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there are these 3 guys. 1 i like and sorta likes me, 1 that likes me that i just think of as a friend, and 1 that likes me ane i like him. i'm confused on what to do because i feel stupid waiting around for guy number one when i know nothing will ever happen and i really like the third guy. what should i do wait around for guy number one who is really shy and wont make any moves or go for the third guy who will make the moves and is a little more confident and i know likes me?

Defenitely go for the third guy, because guy number one isn't going to do anything, and like you said, you can't wait around forever. And you already know he fully likes you, whenever the other one sorta likes you. And he's confident which is a good thing ; and he sounds like he'll be more fun to hang out with and more talkative =) So defientley go for the third guy!! Hope I helped!!







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MELii

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what are some really romantic things i can do for my (been together 10 months) boyfriend?

hes a bassist/singer/guitarist/musician
he loves descendants/green day/ blink 182
a major music fan (any kind of music)

we live in a small town in ohio

thanks

Well since he's a major music fan, I would take him to a concert. Of course, it'd have to be a Green Day one since Blink 182 quit =( Well I'm sure he has other favorites, but you only mentioned those two, but anyways, I'm sure he'd LOVE to go to one of their concerts =) Or maybe try and go online like on ebay or something and go try and buy something signed by the band.. but that can get pretty expensive, so I'd just stick with the concert =) Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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I wanna dye my hair pink, but not permanent maybe like a week, or sumthing, but not more than 2 weeks. How can I do it? I mean like where can i find the dye? or can i do in naturally? with like with stuff i hav from my house? i heard coolaide (sp) works or sumthin! I hav dark brown hair, please help?1 thnx

If you go to a hair styling place, I'm sure they have color stuff you can use. But if you just go to like a dollar store or something, they might have hair coloring stuff. Because that stuff comes out like whenever you shampoo it. I would check maybe with like punk/goth stores maybe like Hot Topic. I've seen spray things there before. And I don't think Koolaide works. I read somewhere in a magazine ( it was humiliating stories ) and this girl tryed using koolaide to make her hair red, adn she started getting hot and sweating ( she was in gym ) and it ran down her face adn she couldn't get it out!! =O so I'd suggest just buying stuff. Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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Ok i just met this guy a little bit ago and i have just startd to have feelings for him but there are some problems he is 19 and i'm 15 and he doesnt know i like him but i want to tell him...and but i dont think he will be interestd cuz of the age what should i do??

Well what I would do is I would just ask him to hang out with you ; and if you're too nervous about that, maybe invite a few friends to lighten the mood =) Because there really is no age limit to love, but the limit between you two seems fine.. 4 years. I like someone right now who is 17..which is 3 years. But I really wouldn't suggest dating him just yet because it's illegal for an adult to date a minor ; but people do it all the time and it's your life. But next time you guys hang out just see if he flirts with you and if he holds your hands and stuff..just keep sending him signals that you liek him and see how he reacts to them.. and later in the evening just be like,"Hey.. I have something to tell you, but please don't let it affect our relationship if you don't feel the same.. I like you alot..I mean I know we have an age difference, but alot of people date eachother with age differences.." ( not exactly that but maybe something like it )..hope I helped!!





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MELii

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My friend told me that he was moving away...I'm very bummed about it but I dont know what I can do...Can someone please help me like how did you feel and what did you do and everything. Thanks a lot!

Well what I would do is I would hang out with him as much as possible before he moves away. And keep a positive attitude, you don't want to be all mopey and make him feel worse =( and then whenever he does move away, just IM him and ask him how it is there and is the house nice and stuff.. and then maybe write him a few letters every now and then too, and if he's not moving away like REALLY REALLY far, then maybe every few months he/you could visit one eachother. But the one positive thing I've ever had about a friend moving away, a new one always comes along =) Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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good make out tips?
i rate high

Just:

-just keep your eyes closed
-breathe through your nose
-just go nice and slow at first, and then maybe go a little faster =P
-relax, cause he might sense you're all tensed up
-and then you BOTH can't lead, but he probably will, so just let him, but then again, sometimes guys like it whenever a girl leads =P
-guys like it whenever you play with their hair while you're kissing
-guys also LOVE lipgloss. Get some nice flavored stuff =)


...hope I helped!!







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MELii

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I made the cheerleading squad this year and i love it.. but our coach said any girls that argued or talked about each other behind their baQs or caused drama were going to be kicked off the squad.. and there is a girl on the squad that is so mean to me.. she makes fun of me but says she is just pickin but it bothers me and she says rude stuff that makes me mad.. but i havent said anything to her about it because i'm afraid it will make her mad and start a fight but i'm rele tired of being treated like that... wut should i do?!?

Well I would tell your coach, because then she could have an talk with the girl that's mean to you ; and I'm sure if you ask to be anonymus, you're coach won't tell her who said it. And then you said that the coach kicks girls off for doing that stuff, so if she gets kicked off the squad, you wouldn't have to deal with her anymore. But if you don't want to kick her off the squad, then I would just pull her over, and be like," Look, just stop being mean to me. I did't do anything to you, and if you want to keep doing it, I just might have to talk to the Coach." Cause then she'll realize her spot on the squad's on the line. Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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i use to cut alot but after i started goin out w/ this one guy i stopped for him. We broke up after 6 months and for this whole past year every time ive wanted to cut i've thought of him and would think about how much he would hate it if i started again. Well im still in love w/ him and i finally got the courage to call him and tell him. He told me that did love me and that really broke my heart and i've been wanting to cut really bad but i don't know what to do!someone plz help!!!!

thanx
-twiSted

Well if you're loved him and thought about how he'd hate it if you cut yourself, think about the other people now that you love and would hate it too. Because they care about you too and they want you to be safe. And even though he may not love you, I'm sure he still cares if you cut yourself or not, and I'm sure he still would hate it if you did, so keep that in mind too. You just have to keep telling yourself not to and resist the urges, and I would also suggest maybe getting some help. Go to a talk group with other people who have the same problem...hope I helped!!







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MELii

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what kind of music is this grateful dead, frank zappa, little feet, the who, rolling stones, led zepplin, pat b., santana, weird al, rage against the machine, jimmy hendrix ??

Most of it is Classic Rock. Except Weird Al.. he really only takes peoples songs and makes them really funny ( I love "Amish Paradise" haha ) anyways, they're mostly all Classic Rock. Hope I helped!! =)





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MELii

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I was just wondering what to say to my boyfriend he is 18, to compliment him. Without making him feel weird. Like he always says im beautiful and things like that, but I always wonder how I can make him feel as special as he makes me feel but without making him feel like less of a man or somthing like that...any idea? thank you

Just tell him how you feel and how you like having him around and stuff. And just be like," Aww that's so sweet"." I love you so much baby". "You're so funny" and next time he calls you gorgeous, just be like," You ain't too bad lookin' yourself there." =) But next time he says anything don't be one of those girls who are like," You're just saying that to make me feel better." or something like that cause then it shows you don't have a high self-esteem and guys like it whenever girls look confident and comfortable with themselves, and then he'll feel weird for saying it...hope I helped!!






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MELii

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what is STD? i have seen people write about it on here and i don't know what it is is it short for aids? or something?

It stands for Sexually Transmitted Diseases. AIDS is one of the things. Theres Gential Warts, Gonnorhea ( sorry about the spelling ), Herpes, Crabs..etc. You can get it through almost any type of sexual contact ( not kissing though ) ..it's good you asked. You should learn about it. How old are you, cause you should learn by about 8th grade.( Thats when they taught it to us this year..)..Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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I hate the word: diet. Whenever I try to go on one, I always am thinking more and more about the food I CANT eat and then I want it even more. I want to lose 10-15 pounds and keep it off. I started running a mile every morning and eating more fruits and veggies. If there is any more tips that anyone could help me with... that be great!
-xxkissmexx

Well what you already started doing sounds really good ; so I'd just keep going with that. But what I'd also do is have your mom buy foods but with reduced fat and stuff like that, or just not buy them at all. But just make a mental note for yourself," No bad foods.." and repeat that to yourself and just picture yourself and what you'll look like whenever you're done =) And to keept it off, just everytime you look at something, look at all the fat and sugar's and how high it is. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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my boyfriend and i currently broke up we were going out for about 3/4 months we broke up and he said he didn't want a gf. A few weeks l8er i guess he changed his mind he said he really liked this other gurl and that he didn't think that me and him would go out 4 a while. What can i do 2 get back at him? i already have a boyfriend but is there anything i can do? Like 2 get him 2 like me again? P.S. hes never online and he wont answer my e-mails! plez help

Well the first thing I would do is it seems if you want to make your ex-boyfriend like you again, and you currently have a boyfriend.. I'd dump your boyfriend because that wouldn't be fair to him if you're dating him adn trying to get another guy to like you again. But maybe I would just stay with your boyfriend because it seems to me like he might not want to talk to you if he's not answering your emails.. =/..and not trying to sound mean here.. but maybe he blocked you? I don't think he did, but I'm just looking at all the options.. but anyways, if you seriously like the guy then I'd dump the boyfriend and go for him, cause who knows? Maybe he only TOLD you he really likes another girl to make you jealous..=) Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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a few days ago, my friend slept over at my house. she's worried about me because she thinks im starving myself!! i dont eat breakfast ; ususally have a pop tart or a bagel for lunch ; and mostly crackers for dinner. i dont think im starving myself.. but she does and my other friends are seeing it too. what do u think? im scared.. i dont want to be starved. please help .. ill rate high for good answers!!

Well are you doing it on purpose? Do you think your fat? Cause then that probablys mean you are.. but if you're just not not hungry alot ( cause I'm not either trust me.. I'm the same way. Not like with bagels and crackers, but I just don't eat alot... ) then you're probably not.. cause you ARE eating ; but you should eating bigger portions of stuff. And you're not getting enough nutrition..what I would do is try eat sandwhiches too and just little amounts of dinner and stuff ; and if you are hungrier..then have some more =) and fruits and vegtables are good to eat, cause you're getting nutrition and it's still a light food at the same time =) Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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ok, i have a boyfriend but he isnt the hottest thing in the world. a few people think he is kind of hot, though. anyway, i have this one guy friend that likes me, and always makes fun of the way my bf looks. he is friends with my brother and myself, and lives next door so is at mh house 24/7 and plans on making trouble whenever my bf comes over. it's very annoying. any help?

also, a few other girls i am friends with next door want to meet him and i know they will not be the nicest about his looks probably. i'm shallow, and i know i shouldnt care, but any advice? thank u very much. goodbye.

Just tell him to back off. Just be like," I know you're only making fun of him because you like me. And it's not gonna change anything.. if you think it's gonna make me break up with him and come to you it's not ; it's only making me more mad at you..." ( not those exact words but you get the picture ) and maybe you could go over your boyfriends some more or go somewhere else...and with your friends ; they shouldn't make fun of your boyfriends looks because then they really don't seem like friends. But if they do, just explain to them how it's not all about looks. He makes you happy and makes you feel good. That's whats happening with me right now. Theres this guy I'm friends with and he's not very good looking ; but he's SO SWEET and SO NICE and FUNNY and stuff =) but anyways, hope I helped!!






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my dad is sooo annoying.. and he is soo strict.. and won't let me do anything hardly.. I always have to go to my mom... what can I do to try and get him to calm down.. cause he is mad all the time.. and what can I do to let me do stuff more?

Omg Ihave the SAME exact problem except switch parents. My moms ALWAYS mad and stuff and doesn't let me do like anything =/
Next time he says you can't go somewhere, what I would do is try to find out why.. if he's concerned for your saftey or something like that, then just next time you ask for something to him, just explain:

-where you're going
-who you're going with ( if he doesn't trust them, he probably won't let you )
-what time you're going/when you'll be back
-if a parent will be there
-he can call you every 2 hours or so to check up on you


..cause then he'll feel more secure knowing how responsible your being and that he'll be able to contact you adn check up on you to see if you're alright. Cause I can kinda understand where he's coming from, with all these kidnappings and such happening lately =/ but you shoule still be able to go places..but also, have you ever done anything before to lose his trust? Cause that could be it.. and you'll need to gain it back...but if you ask and he still says no, then I would just stick with your mom. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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OK..I ALWAYS go to bed late. If I try to go to bed early, i still don't go to bed until about
3-4AM. I've tried not to stay on the computer and tried to clear my mind and everything and i still cant sleep. After that i have a tendancy to wake up a tiny bit late (10-11 AM)..And i mean a couple times i may get to bed if I'm lucky around 1AM..i dont know what to do and my mom just thinks that i stay up on purpose so she doesnt wanna help me..what do you thinks wrong?? is there anything to prevent this from happening anymore?? thanks!!!

I have the same exact problem. Actually, I didn't wake up this morning until 1! What I do is I try to busy myself cause then I will get tired ( like on vacations I got so tired I fell asleep right away and woke up at 7! ) But anyways, I'll end up getting tired and getting sleepy. Like you can take a quick run around the neighborhood or something before you go to bed. Other things to do are:


-try eating or drinking something. Sometimes people get sleepy after they have milk or their stomaches full.

- watch TV for a bit. That seems to tire me sometimes...or fall asleep listening to the TV but it down on low volume just enough to hear ( this is anotehr problem I have. I hate being in quiet. I need to listen to SOMETHiNG. Thats another reason I couldn't sleep..) but also don't forgot to put it on SLEEP MODE.. so you don't run up your parents bill!! =)


-also sometimes just try laying there and clearing your mind..just think of something and after awhile you'll think about it so much you don't realize you fell asleep! =)


-listen to music while you're trying to sleep. It'll help relax your mind and will make you try and sleep easier. Also, once when I did it, I fell asleep to Jesse McCartney, and I had a dream about him.. hehe it was a good on too haha

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ok well this year is going to be my sweet 16 (im a felmale) and i want to have a really good party. I live in pittsburgh pa. i dont want to travel to far because with the cars we have we can only hold like 6 other ppl besides my family. my birthday is in dec. so its prob going to be cold out. also i want something that will be somewhat cheap. like i dont have a very big budget at all and i cant afford to rent somehwhere really nice or go anywhere real expensive. The party is prob going to be all girls but im not sure and i dont want something that i have to have a certain about of people because i dont no how big of a party im aloud to have. i no i can have at least 10 depending on what it is.

First: IM ME PLEASE! =) hahaha I live in Pittsburgh,PA too!! =D



Well since it will be in the winter, it's gonna be freezing out. But maybe you should all go ice skating or something or have a snowball fight =) and then whenever you go inside just sit down get in pajamas, drink hot chocolate, and maybe watch movies and do eachother makeup and just talk and have a sleepover! =) And have a nice warm fire too =) That'd be awseome if I went to a party like that! Hope I helped!





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Im 13 and im going to planned parenthood to get birth control..will they let me have it even though im only 13?? And im sexually active-I just want to be safe!

Yeah they should give you birth control no matter what you're age. And I would also wear condoms too, to be even safer. Hope I helped!!





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Whats planned parenthood?
i rate 5's

It's an orginization where the can test you for pregnancy and give you condoms and such and they'll teach you more about sex education ( more than what you learn in class ) and they also can test you for STD's and STI's and stuff, and it's all completley confidental, so you dont have to worry about your parents finding out! Hope I helped!!


go to:
http://www.plannedparenthood.com



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