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I've stayed here so that I can share the knowledge I do have. I know I'm not changing the world but I do hope that I spark others to open their eyes.
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I hope that even if you absolutely hate my answer that it'll kick start your brain. Hopefully you'll begin taking your time to respond instead of hurried answers that are useless to an already confused person.
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sorry to ask this but ya so i gave head today and i swallowed his sperm and like an hour after i did that i was wondering what happens to it when it get swallowed? (link)
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It flows down your esophagus and into your stomach. The sperm will die from your natural stomach acid and it will be broken down and used in your body just as food is.
As they say, it's a good form of protein.
Remember, you can still contract a wide variety of STDs from participating in any form of oral sex so make sure you take precautions to protect yourself, ensure your health, and keep your partner clean.
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why cant 13 year old get a job and 14 year olds can? (link)
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Child labor laws.
There had to be a cut off somewhere or people would abuse a young person's ability to perform hard, manual labor. You are a growing person with lots of learning to do. If you were working all of the time then you wouldn't get nearly as much stuff done in a day as you do now. The 13 / 14 year difference is just what the law felt was most appropriate.
It's flat-out illegal to hire someone under the age the law states. In some cases you can get special forms if the person is about to turn the proper age but, other than that, a law is a law.
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can i have sex with 2 men at the same time? (link)
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Well, yes. That would be what a threesome is.
You can have a:
MMM (male, male, male)
or a
FMM / MMF (female, male, male / male, male, female)
Threesome if you are wanting to have sex with two men at the same time.
This will require a lot of vaginal stretching if you want them to enter you at the same time in that location.
This may require you to participate in anal sex and/or oral sex.
This may require the men to engage in sexual interaction with each other.
Is it humanly possible? Yes. Porn stars do this all of the time for videos.
Is it smart to do? Absolutely not, especially if the men are not regularly tested for STDs and STIs and have been with other people, sexually speaking.
If, for some reason, you are dead-set on doing and 100% certain it is what you want then then:
1. Get a check-up and complete STD screening first. Require BOTH men to do the same.
2. Use hormonal birth control pills.
3. Use condoms.
4. Use lots of lubrication.
5. Go slowly.
No form of protection is 100% safe. You still may contract life-long diseases. You still may become pregnant if you are female.
If you don't take your time and use enough lubricant you can hurt yourself pretty badly in certain positions and whatnot. Be smart.
Use your head and care about yourself.
Nobody likes a slut.
Nobody likes to be easy.
Nobody likes to be used and thrown away like garbage after.
Nobody likes to have unwanted pregnancies.
Nobody likes to have to be taken to the ER because of sex.
Nobody likes to suffer with STDs.
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i didnt know if you could ancer i need i name for my site , if you know i good name message me on myspace my email it add ti sitemodle@yahoo.com
- thanks . (link)
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"Hey
I didn't know if you could answer. I need [a] name for my site. If you know [a] good name, message me on myspace. My email to add is sitemodle@yahoo.com. Thanks."
Just thought you might want to choose to type a little better to get your point across properly. When you choose to not type decently enough then people don't take you seriously. I know you're only 15 but if you are trying to make any sort of website then you have to seem like you have decently useful brain.
I'm not entirely sure what your site is. I looked at your MySpace profile it appears you absolutely must be friends with you before you can view it. It is in the "Private" category. I see the title of "Site Models" but that really doesn't mean much when it comes to websites.
I have no idea what your site may be about. If you're asking what you should change your name to on MySpace then I think you have a pretty spiffy one of "mixdown advice" already. I'm not sure what "Fluxatien" might mean though on your MySpace photo.
This is the particular MySpace I encountered when typing in your email address:
http://www.myspace.com/bubble_buster_site_modle
That's really all I can say about that. Please, give us a description of your site you would like help with, at least. The MySpace page tell us absolutely nothing about what you are trying to do online.
And, by the way, I'm not a big fan of Hannah Montana either, but if you're trying to make your MySpace site a little more professional for your website (or using it as a website to do something more "professional" on) then you might want to nix that line. It's cute...for a 10 year old.
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im 17/f in march i found this tiny painless bump on the opening of my vagina hole. it was colorless didnt hurt when i touched it basically it was there but still worried me. the thing is i didnt think it could of been an STD because me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 years and we have never had sex with anyone else. but was always on the back of my mind that it could of been an STD but how? anyway that month i had to go to the gyno anyway and i asked her about it she looked at it and told me not to like pop it and such because its always dark and wet down there that it would never heal. so i didnt i was to scared to. she said it was nothing but if it got bigger and hurt to tell her. some info. me and my boyfriend have sex almost every week couple times a week when im not on my period. well now this bump i noticed this week after being on my period hurt but i thought that oh i wore pads all week long it could be like a rash wich like happends lol. but now that everytime i wipe it hurts just that bump and i look at it and its still colorless but a little bit bigger then it was and when i touch it it's hard and it hurts just when i wipe or touch it. im really scared and i feel like i cant tell my mom because shell just think STD im sure and think the worst basically i dont know how she will react and i dont want it to ruin me seeing my boyfriend. i figured id wait till the next time i go to the gyno to tell my doctor and test it out. but i want to know the possibilites that it could be. im freaking out and i just might be going to my mom about this but i just dont want her to know my personal sex life like o this bump is beacuse you guys had sex so much you got a blister lately i feel like i cant talk to anyone i was surprised i could bring this up to my boyrfiend again. i just need help. i want to know if im okay or tell someone soon. (link)
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Hi!
I saw that you said you already had gotten the HPV shot.
Did you know there are over 100 strains of HPV?
Did you know the shot only protects you from 4 of those strains?
Genital cancers are caused by HPV strain numbers 16, 18, 31, 33, 35, 39, 45, 51. Genital warts are caused by 6, 11, 42, 43, 44, 55 and some others I'm not sure of at the moment. Other different strains of HPV are also responsible for warts on the hands and feet, a scaly skin disease, and even an oral infection that causes masses on oral mucus membranes.
The four strains of HPV it helps prevent are numbers 16, 18, 6, and 11. Strains 16 and 18 cause cervical cancer and 6 and 11 cause genital warts; however, there are many other strains that cause the same thing and that are transmitted the same way.
You are still at risk for quite a few strains of the HPV so you cannot rule out genital warts. See your doctor.
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You absolutely NEED to go back and see your doctor.
Tell your doctor that it's began to be painful.
If you didn't before, let your doctor know that you ARE sexually active.
This sounds a lot like a wart from a strain of HPV to me. There is no tests to find out if guys have HPV. HPV can be picked up ANYWHERE, including from under your own fingernails from the various things you come in contact with every day. If your doctor is able to do some swabbing, she can test for some strains of HPV.
Simply tell your mother that you're having some female problems down below and you think you should see a doctor. Simple things like a yeast infection can occur from anything--including wear really tight clothes down there, drinking too little water, eating lots of sugar, and wearing thongs. Play it off that you're having some funky discharge and you want to talk to a doctor about it if you absolutely cannot tell your mother about the bump. From there, have her make you an appointment, see your doctor, and tell him/her the truth about the bump. Personally, I do suggest you be honest with your mother though in case this bump turns out to be something serious and you need more medical help to fix the problem.
Having a bump on your vagina is absolutely not normal.
Having a painful bump on your vagina is pretty scary.
My mother had cancer down there and, though hers was not in the form of a bump on the outer part of her vagina where she could reach, it's very serious, too, and a possibility.
I also highly recommend that you request your doctor to give you a full BLOOD STD test to be on the safe side. For this you're going to need to make of list of all STDs you know of and can find on the internet. Bring the paper along in your purse or pocket and when you see your doctor bring up the STD test. Ask them what they usually test for and if you can request more testing be done. If they allow it then suggest the items on the list that they currently do not test for.
You doctor may blow it off at first since you've only been with one partner but, like I'm saying, a bump on your vagina is absolutely not normal. Just say, "I want to make really positive about this. I am pretty sure my boyfriend has been faithful but I want to make sure that I am clean. That's all."
If they respect you, they'll do it for you. It only takes a little vial of blood and a swab usually.
This is not from shaving, trust me. It is not a rash from pads, trust me. This is not normal.
Please, go back to your doctor soon. If it's causing pain then your body is trying to scream at you that it is not right. Listen to you body and see your doctor about it.
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that's what my friends call blood clot. because it looks like strawberry jam. no, but seriously i get it sometimes. but how is it caused and why? does it have anything to do with using tampons ('cause i use them-)? i am 13, usually every time i bleed i get that strawberry jam. is this normal? (link)
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The blood clots are actually NOT dead skin from the cervix. Not at all.
The lining of your uterus is shed once a month to make sure is healthy and ready for a baby to attach to it if you were to get pregnant. When you are bleeding too heavily or too quickly you body doesn't have much time to break down the chunks of the uterine wall that is coming off.
It's sort of like washing a car. Dirt gets build up on it and you'd like to be shiny and new again. If you don't take the time to scrub it down before rinsing it then sometimes you'll notice big chunks of dirt and debris coming off in the streams of water.
Your body needs to be taken care of so that it can heal up properly and break down things like this.
Increasing the amount of water you drink, exercise you participate in, and taking a regular vitamin each day will help to reduce blood clots during your menstrual flow.
It isn't harmful or dangerous to be experiencing blood clots during your period unless you get lots and lots of them or they are very large in size. If you experience either of those then it's time to see a doctor to find out why you body isn't doing it's job properly.
As for tampons, they are actually extremely harmful to you body. They increase the risk of all sorts of infections, toxic shock syndrome (TSS), and even cancer. They even cause you to lose a little bit of sensation in your vagina itself if you continue to use them each month. Over time, you will notice a decrease amount of sensitivity and may lose the ability altogether to produce the right amount of wetness for sexual play or even become unable to feel sex properly when a penis enters your vagina.
Believe it or not, making a few simple changes in your menstrual product choice can actually make your periods lighter and shorter. I've experienced this myself, first-hand.
I have lots and lots of links to why you should absolutely not use tampons and try to only use pads or try a menstrual cup. Here is some information I've supplied to other Advicenators in my time here on this site:
Why tampons are bad and why they can cause you pain, cancer, and other serious problems:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=547596
http://www.xomba.com/are_tampons_supposed_hurt
What are menstrual cups?:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=533850
(It doesn't matter how old or young you are. Menstrual cups are can fit everyone. I have a really, really small vagina and I could fit the DivaCup inside just fine and dandy.)
There you go! :)
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I went to the mall with a friend. I tried taking a small item in a store, but was caught. The worker just said, "Can you return the item to its place?" I handed it to him. He said nothing else. My friend and I looked in the store for a few minutes, then left.
After we left I looked back and saw him dialing a phone #. I'm paranoid that he was calling mall security/the police. Is this possible? He didn't ask me ANY information, no name/address/ss #/id.
After that we left the mall to my car. No one followed us, and I really didn't notice anyone taking my license plate #, but this is the part I feel most paranoid about. Is it possible he could have been calling security & they can review tapes and see my license plate # when I'm leaving? Like I said, NO one was watching as we left, in fact when we were leaving police were outside dealing with some handcuffed person and didn't even glance at us. Also, even if my license plate # was captured, how can they be sure it wasn't my friends car? Also, not sure if this matters, but my car was in a parking lot far away from the original store.
I'm just really paranoid, this happened 2 days ago, and I'm scared about getting that letter in the mail, but I'm just wondering if this is possible because they have none of my information. But, I do know the store had one camera, I'm unsure whether cameras were in the parking lot. Also, this is my first time trying to shoplift. Thanks. (link)
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Have you ever saw a news station play footage of, say, a supermarket getting robbed?
You know, nobody asks those people for their name, phone number, or social security number. It would be pretty stupid to think a robber would leave his personal information with someone so that he could be arrested later. Be realistic here.
I worked at a grocery store. Someone's car was hit. The driver drove off quickly before anyone could even get outside to see what was going on. The security footage didn't catch their face but you can be damned sure the news station aired some of the footage, the numbers on the license plate that could be gotten from it, and the description of the vehicle. They were eventually caught and arrested.
Those people eventually get arrested from people who just recognize them from the tapes or various footage the store has to offer.
He could have very well called the authorities and submitted the tape for evidence if you had stolen any more merchandise. The mall I frequented where I use to live actually posted photos from security cameras of people who usual steal so that the stores would keep an eye out for them.
The cops may not arrest you now because you returned the item but he could still file a report on the occurrence and have submitted security tape footage to them with your face on it. He also has the right to post photos from the footage on his store area so that other stores know to look out for you when you enter. The manager can also print out photos of you from the tapes and give it to his employees so that they are on the lookout for you as well.
Although you probably aren't going to be arrested from this one time problem, you need to seriously reconsider shoplifting. The stores lose money when you take the items, even if you cannot understand how they would lose from you stealing. They can spread your face around if they do catch you shoplifting and choose to not prosecute right now.
On another note, a letter wouldn't just come in the mail, most likely. The cops would show up at your door. Nobody ever gets a letter in the mail from the police station saying, "Hi there! I hope you're having a good day. We have footage of you shoplifting. Please come down to the station so we can arrest you. Thanks!" Again, please be realistic.
Also, just because it was your first time shoplifting doesn't mean you get a pass or a get-out-of-jail-free card. A crime is a crime. A robber is a robber. Stealing is stealing. You, obviously, know better than to steal from a store. The cops aren't going to say, "Oh! It's your first time getting caught? Sorry about that. Call us the next time you commit a crime. Have a good day now!" It doesn't matter if this is the first time for the 50th time. An arrest for a crime committed is an arrest for a crime committed. You might not serve very long in jail for a first-time offense but you would definitely not just get off scott-free. Use your head.
It's not worth it, trust me. If you steal, somebody will find out eventually. Nobody benefits from committing a crime.
P.S. Just because you don't actually SEE the security cameras doesn't mean they're not there.
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is cuddling with a guy friend considered cheating? no kissing, no grabbing or anything just laying next to someone basically and hugging. (link)
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How would you feel if you walked in your boyfriend's room and saw him cuddling with another girl? Not kissing or anything but cuddled up with her on his bed with his arm around her, just "hugging" her.
How would you feel if he didn't even talk to you about it before he did it, having no idea you were going to see him laying in bed with another girl?
What would go through your mind at first? Would you think they were just friends? Would you think that they had been doing something more than just hugging on the bed? Would you question WHY they decided to lay in the bed and not just hug standing up if all it was going to be was a hug? Would you be upset that he didn't even give you warning that he was considering doing this sort of thing with another girl?
That should answer your question if it's acceptable in your relationship.
If it seems "iffy" and you're unsure then it's probably not a safe activity to do while you're with someone else.
Just because you're not "making out" or not sexually touching another person doesn't necessarily mean it's an appropriate behavior. While it may not be "cheating" it could very well hurt your boyfriend if he found out. It could also give the boy you're cuddling with the wrong impression and encourage more to begin happening on that bed.
To me, this is highly inappropriate conduct to participate in with someone while you're in a relationship with another person.
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I'm 17 years old.
A few days ago, my left breast started hurting very bad around the areola. Now yesterday, that areola has turned flaming red, and there's a lump that hurts like crazy just above my nipple.
It's only the left breast, not both of them. Should I be worried? Could it be breast cancer? Should I even bother to go to the doctor, or is this normal? (link)
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I've actually read about this before. It had to deal with milk ducts somehow getting infected. The woman I read about having this experience was not pregnant or a mother either so I suppose it can happen to anyone. It took them weeks for her doctor to figure out what was really wrong, apparently.
This is NOT normal to experience.
Call your doctor immediately though.
Like, right now.
Let them know about you situation and make an appointment to come in as soon as they have a spot available.
When you feel it is very likely your body screaming at you that something is not normal, right, or okay. Pain is you body reacting to something bad or hurtful. If this is an infection or cancer then you need to see a doctor immediately to get this problem fixed.
It's better to be safe than sorry. Even if the pain goes away or the inflammation calms down it doesn't mean the problem has gone away entirely or that it won't reoccur.
See you doctor ASAP. We cannot diagnose you with cancer either. You need an examination by a professional.
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Always been wondering this...I'm 17 an my boyfriend an I have been playing ^^'...he's never put himself inside of me only touched the top area of my private once but told him to stop after that...X-x (not uset to talking about this stuff) so sorry if I'm being a lil blunt with information...O_o... just was wondering if only letting him rub it lightly gets you pregnant =O (link)
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shelbylynnwalker is absolutely correct.
A virgin can very well get pregnant.
If he cums and the sperm drip down into your vagina then you're at risk.
It takes one sperm to get you pregnant.
One.
That's all.
Make him wear a condom before rubbing against you. Pre-ejaculate (precum) is usually not felt by the guy when it drips out of his penis. While a regular, full ejaculation can contain as many as 100 million sperm at a time, the sperm count within pre-ejaculate can be as many as a few million.
It doesn't matter if your hymen is in tact (ie: your cherry is not popped) and you're a virgin. There is still a hole to your vaginal entrance that will allow fluid in and out. If that fluid carries live sperm then you're at risk. If he is rubbing on you and begins to leak a little fluid and neither of you realize it then you can very well be at risk.
Buy condoms even if he isn't going to enter you.
It's better to be safe than sorry.
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What does it mean when a guy says he wants to have deep Conversation with you about life? (link)
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Deep conversation = very serious
life = life
It's possible that he wants to talk with you about the future. Your hopes, dreams, and personal desires. He wants to let you know what his future plans are, too. If you are dating, then he may even suggest taking things further in the relationship. He may be wanting to confess to you his true feelings and, quite possibly, let you know how much he loves you.
He may also want to help you open your eyes to things he feels you've been overlooking or neglecting. This is especially possible if he is older than you.
You're just going to have to say, "What do you mean?" and go from there. He will let you know. It shouldn't be embarrassing or scary. He should be expecting you to say, "What do you mean?" or, "Ok then, what would you like to discuss with me?"
It could be as simple as:
I think you're doing some very inappropriate things that could screw up the rest of your life.
I have deeper feelings for you than I've let you know previously.
I want x, x, and x in my life. I see a future with you and I want you in it...
I want x, x, and x in my life. I've come to realize that my future doesn't have a real spot for you in it. I'm sorry...
We can't really know because we're not actually in your specific spot with this. We don't know the history here or what has possibly happened recently.
Open up to him. Let him know that you're interested in having this conversation. Let it flow from there.
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I went to donate blood and almost couldnt because of high bloodpressure/pulse. I'm on loestrin 24. Sometimes ill just be laying down and will feel my heart going crazy, and once in a while ill check it randomly and it goes pretty fast. Could my birth control cause this? I eat fairly healthy and work out, but is there anything I can do?
Thanks
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You absolutely need to speak with your doctor about this as soon as possible.
I was on birth control pills for years. One day I passed out and couldn't really figure out why. My doctor suspected that the birth control had raised my blood pressure too much--to a dangerous level.
High blood pressure is something you shouldn't just let go on. See a doctor immediately.
Nearly any hormonal birth control pill seems to have the ability to form blood clots, raise your blood pressure, and have life-threatening side-effects, especially in long-term usage. Take care of your body by talking to you doctor about this.
There have women who have died from complications relating to their birth control pill. My doctor told me when I had to go in about passing out. It's a very serious matter.
It's likely they will make you stop taking this particular birth control. They may actually make you go see a specialized cardiologist (heart doctor) to make sure everything is alright and there isn't any damage.
Do not let this go on for another day. Make your appointment today. Right now. Pick up the phone so you can get this handled appropriately.
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I will be travelling out of the country soon and where I'm going is extremely hot and humid. I am also suppose to get my period during this trip. Do you know if extreme heat affects my period schedule? Also, I am on birth control so would that keep it regular? (link)
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Since you're on hormonal birth control pills, I take it, then your period should fairly normal. It might be off by one day but, other than that, probably not at all.
Make sure to drink plenty of pure, clean water as often as possible while you are in the heat. Keep your body properly hydrated and nothing should go wrong or change.
Stress can alter your normal menstrual cycle but the birth control will probably help to keep it stable any way. Just relax and have fun. Take care of your body.
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Okay I'm 14 years old and I have never had sex or been fingered but I have red bumps everywhere around my vagina and just everywhere down there and it itches sooooooo bad. It also burns sometimes to pee. I don't know if it's Yeast infection or what!? I don't wanna ask my mom about it, I'm to scared. Which means I can't get any type of treatment. So am I gonna die? Or have pain red itchy bumps forever and never be able to have sex? (link)
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There are so many things this could be.
It could be anything from an STD you have contracted from coming in contact with an infected item (including your own hands), a strain of HPV, a yeast infection,or any other sort of vaginal infection or disease.
There is absolutely no way to know what this is without you getting properly examined by a doctor.
Now, this is serious. Sometimes it might not seem like the symptoms are going to be too bad but the itchiness can quickly turn into pain. There is some infections that leave women with life-long pelvic pain and infertility. It's such a hard road to travel and many of these women have to be on prescription pain killers for the rest of their lives because of the severity of the pain.
This is something you should not let go any more.
It might be embarrassing to talk with your mother and the doctor but it's your health we're talking about. Getting the proper treatment now might allow you to leave a long, healthy life later. It's not something that is going away on it's own, obviously, and you body is experiencing these symptoms while it's trying to scream at you, "Something is NOT right!"
Speak with your mother first and ask her to please get you a doctor's appointment. I cannot stress how serious this could be. Simply let her know that you're having itching, discomfort, and bumps on your vaginal area. She isn't going to think you're a bad kid. Women get infections from nearly anything now.
Tell your doctor the truth when you go in. If you have done ANYTHING sexual then let him know so he knows the things you may have been at risk for.
Sometimes it's better to do something not so nice right now and get it over with than to wait and live with something horrible for the rest of your life.
You need...
...absolutely NEED...
...to see a doctor.
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Is it normal for when my male cousin stays the night and we go to sleep on the bed that we made that I get a boner? (link)
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It isn't abnormal if you aren't actually having sexual feelings toward him and you two aren't actually doing anything sexual.
I'm not a guy but, from what I have been told, you cannot always control when the erection will occur. The erection now may be caused by fear that it will happen. Your hormones are likely to be changing and unexpected erections will occur.
Try to not sleep in the same bed with him. Change the normal routine to help you body stay relaxed about him staying the night so you don't get an embarrassing erection. Sleep on the floor beside the bed or in another room. Go to the bathroom and try to calm down if you cannot hide the problem until it goes away.
Do not act sexually because of this. In many cases, it's illegal. In all cases, it's morally wrong to engage in sexual activity with your relative.
If your feelings are further than that then you'll just need to ask another question with more specific thoughts and feelings on the matter.
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I ejaculated the night before fingering my girlfriend. The next morning I showered, played basketball etc before fingering her. Could she possibly be pregnant? She has been taking Birth Control pills for about 4 months now a but I'm still worried. (link)
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If you washed your hands thoroughly then the sperm is likely to have been flushed down the drain.
If the sperm had a chance to dry then they are immobile and die shortly after the liquid has dried and gone.
It's highly likely she is not pregnant from this time you have fingered her.
Remember to always, always, always wash your hands very well (scrub under your nails) before fingering her to help reduce the chances of diseases and germs being spread from things your hands have come in contact with during the day.
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Okay, so tomorrow i'm going to mexico
i'm flying out of innercontinental (not sure if I spelt that right) I was wandering if I would be able to pack my straightener in my purse & do airports care if you take medicine with you such as ibuprophen i'm not taking the bottle I just put some in a ziploc baggy or will they think i'm smuggling drugs & make me throw it away?
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Make sure to put the items in your purse or carry-on bag so that they will be x-rayed and scanned.
Since you will be going over the boarder, I do recommend you purchase a travel sized bottle of advil or tylenol so that they will be in a package and there won't be too much questioning of, "What are these pills in the baggie?!" You can buy a little travel sized container at places like Wal-Mart or even CVS. They will be located near the registers in most cases, and are very affordable.
It's doubtful they will think the pills are drugs but you never know. It would be awful to be delayed for hours while they figured out what exactly they were, for sure. Trust me, if they even have the slightest whim that you may be holding illegal drugs then they aren't going to just make you throw them away and be done with it. You'll be detained for hours.
If you go through a lot of the pills then buy two or three of the travel sized bottles so you won't have pills floating around in a plastic baggie when you do return to the states.
There won't be any problem with putting your straightener in your purse as long as you allow it to be scanned over. They'll, obviously, notice it's a straightener. The most they'd like to do would be open it up and double check that it isn't fake or something and that you were trying to smuggle things in it. It's highly doubtful they'll go that far though.
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I forgot to take my pill one day, but I was only late by about 14 hours. I've been spotting for over 4 days now and it's really annoying. The weird thing for me is that when it's time to take the placebo pills, it usually takes about 2 days to get my period, not 14 hours. (I've been on it for almost a year now) Is this normal? If this has happened to anyone else, how long will it take to go away?? (I'm not having sex so I'm not worried about getting pregnant, I just want to know when this will be over)
Thanks! (link)
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There are lots of reasons breakthrough bleeding occurs while you're on the pill.
There is usually nothing to be worried about if you're not currently sexually active since this is probably not an extremely early miscarriage.
Sometimes you will still ovulate while on the pill, hence the lack of 100% pregnancy safety when relying on it as birth control. Sometimes your body gets a little confused and can expel some blood.
Sometimes a little blood has gotten trapped and makes it way out of your body after your period is over. This usually happens fairly close to the end of your period though and the blood will not be a bright red color.
Many oral contraceptives thin out the uterine lining so sometimes it can bleed mid-cycle when your hormones (specifically estrogen) fluctuate a little (14 hours without your normal scheduled pill).
If you've recently masturbated (with or without objects) then it's possible you cut your vaginal walls just a little and caused a little bit of bleeding. Nothing to worry about as long as it stops relatively quickly.
If you are experiencing pain, the blood gets heavier or lasts more than two or three days, or something just does not seem right about the situation then see your doctor. It's better to be safe than sorry.
I read that about 80% of the women who experience breakthrough bleeding is caused by missing a birth control pill. This is, usually, nothing to worry about unless it happens more frequently. Cigarette smoking apparently increases the chances of breakthrough bleeding.
Some women also experience it because they get low on vitamin B while on oral contraceptives. It's wise to see you doctor if you suspect this so that you can discontinue the pills for awhile and take a b-complex supplement to get you body lined back out. A doctor can test you b vitamin levels and let you know if they have gotten too low.
Oh, and the reason it takes you 2 days to start is because you have weaned yourself off of the pill for the month relatively slowly. Each week has a different dosage of synthetic hormones. It takes your body a day or two to realize that the hormones have dropped enough to merit shedding the uterine lining. A rapid drop in those hormones makes your body notice it faster and takes immediate action.
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so on the 20th its gonna be my birthday and one of my guy friend whats to have birthday sex and really i dont care cause were more like friends with benifits but we never had sex but he wants to on my birthday and i dont mind its just he has a girlfriend but he really dont like her and it sounds mean but i hate that b***h and me i dont believe that anybody should cheat on anybody but because i hate her so much i really actually for once dont care so should i sleep with him cause i do like him hes so nice and mad cute but im kinda torn between if i should or shouldnt (link)
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No.
1. It's YOUR birthday. If you don't really care then what's the point of even doing that when you could do something that YOU find enjoyable on YOUR birthday?
2. Friend with benefits never works out pretty. Never.
3. He has a girlfriend. How would you feel if your boyfriend was planning to sleep with another girl behind your back, even if you weren't so nice to him all of the time? I'd be pretty bitchy too if my man couldn't keep it in his pants. You REALLY do not want to get involved in breaking up a relationship, even if it seems like a bad relationship to you.
4. You're not even sure. If you're not even firm on your decision then you'll likely make the wrong one if you proceed. Nothing screams, "NO!" than being unsure.
Find better things to do and enjoy your birthday.
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For about a year now, my boyfriend and I have had "dry sex". We stimulate each other through our clothing. Recently, he's fingered me. Is this considered sexually active and cause to go to a gyno? (link)
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Yes, you are sexually active.
Simply because you can still contract many illnesses and STDs. Doctors very much need to know if you've engaged in any type of sexual activity. Handjobs and mutual masturbation (getting fingered, in this case) need to be counted as "sexually active" because of the risk of disease that can be spread during these activities. It's important to inform your doctor when you have been sexually active and how many partners you have had.
If you feel the need to clarify, you can do so in the doctor's office by saying, "I am sexually active because I've been fingered but I have not had actual intercourse or oral sex yet." The doctor will know that you have been at risk for STDs before and will be able to help give you a proper diagnosis, treatment, or thorough check-up because of this.
Diseases like herpes and HPV can be transmitted by fingers/hands--more if there are cuts on the fingers. Always wash your hands before touching your genitals. Make sure to always have your partner wash his hands before touching you. Washing isn't going to kill everything that may be lurking deep under the nails but it can help to get some of the icky things normally picked up during daily activities off and cut down on spreading germs.
Just because you're not at risk for pregnancy doesn't mean you're not doing something sexual / engaging in sexual activities. See what I mean? ;)
You should probably see a doctor for your regular exam. The month you started your period? You should have seen a doctor then, once every year. It's a regular health examination. It ensures you are an healthy adult woman. It's past time to be seeing a doctor for your yearly examinations.
Just because you're not sick now doesn't mean you shouldn't get your yearly check-up. It's like skipping the dentist because you don't have a cavity yet or because you haven't eaten sweets in 6 months. It's something you need to do to make sure there are no underlying problems that you don't realize you have. It's to make sure everything looks alright and you are developing properly.
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