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best friend
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I’m 14/f and my best friend is 14/m and gay. We’ve been friends for over a year which is the longest time my bff [let’s call him Chris] has kept anyone as a best friend. But anywhos, I have this very frivolous and talkative personality when I’m around people but that’s a problem…Chris doesn’t want to talk about serious things with me. He goes to 2 other people and that kind of hurts me. But then I can’t blame him but I still want to be the person he turns to when he has a problem and not just a person he sees as all talkative and clumsy. Is there any way I can maybe steer him to talk to me about serious things without actually sitting down and talking to him about it? Thanks =]
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HI maybe what you could do is confide in him, and if you confide in him he might be able to tell you stuff, However, how about changing your attitude towards him, by making less jokes or talking to him about more relevant stuff, and that way he may take you serious and that might be able for him to turn to you, and not anybody else.
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Well, if you're talkative & clumsy, maybe he sees you as someone who isn't really serious. Do you joke around & laugh a lot? If you do, he doesn't see you seriously, so you have to change that. Be serious around him. Joking is fun, but there's always a time to be serious. =)
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its clear that he doesnt trust maybe you should ask why he doesnt trust you sure you may talk alot but that doesnt mean your'll go spilling the beans you know if theres no trust than theres really no relationship you know so explain to him that it hurts that he doesnt trust and if he still contiunes to treat you the way he does than play at his own game its his problem hell loose a really good friend because of his immautrue actions i hope i helped goodluck my inbox is always open
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The thing is, don't change those definitive traits of yours - which is chatty and outspoken. Just try to be more of an active listener instead of an active talker. It'll be good to have a mix of both traits.
When he starts to mention about serious things, listen attentively and genuinely. When you sense that he's starting to talk bout his problems, stay on topic and make him the subject of the conversation. You'll gradually lead him into telling you more bout his problems. Everyone likes to talk bout themselves at (maybe all) times.
Btw, I really don't see how him being gay helps in the question. Haha
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