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Ok, in school I'm in the "popular group" and my friends are really nice and everything but sometimes they really annoy me. Here's why. Whenever a guy asks them out they'll like automaticlly say yes (even if they don't like them), and when a guy dumps them or they dump a guy they'll be going out with someone else within an hour. Anyway, for some reason this really bugs me. I don't really no why either. Now a guy asked me out and I said no because I don't like him and now they keep calling me too picky. What do I do?
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sounds like your too mature for this group, im guessing your in 7th grade? you should meet new people because you seem almost too good for your group.your not being picky, because you dont want to be stuck dating somebody you dont even like! whats the piont of that right? try telling your friends you want to be dating a person that your truly like instead of the first boy that asks you out.. have fun and be safe!!!
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Maybe if the time is right, you should be jokey about it. Say, "Hey, just because I don't date every guy who asks me doesn't mean I'm picky. I'd like to wait for someone I really care about instead of leading someone on." I think that it is great that you don't take poo lying down and you can make a stand instead of being girlish and giggly and nodding when someone asks you out. That's cool. ;-)
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stand up to them. tell them "does that really make me picky that i dont like a guy and i said no? at leaset i dont go out with every guy in the freaking school." if that sounds too harsh then use diff. words but if theyr calling you picky and theyre going out with every guy imaginable, io think theyre just deperate to go out with any guy just to go out wiht him. stand up to them if they are real friends , theyll understand
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say fuck them because if you don't like a guy WHY GO OUT WITH HIM.. that's the stupiest thing i've ever heard.. going out with a guy just because he asks you out.. whether you like him or not! EW! lol.. Sounds to me that your the only smart one in your group.. and it also sounds to me that all your other girlfriends are ditzy cheerleader type girls sorry lol but that's how those kind of girls act (going out with whoever) You are smart for saying no to that guy because you didn't like him.. there's NOTHING wrong with being picky about who you date.. nothing at all! lol
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Don't change your beliefs because of your friends. If you don't want to go out with a guy, then don't and your friends should get over it. It isn't really any of their business anyway. Sometimes it's good to be picky. Atleast you'll know that you aren't dating some psycho killer.
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Maybe you need a new group of friends who will let you be yourself, instead of what they expect you to be. You have every right to turn someone down if you dont like them. The relationship wont last if you're with someone you dont like. If you dont want to get new friends, then just ignore these. After a while they should see that you're not like them and leave you alone, hopefully. Kinda off topic, but your friends may be insecure about themselves if they go out with so many guys. Maybe they're trying to prove that they're wanted. *shrugs* I dont knwo, just something to think about.
JyNxiE
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Just ignore them. They shouldn't be able to tell you what to do. You are your own person regardless of who you do or don't hang out with. In my advice they seem like a bunch of snobs trying to do that to guys. In the end the innocent guys get hurt where they didn't do anything wrong but ask a girl out. If they bug you ignore them, you shouldn't be listening to them anyways. Hope I helped :)..need anything put it in the inbox. xoJacxo
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Just explain to them that you want to really like someone before you go out with them, because you know that all you are going to have with someone that you don't really like is a shallow, unimportant relationship. Tell them that you aren't tryin to be picky, but this boy was just not your type. Don't worry about wut they think right now! good luck *muah* luv britt
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Well maybe you should give him a chance. Some guys surprise you
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You need to stop worrying about them. It would help to know your age/grade but I'll manage. Girls at the age i'm guessing your at shouldn't have to be picky as long as there not doing anything to harm themselves whocares if their not in love or if their carefree. It's their life if their uncomfortable with it they'll change it themselves, you do what you think is right. I hope I helped u see you feel too bad for yourself you don't have a real problem get otta here.. xxOo
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forget them. they're always be like that and will screw over their love life no matter what unless they change. the girls at my school are like that too. they just like the attention and making the drama. you just gotta get use to it.
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There's nothing you really can do...You don't have to be exactly like eachother and you don't have to like everything about your friends. They're probably just joking with you when they call you too picky.
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The same thing happened to me, and I handled it the right way and my friends stopped. Just give them a serious face-to-face talk saying, Just because I turned down a guy, doesn't mean I'm picky about particular ones. It just means I happen not to like him, and want to meet other cuties out there, Please accept what I'm trying to tell you guys, even if you don't agree with me. And it also seems like your friends aren't really forever, so try meeting other people. Hope I helped.
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tell them they are wrong!
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Never do something you dont feel comfortable with. You did the right thing, and your friends are really not making such great choices. Perhaps you should tell them how you feel..tell them people like them are viewed as prostitutes.
If they refuse just be like "OK u guys have your ways..and i have mine..lets just leave it at that"
if THAT doesnt work..then seriously consider hanging with different ppl.
Its ok to chill with people who r different from you (like these girls) but when it gets out of hand and starts to get to you, its too much
-melissa
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It doesn't sound like they're really "true" friends. Maybe try talking to them about it and see what's up. If nothing changes, consider getting new friends, because they're not being your friends by calling you picky just because you don't want to go out with someone. If you're not attracted to a guy, then you're not attracted to a guy, and that's that. Well, good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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you need to stick up for yourself, your friends can do whatever they want as far as choosing boyfriends goes, but if you want someone that is good for you, then they should be cool with it if they're your friends. But you have to have reasons why you dont like the guy too, because they'll probably ask, dont worry about it too much, there's worse things you could be called than "picky" hope i helped, keep ya head up -Angel
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You make your life choices!!!
Tell your friends that it is your choice and you are diffrent, because every one is, right??? I think you should explain how your life works and if they dont like the fact that your diffrent then tell them that they are not excepting you for the way you are. Be glad I am not you, I would get in a big fight and go find better friends, and if they would ever come near me or say something about me I would smack them accross there face and ruin there new fricken manicures, and thier hair. lol!
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