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shes turning into him!
i have this friend who is dating this guy and over the last few months, he started turning saying inapproprate things and acting like a total jealous boyfriend. Now lately since she got back from her trip she has really been turning into a jerk herself. She's pushy and mean. I mean we used to make fun of each other in a friendly way and now she's starting to get out of control, she's telling me when we're going to hang out and she's starting to take his side of things, like she's backing him up, but she continues to say that she wants to let him and he means nothing to her and she doesn't care about him, but she is really turning into a female version of him. I can't believe it because we've known each other since we were like 1. I don't know who she is anymore and everytime me or anyone else tries to talk to her, she either just pushes it off, or gets really defensive. What should i do?
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I think that you and her other friends that are upset about the way she is acting should get together and write a well thought out letter. Make sure all of you sign it. Even if she gets angry about it, she'll have read it and she'll most likely take every word to heart. Make sure it is known that you're trying to help her and that she is in danger of losing a lot of friends if she doesn't realize what is happening to her. Don't make it sound mean, just let pure concern show through. She is definitely in denial so use specific examples of her behavior to prove to her how much she has changed. If she keeps all this up, stop hanging around her. Once she breaks up with her boyfriend, which she will, give her another chance to be a good friend. It's easy to get caught up in a guy and lose track of everything else. Good luck.
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Even if she gets defensive, it's for her own good. Talk to her about things, and let her know how you feel. But remember, she's not gonna be with this guy forever, and once he's gone, she won't act like him anymore. But, I know how she is because a lot of girls change & act their boyfriend. I've so been there/done that. But boys don't last. Friends do.
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i think that you should find a way to talk to her. be aggresive you know, like this is your friend here!!.i am sure you don't want to loose her because of a boy she says she doesn't care for. if she doesn't listen or want to talk to you and your friends then don't hang out with her anymore, i know it may seem kind of mean but it's her fault that she didn't want to listen to you.maybe in time she will come back to you guys, she might just need some time on her own to actually see that you're a much better friend than her boyfriend.
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