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not a good prob. to have with a bff
my bff just recenly introduced me to her crush and ugh..i think i'm starting to crush on him too. hes like everything i've been looking for and i have no clue what to do. but right now i'm just keeping my emotions to myself and letting her have her crush with him. but i did tell her to ask him who he liked or flirt more or something to hint to him more to get something going between them. but any suggestions on what to do about the situation. should i tell her? should i just wait it all out and see what happens between them? and oh yeah tonight her and i hung out with him and a few other guys andi talked to him more than she did. you can't even tell she likes him except a few times she'll do somethings and he'll do little things too but i don't think theres anything. just please give me some suggestions on what to do because i have no clue and i don't wann lose a bff.
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If you don't want to hurt your friend then you need to forget about him for a while. Meaning, no, don't tell her, and no, don't act on your feelings.
If something ends up happening between her and him, then so be it. If not, then so be it.
Let her get over her crush and move on to a different one before you consider telling her or acting upon your feelings for this guy.
I promise you that it is for the best if you want to keep her your bff.
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Dear Person,
I think you really should explain your feelings to your BFF. If you guys are really tight then i think she would understand. The whole, "theres like nothing between them" thing (not trying to insult you) i dont think is a right way to describe it. Maybe they really like each other and love hanging out together. I would say admit your feelings to your friends.
-YOLIV:)
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hey
dont tell her. because in like two weeks or something if you stop liking it, she wouldn't have known & NOTHING would have happened.
for now, just keep it to yourself. talk to the guy, but as hard as it may seem, just treat him like a friend. hang out with other guys to take your mind off of him.
if you just can't stop thinking about him & it's been over 2 weeks & NOTHING has changed, then i still suggest not telling her. i mean even though she's probably a really good friend & all, she could always get really territorial about him & block all your conversations at parties & say "you're flirting with him!" she'll pay more attention to you & him when you guys are talking. it will be awkward for both of you. & your friendship may end up down the drain. she probably won't even notice when you & him talk ... & she can't even accuse you of flirting with him cause you dont like him (or so she thinks.)
look, if you REALLY think you need to tell her for any reason, it's your risk, honest. but for right now just don't tell her cause it will cause weird feelings for both of you. the last thing you want is to be fighting over a GUY.
just talk to him & flirt with him. but i'm sorry to say you can't really hang out with him one - on - one unless your friend is a really laidback person who doesn't mind cause she trusts you. & don't break her trust & like make-out with him. that would hurt her. maybe you all could go to the movies or something & you could sit next to him :] just try to keep your mind off it though, dude. cause you never know what could happen.
"out of sight, out of mind" < eventually. just keep your mind off him & if your friend keeps bringing him up & saying things like, "OMG HE HUGGED ME" oohh, i know you're going to want to slap her haha, but you gotta act like you dont like him.
i hope i helped & good luck.
ps - there's no reason to feel guilty. it's who you like. it's totally fine. & by not telling her who you like is NOT lying! just letting you know.. you can keep certain things to yourself once in a while.
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Dear BFF,
A boy is probably the stupidest reasons to loose a best friend over. If she's your best friend, talk to her, tell her how it is, tell her how you feel. The longer you wait, the more upset she might be that you didnt tell her earlier and she'll be even more upset probably that you didnt think that your friendship could surive a boy. ITS JUST A BOY, there's more to come. Dont let him ruin a friendship. If you're bff is over him, then ask for her okay to make a move on him if thats what you want. but be sure to ask her again and again and again because sometimes, being a best friend myself, I hide things sometime because being a best friend means that you want your best friend to be happy. No matter how much it hurts the other bf. I hope this helped and good luck. let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa
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