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stupid boy
Okay so there is this Guy, I am in 10th grade and I have known him since 7th and we have dated off and on since then. So right now we like each other a lot and we do stuff ( sexual not sex) all the time...But he wont ask me out. I dont know what his deal is.. I mean we both love each other but he just doesnt want a relationship but he still wants everything that should come with a relationship. I know he is not using me but I really want a strong relationship...do you have any advise on what I should do??? I love him a lot!
~Kayla
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oh no... see I was in your position...and what happened to me what that we acted like we were in a relationship, everyone thought we were but we told people we weren't. We did sexual stuff like we were... but he didn't "want a relationship at the moment" because "an ex girlfriend really messed him up and he didn't believe in relationships" Eventually I got fed up, told him that I couldn't do it anymore (because i liked him too much) and ended up losing him.
He got an official girlfriend the next month.
What I learned from that relationship was that sometimes, like that movie, "he's just not that into you" And it really sucks.
Now I'm not saying that's the case for you, but I'm just giving you a different point of view. Since you said that you know hes not using you, and you're sure, I can give you some advice on how to "guide" him into the direction you want. Although it's true, you cant convince anyone to do something they don't want. You just have to constantly be yourself and if he really likes you he will want you just for himself. You could also go out with friends or something and not always tell him what you're doing. When he asks, be mysterious and if he says anything you can tell him that well its not like you're his girlfriend right??? if he really likes you it will bother him. but see the problem with that is that he might get upset and do the same to you. so be careful what you do. Its a tough one when the guy doesn't want a relationship and the girl does. we are sort of stuck...we have to be very patient...
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Maybe he's not ready to be in a relationship ... and just wants to have something low key and not official. He could also be intimidated by relationship or he might think that being in a relationship would mess up the way things are ging now and how good they are. You should defiently talk to him about it, because it could be an insecurity he has and the only way you can find out the REAL reason why he does this is if you just straight up ask him. Communication is key. There are SO MANY possibilites as to why he doesn't want to have a relationship, so just ask him and you'll find out. If he loves you and trusts you he'll tell you, if not .. then just remain how you both are and keep on doing what you're doing, only if YOU feel comfortable in doing that and WANT to keep the things the way they are. but if you're not happy, then talk to him. it's the only way you'll know the true answer. :]
hope i helped ! good luck, xxo.
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maybe he has commitment issues? theres nothing you can do with that. just stay good friends and maybe he will come around.
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