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my friend cuts.............. so do i
~ihave a serious problem...my frien cuts herself horribly cuz she thinks her life sux. last time i saw her she had 5 cuts on her arm. They were so deep. 3 of them she blamed on her cat. I have a cat and it dosent scratch perfect distances away. they were like 2 inches long. I asked her y she does it and she says cuz her life sux. i said y does it sux? she said one reason is cuz her grampa has cancer. she admitted to 2 of them and she woodnt tell me wat she used.
~i cut myself cuz every since i was born i have lived in9different houses. also my biological dad abused my mom and i havent seen him since i was 1 and a half. i had a step dad but hes gone now. he has to go to counsilin cuz he had theartened to hit me 2 times. although he never did it scared me teribbly. one day my mom had told me if i heard screamin to dial 911. i did hear screamin and i let it go 4 bout 5 min. Then i called. jus as the cops walked in my step dad was pushin down my mom. he went to jail but go out. then my mom was in the hospital. i came home and i didnt kno where she was. some how i found out. i dont member. she had mal-noutrition and double namonia(sp). she cood of died and i was only 11/12 at the time. and if she did i didnt kno where i woodve gone. my biological father owes me over 60,000 dollars in child support.
~ do u have ne kinda idea of a way i cood kinda train myself to stop cuttin? PLZ HELP ME AND MY FRIEN!!!
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Wow...all of that is so horrible! I'm truly and REALLY sorry to hear all of that. Well, I'll start with your friend. What she needs more than anyone is someone there for her. Having someone there for you in hard times is what EVERYONE should have. *There's ALWAYS a way out.*
It's great how you've been asking her about her problem. You've "approached" the problem and questioned what she's doing- which is good. When your loved one's are ill (especially with such a horrible and deadly sickness as cancer! :( ) you're bound to be emotionally hurt and distraught (even from little things! they all add up to make you very sad and emotional). And for some people, their way of getting rid of the pain is causing it on themselves. Pretty much: the pain of the injury eases your emotional pain. Here are some places where to turn to stop the cutting:
--Therapy and treatment information:
S.A.F.E. ALTERNATIVES
^^ www.selfinjury.com; 800-DONT-CUT
--Information about one of the premier treatment centers (plus support group services):
THE HEALING HOUSE
^^ www.thehealinghousela.com; 888-22-VISTA
--News about the latest treatment approaches for self-injuries and things:
SECRET SHAME
^^ www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
You need (if you already haven't...or if they haven't found out) to tell her parents about her problem. It's a serious thing, and they deserve to know about what their daughter is doing!
But no matter what, always stick by her. Listen to what she says, tell her how much you understand how she feels. You two CAN work out your cutting problems together. There's no use in causing harm on yourself just because your life is so tough. Life also has so many amazing things that happen! Eventually you're going to have a wondeful family, tropical vacations, and 3-course dinners, and a swimming pool with a jacuzzi...you just have to learn to take the good with the bad.
And for you, same goes as ALL above. Life really has its hard points. Getting past them just makes you stronger for the future, and I'm not trying to be cheesy. Ever hear of the saying, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" ? Well...that goes for you! You both need help. So PLEASE check out everything I gave you- for own sake and health! It sucks how your life is so amazingly tough. Life is such a beautiful thing, it just takes a long while to see it.
I'm ALWAYS here if you need me. If you ever need more advice or just someone to talk to, you can ask me another question or instant message me on my screen name: cRaZi CaIVI (it spells: Crazy Cam ;) )
I just want to let you know that I hope people like you, that have such a tough life and things going on, have guts. If you could just stop the cutting and deal with the pain in a positive way, you'd deserve the Purple Heart. (Or...something along the lines. :) ) It's not fair how you can get it so bad. And I'm really sorry, again.
I hope I helped. Please rate me.
Sincerely, Cammie
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Well,you do have a few problems and I'll do my best to disect them one at a time. First thing is you and your friend's cutting habits. You both need to get counseling for this and for some reason she may be blaming herself for her grandpa's disease. It's not her fault and although she may be depressed,ask her grandpa if he'd like to see her do that. I bet he'd say no. There's more to it than just her grandpa but you didn't tell me anything else. Your mother seems to have poor taste in men and you need a stable father figure in your life. Neither your real dad or that shit excuse for a stepfather is gunna cut it. You have to remind yourself that cutting yourself isn't gunna make your problems go away. I don't have much experience with this but this is the best advice I can give you.
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Girl .. i feel your pain! I havent seen my biological father in forever and he used to abuse me and make it to the point where i couldnt breathe .. Finally i had counselin and got on medication for "depression". It helped a lot.. maybe thats what u need to do. Go to a counselor nearest you and talk about getting on sum kind of depression medication. I was on "celexa" if you want to ask about that. I was also suicidle at lots of times and actually almost killed myself. I thought it was the end of the world. But believe me you have so much to live for. Unless, you can find the inner strength inside urself to pull through it and dont hurt urself no more. Ive been there and cut my whole arm up and realized it wasnt worth the pain. My friends would tell me how stupid i was and it seriuosly wasnt worth it. Girl u only live once so do it right and dont let no one bring you down. To this day im standing strong and NEVER have bad thoughts.
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This is really serious i think you and your friend should go to therepy. You should realize that you loose alot of blood and its not healthy you could dy.Thats how serious it can be. And also leaves scars! If u havnt told anyone you really should,or just stop doing it.but i think it would be better to tell someone. If u do just think your saving you and your friend.I hope your willing to do this. i have a friend who cuts him self and he goes to therepy. dont think that i think your crazy because you have gone through alot to, but dont take it out on yourself. please email me back telling me if this works thankyou for asking!!
~jessica~
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Yeah,that is a really serious thing to do.You really need to tell somene about this, its just like smoking once you do it a few times you cant stop with out serious help.Yeah its really sad about whats happining with your family but dont let it ruin your life too, you have to live your own life if you cant depend on your parents.Im very sorry about whats happining right now but it might be just a phase in your life, and i know you might think it is some what your faught but its really not at all so there is really no need to take it out on yourself.Maybe should try going to church,Yeah ask your mom to take you,her, and your friend. Well im really sorry about this but you need to tell some one and get yall some help. i hope every thing works out well!! If my advice helped you plzz tell me, it makes me feel really good.**Kelli**
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Well Ive learned from cutters that, it's like your way of havin a reason for the pain that you feel inside, so that you can be like "this is why im in pain" and have the cut to blame it on. So one of the best ways to help you is to go to a therapist that specializes in people that cut.Also try to be more open about how feel about things, dont always keep it boiled up inside. Also, cuttin, is...I guess...addictin,so you can also slowly stop, break down how often you do it.
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TO: my friend cuts...and so do i
dont throw away your life...everyone has to go through some kind of hardship and endure at least a lil bit of pain to grow...in you behalf you've had at least your share and mehbe more which will prove useful in the footoore...fer rite now theres not much you can do buh hold on and keep hoping..."you can die at any time buh living takes real courage. everyone has thah courage wen theyre born buh its like a muscle thah needs to be excercised to prove thah it can endure all tests thrown its way"...hold on to life and all the lessons you learn now and itll get you somewhere better...dont look at your life as half emptie...tell your frend too... mehbe both of you can go to a support group or sumthin thah will totally help...buh watebe ya do dont give up...keep trying...ya noe?
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ok all i can say is everytime u think about cuttin ureself have a rubberband or hairbow on ure wrist and snap it cuz it doesnt leave a mark and only stings for a second or 2 tell ure friend the same!!well i hope i helped~~
~luv ya~
~*RiSs*~
~~plz rate
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Well you guys could go to a hospital to get help maybe some counsoling would help-trix
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WOW!! ok well my life is kinda the same here i will tell you my story so i dont feel left out:
ok well be4 i was born my mom married my brothers dad and they had my brother (Michael) then they got divorced and my mom met some other guy and they were not even married and they had me(so i feel like i was i mistake, like something my mom didnt want) anywayz my so called "dad" abused my mom and then she went to a shelter with me and my brother. and then she met this other guy and they got married and they had my 2 sisters (hannah and raechel) and then they got divorced and my mom had 4 kids all alone for years we lived in a basement and then they kicked us out for some reason and and then my brother moved to his dads and my mom met this other guy (David) they were together for 6 years he was like a dad!(the only thing closes to a dad in my whole intire life)(oh great now i am crying...the things i will go thru to give advice) anywayz they broke up just recently (last summer) so then my mom goes and mets this other guy and they are thinking about getting married (and i am still not over the david thing!!) just about three weeks ago my brother moved back in with us...thats the really only good thing thats happened lately
so yea my life pretty much sux too!!
but i dont cut myself i just talk it out with my friends they pretty much understand...i thought about cutting myself but i didnt. just write down how you feel! if you need anything else just ask me i will be here!!
you guyz will get thru this!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!
luv ya,
Breahna
TELL ME HOW EVERYTHING WORKS OUT!!
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I understand you and your friends have a tough life, but cutting is no way to solve it. Both of you need to get help ASAP. Try 1-800-SUICIDE (it deals with self-mutilation, not just suicide)It is a toll-free number, meaning it's free and WON'T show up on your phone bill. If you want to go that extra mile, admit yourself into a rehab clinic. It is a great way to learn other ways to cope and to deal with underlying problems. Also, you need to realize that what happened with your stepdad & mom is not your fault, you did the right thing. As much as you'd like to help yourself, the only thing you can do is seek professional help for you & your friend.
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I soo sorry to hear all about that. put fitted rubber bands around your wrist (not to tite but not falling off either) and evertime you feel the need to cut just pull one of them and let go so it pops your wrist. I hope everything gets better though.
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"If God put you to it, he'll get you through it" Just keep your head up and stay brave! If you ever need to talk [AIM : SimpLy x GiRL] Take care!
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omg wow first off..im soo sorry you have had a really tough life...no one deserves that kind of pain..n if u ever need 2 tlk im here! about your friend, theres really nothing you can do exept be there for her. some of my friends cut, and its one of the toughest things iv ever had to go through. just let her know that youre always there for her n u always will be! try 2 tlk 2 her to help her get out some of both of ur frustration. maybe go to the gym together or something? i also know what its like to move around alot..it sucks!! but iv stayed in the same place for like 5 yrs now lol. n no human being has any right at all to even touch another person..thats so horrible..wow. i guess to train yourself to stop cutting..just think about it this way. you've been doing it your whole life, and it hasnt solved anything. yeah it might feel good for a lil bit..like a temperary high...but in the end all you have is scars. in a wayits good tht u have a friend whos going through the same thing (cutting) bc you can become each others support systyms!! maybe instead of cutting you can get ur feelings out in something more..physicallike kickboxing or working out..or sports/ something that makes you happy. concentrate on the things that you love..surround yourself with fun ppl who you like to be around! and everytime you think about cutting, just remember all you'll have in the end is a scar! if u ever need 2 tlk..im here 4 u!! n let ur friend kno..if nething happens to ger gpa...at least hes not in anymore pain n hes in a better place n she has another angel lookin down on her!!! x0x0x0x
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