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my ex
hey i asked you 2 questions before about my ex. well thing is i want him so bad, like in every way possible :/ and i want to know if he wants to get back together but whenever i try to bring it up, i wimp out...i don't know how to say it...and i don't want to get hurt again...we dated for 8 months and those 8 months were the best days of my life and right now we act the same around each other as we used to and like last night we pretty much went on a double date me him, my close friend and her bf. the only thing thats different is we don't hold hands and kiss...but i want to kiss him so bad =/ i love him more then anything in the world and i want to know that he's mine =/ so how should i bring this up? i need as much advice as possible, thank you sooo much.
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hey there :] i have been in that SAME EXACT situation before, with my ex boyfriend [just friend at the time] who i had known and semi-liked for almost 5 years. okay so here's the thing .. this can be as SIMPLE as you want it to be or as COMPLICATED as you want it to be, but you've got to decide which approach you want to take.. I suggest simple, but complicated can work just the same..
- simple: alright, so you say that everything feels like it did when you guys were in a relationship and that you have these strong urges to just kiss him. welllll. I suggest you just go for it. Like, when I told my ex that I liked him, I was SO SCARED, but I just blurted it out. I was just like, "I still like you alot and I want things to go back to when we were in a relationship." you should just do that ! You will feel SO much better after you get it off your chest. I know it seems scary, and I told myself like 293404 times that whenever I talked to him I was just gonna tell him, and everytime I just chickened out until one day I was just like, well if I don't say it now, I might never get the chance. because love is about taking risks, and if you love him and want him to be yours and no one elses the only way that will happen is if you just say it. You haveta not think about what he'll say [alhtough I am 98.9% sure, from what you told me, that he is going to want to be in a relationship with you too after you say it] He seems as into you as you are with him, and he wouldnt hang out with you with A COUPLE if he didnt fee uncomfortable or if he didnt want to be more than "just friends" with you.
- complicated: Okay this is just basically a longer version of the simple approach. you can keep hiding how you really feel from him but just keep flirting with him until you feel ready to tell him. If you wait around for him to tell you himself, that may take a while, Im pretty sure he doesnt want to get hurt either and because of that, he is also afraid to tell you how he feels. but one of you has got to do it, and i think it should be you :] maybe you could show him how you care by making him a mix cd of songs that explain how you feel about him, and then you ould write him a card or something and put it in the cd case telling him how you feel or you can do it over the phone. but i like the cd idea because its cute, thoughtful, and easy :] and he'd totally love it. I can guarentee you that.
You can get creative with ways of telling him you like him if you don't just wanna SAY it, yuh know ? if you love him, dont let him get away [even though im sure he has no intentions to, since he is OBVIOUSLY still in love with you also]
so either simple or complicated, you choose, it's up to you. but you gotta do it sometime :] why nott nowww? you can do this. I promise that everything will be ok and work out if you just do it.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, i'd love to help you. I can really relate to what you're going through. I've been there. don't sweat it :] xxo.
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