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I think I'm ready but I'm not POSITIVE.
Okay so my boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time now and out of nowhere he starting bringing up the fact that we havn't had sex. I mean, it's not like i havn't thought about it because a 15 year old girl with a boyfriend two years older than her is obviously going to think about the possibilities, but I never actually brought it up or anything. Yes, I am a virgin but I have done other things with him. I just don't know if I'm actually ready to have sex with him. Like, I want to but I don't know if it's because he keeps bringing it up and I'll feel guilty if I don't or if it's because I really want to. And I know that if I'm even questioning it that I shouldn't but there is part of me that wants to. I Don't know what to do. Please help.
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do what you think is right if you feel really close to him have sex but with comdoms and take the pill don't take any chances with that but besides that have fun! i am still a vergin and i would take the opportunity
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Hey. Well, first of all, you're only fifteen. That would be like me having sex, just two years older. Personally, I think it's waaayyy too young to even consider it. But that's me. If you think you're ready, go for it. But be aware of ALL the consiquences, becuase once you do it, there's no taking it back. Remember, that's all guys think about. 24-7..all that goes through their minds. Make sure you're ready, hun, becuase it's real easy to say no.
Hope I helped♥ Kathleen.
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if you don't think your ready;; don't do it simple as that.. i had the same problem. you want to do it because you want to make him happy; but then you also want to do it for yourself.. it's kind of like taking out the trash to make your parents happy
1. don't do it for anyone BUT yourself
2. make sure you want to loose it to him
good luck <3
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I don't know how prude you are to things. But in my opinion, i don't think you should be having sex this young. But I think if you are really in love and you use protection (condom AND pill) then i think you will be okay. But you definitely need to use both if you are. But I know you will regret it, and you will wish your first time having sex should have been VERY special with the person you are going to spend the rest of youd life with.
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I think that right now you are sortof debating it, and questioning yourself. So what you should do is tell your boyfriend that you arent ready, and he has to stop bringing it up. You'll be ready one day, and as soon as you are you'll tell him. But for right now he has to cool it, because you feel pressured. If he's a good guy he'll quit bothering you about it. If he isnt, and keeps bringing it up, tell him that you really injoy going out with him, but you arent ready for sex, and if he wants sex that bad maybe he should go find someone else to do it with.
Lots of people have sex when their 15, but it doesnt mean you have to. Whether you believe in waiting until marridge, or you just wanna wait a little bit longer, until you know for sure you're ready, it's a big deal. Don't let anyone tell you that your first time isnt a big deal. After you do it, it wont be, but your first time riding your bike was a big deal, your first time getting married will be a big deal, so why shouldnt this be one?
Yeah a part of you wants to have sex, and yeah a part of you wants to eat every chocolate bar in the candy store sometimes, but sometimes you think about it and you're like yeah... I dont think thats a very good idea. So until you think you can feel 100% (or pretty close) to go all the way, then you shouldn't. Right now sex is a possibility, but so is skydiving. You just have to measure the need or want to do it.
Never feel guilty for not having sex okay? You can agree to it and be in bed with him and say, you know what I'm not ready. Dont even feel guilty for that okay? It's not like you're donating your kidney and he's going to die with out it. Its just a couple hours one night. And if you arent ready, then you wont have the experience you are looking foreward too.
So talk to him about it, and never forget your standards. I think you can trust yourself to make the right decision, just trust yourself, you'll know when its the right time. Good luck, hope I helped.
Love ya,
Angie91
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If you're having doubts about having sex, then you're not ready. Your mind says yes, but your heart says no. Follow your instincts.
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im 15. and im still a virgin. the same thing happened to me i really loved my boyfriend but he asked me to have sex with him and i said no and he got mad. so i dumped him. i dont think you are ready your just being pressured. a 15 year old girl is never ready to lose her virginity, trust me. tell your boyfriend to wait if he really loves you. when you have sex you loose your innocence and its like youre a women. would you like to be a women?. think about it you only had 15 years to be a kid and the rest until like what maybe 100 to be an adult?. why pressure yourself into it. youre obviously not ready or you wouldnt be asking his question.
think about it you wouldnt want to be a girl who ends up pregnant and regrets her first time.
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If you have to question it, you aren't ready. Don't do something unless you are sure of yourself first. Don't feel guilty about it.
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