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&& i want to know.. what would be a nice hair cut?
i want it in layers and still kinda medium length.i want a really nice layered look but, i dont know how it would like on me. can someone tell me what would be a great haircut and pictures please to see how it would look. (link)
hey

well your hair lacks volume & texture, which you would get if you got layers. so i'm all for the layers.

i think you can do most of the stuff at home - it looks like you have side bangs which are just swept along with the rest of your hair, flat & straightened. after you get the volume from layers (http://www.hairresources.com/images/sce/rachelmcadams906250.jpg) you can just blow dry your bangs separately.

if you don't have side bangs, i suggest getting them because you have a nicely shaped face & it would enhance your features.

try not to straighten your hair so much - just give it a little volume by curling it, or blowdrying upside down.


Im a 15/f and my breasts are always hurting from the nipples area the most it jus hurts i dont know why do you think there is something wrong with me? (link)
hey

no, nothing is wrong with you.

- sensitive nipples. female's nipples tend to grow sensitive the time during and around when they're supposed to get their period. it probably just means you are about to or have just finished your period.

- your bra is too tight. maybe you are outgrowing your current bra size & need to go up one size. take your bra off during the night to allow for circulation around the breast area. if it is not sore during the night, you probably should consider going up a size, or two, even.

- your breasts are growing. especially the nipple area, if your breasts are sore, it could mean simply that they are growing. this might persist on & off for a week. it will eventually stop.

to prevent the pain, do as i listed above (the suggestions, like taking your bra off during the night, making sure your bra fits, etc. & i suggest just massaging them every night before you go to sleep, or after you take a shower. it might be really sensitive, dont like poke it or anything, but just rub lotion on them or something to make them not hurt so much.

if this persists over two weeks, i'd go to a doctor. but it is 95% likely that it's one of those things i listed above.

i hope i helped! :]


when your going "down there" to finger a girl. Is the clit the place to focus alot of your time? Like will that gaurantee an orgasm? Thanks (link)
hey

yeah pretty much... but all girls are different & maybe that's not where she'll have the orgasm.

ask her what feels good.


um. how do you know the difference between a fat
guinea pig & a pregnant one?! how do you know if
she's pregnant? any changes in behavior? my little
girl has been just laying around, but she also runs
around a lot when i let her out. she is also hungry
a lot. she lets me pick her up too, & in her stomach
it's just like a fat tummy... i dont feel any other
weird bumps or anything. HELP! what if she's preg-
nant?! i dont know how to take care of a pregnant
guinea pig! or let alone the BABY! thanks in advv. (link)
you really want to go to a vet, even though this does sound like pregnancy, but go to a vet to make sure.




Who sings their theme song? (link)
hey

the song is
"Opportunities (Let's Make Lots of Money)" by the Pet Shop Boys

(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beauty_and_the_Geek)


lol sorry this is really gross. but is this normal? when my poop is like moving through my intestines it like gives me cramps. then itll stop and then itll move again and ill get another cramp. and then once it gets to the point where it can come out, lol yeahhh. and then im fine. is it supposed to cramp like that? y is it? (link)
hey

no i dont think so. it means you are a little constipated. if you take the recommended amount of fiber everyday, you'll realize that the cramps will reduce & you'll just poop it out without pain.

make sure you go to the bathroom when you feel you have to go. dont just go when you have a cramp cause you'll sit there for a LONGGG time & it will hurt.

if it's really serious, & you are taking the recommended amount of fiber each day (either from bananas, fiber one cereal, etc.) then you should go to the doctor.

it is VITAL that you drink 6-8 glasses of water a day. this softens up the poop as well & makes it easier for it to come out. it clears out your insides.


how do u get rid of love handles fast? (link)
hey

- excercise. stand with your feet together & your arms to the side like you're about to do a jumping jack. bend your body to the right so that your right hand touches your right foot. do not bend forward; only to the side. do as many reps of 20 [ on each side ] to get effecient results in a few weeks. this really works. it works because on the left side, the love handles are getting pulled & stretched while on the right side, it's getting turned into muscle.

- take yoga classes. i can't stress enough how good yoga is for you. it relieves stress & it targets every inch of your body, making you stronger & healthier at the same time.

- wear pants that aren't tight around the hip area. you know how sometimes you wear pants & your love handles stick out? that means your waist is a little too tight. at home, wear sweatpants. because the area under your love handles is getting tighter & tighter & has no place to go except down [ butt area ] & up [ love handles ]. if you wear comfy pants & not tight underwear, then you'll realize that they'll slowly go away with excercise.

- if you have weight problems, just eat healthy & do crunches. your stomach will lose a lot of fat, & in turn, so will your love handles :]


okay well my guinea piggie has been itching himself
a LOTTTT in the last 18 hours. i ran his fur the other
way & he was squeeling and began scratching himself
again. i couldn't find any bugs or anything, but just
a little guinea pig dandruff. so i was just wondering,
should i give him a bath? i can't take him to the vet
right now but my other guinea pig seems fine. (i do
have two). they play together. so do you have any
suggestions? he lives indoors, in his cage most of
the time. & i let him out everyday for an hour to
play in a clean, supervised area. thanks in advance. (link)
this sounds like what you're going through: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Guinea-Pigs-1574/guinea-pig-biting-scratching.htm


14/f/ca sumtimes im walking in the mall and i see this really cute guy and i like wanna talk to him and my friend says come on hilary lets go say hi and im all like NO!! well my question is how can i be more confident when it comes to talking to a cute boy i dont know

thanx in advance (link)
hey

well, first you gotta be confident by yourself. like when you are alone. look at yourself in the mirror naked & be proud of what you see. when you have a high self-esteem, you'll be more confident around cute guys.

just be yourself. be outgoing & don't mind the fact that he's hot. just think, "oh he's just some guy i'll never see him again in my life so i'll flirt with him!" that's what i do! in the mall & stuff i just smile at them & make eye contact & they do it back. just think, "well i'm never going to see him again" & that will make you feel better about talking to him.

& think to yourself, "if i make a fool of myself & act like a moron, there are SO many other guys out there. this guy doesnt' even know me!" & if you doo make a really big fool out yourself, he'll probably forget about it in like 2-3 weeks. seriously. guys have terrible memories lots of the time, espeshh. little things like a girl making a fool of herself.

just be yourself & be outgoing. pretend it's one of your guyfriends. i tend to get wobbly knees when i make eye contact with a really hot guy & then i start talkin gibberish. just stare at his nose. then he'll think you're making eye contact but you're really not . or his forehead [ incase your eyes go inward when you stare at his nose. ] smile a lot. don't look down at your feet cause it means you are nervous & he will know it.


are there color charts or something online so i see what each color is

like.. what is fuchsia burgundy mauve (link)
http://www.sugarlocks.com/boutique/images/newcolors1.jpg

http://victoryranch.com/productphotos/yarn/m_sport.jpg

http://www.mecabrush.com/images/icons/airbrush_color_chart.gif (hold your mouse over it then click the arrow to make it bigger)

http://www.chileroastersonline.com/newazchileroasters/paint.jpg


My lips are perfect, no lines or anything but my bottom lip is two times bigger then my top one and it looks so ugly! Is there something I can do or eat to help? (link)
hey

there's nothing you can do besides getting surgery to make it smaller.

but think about the benefits! guys will think you're a good kisser (cause i'm assuming you are a girl?) & it gives you a more feminine look. keep it pink with chapstick & lipgloss.


I want to wish my crush happy easter, the thing is im afraid ill regret it, he lives very far away, ive had a crush on him for 4 years, we emailed regurarly for 3 years, and then i guess he lost interest in me, and now i havnt seen him online for about 6 months (i think he blocked me, dont know why) should i still wish him a hapyy easter? im afriad ill be crushed when he doesnt answer, is there any funny way of wishing someone happy easter (not too sentimental?) so he thinks im doing it as a friend and that i dont like him.. what do you think? should i? (link)
i think you should make a new screenname, and add him to see if he really blocked you. if he did- then forget him. it was rude of him to do that, and if he doesn't want to talk to you..then don't talk to him. OR, maybe he forgot he blocked you and he's like "MAN?! i hope she gets onine!!!!"


okay so i need the facts: someone told me its good to wear a bra to sleep when your devloping because it helpss to shape them and when your already developed it prevents sagging. but then someone else told me it deforms your breast if you wear a bra to bed? which is true? do you guys wear bras to bed?


thanks in advvv
(link)
if you wear a small shoe, it won't stop your feet from growing. it's just a myth. wear a bra to hold them up! :)


14/f


ok so theres this boy and i really like him and people keep telling me that he likes me to but i'm mad shy when it comes to stuff like relationships and asking boys out. but me and him talk and hang out all the time but no in a bf gf type of way just as in a friend type of way. my friends keep pressuring me to ask him out but I'm really afrade he'll say no even thought every one keeps sayin he wants to ask me out so how do over come my shyness and ask him out????

plz help me=]] (link)
hey

look, don't listen to your friends. i've made way too many mistakes when my friends pressured me into doing things i didn't want to do.

follow your heart. if he really likes you & you think he does, then ask him out.

just be casual. pretend it's not him - open up & be yourself. or do it online / in a note so you dont have to face him while you do it. just ask if you guys wanna hang out... "hey, do you want to grab some pizza & go to the see that new movie that just came out... ?" that simple.


okay so i need the facts: someone told me its good to wear a bra to sleep when your devloping because it helpss to shape them and when your already developed it prevents sagging. but then someone else told me it deforms your breast if you wear a bra to bed? which is true? do you guys wear bras to bed?


thanks in advvv
(link)
hey

certain bras prevent the growth of the breasts.

i sometimes wear a bra to bed if i forget to take it off, but generally you shouldn't. your boobies need to breath too! & you wear it all day anyway, so why wear it to sleep?


okay well i want to create comment tabs for myspace. but i dunt know where to find it. (link)
http://www.askdavetaylor.com/delete_an_undeleteable_myspace_comment.html





that web site tells u how to get tabs.


I got a new Nokia N70 Music ed. yesterday. I was playing around with it this morn, downloading themes and stuff.
I wanted to try downloading a game, so I did. The game's called New York King or something like that, if it matters. I didn't really like it so I wanted to delete it but it won't let me!
I wanted to try moving it to my memory card on the phone and then format the card or something, but no such option was in the phone...
I really wanna get rid of that game .. It's a waste of my phone memory and annoying to see it on my games' list..

Help?

Thanks,
Vei. (link)
if something like ringtones games etc came when you bought the phone, then you cant get rid of them. its pretty stupid seeing how it just wastes usefull memory.


i dont know what is going on my anus hole itches so badly i know i dont have pinworms or anything because they told me to check my poop and i found nothing so if anyone can help i would be so grateful (link)
hey

well that probably got caused because of the fact you haven't been wiping your butt properly after you go pottie

so, when you go for a shower, just like clean it out & make sure there's no ... extraneous stuff chilling out there.

& then i'd head over to the doctor so they can find out what you have cause it's probably not anything deadly serious but unless the advicenators people can go over to your house & see your actual butthole, then we can't really tell you anything for sure.

you might have an STD if you are sexually active.

check out this site? it might help you:
http://www.poopreport.com/Doctor/Knowledgebase/itchyasscrack.html?from=140&comments_per_page=140

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Okey well all my friends are all most the sam,
well when it comes two this.

okey so thay ask me if i can do something & if i cant ill tell them and say where on the phone & the`ll be like OH well i gotta go or just stop talking. or be like can i call you back later & never call me backk

im a a suckkyyy friend? (link)
hey

no, but if you said you'd call back & don't then well... how would you like it if your friend did that to you? try to keep your promises.

just watch out for what you say. it's not your fault you're busy & if you tell them that, then they should understand.

try saying sorry to them about all the times you've done that? hang out with them to make up for all those times you have been busy? give them a call once to see what's up & not have them call you?

those are just some suggestions.

but try not to do it any more :]


my bff just recenly introduced me to her crush and ugh..i think i'm starting to crush on him too. hes like everything i've been looking for and i have no clue what to do. but right now i'm just keeping my emotions to myself and letting her have her crush with him. but i did tell her to ask him who he liked or flirt more or something to hint to him more to get something going between them. but any suggestions on what to do about the situation. should i tell her? should i just wait it all out and see what happens between them? and oh yeah tonight her and i hung out with him and a few other guys andi talked to him more than she did. you can't even tell she likes him except a few times she'll do somethings and he'll do little things too but i don't think theres anything. just please give me some suggestions on what to do because i have no clue and i don't wann lose a bff. (link)
hey

dont tell her. because in like two weeks or something if you stop liking it, she wouldn't have known & NOTHING would have happened.

for now, just keep it to yourself. talk to the guy, but as hard as it may seem, just treat him like a friend. hang out with other guys to take your mind off of him.

if you just can't stop thinking about him & it's been over 2 weeks & NOTHING has changed, then i still suggest not telling her. i mean even though she's probably a really good friend & all, she could always get really territorial about him & block all your conversations at parties & say "you're flirting with him!" she'll pay more attention to you & him when you guys are talking. it will be awkward for both of you. & your friendship may end up down the drain. she probably won't even notice when you & him talk ... & she can't even accuse you of flirting with him cause you dont like him (or so she thinks.)

look, if you REALLY think you need to tell her for any reason, it's your risk, honest. but for right now just don't tell her cause it will cause weird feelings for both of you. the last thing you want is to be fighting over a GUY.

just talk to him & flirt with him. but i'm sorry to say you can't really hang out with him one - on - one unless your friend is a really laidback person who doesn't mind cause she trusts you. & don't break her trust & like make-out with him. that would hurt her. maybe you all could go to the movies or something & you could sit next to him :] just try to keep your mind off it though, dude. cause you never know what could happen.

"out of sight, out of mind" < eventually. just keep your mind off him & if your friend keeps bringing him up & saying things like, "OMG HE HUGGED ME" oohh, i know you're going to want to slap her haha, but you gotta act like you dont like him.

i hope i helped & good luck.

ps - there's no reason to feel guilty. it's who you like. it's totally fine. & by not telling her who you like is NOT lying! just letting you know.. you can keep certain things to yourself once in a while.




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