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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
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Ok I am having a realy hard time finding a boyfriend and so do I need aboyfriend or not?

No one needs a boyfriend ... you can be perfectly happy without one. And if you are really searching for someone, it won't happen. sometimes when you stop looking for soemthing it is the exact moment you find what you were looking for. So for now, just stop trying to find a boyfriend, you honeslty don't need one, it's not a life or death kinda thing haha :] It'll happen for you eventually, and when it does, I wish you the best of luck.
good luck and have fun :] hope i helped ! xxo.

My ex boyfriend and I broke up recently. He broke up with me for a really complicated reason involving the amount of freedom i am allowed to have due to my overprotective parents. I've felt pretty horrible the last week because of it, kind of been having this aching feeling in my stomach. We agreed to stay best friends because there can't be any other way. However, it's complicated, and I know people always say you can't be friends right away but if I don't talk to him not only will I feel bad but he will think something is wrong. The point is that we both love eachother still and I'm hoping we could get back together in the future. We talked about it and he says he wants to but that the situation right now can't allow for it. But right now not only have I not seen him in forever, but I find that he is talking about how "cute" certain girls look. It's really annoying me on the inside and I have this urge to yell at him for it, but how can I? I feel kind of hurt but I'm trying to suck it up and just go along with it. It's just really hard sometimes. :(

Aww :[ I'm sorry. I know the whole "controlling parents" thing blows. It's hard to have a relationsbip with that kinda stuff [i know :(] okay, anyways, I think that he's bringing up these "cute girls" because he wants to get a reaction out of you ... maybe a jealous reaction. Because he knows you still love him, he probably just wants you to say it to him more often and beg for him to come back to you, and for him to say that the timing just isn't right. If this is bothering you, you should probably subtly bring it up in one of your conversations. or just straight out tell him that it really bothers you when he talks about how cute some of the girls he knows are. if you don't speak up, he won't listen or he won't know it's bothering you. He might also be trying to convince himself that he's moving on from you for the time being when he really isn't because he misses you, so his way of forgetting that he misses you is by telling you how cute all these girls are. and he may also be saying this to get you both back into the friends zone and not the relationship one. boys can be clever that way. Don't yell at him .. if you talk to him nicely about it at first and he's being an ass about it, then yell at him, and take your anger out, i don't advice you to do that first though. haha, it only leads to more problems.
Never keep your feelings inside, if you want to say something to someone, say it or you'll be wondering for a while "what if..." and that's the hardest part. Don't just go along with it, he probably WANTS you to say something, and is just waiting for you to. I know it's hard, it's relaly tough and I give you ALOT of credit for sticking it out this long without saying anything, but i think nows the time to say it so you can clear the air and your mind.
good luck, and if you need anything else, just inbox me :] ! hope i helped, and remember, communication is key, xxo.

Okay so there is this Guy, I am in 10th grade and I have known him since 7th and we have dated off and on since then. So right now we like each other a lot and we do stuff ( sexual not sex) all the time...But he wont ask me out. I dont know what his deal is.. I mean we both love each other but he just doesnt want a relationship but he still wants everything that should come with a relationship. I know he is not using me but I really want a strong relationship...do you have any advise on what I should do??? I love him a lot!

~Kayla

Maybe he's not ready to be in a relationship ... and just wants to have something low key and not official. He could also be intimidated by relationship or he might think that being in a relationship would mess up the way things are ging now and how good they are. You should defiently talk to him about it, because it could be an insecurity he has and the only way you can find out the REAL reason why he does this is if you just straight up ask him. Communication is key. There are SO MANY possibilites as to why he doesn't want to have a relationship, so just ask him and you'll find out. If he loves you and trusts you he'll tell you, if not .. then just remain how you both are and keep on doing what you're doing, only if YOU feel comfortable in doing that and WANT to keep the things the way they are. but if you're not happy, then talk to him. it's the only way you'll know the true answer. :]
hope i helped ! good luck, xxo.

My best friend is dating my other best friend which is also the guy I like.She knows I like him but she's going out with him anyways.Now shes mad at me because she thinks im mad at her and no matter what I say to her she wont listen. What do I do? I am 13 years old and female

:[ that's a sucky situation, but I've been there and done thaat haha. so here it goes, sometimes people just need to cool off. and if you give her some space, like maybe a little while of not talking to her, she'll come to her senses. If she won't listen to you, either make her or just let it go and let her come to YOU. Because obviously, you haven't done anything wrong, she probably feels pretty guitly that she's going out with the guy you like, so by not wanting to cause a problem, she ignores what you say or makes it an even BIGGER deal than it actually is because she doesn't know how to handle it. If she thinks youre mad at her, she might just want an excuse so she can say something like, "you have no right to be mad at me..." so that she can be mad at you too. and even when you tell her that you're not mad, she doesn't believe you or chooses not to listen, then thats her immature problem. You're only 13, don't worry about it, this will pass, you'll find another guy and she eventually will too. so don't let this little thing ruin your friendship. just let her cool off and give her some space. Maybe also talk to the guy [your best friend] who she's going out with. talk to him about the situation and he could talk to her, and it might knock some sense into her. Just be nice and everything will be okay, I promise :]
good luck and don't sweat it, it'll work itself out in no time :] ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

okay so i've been dating this guy for about 8 months. he was seriously my other half, he was the love of my life and i seriously loved him and every moment i spent with him and i got that "undescribable feeling" when he looked me in the eyes up until the day we broke up...recently we've been talking and hanging out again....however i don't really feel comfortable around him...i know he doesn't judge me and loves me but i still get nervous around him because i love him so much...and like i can't be without makeup around him..i trust him and love him but i'm just not comfortable...we've been talking about getting together but idk if i should get together with someone i don't feel completely comfortable with...even if i do love him to death..or are there any ways to make me more comfortable? he said he would never judge me and everything but i still get nervous around him and want to be perfect =/

Everybody gets that feeling where they want to be perfect for the person they love, but you just have to be yourself and do what you feel is comfortable. If you don't want to take off your makeup around him, I'm positive he wouldn't mind either way. Honestly, if he loves you as much as you love him, he won't care what you look like, he'll think you're just as beautiful with makeup on then with no makeup at all. It's okay to feel comfortable about that stuff, in regards to makeup and things, you want to look nice and appealing for him, he feels the same way [trust me] towards you ... and if you can't stand to take your makeup off around him, don't let that little factor decide your fate with him. I say give it another shot, it takes time to be COMPLETLY comfortable with a person, even after 8 months and a breakup and then an almost get back together, but if your having doubts and you honestly don't feel comfortable with him AT ALL under any circumstances, then don't go through with it. wait a little longer, see if you can get used to the idea of being with him again, and then make your decision. these things take time, even when you love a person with all your heart, it doesnt mean you HAVE to get back into a realtionship if you don't feel ready. If somethins holding you back, its your mind and heart basically telling you to wait a little longer and see what happens. talk to him about how you feel, and TRY to believe him when he says he won't judge you. I know its hard, [trust me, I KNOW] but you won't get over it until you become completly comfortable in your own skin, and maybe when that happens, you can be with him.
Don't try to be perfect hun, nobody is. In his eyes, you ARE perfect, and no makeup or makeup couldnt possibly change that. he loves you and you love him, it's as easy as that :]
good luck and dont sweat it, just tell him exactly what you told us on advicenators, he'll help you out if he really loves and understands you. if you need anything else, inbox me ! :] hope i helped, xxo.

People never really call me weird, but im sure they do because high school is like that .

i made a bunch of plans to hang with people and people always hang out with me as sloppy seconds.
i feel really bad because im new here, but people say im not really new.
ive been here for 6 months and people have hurt me a lot.
and have talked because my back a lot. and i havent done anything to anyone.
all i did was have a boyfriend and we broke up.
i guess im just not cool enough.
i feel horrible about it
this from monday - to now, friday morning.
ive been asking people if they wanted to go to the movies
or do this, do that.
go to the mall
and no one wants to.
and now that i realized it.
i think i have a talking problem
i dont know how to talk properly to people.
i am really open and ask them questions of what they think about high school
and so they say "oh ive got to go"

i feel so left out, i don't know what to do.
ive looked up advice of how to be mature, how to remain calm.
and ive asked really close friends from other countries that ive lived in for help and they say, "its just the american culture to be mean to everyone"

Hahaa, not all americans are mean :] There are plenty of nice people out there, and there are plenty of mean people too. So there's a fair share of both. Just because you've lived in different places does NOT mean that you should be treated any differently than somebody else. Obviously, those idiots are jealous of you and want what you've had or still have. If you don't fit in, then stand out ! Who cares what people think of you, you are so much better than them, and don't worry, in no time, you're gonna find a group of friends who will accept you and want to be your friend. Not some jerks who talk behind your back and hate you for no apparent reason. If I were you, I'd either stop talking to those mean kids or be nice to them, just don't hang out with them or waste any more of your time on them. They're not worth it, trust me. You don't deserve to be treated as a "sloppy second" you sould be treated as NUMBER ONE :] hahaa everyone should feel like that, not unhappy.
When you go back to school, just talk to all kinds of different people, and you'll find kids who will let you be you :] and like you for it. Oh, and for now, just try meeting new people, and stay away from those jerks.
good luck !hope i helped. have fun and don't sweat it, you'll be fine :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

A month or so ago my best friend started hanging out with this girl, and they became really good friends. welll, ever since then they hang out all the time, and do almost everything together. I havent really hung out with my bff for a long time. and i miss her, i really do. i feel like i should tell her that i feel left out. i mean i dont care that she hangs out with the girl, i just wish she would include me in their plans sometimes..help! :(

16/f

If you miss your best friend, tell her. Sometimes people change and so do who they hang out with. She might not know that this is really upsetting you, so you should just talk to her. Communication is key, and without it, nothing will get solved. And if she doesn't include you in her plans, it may be because she thinks you'll be mad that she has more than one best friend. Try and call her, and ask her to hang out, just you and her, and then explain yo her how you're feeling, and that you want to get your friendship back on track.
Hope I helped ! good luck and it'll all work out in the end :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 months. hes 17 and im 16 i was wondering how can i keep our text convos more interesting and lively instead of often asking "whats up?" or "what are you doing now?" please help me. thanks

Hahaa, I know the feeling ;] I agree with the advice below me, 20 questions is SUCH a fun game to play in person or on text or computer anything. You can ask really random questions. OH and the game, "would you rather..." also livens up any conversation. I played this with my boyfriend and it got us onto SO many different conversations on text. I was like, "would you rather be in a room full of bees or in a room full of spiders?" and he replied with bees. and I was like wtf ?! but they sting and then we got into this whole conversation about what we're afraid of and stuff and it was so fun. You could do that. Or you could say the "what ifs" like, what if you became a doctor when you get out of school..? things like that really keep the conversation going. Also, if he asks what you're doing, put some mystery into it, you could say something like, "what do you think I'm doing?" or "take a guess ;]" he'll find it in intriguing, most guys do. hahaa.
Those are just some little tips, hope i helped, good luck ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] have fun, xxo.

thanks so much for helping me...but my plan got a little messed up...so we just talked on the phone about some stuff and he said he still has feelings for me, but he isn't ready for a relationship because he kinda just wants to have fun and he thinks its hard work. he then said that if he went to a party with me he wouldn't trust himself because the good feelings would come back. he also said that he's been only thinking about the good times we had together and none of the bad. i asked him to go on vacation with me because i thought the time was right and he said he definetly wanted to but he has to make sure his dad will have left by then (he's a soilder in iraq and comes home for like a month). but he made it clear he definetly wanted to go.... so how can i make him see that he can have fun AND be in a relationship (not fun as in have sex with other girls, but like not have to have relationship stress on his shoulders) i miss him tonssssss =/

Well, since he definetly wants to go on vacation with you, that's really good, because he WANTS to be around you, and you can show him that being in a relationship isnt "not fun" and that with you it can be fun. But if the whole vacation thing doesn't work out, you can hang out with him and do new and exciting things, like surprise him ... and NO DRAMA or fights, because that will NOT help the situation. you could surprise him by...
- getting tickets to go see a baseball game or some sort of sporting game when you're just supposed to be hanging out, but do it as a surprise show up with tickets and be like HEY look what I got :] ! hahaa he'll be SO superduper excited, trust me.
- go to a waterpark/themepark with him, but also make it a surprise, you could be like, "sooo.. I have a surprise for you, but I'm not telling you where we're going, put on some swim shorts and a tshirt and some money and get in the car ;]" haha he'l also love that and he'll find it very fun and attractive that you're taking control.
- if he comes to your house or you go to his, either bring groceries [if youre going to his house] or make sure you have all the ingredients you need [if he's coming to your house] to cook together a dinner or lunch or something [dependsing on the time] be like we're cooking ! woo :] hahaa, he'll be so stoked and it will justy take him by surprise.
Guys will see that they can be in relationships that are fun if you do fun things. Fun and creative things that is. Like going to a concert even, maybe having a picnik somewhere. But it's how you make it, he'll relaize that a relationship with you CAN be as fun as not bign in a relationship and having sex with random girls. hahaa. You just gotta prove it.
Good luck and have fun ! :] hope I helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] I'm always here for youu, so keep me updated ! hahaa. xxo.

my boyfriend broke up with me because he feels like i don't trust him cause i don't know how to like express what i'm thinking i guess ...i don't really know how to put what i'm thinking into words cause i only trust him and my dad so i don't really know how to open up =/ i do trust him so much though and i told him that...what are some ways i can prove it to him?

I have MAJOR trust issues, people have screwed me over so many times, it's hard to open up, I know. With my boyfriend, we trust eachother because I guess I'm "good with words" anyways, if you want your boyfriend to know that you trust him, you need to open up to him. Have you talked to him about all of this ? How you only trust him and your dad so it's really hard for you to prove that you trust someone when you haven't had much experience in that category ? If you haven't, you need to. Maybe tell him a secret of yours ? a secret that's meaningful.. maybe something that happened in your past ? If you tell him something that he KNOWS you wouldn't just tell a random person, than he'll see you opening up to him.
You can tell him someting like, "I just want you to know that no matter how much you think I don't trust you, I do. There are only 2 people in my life whom I trust, and you're one of them. I want to tell you something ... something nobody really knows ... and I want to tell you because I trust you..."
something along the lines of that will really draw his attention and realize that it IS hard for you to open up, but if you put things in words, he may understand more than not saying anything at all. sometimes it takes more than saying you trust a person with all of your heart, you have to SHOW them by telling them secrets and such, but only if you REALLY trust him and feel comfortable in doing so. Maybe you can make him a mixtape of songs about trust and stuff if telling him a secret you have really doesn't work. And if the mixtape doesn't work after that, then he's not worth it and you can find someone else who won't break up with you because they think you don't trust them, and they'll appreciate the fact that you TRY opening up, but it's hard.
You sound like a great person who deserves a great guy who will be there for you even if they have their doubts about trusting you. hope I helped, and if you need ANYTHING else, I'm always here. good luck ! :] xxo.

my boyfriend and i are starting to grow apart, weve been together for a veryy long time and were planning on getting married. but now we fight alot because i im having medical problems and get hospitalized alot and hes mentally unstable but when were together it seems like our problems pretty much disappear. he says we dont need to makeout anymore because we already love eachother but i want to still.. is there anything i can do to become as inseprable as we used to be? or anything sweet i could do or say?

You can try your hardest to convince him and yourself that this realtionship is the best thing for the both of you, but like the other advice that was given to you below me, it won't work. You shouldn't have to try to make the both of you as inseperable as you used to be, and I know that's not what you want to hear, but if you want to have a healthy relationship, I'm not going to sugarcoat the truth for you. You sound like a wonderful person, and you obviously care about your boyfriend very much, but sometimes when you care about someone it's better to set them free and find something that matches their new found lifestyle then to keep them with you when both of your paths no longer collide. He is not mentally stable, ok, well, if he's in that state, maybe until he gets better, you should go on a break, so he can get better, just like you with being in a hospital often. You can't help that, and if he can't handle that, then you need to find someone that CAN. There are other people out there, he's not the only one, you may think he is, but if things are no longer working out, then you can find someone else. And he may say that you guys don't need to make out anymore because you both love eachother, which may just be a nicer way of telling you that he doesn't have or want the urge to kiss you or makeout with you.. Things have obviously changed, and you deserve someone who will love and care and cherish you, who can take care of you, and with his mental state and feelings at the moment, he's not capable of doing that. But if you really want to, tell him how you feel by maybe making him a mixtape of all the songs that explain how you feel about him, or just tell him how much you love him.. but remember, saying it possibly won't change anything.
Hope I helped, if you need anything else feel free to inbox me hun :] good luck ! xxo.

Ok i am 13 and i want to go in a chat room were i can just flirt with guys my age what chat rooms should i go to.

I can GUARENTEE you that there is basically no chat room where there will be guys your age that you can just flirt with. And it never ends up to be "just flirting" these guys will entice you to give them your number or other information that can lead them to you. They are most likely older men, like in their 40's or 30's and such, even older, waiting for young girls, like yourself, to come online, give them your number and then ... who knows what, but the outcome will NOT be good. Personally, if I were you, I would just go out and meet guys in PERSON face to face, not over a computer screen, because you never know who you may be talking to on the other end, and this whole situation is potentially VERY dangerous for you. So, please, stop searching for chatrooms and go out and have fun :] meeting guys with maybe your friends and stuff will be a billion times more fun or just flirt with guys in your school or something haha, not a chatroom.
have fun, be safe and be CAREFUL, hope I helped. good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

THe other night I got in a fight with my dad about our past and I started writting and this is exactly what came out on paper: "I look for love that is my purpose in life, to search for something I may never find or feel. Not once in my life have I felt that I was truely loved by any one person. I tend to do anything and everything I can to feel loved, rithout love I will always be unhappy. If I die without finding true love I will have had no purpose in life! I need fullfilment, to feel complete. I honestly blame my mother and father for my problem! They were never around to give me the love I needed as a child, and now I search for a different kind of love the hardest kind to find, True Love! I get myself into so much trouble and heartache at times doing anything I can to make guys happy hoping that one day they will love me, but they never do!"

So thats my problem! HELP PLEASE? :(

Sometimes, you can't go looking for true love ... sometimes it just happens to find you. And that's the best part of it, it's fate. You shouldn't be trying to make guys happy so that they will "love" you, you have to make yourself happy, before anyone else, and then you'll realize that, you'll find true love someday, maybe not tomorrow, or the next day, but it will happen and you can't just force it. I can tell that you want to become the mother that you never had, so you feel that finding true love now and fast will make that happen, but it's more like, you stumble upon love, and putting yourself through constant heartbreak is probably very overwhelming.
If you're with a guy, and you have the feeling that you "need" to do anything and everything to make him happy, so that he'll love you, he most likely won't respect you, and he'll take advantage of you because you're vulneable, but if it's equal, and you and the guy BOTH make eachother happy and truly want to do whatever it takes to BE HAPPY and to BE IN LOVE, then that's when you'll find true love. I know it's hard, but you WILL find love or it will find you, you don't have to rush it. You sound like such a good person and to put yourself through all of this to end up hurt isn't what you deserve. The only thing I can tell you is to wait, talk to guys, become friends with them before jumping into anything trying to make them love you, because some guys might see that as just being desperate. and you're not desperate, you're just "desperate" to experience the feeling of love you never had. and love is all about trust, if you can't trust the guy, then it's not love.
I hope I helped, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck and you'll find true love, I promise :] ! xxo.

my bf and i just had a reaaaaaaaaally rough breakup. we havent spoken in about a week 1/2, and earlier i tried to IM him, making peace, i guess. and he never responded.

i know we probably wont get back together, but i couldnt stand it if we werent at least friends. how long should i give it before i just give up? i dont want to, but i know eventually ill have to. he doesnt seem to have any interest to even talk to me. not even through a computer. what should i do?

When you go through rough breakups, either both the people in the relationship or even just one person in the relationship will need SPACE. People need time to cool off and move on. If it's only been a week and a 1/2, you're gonna need to give him space for longer than that. Obviously, he wants it, because everytime you go to talk to him, you have to remember that if he WANTED to talk to you, he would. and I know that sounds harsh, and it's probably not what you want to hear, but it's the truth :[ and sometimes the truth hirts, but you shouldn't waste anymore of your time on him if he doesn't want to be friendly with you at the moment. it's best to just let it go sometimes, and in this situation you need to try your hardest to just let IT go and HIM go. Maybe in the future, like a month or a couple months from now, you guys can try to reconnect and be friends, but as of now, you should just let it be, you've done all you can and it's up to him to decide if being your friend is what he wants or not. Give it time :]
hope i helped, good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

okay so im feeling like a change and just want some unbiased opinions since my friends are all split down the middle...

should i go lighter and curlier?

http://img189.imageshack.us/i/blondecap.jpg/

darker and straight?

http://img31.imageshack.us/i/brunettez.jpg/

or keep it the way it is...

http://img40.imageshack.us/i/img5727u.jpg/

(sorry for the weird faces, i tend to do that in self pics)

Darker and straight alllll the wayyyy ! It looks so good on you like that. It really enhances your features and is just like, POW :] hahhaa, thats my vote.
hope i helped ! good luck and have fun xxo.

i am not sure if this boy i am talking to likes me. he says some cute things and told me about this girl at work who likes him but he doesn't like her. I just want to know if he likes me. should i just ask him who he likes? If it is me do you think he would say you?

Well, if he's telling you about a girl at his work who likes him and then directly afterwards tells you that he doesn't like her is a VERY good sign because he wants to see your reaction and hint to you that he's available or that he likes "someone" [hinthint] and it's not her. So him telling you that he doesn't like her is TOTALLY an invitation for you to just ask him who he likes. If he says cute things to you, and flirts with you, than yes, he most likely is interested in you.
I say just ask him, be like, "i know you don't like that girl, so who do you like?" and depending on how confident he's feeling he MIGHT just say you, if it is, which I'm thining it is. OR he'll say something like I'm not telling or it's a secret, but if he doesn't straight out tell you who it is, and he DOES like you, he'll probably say, "i'll tell you if you tell me first." or something along the lines of that. so just ask him, theres no harm in wanting to know :]
hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck, xxo.

15/f

I dont know if anyone can answer this. I just dont understand why even though when I hang out with my friends I have a good time and laugh, but when I get home I still go into a depression. I start playing really sad songs and I try to cut myself and I just start bawling and freaking out.

My best friend, who I love more than anything in a friendship kind of way, just moved away about 3 weeks ago. Then the boy I was seeing decided to abruptly end our relationship for no good reason. Ever since then I've been feeling so lonely, like there's no one around I can talk to or relate to and I feel abandoned. Then I always feel guilty cause of done many things Im not proud of (drinking mostly) but its constant and i always feel like my dad can see me and is so disappointed in me (he died when I was three.) No matter how bad i feel though i cant stop drinking and no matter how sick it makes me feel.

I dont really know how this can be answered, but does anyone feel what Im going through? I just dont understand cause, really not to sound conceited, ive been told im very pretty and my mom makes a pretty good salary and when i think of how much worse some people have it i feel selfish for wanting to end my life sometimes but i cant help it i still feel like everything is just going so wrong.

Please help. Im sorry this is so long.

I'm sorry :[ it must really suck to want to end your life, but at the same time knowing you don't actually want to. If you ended your life right now, just think about everything you'll miss ! and the risks you'll never take or the experiences you'll never live through.. you have your entire life ahead of you, and although it seems pretty sucky right now, you have to be positive in negative sides. Your dad wouldn't want you to cut yourself and have you end his life, everyone wants the best for you, and by hurting yourself and wanting to die, you are also hurting the people around you who love and care for you. It's not fair to you or them because you were given this life to live it to the fullest and just because some stupid boy broke your heart does NOT mean you won't ind someone else who will love you 10 times more, I promise you'll find that. Show him that it didn't affect you, and that you are the string girl that I know you CAN be. Prove yourself and everyone else wrong. Don't commit suicide, stop cutting yourself, and go out there and make something of yourself :] ! and your best friend moving ? I know it sucks, it majorly blows, but there's thing called technology these days and it's awesome :] haha you can still call your best friend, e-mail, facebook, video chat, ANY of that and it'll be like he/she is still here.
And for the things that you've done but regret and feel guilty just make you STRONGER because you've gotten through it and know that you no onger want to drink and all of that. You and I both know that this is not the life you want to live, so i suggest you ask someone for help. ask your mom to see a therapist of some sort, or call a hotline that can help you. You're not alone, and you can pull through this. I promise. You've just got to believe that you can.
hope I helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me at anytime, no matter what. good luck :] xxo.

16f

i really like this guy and we have a lot in common. he's really into living life to the fullest and such, and he likes the poem "lessons of a moth" by don marquis.

i'm writing his birthday card, and i really want to find a really cute quote about living life to the fullest so that everytime he reads it, he thinks of me with a positive attitude (not as a crush or sexually or anything). i searched through the internet and found a few. it doesn't matter who it's written by, but preferably by don marquis.

i found this one, “No one ever finds life worth living; one has to make it worth living," but i'm not sure if it's too... depressing for a sixteen-year-old? i also found this one by buddha: "A jug fills drop by drop," which is a little less depressing and takes more analysis.

can someone help me find a really positive, happy, cute, simple quote about living life to the fullest or carpe diem or anything like that? i'd rather you give me your few favorites and explain them as opposed to just listing a million quotes. i prefer really simple ones with a very strong message -- nothing TOO long or complicated.

thank you so much! :)

here are a few I have kept saved because like the guy you have feelings for, I love quotes, especially inspirational ones about living your life to the fullest.. :]

- Quit hanging on to the handrails . Let go. Surrender. Go for the ride of your life. Do it every day.
I love this quote because to me, it means that why not take a risk because you only have one life and you should have fun every day you take a breath :]

- There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
I also love this quote because it's like, so empowering. you should live your life like every day is a gift, and you shouldnt just take it for granted, yuh know ?

- You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.
I like this one because its simple and self explanatory. live the life you love.

- Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you deal with it is what makes the difference.
I LOVE this quote, because it is so true. Life isn't the way it's supposed to be, it's crazy and out there and can leave you crying or upset or unbelievably happy, it's how you deal with all of the side effects of life that make your life how you dream it would be :]

those are just my interpretations for a few quotes I like, if you want more, just ask, I ahve a ton. good luck and have fun :] xxo.

hey i asked you 2 questions before about my ex. well thing is i want him so bad, like in every way possible :/ and i want to know if he wants to get back together but whenever i try to bring it up, i wimp out...i don't know how to say it...and i don't want to get hurt again...we dated for 8 months and those 8 months were the best days of my life and right now we act the same around each other as we used to and like last night we pretty much went on a double date me him, my close friend and her bf. the only thing thats different is we don't hold hands and kiss...but i want to kiss him so bad =/ i love him more then anything in the world and i want to know that he's mine =/ so how should i bring this up? i need as much advice as possible, thank you sooo much.

hey there :] i have been in that SAME EXACT situation before, with my ex boyfriend [just friend at the time] who i had known and semi-liked for almost 5 years. okay so here's the thing .. this can be as SIMPLE as you want it to be or as COMPLICATED as you want it to be, but you've got to decide which approach you want to take.. I suggest simple, but complicated can work just the same..
- simple: alright, so you say that everything feels like it did when you guys were in a relationship and that you have these strong urges to just kiss him. welllll. I suggest you just go for it. Like, when I told my ex that I liked him, I was SO SCARED, but I just blurted it out. I was just like, "I still like you alot and I want things to go back to when we were in a relationship." you should just do that ! You will feel SO much better after you get it off your chest. I know it seems scary, and I told myself like 293404 times that whenever I talked to him I was just gonna tell him, and everytime I just chickened out until one day I was just like, well if I don't say it now, I might never get the chance. because love is about taking risks, and if you love him and want him to be yours and no one elses the only way that will happen is if you just say it. You haveta not think about what he'll say [alhtough I am 98.9% sure, from what you told me, that he is going to want to be in a relationship with you too after you say it] He seems as into you as you are with him, and he wouldnt hang out with you with A COUPLE if he didnt fee uncomfortable or if he didnt want to be more than "just friends" with you.
- complicated: Okay this is just basically a longer version of the simple approach. you can keep hiding how you really feel from him but just keep flirting with him until you feel ready to tell him. If you wait around for him to tell you himself, that may take a while, Im pretty sure he doesnt want to get hurt either and because of that, he is also afraid to tell you how he feels. but one of you has got to do it, and i think it should be you :] maybe you could show him how you care by making him a mix cd of songs that explain how you feel about him, and then you ould write him a card or something and put it in the cd case telling him how you feel or you can do it over the phone. but i like the cd idea because its cute, thoughtful, and easy :] and he'd totally love it. I can guarentee you that.
You can get creative with ways of telling him you like him if you don't just wanna SAY it, yuh know ? if you love him, dont let him get away [even though im sure he has no intentions to, since he is OBVIOUSLY still in love with you also]
so either simple or complicated, you choose, it's up to you. but you gotta do it sometime :] why nott nowww? you can do this. I promise that everything will be ok and work out if you just do it.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, i'd love to help you. I can really relate to what you're going through. I've been there. don't sweat it :] xxo.

Last, I got my period from June 28 - July 2 (about 4-5 days).
It's July 13, only 12 days after my period ended - and my breasts are starting to get sore.
Does breast tenderness occur a week before your period? Even if my period were to come next week, say around six days, it'd only be 18 days after my last period ended.
Is this normal? I'm 15/f, I've had my period for four years so I'm pretty sure I should be regular . . .
thank you :)

I'm not a doctor or anything like that, no expert, but you're perfectly fine. No matter how long you have your period, it can STILL be irregular, so don't worry about it. And sometimes if you're stressed or something along those lines, it can make your period all whacky, making it come later or earlier or even on time. and also, your breats being tender arent always signs of getting your period, sometimes they just get sore [yuh know, growing and all of that, it happens to me too haha]
don't sweat itt :] good luck, hop i helped ! xxo.

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