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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Okay so ive been with this guy for about 6 months and well, we've been getting more physical as time goes on. Last night, as previous nights, he inserted his penis, not all the way however. well that's what he says anyway. I mean it hurt and everything but as I started to pull him into me he stopped me and said "no, don't put it in all the way." Does this mean we are still both virgins? Another thing is that he likes oral but im not too crazy about it. Ive told him before that im not too comfortable with it and he said he was fine with it, but when we're in the moment he starts to beg for me to give him oral. what do i do?

If you don't like to give oral, then don't. You told him you didn't like it, and he said he was fine with it, but he's obviously not. Tell him again, and if he doesn't accept it, I'd get rid of him. It sounds bad to dump someone over that, but if he really loved you, he'd accept your decision.

Anyways, you're not a virgin. If a penis enters your vagina in ANY way, you're not a virgin.

You might remember me from awhile back, I asked a question about my friend Carly and how she went to a party, didn't come home on time, and I told her sister where she really was and she ended up having to break up with her boyfriend.

Anyway, that's not the point. That night, while Carly was at that party, she got really drunk and her boyfriend took advantage of her and had sex with her. Now, her period is really late and she thinks she is pregnant.

I already "bitched out" her ex-boyfriend for taking advantage of her like that. He is a jerk and I can't believe Carly EVER trusted him in the first place.

My question is, though, how can I be supportive of my friend at this time without being harsh and telling her she's stupid for getting herself in this situation? I'm sure she knows she messed up and she's worried enough as it is, so I don't want to make things worse for her than they already are. I told her to go get a pregnancy test and if it comes out positive, then she should make a doctor's appointment (which her ex WILL pay for) to make sure it is correct.

I want to be there for my friend at this difficult time. What else can I do to help her out?

Well, I'm guessing it's too late for her to take the morning after pill. It's only effective for 3 days after you have sex. Tell her to take a pregnancy test & if it's positive, she should probably tell her parents, or get an abortion. Also, she should sue this kid because he raped her.

what are some good stores to get really cute bikinis? (price range from around $20-$60) thanks. =]

American Eagle, Target, Pac Sun, Zumies, Kohls, Victoria's Secret. =)

A question about college: If you want to major in art, should you go to an Art School or a liberal arts college and just major in art?

I'd go to Art School.

What are some good things to do when your babysitting a little kid about 6 years old with autism? Thanks! =D

It honestly depends on the child. Kids with autism are really different from normal children. They have certain items that you cannot touch or they get mad, and they don't really like to be touched a lot, so make sure you don't touch them often. They each like to do different things though. Ask them what they like to do, & then go with that. =)

Im 13/F. I live in a really small town which is basically a retirement community. The people that live here are all elderly. A week or so ago I found some kids that actually live here. They are honestly the only kids older than 9 that live here. There is a problem though. They are not exactly good role models at all. 1 is my age, another is 12 and 1 is 14 and the other is 15. A pretty close age range really. The main problem is I know for a fact they do drugs and stuff. Before it never really bothered me until last night when one of my school friends (im actually really girly/preppy) asked me if I ever did drugs. I replied no and the friend told me how he was worried that if I keep hanging out with them they might pressure me into starting. I dont want to and I know they kinda want me to start but whenever they bring out the stuff I have to go cause I have a curfew. I also know they are not virgins and they umm have active sex lives. The 15 year-old may be pregnent. Im kind of scared now and Im starting to debate wether or not I should go near them. They are the ONLY kids in this whole town but I dont want to be presurred into anything. Any Advice??

If you don't do drugs/drink or have sex, that's a good thing. Don't let them pressure you into it. If they ask you to, just say "No thank you." & if they give you shit about it, then stop hanging out with them. They might be the only kids in your town to hang out with, but if they can't accept you for the way you are, then they're not really friends & you shouldn't be hanging out with them anyways. Stand up for what you believe in, even if you stand alone. Remember that.

Ok; me and my boyfriend had sex last night, and I am 99.9% sure I am not pregnant. However; there's still that little possibility that I can be. I mean, he used a condom, and even pulled it out when he got off. (With the condom on.) I just want to know, how can I get rid of these nerves?

Ask for the morning after pill. It's useful for up to 72 hours after sex, but after 3 days it just isn't good anymore. =)

This will be verry long, but please bear with me and help.. I am desperate for advice right now..

I feel like there is no reason for me to live anymore. The past week my friends have stood me up and lied to me. My mom is a huge alcoholic so all she does is yell at me (like now), blaming me for her personal problems. My dad is always angry at me. I never know why, actually. I am always doing something that makes him mad. Whenever I have something to say, nobody listens. Usually they later regret it but that doesn't stop from ignoring me again. Also, my cousin cheerfully (at least it seemed like it) said I am invited to her birthday party. It would be a huge blast since she just turned 18. She said she would tell me when to get there.. but later after asking she never responded back, because she never told me. So she went without me. First of all, this meant SOO much to me because I haven't seen her in months, so I was looking forward to it.

She also did this a few other times so I wouldn't consider it an accident. She never wants to take me anywhere.

It's the same with my friends. I post bulletins on Myspace, saying how hurt I am or something, and nobody cares to reply back. You'd think out of 100 friends, one of them would, right? No.

I feel hated, betrayed, and lied to. I feel like I am everyone's punching bag.

I am mentally ill, actually. I have attempted suicide numerous times, once ending up in the ER. I get panic attacks and mental breakdowns. I do see my school counselor, but all she can do is calm me down. She doesn't help the problem, she just helps the way I feel. But I want the problem to be helped because all it does is it gets worse. I am sick and tired of being treated all crappy. I do nice things for people but the favor is never returned. Usually I don't expect any to be but I never get one returned.

My parents refuse to get me to a Psychologist. The most I can do right now is school counseling. I live in a crappy city so there is no shelters nearby or anything.

I want to die. I want to be gone. I am sure if I do die, everyone will be happy because right now everyone just gets mad at me for no reason. I have done nothing wrong, but I blame mysef everyday for just existing.

What can I do?? PLEASE HElP!!=[

ps - please don't ignore this because I know this site gets many questions about depression and suicide, and I know I am annoying you people for adding on to it. But I am ill, and I need help. Thanks.

I don't find these types of questions annoying at all. I've asked them & answered them before, so I honestly think I can help. I like answering these though, because I've been through it, so I think I can guide you a bit.

I'm like you. I do nice things for people, & I never expect them to return the favor. And I don't usually care if they do, but your friends walk all over you. They continually have you do these nice things for you, & then do nothing for in return. Also, they don't listen to you, but then when they regret it, they do it again. Your friends aren't even sorry. I'd confront them, and give them another week to 2 weeks. If it doesn't change, find some new friends. Believe it or not, there are people who actually care about you, but you haven't discovered them yet. Do that.

If nobody bothers to reply, then maybe they don't read the bulletin, or maybe they do & are too shy to say anything. But they sound like they don't care, so when they post those bulletins, don't reply to them & see how they like it.

For your mom's alcohol problem, there is no way to change that. If your mother wants to change & stop drinking, then she'll do it, but you can't make her change/stop. Suicide might seem like the answer, but it's not & it never is. It's taking the easy way out & you should never give up, quit or run from your problems. Facing them is the correct thing to do, just like you'd face your fears. Face your problems. As for your dad, ask him why he's upset with you. Maybe he's aggressive & doesn't really show his emotions, so it always seems like he's pissed. My dad's like that, and hardly ever shows me affection. So I know exactly how you feel. Talk to him about it & let him know what's going on with you. You & your parents aren't close, so try to be & see if things will change. If not, try & find somebody else to live with. Your grandparents perhaps? Or maybe an aunt or an uncle?

School counseling doesn't work, and I'd know. My counselor never helped me with my cutting problems. No matter what, I'd always keep doing it because I seen her every other week, & I needed constant counseling. Who knows what problems could arise in the every other week mark, right?

Anyways, for your cousin, just don't talk to her. She seems like such a bitch [no offense], but if she really wanted to invite you, she would've given you the information you needed, and she's done this to you before, so she's obviously doing it purposely. Confront her, and if it doesn't change, then it's just whatever. Don't talk to her about it.

Confront your counselor too. Ask her for solutions to your problems. They're there to calm you down, but they're also there to help come up with solutions or techniques to help you with things.

But please, don't do anything to yourself. I know suicide seems like the thing to do right now, but it's not. It's gonna make you think "Well, if I do this, then maybe someone'll care." but you're wrong. It's not the way. Honestly, I don't know how old you are, but I'm guessing you're young, & not an adult. Still a teenager, basically. But, you've got your WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU. Why jeopardize that because of other people? They don't matter that much for you to try & take your life. You could be anything you want. You can find the cure for cancer, or AIDS, but we'll never know what you're capable of if you take your life. Continue to live, it's the best thing to do.

If you'd like to talk more, then leave your sn in my inbox, or the feedback. I'd love to help you some more if it's possible. =)

ok i really like this one guy i mean i really like him i went out with another guy but then broke up with him when i realized i still liked this other guy so what do ido to get this other guy who is scared of commitment and also he likes me and i kissed him when i went to a dance with him a few weeks ago.please help

If he likes you, then he shouldn't be held back because of his fear of commitment. Honestly, ask him out & let him know that things will be fine.

Hey,
One of my best friends put a video of me on you tube, and I really want her to take it off. It is a stupid video, and I've asked her to take it off before. You see she's sortof immature, and she just shruggs and laughs it off. I don't know what to do. I really don't want a video of me on the internet like that. Like what if someone important sees it, like someone who might be offering me a job or something like that. Obviously theres not a huge risk of that, but I'm sure you can see why I wouldnt want to have a video of me on the internet.
I've tried so many things in the past to try and pursuade her to do things (I know that sounds bad lol, just liek things like take a bad picture of me off her site, or stop telling one of my friends a secret I told her.It's gotten to a point where I cant tell her things anymore with out her going out and telling someone.) But I can't seem to figure out a way that works. She put a video of one of my other friends on it too, and she got mad, and threatend not to do something for her I think it was send her pictures she really wanted or something. Anyway, I don't think threatening her is the answer, so how do I get through to her. Shes one of my best friends, and I love her, but sometimes she does these things that drive me crazy.
Also is there anyway someone can just go in and take a video off you tube? If so how?
Any help on this would be amazing. Thank you so much.

I think she's being really rude about it. You've asked her nicely, and she just laughs at you, & does nothing to change it. I think you should confront her one more time & if she doesn't, then stop talking to her so she knows you're serious about this. But I wouldn't get too upset, YouTube is for entertainment purposes, and it's not too serious. But, talk to her about it again, & if she doesn't do anything, stop talking to her.

I want a healthy relationship.

Before, I thought I did have one. I told a friend that I never had a fight with my boyfriend at the time. We were going out for about 9-11 months straight and we haven't had any argument [screaming, avoiding calls, etc kind of thing]

She said WE WOULD HAVE A FIGHT. and that our relationship would be healthy if it did.

but we never did.

Is Conflict a MUST for a good relationship?

Because I'm all good and there' no problems.. like fights. I honestly don't like drama.
Is that bad?

In my relationships we don't fight.. It's just something we don't do. We talk about things and compromise

Is that .. wrong or what?

Or was she jealous?

I agree with the both of you. Fights are completely normal & basically every couple has them, but some don't. It's not a problem that you guys don't fight, I honestly think that's really good. I hate fighting, and it sucks a ton when your boyfriend or girlfriend is mad at you. It's good that you talk things out & compromise. Maybe she's jealous, or maybe she thinks it's abnormal. It's not. If things are good & there's no fighting, then your relationship is basically perfection. =) And who says that's a bad thing?

i feel like im getting sick, probably just a cold or something. my throat is sore and my nose is a little runny and thats usually what happens first when i get a cold. its not allergies because i take allergy medicine daily. is there anything i can do to avoid this before it comes full on? or do i have to wait it out?

Drink orange juice & avoid wearing clothes that can make you catch cold. I would start taking cold medicine now & start getting some cough drops.

any suggestions as to how i can get over a guy???
i have/had a big crush on my friend but he basically regected me so im trying to get over it. how mite i do that exactly. i keep saying to myself: i dont like him. and if anyone asks then i'll say i dont. but i still do a lil. and imagine if wen i get over him, he decides to like me?

thanx ppl
SAM

Avoid him, but not completely. Don't think about him a lot. And do something to take your mind off of it. If you do that, it'll help. But like I've said time & time again, time heals everything.

If a guy says a girl is "Alright" and then says another girl is "Cute". Is one better then the other, or does he basically mean the same thing about both girls?

It depends on the guy. Usually, when I say that a guy's alright it means: "He's cute, but he's not gorgeous." And if I say he's cute, it basically means the same thing; but maybe that guy was cuter than the last one. Anyways, it depends on the guy & how they say it.

I have a friend whose parents are really overprotective. She's a girl, I'm a guy, so obviously her parents have a problem with her hanging out with me. She can only see me when we go in a big group that is mostly of girls.

I was thinking about approaching her parents and telling them that I'm a Christian [like them], I don't drink or do drugs, I'm only interested in friendship, I'm a virgin and will be until I get married..basically that I'm a good person. What do you think are the chances that they'll change their mind and let her hang out with me alone?

My parents are the same way, but they let me hang out with guys now that I'm older. Before, they wouldn't let me do ANYTHING. They were so overprotective, and I'd throw my fits & whatever, but that'd make them say NO to me still. I talked to them calmly one day, and things changed.

Anyways, I think it's a good idea for you to confront them. They'll see that you're mature & responsible. Let them know everything you told us & whatever else you can think of. =) I think they'll ease up a bit. If not, at least you can say you tried.

Okay I have this guy that I truely love and he knows that i love him but at the same time he has a girlfriend and it doesnt look like they are going to break up at any point in time but he also seems to flirt with me continuly on and on everyday! When Im walking in the halls at school he will automatically give me a hug and speak to me no matter who sees! What should I do because I pray every night that they would break up and I could have him all to myself! So what should I do?

Don't get in between them. Friendly hugs are fine, but anything more than that could be bad. He has a girlfriend, and if it doesn't look like they're breaking up any time soon, then you should back off. Wait for them to break up naturally, and when they do, then go for it, but don't do anything to jeopardize his relationship with his girlfriend. And deny his flirting. He's just leading you on.

on myspace bands. do like there "people" like publicists et cetera go on the bands profile??? because i didnt think the band members would have time too. but im not sure so THANKS FOR YOUR ANSWERS!

Usually, the band just makes their own MySpace. I doubt their "people" go on their MySpace, and band members have their own MySpaces too. =)

is there any tricks to getting whiter teeth without buying anything for it? i brush twice a day, dont smoke, floss every night, and i dont drink soda and my teeth still dont look all that great. thanks.

I heard that baking soda works well, but I'm not sure what you do with it. Just buy gum that whitens teeth, like Orbit. Also, buy some Crest White Strips or buy whitening toothpaste, and keep flossing. Do you floss & brush for the recommended two minutes? If not, try that.

Well...my friend has this really cute boyfriend and whenever I see him and her together I get a little jealous.He talks to me but he just talks to me a little.What do I do??

Just because you get jealous, it doesn't mean you like him. Maybe you're jealous because you're single & you feel left out. Find a guy that you like, & talk to him. If you think things are going well, ask him to a movie or the mall, & if things go well there, ask him out. =)

All I ask for is comfort from my peers. I am offered it, but I never accept it in its entirety. I tell myself that I should embrace the feelings I crave when the time comes, but I guess I don't want to seem awkward. I know I value myself and I know others feel the same way about me as I do myself, so why does it seem like I question myself when it comes to this? How could I make the other person feel more at ease when it comes to things like cuddling because my body tenses up: always.

Don't ask for comfort if when it's offered, you won't accept it. Always accept your comfort. Everyone questions themselves, no matter what. It's always gonna happen. No one is as happy about themselves as they think, so you're completely normal. As for cuddling, maybe you're just nervous when it happens, and that's why you tense up. Just relax & let it flow.

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