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Conflict?
I want a healthy relationship.
Before, I thought I did have one. I told a friend that I never had a fight with my boyfriend at the time. We were going out for about 9-11 months straight and we haven't had any argument [screaming, avoiding calls, etc kind of thing]
She said WE WOULD HAVE A FIGHT. and that our relationship would be healthy if it did.
but we never did.
Is Conflict a MUST for a good relationship?
Because I'm all good and there' no problems.. like fights. I honestly don't like drama.
Is that bad?
In my relationships we don't fight.. It's just something we don't do. We talk about things and compromise
Is that .. wrong or what?
Or was she jealous?
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Well it depends on your opinion of a relationship. Some people think that a relationship is boring if there aren't any conflicts. But other like to keep things normal and not fight. You both just have different ideas about the situation. I think that it is great that you and your bf don't fight, but then again eventually you might have a fight. But don't worry about what she says, and most importantly don't start a fight with him because he might think that you are just trying to find a reason to break up with him, and he might try to break up with you first.
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Nicole x0x0x0
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I agree with the both of you. Fights are completely normal & basically every couple has them, but some don't. It's not a problem that you guys don't fight, I honestly think that's really good. I hate fighting, and it sucks a ton when your boyfriend or girlfriend is mad at you. It's good that you talk things out & compromise. Maybe she's jealous, or maybe she thinks it's abnormal. It's not. If things are good & there's no fighting, then your relationship is basically perfection. =) And who says that's a bad thing?
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I don't know if she was jealous, but to an extent I do agree with her.
Conflict is just a fact of life in all genuine human relationships.
Name calling, screaming and punching are bad, and certainly not necessary, but if I were with someone I never had rather strong disagreements with, then yes, I'd worry about the health of the relationship.
Not fighting is okay, but not having a serious disagreement from time to time is scary. It either means you don't care enough about your own principals or thoughts to fight for them (in which case you aren’t being genuine and you aren’t really learning anything about each other) or it means you are so good at avoiding conflict that you compromise yourselves to death.
If you and your boyfriend never have disagreements about politics, the way to deal with friends or parents, or even where to go Friday night, then yes, that is unhealthy.
If either of you bottle up, ignore or avoid disagreements just because you can't stand to 'fight', then yes, that is unhealthy.
Fights shouldn't escalate to name calling, phone call avoiding, or screaming, but if they aren't happening at all, you might want to take stock of the relationship, and yourself, because something is a bit off. No one agrees all the time and some disagreements are worth hashing out, not compromising over.
An example might help this make more sense: I dated a boy for years who I never had a serious ‘fight’ with, but if you got the two of us talking about abortion we would probably go home furious with each other. We simply didn’t agree and never would when it came to that issue. There was no way to discuss it out or compromise on it. We had our principals and neither of us were going to budge. It made us damn angry with each other sometimes but that is a healthy fight, and I’m glad we had it. I’m glad both of us were strong enough people not to avoid the conflict.
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