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♥[?]♥ My best friend is pissed off at me just because my science teacher chose my suggestion/idea on my project over my best friend's idea. She is giving me an attitude and is refusing to talk to me. What should I do?

Tell her she is being immature and jealous.

♥[?]♥ ~ihave a serious problem...my frien cuts herself horribly cuz she thinks her life sux. last time i saw her she had 5 cuts on her arm. They were so deep. 3 of them she blamed on her cat. I have a cat and it dosent scratch perfect distances away. they were like 2 inches long. I asked her y she does it and she says cuz her life sux. i said y does it sux? she said one reason is cuz her grampa has cancer. she admitted to 2 of them and she woodnt tell me wat she used.
~i cut myself cuz every since i was born i have lived in9different houses. also my biological dad abused my mom and i havent seen him since i was 1 and a half. i had a step dad but hes gone now. he has to go to counsilin cuz he had theartened to hit me 2 times. although he never did it scared me teribbly. one day my mom had told me if i heard screamin to dial 911. i did hear screamin and i let it go 4 bout 5 min. Then i called. jus as the cops walked in my step dad was pushin down my mom. he went to jail but go out. then my mom was in the hospital. i came home and i didnt kno where she was. some how i found out. i dont member. she had mal-noutrition and double namonia(sp). she cood of died and i was only 11/12 at the time. and if she did i didnt kno where i woodve gone. my biological father owes me over 60,000 dollars in child support.
~ do u have ne kinda idea of a way i cood kinda train myself to stop cuttin? PLZ HELP ME AND MY FRIEN!!!

"If God put you to it, he'll get you through it" Just keep your head up and stay brave! If you ever need to talk [AIM : SimpLy x GiRL] Take care!

♥[?]♥ HI,
MY MOM JUST RECENTLY LOST HER DAD AND WITHIN 4 YEARS SHE LOST TWO BROTHERS. NOW, SHE WAKES UP AT 11:00 AND THEN GOES BACK TO BED AROUND 1:00. TO ME IT SEEMS LIKE SHE IS ALWAYS SLEEPING. AND I WANT TO DO MORE THINGS WITH HER. CAN YOU HELP ME? PLEASE SUGGEST SOME THINGS I CAN DO TO HELP HER!

SIGNED,
**NEEDS HELP**

Aww. Well I'm sorrie to hear that. It would be wonderful if you made your Mom dinner, but make sure to clean the dishes, and try not to make it mac and cheese. How about the Botanical Gardens? Aww, that'd be cute!! There's also art museums! And you guys could have a picnic in the park and feed the duckies! Try bowling, and swimming. Classical concerts could be nice. And starting a family game night could be nice, and it's not costly, which is always a plus. Just let her know you're always there for her, and although she's lost so much.. she has never lost them for good, and she'll always have you too. I'm sorrie I can't help you any further. I suppose I've never been in a situation like this. I do hope things go well. Goodluck, and take care!!

♥[?]♥ Hi my name is Jessica im 12 im going out with this boy that i like but i dont feel that i want to go out with him right nowthe problem is that ive dumped him 3 times twice for i liked sum 1 else and once for i thought he liked another girlso now if i dump him again i bet he'll never go back out with me agai what should i do!!!!!!!!?????????????

You might as well just end it. Really.. you beak up.. you go back out... you break up.. you go back out.. you break up.. you go back out.. you break up.. that's not a healthy relationship for anyone!! Besides, if you two were truly right for each other no one else would be able to steal your hearts away from one another. Goodluck, hopefully things work out!

♥[?]♥ What are some things you can do while kissing someone...like to spice things up?

Fondle them! That's what I do! It heats things up real quick. Enjoy! =D

♥[?]♥ why do birds fly

Because they can't breathe underwater like fishies.

♥[?]♥ My boyfriend has smoked cigarettes and gotten drunk just a few times. I hate it SO much! He's only 15 almost 16 years old, why in the hell does he need to smoke? It makes me mad but his friends tell me to get his nipple out of my mouth (referring that I'm a baby) and that he is old enough to do what he wants and its not bad... I'm just looking out for the love of my life! Do you really think I'm acting like an overprotective mom?

Eh. It's hard to say. It's normal to experiment, all kids do. But if you haven't, good for you! =D I'd say you can start to worrie when it becomes a habit and starts taking away from his everyday life. I hope things begin to look up.

♥[?]♥ I had sex for the first time last night and I didnt bleed at all. Doesnt every girl bleed? That kinda makes me wonder.. Also, we didnt do it very long or hard so I think thats why? Just making sure Im not strange or messed up..

You're not strange of messed up at all! It's perfrectly normal not to experience bleeding. Every girl is different... it just varies dependant on the person. Some girls experience slight bleeding, others significant, others none. Perhaps you've broken your hymen yourself. Many people think the hymen is inside the 'private part', actually it's on the outside and can easily be broken during sports, such as soccer and horseback riding. Also, many girls break theirs by incorrectly, or roughly using tampons. You're fine. Enjoy the secks! =D

♥[?]♥ hey, i went out with this girl for all of my freshman year, and last year we broke up, and ive dated other people since then, but now things are heating back up with my ex, and i need to know the difference between her just trying to be nice, and flirting with me again....any help?

Try asking her how she feels. =D

♥[?]♥ im IN LOVE with a guy and i realli want him to like me to but he doesnt seem to care about me the way i care about him even tho he says i love u and stuff i mean i cant take it i have loved him for 2 yrs he liked me b4 but we never told eachother and i neeeeeeed him i love him soo much i cry at nite for him and everything but i dont think he gets it and im too shy to talk to him ....wut can i do?

If you "neeeeeeed him" so baddly, then you need to overcome your shyness and talk to him about it. Be firm, and really let him know exactly what you're feeling. Also, it would probably be a good idea to tell him not to throw the words "I Love You" around if he doesn't truly mean it. I hope things work out. Goodluck! =D

♥[?]♥ Do you get tested for HIV/AIDs before sex or after sex? or both? plz help!

Well it can be transmitted through sex, yep. Also, through an injury of some sort where someone else's blood mixs with yours.

♥[?]♥ im really sensitive at school...if some1 teases me, i take it so hard. then when they reply saying im so sensitive, i feel hurt...is there anything i can say to "my friends" if they insult me..like in a joking way?

Yep; tell them. If they're good friends, they'll accept and understand the fact that it's upsetting you, and they'll stop. Make sure you get across how much it hurts you. Be firm, don't let them walk all over you; I'm sure you don't treat them like that. I do hope things work out. Goodluck.

♥[?]♥ I have a stepmother, her name is anne. She's only 15 years older than me, and my dad is 17 years older than her! I hate her, but i'm still nice to her...She's bothering me!!!! She pretends to be my mom, and i dont want people to think that! I wana tell my dad that he should divorce her, but how?

First of all, you generally can't tell your Dad to divorce her, sorrie to say. I don't have a Stepmother, so I'm sorrie, but I can't relate to what you're going through. To be honest, I'm not sure what to tell you to do, all I can suggest is talking to HER about it. Just let her know how you feel, and perhaps you two can come to some kind of mutual agreement. I hope things work out. Good luck!

♥[?]♥ my brother just hit me so bad and it was for like no reason my whole face started bleeading he took a shoe and started hiting me with it and started pulling my hair i hate him so much..i was so close 2 calling the cops but i just couldnt wat should i do i really started hating him!

Oh, gosh, Hun!! I know you said your parents weren't home, but do they know about this?? If not, you MUST tell them the VERY next time you see them! This is something VERY serious!! Your brother has MAJOR problems if he thinks that this kind of behavior is acceptable. That is sooo disgusting. I'm so sorrie!! You don't deserve this. Between you and your parents, you MUST put a stop to this! This can't continue!! I can't MAKE you do something you don't want to, I'm just trusting you to be smart and courageous and make the right decision! If you EVER need to talk.. my email is [LovesPixieKanDi@Yahoo.com] and my [AIM : SimpLy x GiRL]. I wish you the very best! I'm sure things will begin to look up for you. Just do the right thing, keep your head up, and seek help.. for you.. AND your brother. Take care! And be in touch!!

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am i considered over weight if i'm 5'2" and 120 lb.? i'm not fat fat, but i have a gut. my thighs are big too, but my arms and legs aren't.

Hun, bottom line -- if YOU feel good... you LOOK good!! =D But if you'd rather hear an answer to your question, I suppose it just depends on your build, but I'd say no.. you're perfect weight!

♥[?]♥ I have been getting zits ever since the beginning of 7th grade. I really hate it. And I use Clean & Clear to clear them up, but the product doesn't exactly work. Do u know any product that will work? What advice would u give me? I looked at ur Zits link, but i've tried all of that..and i still get zits. Please tell me what products u use! It's hard to walk in school when a lot of boys are staring..

Aww! I'm sorrie!! I really don't have any special tips for you. All I can do are recommend products. I use Noxzema, and that works well for me. I also use Neutrogena and that does wonders. We've all heard those rumors that putting toothpaste on it makes it go away quicker, and I'm not saying it doesn't! Perhaps if you're really desperate you should try it anyways. If it's really that bad, you should seek guidance from a dermatologist who can diagnose you specificly. I do hope things get better for you. I'm sorrie I can't be of more help. I wish you the best!! Take care, and sta beautiful!! =D

♥[?]♥ what does cybering mean?

Having sex online. you type out what you're doing, because you're not there to do it phsyically.

♥[?]♥ okay so i was really really close friend with my x we'll call him t.j so i was really close to tj b4 we went out then one day he asked me out and of course i said yes! and we went out for like 3 weeks (not that long) but i was then end of the school year and i didn't want a bf over the summer so i broke up with him. but now when i look back i really miss all the things he used to say and do for me! i really miss him alot now!! and i want him back! but everytime i try to call him the line is always busy cuz his sis talks alot on the phone! so wut do i do?

Try to find him at school. Write him an email. Stop by his house. There's plenty of ways to get ahold of him. If you ever call and for some reason he's not available, make sure to leave your name and number with the person that answered the phone so "T.J." can call you back. Goodluck. I really hope things work out.

♥[?]♥ okay so my friend alex(we'll say) she knew this guy we'll say his name is tyler. okay so alex met tyler at her old school and when i asked her if she knew ne hotties she gave me his sn. so i i.med him one day and we've been talkin online for the past 9 months or so. and i really have grown to love him! i think that i might even be falling for him. and i really wanna meet him face to face one day. but i have no clue how i would explain him to my parents! bcuz when i first got aim i wasn't suppsoed to talk to n e one i didn't knoe! and now i might even go meet him?? idk so please help me asap!

Simple -- just tell your parents you met him through Alex [and you did]. Goodluck!

♥[?]♥ ok here's my info

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how cum im not a moderator, and how do i become a moderator?????????

Give it time; it'll happen. It may take more than what you've got though. Just keep doin' what you're doin', and do your best.

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