will a yeast infection go away on its own or what can you do to get rid of it?

You have to get medicine from a drug store I think, and if not, then you have to get a prescription from your doctor. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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if a guy sees this question he will know wat i mean.

I have a problem. I am a christian kid but im slipping away from the lord because of things i look at. if ya know wat i mean. I cant stop. I try but nothin works. If you can help, please do

Only God can help you here. Maybe try talking to God about it and try asking him to help you. If you really want to stop, he'll help you. Trust me. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Ok, in school I'm in the "popular group" and my friends are really nice and everything but sometimes they really annoy me. Here's why. Whenever a guy asks them out they'll like automaticlly say yes (even if they don't like them), and when a guy dumps them or they dump a guy they'll be going out with someone else within an hour. Anyway, for some reason this really bugs me. I don't really no why either. Now a guy asked me out and I said no because I don't like him and now they keep calling me too picky. What do I do?

It doesn't sound like they're really "true" friends. Maybe try talking to them about it and see what's up. If nothing changes, consider getting new friends, because they're not being your friends by calling you picky just because you don't want to go out with someone. If you're not attracted to a guy, then you're not attracted to a guy, and that's that. Well, good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I've been talking to this guy for like 6 months, He never asked me out or nothing but we go to the movies and i go chill at his house to. A couple weeks ago he said he wanted to start seeing me more, does that mean he wants to date me or what? I know he said he wanted to take things slow but this is beyond slow 4 me. He never gives me any clues that he really likes me like i do him. He will invite me over and kiss me goodnite when i leave but that's it. {no kissing other than when i leave..lol thought that bared repeating} What should i say to him? Thanx 2 all who answer. I'll rate HIGHHH

I think he likes you. Try talking to him about. Be like, my friend thought we'd be so cute together, what do u think? And see what he says! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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i think a guy i like likes me. I want to ask him out, but i've never had a bf and i would rather him ask me. But he's shy so i dont think it's gonna happen. What a good way to ask him out, or find out if he likes me for sure. Plz help, i really like him.

Like Nike says: Just do it! If u kno he likes u, u have nothing to worry about! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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okay... well im 13, im in the 7th grade, and i live in Ohio...well i went out with this one boy for like a day and then later on he asked me out again and i still kinda liked him so i went out wit him...after about a month my friend broke up wit him for mee one day during 5th period when i wasn't sure if i wanted her too or nott. i told her nott to but she did it anywaay.. and i heard he still likes mee and i like him too but like he neva talked to me in person and i don't wanna go through that again and hurt him (if we do go out again) and plus one of my friends like him so yeah i don't know what to do... plus if i go out wit him AGAIN people would probably make fun of me and stuff and plus there are some other guys who like me and they want me to go out with them but i think i wanna go out wit the guy i went out wit before... but yeah my friends and others would probably make fun of me and stuff so please help me! should i tell him i never wanted to break up with him in da first place or just move on... should i tell anyone or keep it in..? please tell me what to do!

**Renee**

Ok, I think you should definitely talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel about him and that you never wanted to break up with him in the first place. I'm sure he'll be happy to know that. And, you shouldn't care about what other people think. I think if you want to go out with them, then that's great! If they can't accept it, then too bad for them. But before you go out with him, talk to your one friend who likes him too, and make sure it's ok with her. You don't want to lose a friend over a boy. A boy's not worth that. I guess if you do go out with him and then end up breaking up with him, then there's a whole line of guys waiting to go out with you, so you're in good shape! Well, good luck with everything!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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i have this friend named lindsey marion and she cried at my friends house and she said she wanted to go back to my house and not stay there, and she called her mom and my mom thought she was tellin her mom that all the grownups were drunk and now she can't come over again and spend the night or even play over. wat should i tell my mom to make her let my friend spend the night again?
the sadest,
smarti8

Talk to your mom about it. Tell her that whatever she thinks about your friend is wrong. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Dear Advicenators,
One and a half years ago my brother *Henry* was diagnosed with hemophilia, which means that his blood does not clot normally. If he gets a cut, it's really hard to stop the bleeding. If he loses too much blood, he could die if the blood is not replenished.

Henry and I always liked to spend time together (he's two years older than me). We'd ride bikes to the park and shoot basketball hoops. He couldn't be too active, but he was my best friend and I felt safe around him.

Anyway, he lost a lot of blood one day, and was taken to the doctor for another blood injection. The horrible part was, that the person who had donated that blood was carrying the AIDS virus. The doctor proclaimed that Henry now had AIDS.

Henry is 15 years old, is in diapers, and must be fed through an IV or a tube. He has about 4 months left to live. My entire family is sad, and angry about it. My parents must monitor him all the time, so I always have to get a ride to my volleyball games. All three of us never have extra time, because we are always there for Henry and when he must be hospitalized. I had to drop out of volleyball for him.

Henry has been the butt of the jokes from the kids at school lately. They make fun of the fact that he has been in diapers. They are unaware of the fact that his brain is slowly being devoured, and he can't feed himself. The AIDS is tearing the whole family apart. But luckily, my friends are there to console me, but I always feel resentment towards the cruel kids at school. Can I please have some suggestions on what to do about that?

Anyway, as I am spending my last Christmas with my brother, I have no idea what present to give to him. Could I please have some ideas? I want it to be special and something he'll remember when he goes to Heaven.

Also, how can I comfort / cheer up my parents? They have been having lots of mood swings lately and have been very stressed.

Any input and prayer would be great. Sorry about the length.

Wow, I'm really sorry. Always remember that Henry is going to be in a better place, and all his suffering is going to go away. I know it's not much, but it should help, knowing that he's safe and happy in heaven. The kids at school probably don't realize how bad it really is. They probably just think, "OMG, a 15 year old in diapers!" That's probably all they know. Try talking to them about what's really going on, and if nothing works, tell a teacher or the principal. As for a gift for Henry, maybe give him a glass angel that has a cute saying on it, like, "I'll always love you" on it. Something like that, he'll definitely remember it in heaven. My prayers go out to you. Again, I'm really sorry, this must be so hard for you. Good luck with everything.
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I'm a 13 (almost14) female....... At school theres like half black people, and the other half is white. I'm white, but all these black people tell me I have a black girls booty, and they tell me I have a big head (not like stuck up, but like literaly big"! sometimes the guys act like they like me, but then again they make fun of me. Do they really like me, or are they picking on me seriously???????

LLShOrTyGiRl

That's a tough one. Guys can be so confusing. Well, simple, ya know? Lol. It's possible that they like you, and they don't want you to know, so they make fun of you. Or they could just be jerks. Try being nice to them, but if they still make fun of you, then they're not worth being your friend. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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My best friend and I like the same guy. The thing is, he is dating my best friend. But she and he both know that he likes me also. He wants to be with both of us, but I don't want to hurt my best friend so I think I should back off. What should I do?? Thanks!

You should probably just back off. And even if they break up, don't go out with him. The fact that he wants to go out with both of you means that he can't just focus on one person. Think about if you were your friend, and how she felt when he said that. She probably felt bad, because most of us want our man to think only about us. True, ain't it? Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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