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so confused=/
okay so i've been dating this guy for about 8 months. he was seriously my other half, he was the love of my life and i seriously loved him and every moment i spent with him and i got that "undescribable feeling" when he looked me in the eyes up until the day we broke up...recently we've been talking and hanging out again....however i don't really feel comfortable around him...i know he doesn't judge me and loves me but i still get nervous around him because i love him so much...and like i can't be without makeup around him..i trust him and love him but i'm just not comfortable...we've been talking about getting together but idk if i should get together with someone i don't feel completely comfortable with...even if i do love him to death..or are there any ways to make me more comfortable? he said he would never judge me and everything but i still get nervous around him and want to be perfect =/
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That would be because you are uncomfortable with yourself. Ive been with my partner for 19 months and I still feel uncomfortable around him, I think its because I have a lack of self esteem and because Im still nervous around him cos he can still make my heart flutter. I say give it a go and only time will tell whether you feel more comfortable with him.
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Everybody gets that feeling where they want to be perfect for the person they love, but you just have to be yourself and do what you feel is comfortable. If you don't want to take off your makeup around him, I'm positive he wouldn't mind either way. Honestly, if he loves you as much as you love him, he won't care what you look like, he'll think you're just as beautiful with makeup on then with no makeup at all. It's okay to feel comfortable about that stuff, in regards to makeup and things, you want to look nice and appealing for him, he feels the same way [trust me] towards you ... and if you can't stand to take your makeup off around him, don't let that little factor decide your fate with him. I say give it another shot, it takes time to be COMPLETLY comfortable with a person, even after 8 months and a breakup and then an almost get back together, but if your having doubts and you honestly don't feel comfortable with him AT ALL under any circumstances, then don't go through with it. wait a little longer, see if you can get used to the idea of being with him again, and then make your decision. these things take time, even when you love a person with all your heart, it doesnt mean you HAVE to get back into a realtionship if you don't feel ready. If somethins holding you back, its your mind and heart basically telling you to wait a little longer and see what happens. talk to him about how you feel, and TRY to believe him when he says he won't judge you. I know its hard, [trust me, I KNOW] but you won't get over it until you become completly comfortable in your own skin, and maybe when that happens, you can be with him.
Don't try to be perfect hun, nobody is. In his eyes, you ARE perfect, and no makeup or makeup couldnt possibly change that. he loves you and you love him, it's as easy as that :]
good luck and dont sweat it, just tell him exactly what you told us on advicenators, he'll help you out if he really loves and understands you. if you need anything else, inbox me ! :] hope i helped, xxo.
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