When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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i was raped when i was younger and i don't know what to do anymore it haunts me in my sleep. I think about it all the time and when i see any of the guys that did that to me i freak out i start crying and they were all over five years ago so i can't go to the police and tell them i was raped i don't know any of the guys names. All i know is that they used to date my mom and when i told my mom that they were doing that to me she didn't believe me. I am now in foster care and i don't ever see my mom. But that fact that i was raped is scary and i need all the help and advice that i can get. so please anyone help me. (link)
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hey,
i read your problem and i think that was such a hard and tough experience. I am really sorry it all happened. umm...alot of us go through different experiences which haunts us for the rest of out lives, and we never forget and we come to think of it, we just end up crying our eyes out for hours and hours. We also lose very close people to us and sometimes hurt other's feelings. But then you have to come and think again, did life come to an end when you were raped? No it didn't. Is there no more hope in this world anymore? ofcourse there is.
Do you see what i mean? hope is there believe it or not, but sadness can control alot, don't let it get to you, and don't let it beat you, and let faith grow from the inside. I am sure, and although i don't know you, but i am sure that you are an extremely amazing person with a great personality, and that you care about others.So don't waste that on shit. I know that what happened was really major and bad , but i also know things that happened and were much worse than that, if you can imagine.
Look, i know that it has been really hard and tough for you all those years, but there has to come a time when you get over this, and consider what happened as a part of your past,but not as a part of your future or the time being.So bury it deep deep down under layers and layers of ground, where no body could ever find it, and move on and start a whole new life again, and meet new people, and make new friends, and stand up for yourself, and be confident, and as long as you know that you are a good person and that you don't do anything wrong or anything of that shit, then god forgives you and everyone forgives you. Sometimes, you have to face your weakness points and try to overcome the things that upset you, or else you'd change into something more like a suicidal person, which would be nothing but a dumb and idiotic act, to waste a good and fascinating soul like yours,who could have had a great life and a great future, and satisfied her dreams and became a successful person and got married and had kids and lived happily ever after.You see, this is how the story should end, by someone having a horrible miserable childhood, but then he stood up for himself and moved on, and overcame his problem. And if you weren't a good person, you wouldn't have dreamt about it everynight, or thought about it every minute, or felt guilt, or came here on this site and asked for advice.So screw those boys,because they are going to hell and you are going to heaven.
Good luck, and please try to consider this, and have you have any further worries or questions, please be free to post more questions at any time, or if its personal you can contact me on alaa.abuali@hotmail.com.
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Okay soo I'm a 15 year old female. I've been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month now. I love spending time with him! but i see him more as a friend than anything else. When we kiss there just arent any sparks. I'm afraid of hurting him, but i think if i stay with him ill just hurt him more later on... any ideas? (link)
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hey,
As i read through your problem, it seems to me that when you say i don't want to hurt him, it means that i will keep dating him out of pity.
Listen to me, as long as your hanging out with him and pretending to take him as your boyfriend, than that is unfair for him and for you, and that means that your wasting your time and his time. You know why, because there could be a girl who really does like him and wants him as a boyfriend, and then again, there could be someone that you will see later on and would really like and want as a boyfriend. So you see what i mean? Now all you have to do , is to come out straight and tell him how you feel, because boys like honesty. And not all relationships work, sometimes you are just meant to be close friends or best friends, but you can't be more than that.So forget about the kiss now, because you can't kiss someone that you don't like, and you can't kiss someone that you simplly think of as a friend.
Finally, i think i've clarified my point, and i have nothing more to say, but if you have any further worries or troubles, please be free to contact me. Thankyou.
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(PROS WITH AOL.)
my mom and dad don't want me or my sister on myspace, and i've been sneaking on at my friends houses. aren't they're any sites that like...don't track it in your history? AND, i have parental blocks on my computer, and i wanted to know how to get around it...i also have AOL GUARDIAN on my account, so my mom knows what i'm doing all the time. if i use a different browswer, will it still record it?
anything would help... thanks. x333 (link)
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hey,
Listen i have a suggestion, but i am not sure it could work. After you use any browser or whatever it is that you want to use, you can open the history folder, and delete all the browsers and files you used.
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what is the best product or method for removing leg hair besides shaving with a razor? any bladeless kits or anything that works good with little burning? (link)
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In my opinion, the best shaving method is waxing.You can buy it from any supermarket or any pharmacie.
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I've caught my dad in porn and sex chat rooms so many times. Everytime he talks to me its not the same anymore, we used to be sooo close and now i cant even look him straight in the eye anymore. Hes always out of the house, and my mom works at nightt. I went to his work one day he wasnt there, and then a lot of people called the house asking for him. When he got home I asked him where he was at, he said golfing in the morning with the hugest smerk ever it disgusted me and i wanted to just cry. Then i was like what about later he said he was at work. But those people that called me at like 5pm said he wasnt there. Then he always locks his computer, and one day i caught him using a web cam, then i found lub. and a vibrator. He gets home so late on the nights my mom works. What i want to know is what should i do, cause for all i know he's just a guy looking at porn. (link)
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hey,
I know that this is such a hard and tough situation for you especially when your the only one that found out and you don't have anyone to back you out, and that there is also a probability that some people won't believe you. But in this situation, you have to take some risks, you said that you were so close to your dad and stuff and then you started to part away from each other, and that you've seen some bad things on his computer from time to time. So i suggest that you tell some one about it,which you MUST do before he actually cheats on your mom.so the next time you see something on his computer or if someone calls and says that he hasn't been to work and all these stuff,then you should call your mom and tell her immediately, because your not saying rumors about your dad here, your just really worries and you care about him. But it would be much better if you showed your mom one of those sex chats or porn pictures and stuff ,so that it would be much bigger proof.Moreover, try to be calm and at ease and tell her that you love your dad and that you are just worried about him and need to help him, because if you say it in a mad and disgusted way then your mom will get really angry and start feeling that your father cheated on her and that would lead to bad consequences such as your parent's divorce. Unlike, if you sit quitely , just the three of you and talk about this together in a calm manner and try to draw a line to what your father got himself into.
Finally, try to do what i said, and if there is any improvement or if there is any further questions or worries,then be free to contact me.
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i hate math...me and math will never understand each other...i always get c's on my report card...i was in tutoring but that did'nt help much....my parents give me a hard time on it all the time..and all my friends are really good at it...my parents are always saying look at my friends there doing perfect in it...wat do i do??? (link)
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Hey,
I totally understand what your talking about. I hate math too, and i always get a low grade i math. Until i started getting extra practise from teachers and friends and my dad. I did my best and i was a very hardworker, therefore at the end of the term i got really good grades. So i know that tutoring didn' work, but just try to be a much hard worker and take extra practise as much as you can.
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im taking arabic lessons and i was just wondering how do you say my love in arabic... thns in advance!
take care (link)
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hey ,
I'm an egyptian counseller here, so i guess i can help you with that.When you come to say my love in arabic to a boy,you say" habiby"(حبىبى)and when you say it to a girl you say"habibty"
(حبىبتى).
Any further help in the arabic language, please be free to ask.
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i love learning languages and am thinking of taking up russian in college. i am also planning on becoming fluent in french (ive been taking it since 7th grade) by studying abroad junior year. i really want to be trilingual so if anyone has any experience with russian and if anyone knows how difficult it is please let me know! or if you have any other suggestions for languages! (not spanish...too similar to french) (link)
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first of all, All the subjects are easy, they just need a hardworker and alot of practise. Therefore, don't worry about russian ,because i know alot of people who studies this language before and learnt it fast.
Moreover, I have just one suggestion for another language and that would be German.
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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me. (link)
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First of all, You said that you like this guy and he kind of does too, and therefore you're sort of dating.Moreover, all the things you did were with your boyfriend. On the other hand, to be a slut is to fuck more than one boy at a time,and to have sex with a different one practically every night. So your not a slut.
Second of all, he could be using you for sex and to do these stuff for him, and in the same time, he couldn't. And to judge about that, you'll have to wait when you're in a difficult situation for example, and then you'll know, if he stands beside you and is there for you, then he loves you and cares about you and is not using you, but if he doesn't and he ignores you then he is using you.
And although, i am sure that your not gonna keep waiting for a situation to happen to judge about that, so mabye one night when your hanging out together, and he starts doing something, try to tell him" lets not do it tonight" or " i am tired" or "i am not in the mood" or " lets do something else" and if he agrees, then he's cool and isn't using you, but if he gets all pest off and insists, then he is using you.
In conclusion, if there is any further questions or worries, please contact me.
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I'm an 18 year old female, living on the East Coast. My friend Jake is 22, living in Oregon. He is suicidal. Is there anything I can do to help?
I've known him for about 4 years. He has been suicidal since he was 10, apparently - that's 12 whole years of "depression". He just came back from the Jop Corps last week for his summer vacation, so yesterday was my first time speaking to him in 10 months. ALLL he would talk about is getting his hands on some tough drugs and then going to the "train tracks", if you know what I mean.
How do I help him? His complaints are pretty much the usual stuff. His family hates him, no one loves him, he doesn't have a girlfriend and now that he is 22 he will never have kids. For years, I've been trying to help him, trying to comfort him, trying to make points where I feel I can. But oh no, nothing works, because.... "no one loves me". When he says that, it actually insults me. What, have four years of my time meant nothing to him? Isn't there only so much a person can do?
I almost blame myself for not being able to help him. I can not contact his friends or family, because I have zero connection to them. He doesn't live with his parents, so there's no address I can find. He only has a cell phone, so that says that. And I don't even know his parents names, or friends, for that matter. I have zero way to get him help.
I know this isn't about me, but I'm losing my patience here. He is seriously stressing me out. I try and try and try, but I am never good enough. What, does he like being this way, or something? Could he secretly enjoy his lifestyle? Could I have a major attention whore on my hands, rather than a suicidal man?
He is also compulsive liar, which doesn't help anything. I'm thinking his other friends (the ones he doesn't have, according to him), probably assume that if he hasn't done away with himself in 12 years, he will never have the guts. That may be true, but I am not willing to write something like a death threat off, I'm sorry... because I know there is always a breaking point.
I consulted a few of my friends, and of course I heard the same thing every time, "Why do you bother talking to him? Oh, I wouldn't talk to him. Screw that guy."
Only, I know that wouldn't contribute anything to his well-being. Right?
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, at what point should I disconcern myself, if ever? And what more can I do to help him? Trying to help somebody who doesn't want to help themselves, is usually a failure before the process even commences... (link)
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hey,
I've just read your problem, and i understand that its really tought for you, and your probably really worried about him.
But let me tell you something, i had a friend when she was 10 years old she started getting so depressed all the time for no reason, and she started having all those feelings that her parents and friends and everyone hates her, and nothing could help in cheering her up, and she became really suicidal and once or twice, she was on the verge of ending her life. But thank god, i stood beside her and i helped her.So now, i understand what your going through, and i am going to help you to help your friend.
First of all, you have to be beside him everyday and every second, and comfort him and cheer him up, and show him that you care, and show him that even if the whole world hates him as he claims they do, but you don't and they you will always be there for him.
Second of all, try to see what are the things that he likes to do and try to do it with him more often, and just try to show him every good thing in this life.
YOu know, alot of people come to a certain point of their lives and feel really depressed and get really weird ideas , but sooner or later they move on, and you know why, because they always have someone their to stand beside them, and guide them and give them love and care.
Third of all, try to comfort him and point out to him how he has a family that love him and suggest that he could mabye go and see them in wherever place they live. More and more, try to get him to make friends, their are alot of places where a person can make friends. And try to get him to meet someone , mabye he could fall in love with someone and get really wrapped up in that and forget all his worries. And try to go out alot for walks and stuff because fresh air usually helps, and suggest mabye that he could pick up a sport or go out alot or make friends..etc. There are millions of stuff that a person can do and gets so busy in that he doesn't have time to feel depressed and he forgets his worries. And if he does anything of such, he mabye stop the shitty drugs and the depression moods, and for once move on with his life, make new friends, meet people, visit his family, change his life style, and personality, and have a hobbie or something and feel happy.
So please try to be there for him, and suggest anything of what i mentioned, and who knows, i mean.. its worth a try,it could work.
Finally, if there is any further problems or worries or even an improvement in the situation,then be free to contact me.Good luck
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I heard that you can use nupercainal ointment like Benzocaine, if having sex for the fist time is extremely painful. Is this true?? (link)
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nupercainal ointment consists of any of various substances in the form of a thick liquid that have a soothing and moisturizing effect when applied to the skin, and is used to sooth the pain and irritation. Moreover yes it is painful, for the first time, but later on you get used to it.
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Sorry in advanced if it is long. I'm 16/f. So, I broke up with my bf of 4 months a month ago. And the same exact day he got a new gf. And he didnt bother telling him, I found out at a party, I saw them together. And it didn't feel right to me, like he shouldn't have moved on so quickly. But I wasn't really jealous I don't think. And we are still friends, which I'm glad for, and I'm constantly going online to see if he is on. And when he is, my heart starts to race like crazy, and I'm like so happy. We can talk forever but little stuff, we just always find things to talk about. I also think about him all the time no matter what, it drives me crazy. And when I'm not talking to him, I feel a little depressed. I'm just scared that if we do get back together, it will end up like the past. I really don't want to hurt him again, I would just hate myself. And after we broke up, I told myself that I did love him, but just that it was just friendship love. But now I"m not too sure. Can I really still be IN love with him? And I just also need some advice on how to deal with these feelings if they won't go away. I'm just really confused and need some advice. (link)
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hey,
First of all, i'll tell you a short story which might help you with this situation. I had a friend of mine who dated a guy for about 3 months, and she was crazy shit about him and they loved each other. but there came a time, when things got a little out of hand and they eventually ,had to break up. And at exactly the same day they broke up, he made a new girlfriend. Very insensitive, huh? Anyway, they stayed close friends and talked alot,at least he treated her like a friend, but she didn't. She still loved him so much, and she was still so crazy about him.She kept having those depressed moments everyday she sees them together or if he mentions his girlfriend, and she stayed like that for over 2 months, until she made a new group of friends and got wrapped up into alot of other things in her life, and she simply got over him.
So i see what i am trying to tell you, I know that you love and yes you are still crazy in love with him, and i am not sure how long your gone stay loving him, but soon it all those feelings will just go away and your gonna totally get over him. Therefore try to think and do anything else when you started thinking of him,and make new friends, and who knows mabye you'd meet a new cute guy and he'd ask you out. And you know something, I am sure that you are an extrememly amazing person, and that there are alot of guys out their who would really want to be with you and wouldn't ever think of breaking up what so ever, and that your ex boyfriend was not the only boy in the world, there is alot more and better than him. So cheer up, and if you have any further problems or worries, be free to contact me.
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lol..i didnt know wat category to put this under but here it goes... im 14/f & i am emo. people think that emo people are freaks. but we are not! we think of life in a different way. my problem is that people are making fun of me. thay call me a loser & stuff like that. i really dont care what people say but there is this girl that keeps on bugging me. she keeps on telling me that she is gonna jump me & stuff. i already told her that i didnt want to start a fight with her. but she wont listen. she is still bugging me.& its getting too far because she has been threatening me. how can i make her stop? thanks 4 your help. =] (link)
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hey,
Alot of people have been mean to me before, and they used to make fun of me and give me a hard time and stuff. So i guess its the same here in your situation, and all you have to do is to simply stand up for yourself, i mean i think she's just enjoying this.. to come and bug you and be mean to you, and she's gonna keep on doing this because your giving her the idea that you are a weak person and can defend your rights. I personally stopped caring about what people think about me, and who bugs me, i stand up for myself.Because everyone is free to do what he wants.Moreover, if you have a group of friends, which i am sure you do, then you could use their help ,and they could stick beside you and that way she wouldn't come and threaten you or bug you.
If their is any further problems or worries, please be free to contact me.
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ok..im going to say this straight out iv got small boobs is their anything I can do to do make them bigger i heard sleeping with out a bra but so far nothing ? anything i can do? ... and i work with this guy and i reallly want him to ask me out ... how can i get him to do this? (link)
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hey,
i don't really think that there is anything that can be done to them,except if its something major like going to medical centers and making operations.
On the other hand, asking a guy out has nothing to do with having huge boobs, because i have seen and known alot of people before who ask guys out,and they do not have huge boobs. Plus, there are alot of actresses in movies and stuff and they don't have huge boobs and they still didn't and have sex. so its not a big deal, becasue if this guy your asking out likes you, he wouldn't care about your appearance.
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ok im over weight and my family and friends are always like "loose weight" and ive tried the no junk food and exercize and thewhatching calories and non of this seems to work what should i do? (link)
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hey,
I've answered a couple of problems like these in column before, so i'll tell you what i said:
1- You can go to the gym everyday and exercise for losing weight and for fitness
2- You can consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan containing only the 4 food groups
3- You have to completely stop eating any junk or fats
4- You can go for long walks
5- you can run the track everyday
6- Do some exercises when you wake up every morning
7- If you get hungry , you can just simply drink alot of water only
8- you can consult a doctor and do with pilates
These are some of my suggestions, but if you want you can check my column for more suggestions. And i promise that if you work on these methods then you'd lose weight and be fit in less than a month.
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I have to go to a party today and I cut my side bangs just now.
I think I cut them way too short because Im wearing my hair up so if they were longer I would have left them out of the ponytail ( if that makes sense)
anyways they're just a little past my eyes ( they use to be alittle longer. do you think this is too short to wear as side bangs? please be honest and answer soon because I have to leave in a little.
thanks (link)
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hey,
In my opinion, i think its not too short to wear it as side bangs, i think its just fine...there's definitely no problem, i've seen alot of people wear their hair like that and its actually sometimes really cute.
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Is this something wrong with me?
It's not a constant thing, but I have some real problems with anger at times. For example before.. Mom and I were in the car and I was crying.. been bogged down by stress, friends issues, and a recent breakup. Then I totally lost it because I felt she wasn't listening to me. I started throwing everything everywhere and kicking and screaming, telling her to listen to me. she tried to act all "calm" about it and even tried to change the topic and ignore what I was saying. I got mad and told her to stop being calm and lose the tone. I got even madder, and then something snapped. I put my fingers in the car window, and pushed the button up until my fingers got caught and kept doing it till I screamed in pain. I also bit hard into my hand in anger and the marks are still there.
I have never done anything like that before. Mom and I haven't spoken since. I feel terrible about what I did. I have no idea what got into me. Is there something wrong with me, or was this just a one-off thing, like losing control for a moment? I feel really ashamed because my mom is good to me, and I went and did something like that. What should I do? Is this a serious problem that requires serious help?
thanks (link)
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As i read through your problem ,i see that you are just like how i was when i was young. I used to be very mad all the time, and i couldn't control my temper at all, my family and friends ued to be really disappointed and stuff. Until one day, people started fighting with me because of all those horrible tantrums and bad temper i have,and they even stopped talking to me. So i sat and thought to myself, and decided that i was gonna change and be a good person, and change my personality and treat people better.It took me quiet a while, but finally i really did change and alot of people told me that, and guess what? its a really great feeling you have when your not angry all the time and throwing mad tantrums, because people love you and you can make friends quick.
Other than that, so what if you have a couple of friend's issues, or a recent breakup. We all stress about different things, and get alittle depressed, and their are days when we are simply "not in the mood" to do anything, but then we move on and work out those friend's issues, and either get back with our boyfriend, or date a new one. So let me tell you something, your not gonna win anything with this bad temper of yours except depression, fights and people's disappointment.
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14|Female...For about two years ever since I found out my dad cheated on my mom...my life has been completely different, i use to feel really confident about my body but now i dont, i feel over weight and ugly (even though im 89lbs)I also have really bad trust issues now..I dont want to be like this anymore I want the old me back, My mom says the best way is for me to talk to someone about it but I cant talk to her because I know that it will upset her about the dad thing and I cant talk to my older sister because she will think im just going through some teenage stage...my mom suggested I see a therapist but i dont know if I want to or not because it just seems weird telling a stranger my feelings...and also I know they cost alot of money so I dont want to just waste money if I am going through a teenage stage but I dont think it is just a teenage stage...Im just really scared I am going to do something crazy if I dont tell people how I feel. So my question is...should I see a therapist or not? (link)
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First of all, i would like to tell you that alot of people get so depressed and sometimes suicidal, because they have family problems or because they are affected by their parents divorce, or if one of them cheated on the other.
But yet, not every problem has to be dealt with therapy and talking to a phsychiatrist.you can talk to anyone about it.
moreover, you don't have to talk to your mom nor your sister, you can just simply to talk to a friend of yours, someone that you really love and trust and has never let you done,plus,you can post your problems here on the site at anytime and we have alot of counsellers here who are willing to listen and help you.
Other than that, about the whole confidence thing, its something natural and THAT can be related to the teenage stage, because everyone's appearance changes when they reach this stage, so don't worry, and as long as you have a good personality and people like you, then you are simply a beautiful person from inside, and as long as you have that, then who cares about looks.
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ok well this is kinda a strange question about niqabs. well if you wear niqab, what are some guidelines to follow? like should you wear only plain colors, should you wear gloves/socks, and can you wear long skirts with long-loose shirts? thank you for your help:) (link)
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hey,
i was born in saudi arabia, so i guess i've seen alot of people with niqabs over there.
umm..there are no guidelines to follow when wearing niqabs as long as:
1: you wear baggy and long loose shirts, you can also wear skirts, but they have to be really long. other than that, some people say that you can wear plain colour, and others say that you can wear any colored clothes, but it is preferred to wear plain because its more appropriate. More and More, yes you have to wear gloves and socks. And to make a story short, you have to cover every body part except the eyes,since you should also wear something on your face to cover your mouth and nose.
2: When a person wears a niqab, he should behave in an appropriate manner and avoid any misbehaviour. And you shouldn't shake hands with a guy or even talk with them, except if he's your husband, so people would respect you as well as you respect the niqab your wearing.
Any further questions or worries you have, please contact me.
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Okay, so I'm 18/f and I've never been technically diagnosed with depression, but lately I've lost the will to do like, anything. I had plans with my friends last night and didn't want to go - I went anyway and it was kinda fun, but I still didn't want to be there, and found myself drifting off into my own little world a lot.
The thing is, nothing in my life is really THAT bad right now. I have a few stresses going on, including financial and the all-too-popular body image thing, but still...
I hate feeling this way, especially when people around me have it so much worse. I don't feel that it's right, and I don't like it.
How do you get rid of this feeling?
I used to be able to control my emotions to the point that I just kinda mentally pushed a button and the bad feelings disappeared. I can't do it anymore, though.
I've tried freewriting (which I do a lot and have suddenly lost the want to do), I've tried going out with friends. Nothing seems to help, and I can't afford to feel this way. I work as a waitress and need to be friendly and caring in order to get good tips, and I don't want to smile at all right now.
So yeah...how do you shake this?
Pay attention to your spelling and grammar, please. I'll rate you down if it's wrong. (link)
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hey,
Let me tell you a short story about myself before i give you advice. I am 13 years old, and i've already done alot of wrongs in my life that any 13 years old teenager wouldn't think of doing, and as a result, i've upset alot of people and disappointed them especially my family, and i've also lost completely all my friends, and i was known in my school as a bitch and had a terrible reputation. After a while, i became so depressed that i was on the verge of commiting suicide and nothing could help me feel better or cheer up. But then i started to take advantage of all those problems i've gone through and i helped others and prevented them from doing it through working on advice columns.Then, i took up a new sport and it happens to be one of the best things that ever happened to me. And then after a while, i got over all my screwed up past, moved on and met new people and started a whole new life.
So what i am trying to tell you is that alot of people come to a certain point of their lives, and they get really tired of waking up everyday and doing the same things,so they get really depressed and lose interest in everything.
Therefore, what you should do is, to try and make a change in your lifestyle, and meet new people. Moreover, you can see what your hobbies are and what you like to do, and you can do it more often.All in all, what i'm trying to say is that you can make a change in your life, and even if its a little one, it will help, because a person always feels happy and excited to be doing something new in his life.
But to do all this, the most important thing is, to know that there is always a bright side to everything,and you could always take advantage of the bad things to make them good and to make you happy and make others too.
Finally, mabye you should take a day off your work and try to get your life back in order, and think of some of things i've said and try to work them out. Because life doesn't just stop there, because a person has been feeling depressed for a day or two, and even if its a week.Its natural, and all people get those depressed moments and wonder if somethings wrong with them, but its simply natural. So, live your life, and always look at the bright side, and after all, your still 18 years old and you've got a long life ahead of you.
If you need any further help , or if things don't work out, then contact me and i'll do my best to try and help.
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