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my bf and i growing apart
my boyfriend and i are starting to grow apart, weve been together for a veryy long time and were planning on getting married. but now we fight alot because i im having medical problems and get hospitalized alot and hes mentally unstable but when were together it seems like our problems pretty much disappear. he says we dont need to makeout anymore because we already love eachother but i want to still.. is there anything i can do to become as inseprable as we used to be? or anything sweet i could do or say?
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You need to talk to him about it. Sit down with him and tell him how you're feeling.
You need to be open and honest with him: communication and honesty are two major, if not the two most important, aspects of a relationship. If you really do plan on getting married, you need to be able to talk to him about things that are bothering you. You need to be able to open up to him and let him know what's going on with you.
As for the making out thing, I kind of agree with him. I mean, I don't think you should cut it our completely, because like honesty and communication, intimacy is another big part of a relationship. But don't force him to do things he doesn't want to do, that will only cause more stress and tension.
-Laura (17-f)
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You can try your hardest to convince him and yourself that this realtionship is the best thing for the both of you, but like the other advice that was given to you below me, it won't work. You shouldn't have to try to make the both of you as inseperable as you used to be, and I know that's not what you want to hear, but if you want to have a healthy relationship, I'm not going to sugarcoat the truth for you. You sound like a wonderful person, and you obviously care about your boyfriend very much, but sometimes when you care about someone it's better to set them free and find something that matches their new found lifestyle then to keep them with you when both of your paths no longer collide. He is not mentally stable, ok, well, if he's in that state, maybe until he gets better, you should go on a break, so he can get better, just like you with being in a hospital often. You can't help that, and if he can't handle that, then you need to find someone that CAN. There are other people out there, he's not the only one, you may think he is, but if things are no longer working out, then you can find someone else. And he may say that you guys don't need to make out anymore because you both love eachother, which may just be a nicer way of telling you that he doesn't have or want the urge to kiss you or makeout with you.. Things have obviously changed, and you deserve someone who will love and care and cherish you, who can take care of you, and with his mental state and feelings at the moment, he's not capable of doing that. But if you really want to, tell him how you feel by maybe making him a mixtape of all the songs that explain how you feel about him, or just tell him how much you love him.. but remember, saying it possibly won't change anything.
Hope I helped, if you need anything else feel free to inbox me hun :] good luck ! xxo.
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I've always believed that everything has a solution, it's true but not how you actually ready it ... Not how I understood it before.
You might be confused now so I'll give you an example,
If you're so poor, and you want to be rich. There is a solution. But it's not getting a job and then get promoted and beautiful husband and happily ever after, no that's never the solution because it doesn't exist. The only solution is to make a plan, rob a bank and get rich, probably end up in jail, now we need another solution. Wait until you get out of jail or maybe you'll die there and that's the end of your journey.
So now it's up to you to whether solve the problem with a solution or just let it go and say "A relationship turned bad why not try a new one"
Exactly like "I'm poor now, why do I need the expensive stuff"
You and your boyfriend have a problem and it's obviously not agreeing (growing apart) "Time changes people and they would never realize that", you and your boyfriend changed, you don't need each other.
So it's either you solve the problem and get convinced that Fate can also be a bitch for a little while only.
A new guy .. A new relatiionship .. A happier life ..
Is not going to harm you, I assure you.
Make your deicision wisely ...
Good Luck =]=]
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I don't think there's anyway to continue to make this relationship work anymore.
If your boyfriend cannot deal with the fact that you're being hospitalized frequently then obviously he cannot be with you. He's also mentally unstable and it isn't fair for him to be with anyone while he's like that.
I think he needs counseling, and I think you need to spend some time alone.
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