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don't know what got into me
Is this something wrong with me?
It's not a constant thing, but I have some real problems with anger at times. For example before.. Mom and I were in the car and I was crying.. been bogged down by stress, friends issues, and a recent breakup. Then I totally lost it because I felt she wasn't listening to me. I started throwing everything everywhere and kicking and screaming, telling her to listen to me. she tried to act all "calm" about it and even tried to change the topic and ignore what I was saying. I got mad and told her to stop being calm and lose the tone. I got even madder, and then something snapped. I put my fingers in the car window, and pushed the button up until my fingers got caught and kept doing it till I screamed in pain. I also bit hard into my hand in anger and the marks are still there.
I have never done anything like that before. Mom and I haven't spoken since. I feel terrible about what I did. I have no idea what got into me. Is there something wrong with me, or was this just a one-off thing, like losing control for a moment? I feel really ashamed because my mom is good to me, and I went and did something like that. What should I do? Is this a serious problem that requires serious help?
thanks
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It's stress from school and all that kindof stuff. I used to get it all the time but know that it's summer it should be easy. The whole pain thing is your body trying to forget the stress like ok there's an old saying that goes time to bite the bullet. In WWII, amputation needed to be done so they would have someone bite as hard as they can into a bullet to help. Don't know how it helps but it does for some strange reason. A good massage would be good for you and trying to do some fun things will also help. Good luck
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Umm.. I think that you may have anxiety and need to see a counsleor because doing things like that isnt abnormal behavior but its not good. If things like that continue you may have to be placed on meds to control yourself. Try apologizing to your mom and talking to her calmly..if you can. Good luck!
-Keosha
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i'm sorry, but that's really bad. you might need to get some professional help.
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I hate to say this but there might be. It would probally be best to see a therapist or a doctor. It would be best if you first talked to your doctor and explain to him/her what you wrote that way if there is he/she can help you out. It could also be stress, you never know until you ask and it wouldn't hurt any either.
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Sometimes people go through a serious stage like this, it's simply a build up of stress created by social, work, lack of sleep, headaches etc etc problems. As you said, you had some social problems.
People let it out in very different ways, you might attack someone, break things, or harm yourself - like you did. Clearly you didn't want to attack your mother because she - as you stated is nice to you; so you attacked yourself probably in connection to the kind of problem you had - something making yourself feel bad?
This isn't too massively serious, it depends, if your a teenager which I guess you are, then most of the commotion could have built up from hormones hence the actions.
This is what you can do about this though to stop yourself doing it again: work on your control, anger and emotions. Control would largely be covered by atending a martial art or something else which takes a lot of inner control. No one deserves to put up with bottling anger all the time, let it out, but not on yourself again, a martial art again would help with this as well, during a sparring (fighting) session, otherwise you can get a punch/kick bag to use at home, and you can even start weight training, most sporting activities will allow u to channel your anger out, as long as it takes effort, sweat and blood (not so much on the blood bit). The only thing you can do about the emotions is perhaps meditation/ active meditation, just start giving yourself lumps of time daily to think about yourself - calming yourself.
Just follow that, and you will be fine, and even enjoy it.
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There are lots of things in life that push us a little over the edge. Maybe your mum seemed cool about it, but it probably frightened her a lot. I have a bit of a problem with things like twisting a finger or something when I can't get a word out right or something, and causing yourself harm because you did or are thinking is never a good thing. You're not crazy or anything, though, and talking to someone about it might be helpful. Your mum is a good place to start, and perhaps a councilor at school could help you. Try to identify the things that push you over the edge and know when certain thoughts come up that can overwhelm you. Learn to put those down quickly before you dwell on them too much. Those would be places to start.
You do seem worn out. Perhaps you should take some small breaks during the day? Or perhaps you need to find some quiet time just to yourself? Take breaks from the things that cause you stress, and train yourself to expose yourself to smaller amounts of stress. Don't take too many things on at once. ^_^
Talk to people you trust about it, and consider talking to a councilor as well. It's not bad now, but you should identify what's happening before things get too out of hand. Good luck! Feel free to drop me another question about things if you have any more. ^_^
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As i read through your problem ,i see that you are just like how i was when i was young. I used to be very mad all the time, and i couldn't control my temper at all, my family and friends ued to be really disappointed and stuff. Until one day, people started fighting with me because of all those horrible tantrums and bad temper i have,and they even stopped talking to me. So i sat and thought to myself, and decided that i was gonna change and be a good person, and change my personality and treat people better.It took me quiet a while, but finally i really did change and alot of people told me that, and guess what? its a really great feeling you have when your not angry all the time and throwing mad tantrums, because people love you and you can make friends quick.
Other than that, so what if you have a couple of friend's issues, or a recent breakup. We all stress about different things, and get alittle depressed, and their are days when we are simply "not in the mood" to do anything, but then we move on and work out those friend's issues, and either get back with our boyfriend, or date a new one. So let me tell you something, your not gonna win anything with this bad temper of yours except depression, fights and people's disappointment.
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I would say this:Go to the doctor!And,talk you your mom.Tell her why you acted that way,and tell her you need to go to the doctor.She will understand.
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yea know wht u mean. i get lyk that all the time. my mom doesnt always listen so i try to do something that gets her attention like banging my head agaisnt the wall or cutting myself. but this really helps. wen your mom is in a good mood sit down and calmly explain how you feel, tell her that you dont feel like she is listening to you. if you express your fealings in a calm manner, she will understand better, it really works. shes your mom shell love you no matter what
it depends..honestly if it keeps up or you get outburst more than 4 times a week you should prbally need help
i was diagnosed with bipolar disorder that mite be what it is
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