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My Problem HELP!
THe other night I got in a fight with my dad about our past and I started writting and this is exactly what came out on paper: "I look for love that is my purpose in life, to search for something I may never find or feel. Not once in my life have I felt that I was truely loved by any one person. I tend to do anything and everything I can to feel loved, rithout love I will always be unhappy. If I die without finding true love I will have had no purpose in life! I need fullfilment, to feel complete. I honestly blame my mother and father for my problem! They were never around to give me the love I needed as a child, and now I search for a different kind of love the hardest kind to find, True Love! I get myself into so much trouble and heartache at times doing anything I can to make guys happy hoping that one day they will love me, but they never do!"
So thats my problem! HELP PLEASE? :(
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lookin for love in all the wrong places is NOT a good idea. what you need to do is chill out for a while, meet new people NOT hopin to find someone to date. i know its hard when youre lonely and all you want to do is feel loved.
honestly, i gave up on lookin and i found someone that makes me totally happy :) just meet new people as friends and enjoy your life without a boyfriend. and pleaseeee dont just date someone because you want a boyfriend. that only leads to two broken hearts.
good luck hun, i got a lot of advice if you need it. feel free to ask :)
x sweeethoney
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i was in your exact position when i was 16. heres the best advice i ever got.
"as soon as you stop looking for love, it will find you"
i thought this was a load of crap.
amazingly, i gave up trying to find a man who would love me. a few months went by, and a guy named Chris asked me out.
we have been together for 5 years now. We;ve lived together for 2 years, and we are due to be married in December!
stop trying to please everyone all the time. It will make you look desperate. be confident, love yourself first, show guys that you dont need a man to be happy, and they will come crawling on their knees to be with you.
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Sometimes, you can't go looking for true love ... sometimes it just happens to find you. And that's the best part of it, it's fate. You shouldn't be trying to make guys happy so that they will "love" you, you have to make yourself happy, before anyone else, and then you'll realize that, you'll find true love someday, maybe not tomorrow, or the next day, but it will happen and you can't just force it. I can tell that you want to become the mother that you never had, so you feel that finding true love now and fast will make that happen, but it's more like, you stumble upon love, and putting yourself through constant heartbreak is probably very overwhelming.
If you're with a guy, and you have the feeling that you "need" to do anything and everything to make him happy, so that he'll love you, he most likely won't respect you, and he'll take advantage of you because you're vulneable, but if it's equal, and you and the guy BOTH make eachother happy and truly want to do whatever it takes to BE HAPPY and to BE IN LOVE, then that's when you'll find true love. I know it's hard, but you WILL find love or it will find you, you don't have to rush it. You sound like such a good person and to put yourself through all of this to end up hurt isn't what you deserve. The only thing I can tell you is to wait, talk to guys, become friends with them before jumping into anything trying to make them love you, because some guys might see that as just being desperate. and you're not desperate, you're just "desperate" to experience the feeling of love you never had. and love is all about trust, if you can't trust the guy, then it's not love.
I hope I helped, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck and you'll find true love, I promise :] ! xxo.
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