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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i wrote the question about jealousy that you answered .. my boyfriend does do that stuff to me he goes on my myspace and reads my unread messages he sneaks on my phone when im in the other room .. i dont care if he does that stuff because i know i have nothing to hide .. if he does that stuff how come i cant and if he doesnt want me to doesnt it seem like he is hiding something if he can just go out and do the same to me?

You have a point. He's contradicting himself, and being the biggest hypocrite alive. I hate guys like that. If you do something, it's the end of the world, but then when they do it, it's alright. Dump him.

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Is there a website for music lovers, like theres flickster for movie lovers?

*~bEaUtIfUlLyBrOkEn~*

www.musicmademe.com and www.fuse.tv.

Those sites are the definition of amazing. =)

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ive liked like 15 guys in the 14 years of my life but this time its different i like some one (he is kind of my friend) i give him things he asks for(food,candy and stuff like that) i talk to him like he is a regular person all my other crushes i was blushing and i had butterflies in my stomache but with him it like we can have a conversation without my throat getting dry and ive had 9 dreams about him one dream we almost kissed i feel so different all my friends tell me that im in love with him and they can tell that he likes me and they said i need to tell hm that i like him im so scared he would reject me i cant even begin to explain my feelings for him

Aww, it's perfectly normal to be scared of rejection, but just think of it this way: If you don't tell this boy how you feel right NOW, another girl will & easily go out with him. I'd tell him as soon as you can. The worst he can do is say that he doesn't see you that way. And if he doesn't, then that's his loss. But anyways, just tell him how you feel. Bring it up in a conversation or ask him who he likes. =) When he tells you, you tell him. If he likes you back, start dating.

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right i need to make £1000 but im 15 how cn i get a job:S im 15 and male

Well, they have McDonald's practically everywhere. They hire at 15. So, you could try there. Or your local supermarket. If those don't work out, try another restaurant or start your own little business. If you live somewhere where it snows, make a shoveling business, or in the summer, cut people's grass. Anything like that can help out. =)

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okay so i have a boyfriend of about 9 months now and i love him so much.. it's just sometimes he annoys me and we get into stupid little fights..i have a problem with like over thinking things, or sometimes i let things get to me that shouldn't. does anyone have any advice as to how i can just let things go and be more carefree about things? and also is this normal? like do couples get into little stupid fights? just let me know! thank youu

All couples get into stupid fights, trust me. If he says something that makes you mad, don't fight with him, just let it slide. Because little things are avoidable ones, so fights can usually be avoided, and should be. Although, they are healthy for the relationship. Anyways, just let them slide, or talk them out in a calm manner. If you do that, the fights are less likely to occur. Or at least that's what I learned from my own personal experience. =) Good luck!

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13/f
(the first part is background that i think could relate. the second is my actual problem) sorry for the length...

PART 1
ok well this girl elizabeth i had been friends with her since like 2nd grade im in 8th now with fights and temporary splits here and there....but one time on this one chat site she called me a B**** for no reason and then just left and kept doing it if i asked for an explanation. the next day at school during lunch she said she didn't eman it and WAS JUST JOKEING. i mean COME ON. i didnt forgive her because i don't take stuff liek that as a joke, so after a day or so she comes to my house in tears with a card tat says SORRY and a small present. i forgave her.....grudgeingly. ok well then we got along ok but then...

PART TWO

ok well i was at another friends house and i was really mad for some reason or another and i called elizabeth fat. she isn't really fat just a little....well porportioned. so this oher friend told her later ( ididn't mean for her to) and elizabeth got all mad. WELL she got all mad and she understands that i didn't mean it.....i relaly truely didn't....and now she doesn't want to be friends anymore and won't forgive me which i don't think is fair because she really hurt my feelings with the part 1 thing....but i didn't have to forgive her, but i did. and there were other things she did that i didn't want to forgive her for doing.
what should i do? she has made it very clear via myspcae that she doesn't want to be friends. yes she told me.. i don't think its fair. do you think it is?
sorry for the length.....
thanks in advance!

If you can forgive her that easy, I'm pretty sure she should be able to do the same for you. You guys have been friends for so long, it's normal to split up, or fight, but to throw away a friendship over a stupid comment? It's not really worth it. Remind her of all the great times you guys have had, all the inside jokes & late night slumber parties. It's dumb to just throw away a 6 year friendshp because you called her fat & she called you a bitch. Explain that to her.

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i have this friend who is dating this guy and over the last few months, he started turning saying inapproprate things and acting like a total jealous boyfriend. Now lately since she got back from her trip she has really been turning into a jerk herself. She's pushy and mean. I mean we used to make fun of each other in a friendly way and now she's starting to get out of control, she's telling me when we're going to hang out and she's starting to take his side of things, like she's backing him up, but she continues to say that she wants to let him and he means nothing to her and she doesn't care about him, but she is really turning into a female version of him. I can't believe it because we've known each other since we were like 1. I don't know who she is anymore and everytime me or anyone else tries to talk to her, she either just pushes it off, or gets really defensive. What should i do?

Even if she gets defensive, it's for her own good. Talk to her about things, and let her know how you feel. But remember, she's not gonna be with this guy forever, and once he's gone, she won't act like him anymore. But, I know how she is because a lot of girls change & act their boyfriend. I've so been there/done that. But boys don't last. Friends do.

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13|f

ok. so, last night i got realllyyyy bored, so for the first time ever i watched porn. and i realized i am personally ready to have sex right now. and i now none stop think about how i want it. jkas. is this normal. do i really wnat it? am i just thinking that from the porn ?

You're 13. There is NO WAY in HELL you're ready for sex. You're young. You might be ready physically, but mentally & emotionally? It's impossible. You just had feelings from watching the porn. You won't be ready for sex for a long time.

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where can i get a shirt that has the powerpuff girls on it?! thankss

Hmm, powerpuff girls aren't as big as they were when they first come out, and girls everywhere don't want their shirts now as much as they did back then. I'd say EBAY, but Hot Topic usually brings things back, so I would ask them if they're getting any Powerpuff Girl shirts lately.

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i had a best friend
i then became friends with another girl who was going through a very hard time. i was there for her sooo much it was unbeleiveable.
my best friend didnt like my new friend and was constantly bitching about her to my face. my new friend didnt like my best friend and so was also bitching about her to my face. so i was stuck in the middle. however eventually we all became 3 good friends. then i went away for the weekend and my "best friend" got pissed off as i didnt invite her... its as if im not allowed to go away by myself!!
so anyway when i came back my 2 friends were soo quleaky and completly left me out. i would go home and just cry sometimes because there was nothing i could do. everytime id ask them why they were being like that theyd say that i was over reacting and it was me who didnt ever try and get involved. but evertime i did they would cut me short. i became so miserable at school that i dreaded going. i had no idea why they were being like this. then i found out that my ex best friend was pissed cus i went away wihtout her... so i confronted her aboout it and then we stopped talking and i didnt sit with them at lunch ect because i was sick of them treating me how they did.
then out of the blue my ex best friend texed me saying she hated us not talking and never wanted that to happen and she wished we could be friends again. i was like wow but they have done so much shit to me i dont wana run back to them.
i texed her back saying that i never wanted to not be friends either ect and i said we needded to talk. but still in school we dont talk and on msn its more like shes trying to find out what im doing as a competition rather than shes interested... like shell ask me if im going to this party and that ect....

what do i do? i just hate the bitchyness the whole time and its really getting me down... please please someone help.

Your friends are bitchy & it's never gonna change. Tell them how they make you feel, & make it clear. Give them another chance but if nothing changes after about a month, just drop them, and hang out with someone else.

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ok so me and my best guy friend are really close. he has a girlfriend who is also a good friend of mine. last summer i started liking my guy friend and then i found out he was going out with my other friend and i was completely devestated yet happy for them because they make a cute couple. they've had their problems but at the moment they're stable in their relationship. when his girlfriend isn't around me and my best guy friend have cuddled at parties and he's smacked my ass and we've had phone sex a couple times. when she is around he'll cuddle with both of us and i know my girl-friend is fine with that because she knows that im not the boyfriend stealing type. but now im worried that i really love my guy friend as more than a friend. we've told each other that we love each other but it was just friendship love. sometimes when we're online he'll treat me like his girlfriend and call me baby and love but as soon as his girlfriend comes online he'll pay more attention to her because i know he really loves her. my problem is that i really feel this need that i have to tell him i love him because i've already made a mistake by not telling him before he had a girlfriend. i don't want him to break up with his girlfriend and go out with me because i could never do that to my friend. what should i do???

He's playing mind games with you, and he's being really rude to her. If you're with somebody, you shouldn't call other people "baby." Now if he calls you "love" I can understand that, because I have friends who call me that, and friends who I call that. But if you like him, you should tell him. I realize it'd jeopardize things with him & his girlfriend, but it's gonna eat you, and you're gonna regret it if you don't. Tell him how you feel, and make him promise he won't say anything. If they end up breaking up, then go for it. =)

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I have had my period for about 7 years now, and just recently like the last few months the cramps seem to get worse every month. Is there a way to help with the cramps?

*~bEaUtIfUlLyBrOkEn~*

Get a birth control pill. Though you've had your period for some time, it'll shorten it & the cramps will ease. Or you take some midol, avoice chocolate & use a heating pad. Also, don't do much. Everyone says if you're active that the cramps will go away, but that doesn't work, so you should rest a ton. =)

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Here goes:
I’m 14/f and my best friend is 14/m and gay. We’ve been friends for over a year which is the longest time my bff [let’s call him Chris] has kept anyone as a best friend. But anywhos, I have this very frivolous and talkative personality when I’m around people but that’s a problem…Chris doesn’t want to talk about serious things with me. He goes to 2 other people and that kind of hurts me. But then I can’t blame him but I still want to be the person he turns to when he has a problem and not just a person he sees as all talkative and clumsy. Is there any way I can maybe steer him to talk to me about serious things without actually sitting down and talking to him about it? Thanks =]

Well, if you're talkative & clumsy, maybe he sees you as someone who isn't really serious. Do you joke around & laugh a lot? If you do, he doesn't see you seriously, so you have to change that. Be serious around him. Joking is fun, but there's always a time to be serious. =)

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Anyone know some good melancholy alternative/90s rock/Rock/Pop songs?

Please no rap. I hate rap.

I was born in the 90's and remember nothing about it except cartoon's, and Full House. So basically, I remember NO music from it. If I was to hear, then probably, but off the top of my head? No.

As for Rock, I'm your girl.

Well, I doubt these songs are melancholy, but these are some of my favorites:

Senses Fail:
The Priest & The Matador.
All The Best Cowboys Have Daddy Issues.
You're Cute When You Scream.
Sick Or Sane.
Bonecrusher.
Calling All Cars.
Tie Her Down.
Martini Kiss.

This Providence:
Twisted System.
I Think You're Wonderful.
Picture Day.
Any Romantic Fairytale.

Hellogoodbye:
Here In Your Arms.
Baby, It's Fact.
Stuck To You.
Oh, It's Love.
I Saw It On Your Keyboard.
Homewrecker.

All Time Low:
The Party Scene.
Cofee Shop Soundtrack.
Sticks, Stones, and Techno.
Hit The Lights.
I Can't Do The One Two Step.
Hometown Heroes.
My Paradise.
We All Fall Down.
Light The Way.
The Next Best Thing.

The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus:
False Pretense.
Damn Regret.
Face Down.
Your Guardian Angel.
Justify.
Atrophy.
In Fate's Hands.
Misery Loves It's Company.
The Grim Goodbye.

Cute Is What We Aim For:
Moan.
Risque.
There's A Class For This.
The Fourth Drink Instinct.
Finger Twist & Split.
Newport Living.
Lyrical Lies.
Teasing To Please.
Sweet Talk 101.
The Curse Of Curves.

My Chemical Romance:
Disenchanted.
Sleep.
Welcome To The Black Parade.
Teenagers.
Famous Last Words.
Dead!
The Sharpest Lives.
I Don't Love You.
Helena.
I'm Not Okay, I Promise.
The End.

Cartel:
Say Anything Else.
Honestly.
Runaway.
Burn This City.
Luckie St.
Matter Of Time.
If I Fail.

Saoin:
Voices.
You're Not Alone.
Uphill Battle.
Seven Years.

A Static Lullaby:
The Shooting Star That Saved Us All.
Stand Up.

Underoath:
Writing On The Walls.
Reinventing Your Exit.
In Regards To Myself.
It's Dangerous Business Walking Out Your Front Door.
A Moment Suspending In Time.
I've Got Ten Friends & A Crowbar That Says You Ain't Gonna Do Jack.
I'm Content With Losing.

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well i know alcohol is bad for you and stuff.
but i was wondering why.

like whats in alcohol that messes with your brain and kills your liver?

There's a ton of things in alcohol that can fuck you up, but it's mainly the alcohol & how much is in the drink.

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Okay so my boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time now and out of nowhere he starting bringing up the fact that we havn't had sex. I mean, it's not like i havn't thought about it because a 15 year old girl with a boyfriend two years older than her is obviously going to think about the possibilities, but I never actually brought it up or anything. Yes, I am a virgin but I have done other things with him. I just don't know if I'm actually ready to have sex with him. Like, I want to but I don't know if it's because he keeps bringing it up and I'll feel guilty if I don't or if it's because I really want to. And I know that if I'm even questioning it that I shouldn't but there is part of me that wants to. I Don't know what to do. Please help.

If you're having doubts about having sex, then you're not ready. Your mind says yes, but your heart says no. Follow your instincts.

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So I failed my freshmen year due to insecurities and not pushing myself to my fullest potential. So this is my sophomore year and I'm failing like the same 2 classes each semester. Math and PE. [Even though, it's mainly PE]

If I go to an Alternative school.. would I be able to go to college?
Because people make those schools seem so bad.
Do you go to that school once a week for like 6 hours or something and bring home a packet?

I'm confused.

I want to get enough credits to graduate.

But people make alternative schools seem for like "stupid, challenged" kids..

People/teachers already think I'm stupid because I'm so quiet [shy, anxiety]

I don't know what to do because if I get taken out of high school .. I won't get to fix my problem [being shy] I really want to stay so I can stand being around people and open up.
And what am I supposed to do.. when I'm not at the alter. school?

I'll be lonely and bored. And that will make things worse.

I don't know what to do.


Also, if you keep failing PE.. will you not graduate or go to college? :/
Because I do try in PE but.. trying doesn't give you points.. you know.

If you fail PE all four years, you won't graduate at all. And you even have to take PE in college. My aunt told me. I'd suck it up & start playing the games. Don't try, do!

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One of my so called best friends
- I dont want to be friends with her anymore.
I'm sick of her always talking as us as a "we" and that "we suck" "we are stupid"

because i dont like downtalking myself.
she can, but not about me.

dont tell me to telll her not to talk bad about herself either becauase this isnt the point.


SHE loves drama and stupid crap like that,
so she will do anythign to cause it.
she plays the victim all the time.
I'm sick of it, how she always thinks shes right.
What do I do?

Tell her straight out how you feel. Or you could get in an argument with her on purpose & stop being friends with her that way if you're too scared to let her know the truth.

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I am a freshman in highschool and i received papers from my school and the superintendant Stating that i could have the option of graduating a year early. which would mean i would be in the class of '09 instead of 2010. I already have my career planned out and what i want to do with my life and so i should accept it and graduate early right?? Well im not so sure that i want to. i mean, i dont want to leave my friends, and i know you guys will probably say " Put your life infront of your friends ". But im not to sure on what i want to do. Any suggestions?

I think it's a good thing that they've asked you to graduate early. Yes, you'll miss senior ball & walking across the stage with your friends, but think of the experiences you'll gain? You can get to college early, you can start your career early. You know what you want to do with life, and you're only in 9th grade. Most kids don't know what they wanna do until after highschool, so you're already WAY ahead of them. I'd graduate early. You have a junior prom, so senior ball is no big deal. =) Anyways, the decision is totally yours.

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Last year, this guy and I had something going on. We weren't dating though, but we might as well have been.

We both knew it. No one else did. Anytime anyone would ask who he liked, he'd be like "I don't want to go out with anyone".

It doesn't help that my idiot former-friends would call him and bug him forever. So my former-friends, his friends, the girl, and social standings ruined it.

But (from what I can gather), he was too embarrassed to admit that he liked me, because of my burden-friends (who I'm not longer close with), his popularity, and lack-thereof, and this other girl (all american, blond hair, blue eyes. the type of girls he usually likes. he looks like that as well. I'm black, and pretty much the opposite of that) who was "in his league", who liked him as well. So, he basically ended up going with her.

Yes, that was a sucky thing of him to do, but I don't blame him. Because really, who wants to go out with a loser? And not to mention, his best friend hated me, and vice versa.

Now, we've gotten into high school, and things have changed. He's pretty much faded into obscurity (at least from where I'm standing. No one I know knows him), and his popular, always smiling persona is gone.
On the other hand, now, I'm pretty stable, and in social standings, I'm a little well-known.

So, things between him and the other girl basically blew over. They admitted that they "used" to like each other, but as far as I know, they are finished. She treats him like crap, now.

Every time I see him, he stares at me. Just stares. When I walk, I can feel his eyes following me. I used to be in one of his classes, and he'd try and start conversations with me, but they'd end up going nowhere.

I do still like him, deep down inside. Perhaps because he's the first guy that ever liked me back.

I'm irritated. I'd like to get him out of my head, but I can't. And he's not really helping by staring shamelessly. I haven't actually talked to him in some 6 months, because we no longer have classes.

But, I have no idea what to do. I think he may like me a little bit, too. But things have changed. And I wonder why he's been so sad (since the whole incident last year, he's been down, it seems).

What is wrong with him?

Edit: Today, I was standing near him, for the first time in like 4 months. When he noticed I was (I was doing an errand for my teacher), he proceeded to let his mouth hang open, and stare in shock. Then, he slowly walked by JUST so he'd have more time to stare in shock, and to see what I was doing.

I would talk to him; but say what? What is there to say?

Ask him why he's staring. Ask him how he's been. Talk about old times, and ask him what's new. Basically, I think he likes you. If you still like him, tell him because your mind is eating at you to do it.

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