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trust...
my boyfriend broke up with me because he feels like i don't trust him cause i don't know how to like express what i'm thinking i guess ...i don't really know how to put what i'm thinking into words cause i only trust him and my dad so i don't really know how to open up =/ i do trust him so much though and i told him that...what are some ways i can prove it to him?
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In general... you can't. If he has already up and broken it off with you and it wasn't a long drawn out process that people tend to include when asking for advice about it, he's not really leaving you because of a trust issue. He's using the trust issue to cover up another reason he's leaving you... such as, but not limited to another girl, you're clingy, or even that he's gay. I'm not saying any of those are true, I'm just telling you what I've seen before.
Anyway, ways to prove to someone you trust them... That tends to vary from person to person. There's not really a correct formula to it, especially if he's boken it off with you... but if you find a chance to talk to him outright, you need to sit down with him and tell him that you trust him... Something like "i don't really know how to put what i'm thinking into words cause i only trust him and my dad so i don't really know how to open up =/ i do trust him so much though"
You've already said it the only way that you can say it. If he's not willing to listen to that, then you need to seriously consider if someone that doesn't listen to you is really someone you want to run after. If you do... well I know tons of ways to get people back...
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I have MAJOR trust issues, people have screwed me over so many times, it's hard to open up, I know. With my boyfriend, we trust eachother because I guess I'm "good with words" anyways, if you want your boyfriend to know that you trust him, you need to open up to him. Have you talked to him about all of this ? How you only trust him and your dad so it's really hard for you to prove that you trust someone when you haven't had much experience in that category ? If you haven't, you need to. Maybe tell him a secret of yours ? a secret that's meaningful.. maybe something that happened in your past ? If you tell him something that he KNOWS you wouldn't just tell a random person, than he'll see you opening up to him.
You can tell him someting like, "I just want you to know that no matter how much you think I don't trust you, I do. There are only 2 people in my life whom I trust, and you're one of them. I want to tell you something ... something nobody really knows ... and I want to tell you because I trust you..."
something along the lines of that will really draw his attention and realize that it IS hard for you to open up, but if you put things in words, he may understand more than not saying anything at all. sometimes it takes more than saying you trust a person with all of your heart, you have to SHOW them by telling them secrets and such, but only if you REALLY trust him and feel comfortable in doing so. Maybe you can make him a mixtape of songs about trust and stuff if telling him a secret you have really doesn't work. And if the mixtape doesn't work after that, then he's not worth it and you can find someone else who won't break up with you because they think you don't trust them, and they'll appreciate the fact that you TRY opening up, but it's hard.
You sound like a great person who deserves a great guy who will be there for you even if they have their doubts about trusting you. hope I helped, and if you need ANYTHING else, I'm always here. good luck ! :] xxo.
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A lot of people have trouble opening up and putting how they're feeling into words. The best way to show what you're feeling inside is through actions. Your boyfriend must have a reason to think that you don't trust him. Think about your relationship. Were you on his back a lot? Did you not trust him to hang out with his friends? Did you nag at him about where he was or who is with?
Maybe you didn't do any of those things at all and your boyfriend is just the type of person that likes to hear you say how you're feeling. If you have trouble saying things out loud to people, try writing it down first. Get a piece of paper and a pen and write all of the things you think about him. Doing this will help clear and straighten your thoughts out. It will make it ten times easier to actually say these things to him.
If you simply cannot tell him in person or over the phone how you're feeling right now- a nice, detailed e-mail would be good. Tell him what you told me; that you really do only trust him and your father. Tell him that it's so hard for you to verbalise your feelings and open up to people. Let him know that you miss him and that you're really trying to open up to him because he means a lot to you.
Don't hold back. If you hold back how you're feeling, he'll never know. You have to remember that people aren't in your head. You're the only one that knows what you're thinking. The people around you only know what you tell them. so if you don't tell him that you trust him, that he's important, etc.. there's no way of him knowing, even if you think he should know all of that by now.
Just really let him know how you feel. Hopefully when he hears you admit that you know you should verbalise more and that you're sorry, he'll forgive you and give you a second chance.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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