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my boyfriend and i have been having sex for over six months now, but it doesn't seem as pleasant when he uses a condom. Does anyone have any solutions as to other things we could use for protection instead? (link)
you can now buy a huge variety of condoms. you get these ones with little dots on it, that increase pleasure for you AND him. you can buy so many dfferent condoms, im sure one of them is perfect for you.


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SOMEONE please answer my question:
how do i upload a picture of myself onto advicinators?????
im so confused! thanx in advance! :) (link)
On the left, you will see "Inbox, Favorite, Categories, etc.." Click "PROFILE SETTINGS" then you'll see "Upload a Picture Of Me." Click Browse and find your picture.


ive had discharge for about 3 years now and im 13, but i havent gotten my period. i was in health class and it said to get your period you must have boobs[[or small ones..ha like me!]] you get discharge, pubic hair, and on eother thing that i have gotten!!! i think something is rong with me. both sides of my family seem to have gotten there period young, or who ive talked to, my aunt my mom, and my other aunt. is something worong with me???? (link)
Give it time. Just because your family started that early doesn't mean that you have to. I mean, it can't go on FOREVER. But, just give it time. You can start anywhere from 8 years old - 16 years old. Possibly later, but that would be abnormal. My mom started in 7th and I started in 8th.


what's the myspace URL for a music site that has the song "sara" by stevie knicks? (link)
All Stevie Knicks has is "Edge of Seventeen" and "Tell Me Lies" and here is the URL for those - http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=89950826


i know this sounds really odd, but i have hair on my nipples. I feel real uncomfortable around people, becasue of it. i dont think its very natural, and i think somethings wrong..is there anything wrong? does it happen to anyoen else?...i really want to know! (link)
Yeah, I have it too. :] It is perfectly normal. Just leave it, everyone has it.


14/f. I have a hairy stomache. I thought this was normal untill my one friend said something to me. Theres like blonde hairs on my stomache, its not that noticable, but it is somewhat. Is this okay? If not what is wrong with me? (link)
It is perfectly normal. Everyone is different. :] But if you want to get rid of it, I don't suggest shaving. I tried to shave mine, and it left a bunch of red dots (irritation). You could wax, or possibly nair.. but not shave.


I am so annoyed. I always have acne. It is like..constant break outs, and it never stops. I dont know what else to do. I have tried everything from clearasil, neutrogena, clean and clear, differin, duac, tea tree oil, clinique 3 step skin care, olay, and alot more. I usually break out around the T zone, my chin, and forehead..basically everywhere. Please dont give me amateur advice. Like..drink plenty of water and get a lot of sleep ( I do anyways. ) Also please dont recommend products that you have never tried. Please recommend what you think will REALLY work for me. And also please don't tell me not to wear makeup because I cant stand to see myself without the acne covered up. I need a moisturizer also because if I dont use it before I put makeup on, than it looks cakey. But that may be because I have big pores in the spots that it looks cakey. Any help for big pores? I would really appreciate your advice
Thanks (link)
I got ProActiv a few weeks ago, and I've been using it and is SERIOUSLY working. I use to have big pores on my nose and my forehead was just covered. But now, it's almost all gone. You should order ProActiv. (Link below) The one I ordered costed $59.95 but it was really worth it.

(The 5-piece deluxe system) http://www.proactiv.com/order/order_now.php?pactvid=f72f9701d7ba983e945ee16f22529186



--- I don't understand why I got a 3. You shouldn't rate like that. I went and found the link, found the price and described it. ProActiv was the only thing that worked for me. Like you, I had tried tons of different products also. THANKS, you make my rating drop LOW.


Ok i've always been wondering this, but what if space had gravity pulling you down....where would you go if you kept fallig? Would you fall forever or something? (link)
hey

well, there really is no "down" in space. you probably would fall forever, or for a very, very, very, very, VERY long time. cause honestly, space is bigger than anything you can ever even possibly attempt to imagine.

so, it would be very close to "forever." cause i'm sure space does end somewhere, even if humans are far too small & incapable of figuring how big space is.

we're probably just a bunch of living organisms in a droplet of water. in a droplet of water, it's a universe for many living organisms.

getting off topic - anyway, there is no "downard" in space... so i guess you would fall until you died. and if you were immortal, you're gonna get bored really fast :]

i hope i helped!


I just got an AIM and when i was signing up (i had yahoo) it asked me for my email so i said my yahoo email. and now my email address is my screen name!! i REALLY dont want it to be that, i want it to be my name and a few numbers or something, so my question is can i change my screenname? or do i have to make a new account? (link)
i think you put your email in the wrong section cause theres a box where it optional and you can make your email your sn so i think you might have to make a new sn.


Heyy. Well I'm really trying to get a 4.0 this quarter, so does anyone have some available, working study tips in mind? I would really appreciate it.

ps-oh yeah, I'm 14/f if that's of any help. thanksssss. (link)
hey

i reread & rewrite everything to make sure it stays in my head. it all depends on if youre a visual learner, auditory or a combination.

here is a GREAT site:
http://www.how-to-study.com/

i strongly suggest you read all of this information & keep it as a favorite / bookmark.

i hope i helped & good luck getting a 4.0! :)


what's the best shampoo and conditioner in your opinion? (link)
hey

herbal essences... but get it specialized for dry hair, oily hair, etc. that matches you & it will work great. it makes it smell good too.

everyone's hair is different. if you want softer, longer hair then i suggest dove. it's like... lotion for your hair!


ive had discharge for about 3 years now and im 13, but i havent gotten my period. i was in health class and it said to get your period you must have boobs[[or small ones..ha like me!]] you get discharge, pubic hair, and on eother thing that i have gotten!!! i think something is rong with me. both sides of my family seem to have gotten there period young, or who ive talked to, my aunt my mom, and my other aunt. is something worong with me???? (link)
hey

no, absolutely not. nothing is wrong with you. you are just a late bloomer & you will get your period really soon.

dont worry - it means it's coming & will be there in less than a few months / weeks. just be aware & make sure you're not finding small spots of blood - that is the first sign of getting your period.

i hope i helped & you have nothing to worry about :]


i want more guy friends. like, it's not even about getting or a boyfriend or flirting or anything. i'm just SOOO tired of all the stupid, immature, catty drama that comes along with girl friends. i have a couple guy friends, but not alot - only one really good one. how do i make more? i really want more really good guy friends. any advice? thanks so much! (link)
hey

couldn't agree more.

in class, if you sit next to a guy you want to become better friends with & you just got back a test, without sounding nosy, just be like, "ugh i wish i had done better!" or "OMG thank god" & be like, "what did you get?" that's a great conversation starter.

just be yourself & you will be accepted by guys. start getting their screen names & just casual talk. like, did you start the project, or are you going on vacation anywhere this summer? it's all about the talking - in person & online / out of school


omg. ok. so. im 13/f and am really outgoing and nice and everything. i love sports, theatre, and make straight A's. I'm pretty good at singing too, but I'm soooo scared to do it in front of people. I don't know why. I'm going to a speech tournament and I'm doing a vocal solo, along with other speaking and acting stuff. I have no problem with those - singing is the only thing that freaks me out in front of people.

Please help - no one else seems to give good enough advice. Oh and I've tried doing it in front of my friends first - but even that Ican't do. Not even in front of my mom, which I tell EVERYTHING.

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hey

just relaxxx! it's totally cool. we all have stage fright... even celebrities! i totally know how you feel - but i dont sing like that. just in the shower :P

well, first you have to be confident. you may be thinking, "well it's not that i have a lack of confidence.." well, if you do what i'm about to tell you it might help. first, sing to yourself. look in the mirror, look right in your eyes & just sing a song. be confident. let your voice flow. & just remember that you are singing, staring right into your own eyes. it's just you, alone. go up to your mom. sit her down & sing to her. look into her eyes. just imagine yourself singing in front of your mirror. think to yourself, "i sound so good! i am going to make it big time one day babyy!" & you will. just close your eyes & picture yourself standing in front of your mirror, singing your heart out. if you conquer that, do that in front of a couple of friends. now dont be scared. you have to find the confidence within yourself. just keep picturing yourself in front of your mirror, just you & yourself. or if you feel really confident in front of your mom, imagine your mom & you standing there, in the mirror. & sing to them. just keep practicing in front of the mirror. be serious. it's just you... & who cares what people think? if you're scared thinking about what people will think about your voice, imagine all the singers out there with haters. no one is perfect. everyone will have some people that don't like them. but all that matters is the majority. dont look at the people you're singing to. close your eyes & imagine yourself just singing to yourself, in the shower or in front of a mirror.

i guarantee, if you are passionate about singing & you really want to be more confident about yourself in front of people, what i told you will help.

i really hope i helped you & you conquer your fear of singing in front of people.

- :]


would you call the greatest in the world if you absolutely had too? Base it on quality of the music, showmanship, and their overall influence. Also say why you chose them:

-Led Zeppelin
-The Beatles
-AC/DC
-The Rolling Stones
-The Doors
-Metallica
-Pink Floyd
-Nirvana
-The Jimi Hendrix Experience

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Oh gosh! I LOVE all of these. I would say either Led Zepplin, The Beatles, or AC/DC. The Beatles are a legend. They've so much different styles of music. Led Zepplin has some pretty darn wicked stuff. AC/DC just plain rockssss! Man, sorry I can't help much.. :( But it was a hard question :)


why do some girls get cramps really bad while others barely get any? my cramps hurt realllyyy bad and my friend never gets them (link)
hey

it all depends on your body & heredity. some girls were just born with it while others experience no such discomfort.

like some periods, you'll notice you get terrible cramps when others, you can't even tell you got your period.

you can easily reduce the discomfort by taking medicne, such as midol or advil, taking a long, hot bath, and / or putting a heating pad on your lower abdominal area. excercicising, to some degree, may also reduce cramps.


Listen, most of my bffls are moving this summer, and i have alot of picture books, but i dont have any money for a camera. What should I do? Should I just leave with no memory or what.

P.S. I'm really scared for my closest bffl, because we have known each other since 2nd grade. Ill miss her the most, what should I do? (link)
hey

i definitely suggest buying disposable cameras & filling up those photo albums, if that's what you meant. hang out with all of them one last time & take a bunch of pics. it will make you feel really good inside. there's no need to buy a digital camera, but if you really want it, just ask your parents if you could buy one for this one special occasion. &, like the girl siad under me, you could borrow one of your friends & take as many pics as you want and get them uploaded. you could also buy a cheap one from www.ebay.com, or, if you are really desperate, buy a regular one, use it for that one occasion & return it. no one will ever know you took 908324903248 pics & just returned it :-P

you can always visit your closest bffl. although you didn't specify how far you guys will be apart, you can always call / email / im. & if you guys are really tight & she is a true friend, she will keep in touch no matter what.


can i finger myself. would i bleed or pop my cherry. or anything else. could my doctor tell if i did. (link)
hey

yes, you are allowed to finger yourself.
you wouldn't bleed unless you have your period or you do it WAY too hard. you should never finger yourself so vigorously that you begin to bleed... EVER!
you'll pop your cherry if you've never used a tampon properly and / or if you have had sex. you can only pop your cherry if your finger goes WAY WAY deep into your vagina. i think it's impossible for someone's finger to get inserted deeply enough to pop a cherry.

could your doctor tell if you what, fingered yourself? no.

there's nothing you have to worry about. fingering yourself is for pleasure, & no one will know you did it.


I discharge alot. Its not just right before my periods going to come. Its usually a little bit each and everyday, somedays more, somedays less. Well, its clear and it doesn't have a scent, so thats good. However, I'm worried that it might be bad that I discharge so much. Also, its a pain because I constantly feel wet. I hate wearing pantyliners because I prefer wearing thongs, plus they never make me feel dry.

What should I do? (link)
hey

it's probably normal because all girls discharge a little bit. just wash it out everyday & make sure you clean it really well.

i think it's nothing serious, but if you feel wet just change your thong & put a new one on. or maybe you might consider going to the gyno / doctor to have it checked out in case of something. its nothing serious, most-likely.


Ok, so I have really, really bad period cramps and I want to make them go away fast because I'm going out in about an hour. Any ideas? (link)
hey

midol works really well, & fast. try a couple, or the dosage recommended. other than that, take a nice warm bath [ bath - not shower? ] & it will sooth your stomach area. lay on your back & read a book - or put a heating pad on your stomach.




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