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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i think my friend is becoming belimic (sp?). how do i convince her that it's a stupid thing to do?

You can't. Your friend has some serious issues. Get her some help, like a counselor. Eating disorders aren't healthy.

Can anyone help me out.

I have a project on the Holocaust.

Can anyone help me out with it ?

Any good sites to find out about it.

-thanks so much!

Use the library, and google.

do most girls finger themselves?

Some do, and some don't.

I'm just so lost and i feel so stupid because i've never really had a relationship before..btw 15/f. and i met this boy awhile ago and i had a crush on him when we first met, but i swear i have a crush on all the guys i first met. and now recenlty were talkin again and i think hanging out tomorrow. and it was about a month since we've talked. and my crush is back and he just told me he found out the girl he KINDA liked had a bf. so there is hope for me. but ahh i'm so lost. how do i know if i really like him, i'm pretty sure i do because when i hear his name i always direct my attetion to that conversation, look for him in the hall way to say hi, when my phone rings i just have a little hope its him, and when i see his friends i look behind them to see if hes there. and ahhhh i just want him to like me but i think why would he like me out of all the girls. and idk i just need some adive but hell i don't even know what to ask for adive. stupid boys got me so messed up i can't even ask a quesiton. well pretty much any advice will do on this subject.

Don't down yourself. If guys like anything about a girl, it's her confidence. Just hang out with him & see where things go. =)

OK i pick my lips 24/7
i pick them until they start bleeding, and they hurt ALL the time
I use chapstick all the time, and never go any where with out.
So can anyone giving me somthing that'll maybe help my lips stop pealing.
i don't want chapsticks though

I do it too, but not until they bleed. Just until they look okay. When you feel the urge to pick them, do something else. Maybe brush your hair or something. Anything so you can get your lips nice again.

I'm confused. And this whole world confuses me. Nothing makes sense to me, Everything seems so ridiculous... I don't even know why I feel this way about things, Life & people... I love so much, but sometimes I hate everything. Sometimes I feel like destroying everything in my sight. Sometimes I feel like crying my eyes out and I loose all confidence in myself, While other days I feel like the happiest person in the world, Like nothing can bring me down.
I have thoughts in my head which I can't control, as if i'm having a constant fight with myself.
Everyone just thinks i'm crazy. And I think I am going crazy. But I've always been like this.

What's wrong with me?

You could be depressed. See a counselor.

My mom has been sick with a mild cold for about 4-5 days to a week. She's 45. Then all of the sudden last night she almost started vomitting. But she was having diarrhea. She had stomach pains earlier this evening, and had a terrible head ache. I gave her a bag of cold string beans in replace of an ice pack. Is she okay? What's up? I'm scared and worried! I value her health! So much! She had a tempurature of 101 degrees earlier...
Now it's 100.6 degrees. But it took hours too get down. I pray that she's ok. Is something seriously wrong?

I would take her to the hospital. Getting sick more than once a month sounds abnormal.

i hate this. i dont usually care what people think. ive been called a lesbian and emo before and i dont care. but now people are saying the only reason i hang out with this one guy who is like my best friend is cuz i still like him and i want him to like me even though we all know he doesnt. even though thats the reason i originally bacame friends with him, i dont hang out with him because of that. i hate it how people think im so pathetic. it makes me feel like i am. and i dont even know anymore. i like my friends and i dont just hang out with them to get to him. not at all. ugh

im so frustrated please anyone help btw im 14/f

Tell them to fuck themselves.

Well I straighten my hair everyday because its really curly. But a few hours later it starts to curve inward. I see all these girls at my school with PIN straight hair and it lasts all day. Does anybody know how to keep my hair pinstraight all day.

PLEASEEEEE HELP.

THANKS A TON :).

It's probably your straightener, or your hair. Because of the heat or whatever, your hair won't stay the way you intended. Ask them how they do it.

about a week ago i was on the pacsun website and they had this really cute bag/tote that was exclusive online only. and i just looked and it's not there anymore! ugh i can't remember what brand it was, either roxy or tilt or o'neill or billabong..maybe lilu?! ugh i can't remember. it had a floral pattern on it almost like this one: http://shop.pacsun.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10001&catalogId=10001&langId=-1&productId=53016&parentCategoryId=10003&categoryId=18610&pageNumber=-1&sortBy=0 ... OR this one : http://shop.pacsun.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10001&catalogId=10001&langId=-1&productId=47752&parentCategoryId=10003&categoryId=18610&pageNumber=-1&sortBy=0

it was brown and greenish though and really pretty!! if you can tell me what brand it was/where i could find it i would appreciate it sooo much!

I'm not sure what brand it was, but I would check all the Pac Suns where you live. There's 3 where I am, and I would check them all so you can find it. They're bound to have it somewhere.

14/f

I babysit my little brother all the time who is three and now my neighbor asked me to babysit her two boys who are 9 and 12 and I'm nervous cause I've never babysat that age group so I'm nervous. Any tips, hints, or ideas on what to do?

Thanks!

Just do things they like. Play video games, watch movies..Anything. =) They're normal just like all the other kids you've watched.

And, I like it. It's short in the back, and long in the very front. I can spike the back and whatnot, and I, of course, straighten the front. But, throughout the day, the sections in the front begin to flip inward, and it looks really stupid. I need some suggestions on how to keep it straight. Maybe some kind of hair supplies or some kind of technique?

Straighten your hair altogether. The "dyke-spike" went out like a year and a half ago.

are fruits & vegetables fattening at ALL? i mean, they HAVE to be atleast a little! if i ate 900 apples a day, i would HAVE to get fatter.... right?

They're not fattening but they've got sugars or whatever so they can store fat. If you ate 900 apples, you'd probably get really sick.

ok well i have been talking to this guy for about a month, we have hung out about 4-5 times (my work schedule is crazy) and i stayed with him the other night, he has been sick and we usually text each other a lot but lately he hasnt texted me, is it because he is sick? he said he would date someone like me but he doesnt wanna jump into anything too soon, so i dont really know what to think. i mean hes sooo sweet....when his pit bull bit me he kissed my finger,,,,he tells me he loves kissing my sweet soft lips...and stuff like that...so what is going through his mind?

He's probably confused, I would just wait it out or talk to him about it.

I want to find out the name of a rock song. It was really popular about a year ago, and I know this isn't much to go on. It's about this girl who has a drinking problem and her boyfriend is trying to help her. But eventually he gives up on her. In the music video the guy or girl is having a party at there house and then the house burns down. The whole song is talking about this guy who loves a girl and trys to help her over come alcoholism. Thats about all I remember.

It's called Scars, and it's by Papa Roach.

Just 13/f my mom and I used to get along really well but now not at all. Im gothic its what I like and I talk about making out and stuff like that around my friends but not at home im totally different I sit in my room waiting till school the next day or an excuse to leave and sneak to go with my friends places. I love my friends with my life. But my mom hates my friends and me. Everything about them and me. Im gothic and my friends are gothic. But their all I got I love them with my life. And my mom hates everything I wear and how I act and who and what I like. But she has no idea what im going threw. I cry my eyes out without my friends they are the only people in my life that understand me. Around my friends im myself without them im very depressed and very very mad. I cant tell my mom anything she tells everyone everything! So I give up on telling her. I tell only my gothic friends anything and everything. But my main best friend is a guy which I can never ever see as friends. Because my mom found out we both love eachother. Hes the kind of ?preppy?depressed? dork but I love him. Im either with him or my other bffs. Hes the first person to fix my life evey morning. I hate my life when im home in the morning but I love it at school. No mom! But if my mom knew my life shed be so sorry if she had this life but shed kill me if she found out. Im the kind of freaky girl whos never had a boyfriends but a lot of guys love me I turn them down I break to many hearts and im just waiting for my bff to be my bf hes the one I love and he loves me we even talked about what would happen if we would happen to date but both of us said what would happen to our friendship. Hes depressed but wont show it to anyone but me and one other person and my bffs. And everyone is dying so im used to death is that normal? So many people that loved me have been getting killed dieing or suicide. So I cant cry at all I just cant I try. That’s another reason why I have no one else they die. Im gothic I get yelled at and have to change it every time I listen to music I like or dress how I like. Even for any black. im going to explode and I get violent. im so messed up confused and depressed. Every time she says all that’s wrong with my friends I get extremely mad and yell. She hates them but their all I got. And my best friend that’s a guy I cant see either because she found out we liked each other. Our moms are even very close friends. But we convinced our parents we didn’t like each other anymore (but we do) were just hoping about getting in a relationship once this all levels out. But pretty much if you didn’t no it you’d think we were dating. We hug we laugh we kissed we are the closest ever. We have never been sexual together were not even dating and I don’t think I will till im like 15. but we sure talk perverted. But all I want is for my mom to leave me alone about everything. I cannot get a therapist. But what should I do to change her thoughts about my friends, clothes, personality, guys, grades, jewelry, music I can even go on and on about what all she hates about me. also my life is explained by the band Evanescence listen to It youll under stand my life.
A I wana change my mom hating everything about me.
B whats so bad about being gothic we have our own ways of fun and people hate us because when we go gothic but we go gothic because people hate us so leave us alone.
C is it bad not being able to be myself without my friends.
D im depressed at home then at school it all changes. How do I change that.
E is it bad that we wait for eachother and I turn down other guys.
F I hate his mom so does he also. How do I help his life.
G whats wrong I cant cry. To many people die so im used to death?
H how do I get her to like my friends.
I how do I make it so I can see my bff again (the guy)
J is it bad for us to be to … lovey together
K is it bad to think and act perverted I do now my friends are
~please help me~

I understand where you're coming from basically because I've been there & done that. I went through a goth phase and I had family members asking me when I was gonna be "normal" again. Normal to my family is ghetto or preppy. Which I'm neither of. I just basically wear what I want. When I was in that phase, I hated everyone, and much of my depression comes from those times, but I deal.

I would see a counselor so you guys can discuss things on how to solve your problems & try to be happy again. You need anti-depressants & some anger control medicines.

i have short legs. and with short legs (any leg type really just more on short legs ) you got to keep them fit to look good. and i feel like ive been letting myself go. and i have a little belly. not much but i want to fix it for summer. any good diets or anything at all? thanks so much!!!

I take it you're young. And if you are, crash diets aren't the answer, but here goes anyways.

DO'S
- Run at least a mile a week. You don't have to run a mile the first day, but work up to it. =) And don't run horribly fast, pace yourself so you don't get tired so quickly.
- Exercise for 30 minutes a day, everyday.
- Give up junk food. That means sweets, fast food & sodas. Anything with lots of sugar is a no no.
- Drink 8 glasses of water a day. And 4 glasses of milk a day. You'll pee a lot, but it boosts your metabolism, and helps you to lose weight.
- Eat healthy. Veggies, fruits & meats are essential. Try not to eat fats/oils a lot.
- Make sure to eat lots of dairy. Yogurt & cheese specifically. If you're lactose intolerant like me, eat them sparingly so you don't get sick.

DON'Ts
- Do not exercise before bed. [Exercising makes your muscles work & move. Your muscles should be relaxed before bedtime so it's easier to get to sleep.]
- Don't eat before bed. Your digestive system slows down at night, so the food will sit there & eventually make you gain weight.
- When you see results, don't stop what you've been doing. If you stop, all the weight will just come back, and everything you've worked on will basically have been a waste of your time.
- Don't be discouraged if you gain weight. Muscle weighs more than fat.

k, im in 9th grade and i have to wake my 8 year old brother up for school and he never gets up when i tell him to. what can i do to make him get up the first or atleast the second time i tell him too? he has an alarm clock but it doesn't wake him up so i do it.

Scream in his ears. Or throw water in his face.

ok i have 2 questions what is the difference between head and a blowjod and can u get aids from giving head or a blowjob??

There is no difference. Genital herpes & warts are STD's that you can get by oral/anal/any type of sex if you do not wear a condom.

So be safe at all times.

ok there is this kid, lets call him josh for example. Well josh definitly likes me and there is no doubt about that and well i cant decide if i like him or not. he's a great friend and he listens to me and he cares about me and he doesn't think im pathetic when i cry and get depressed. He's a really nice guy but i can't see myself being intimate with him. He's not very attractive and sometimes he can be really dorky and he is also obsessed with the army which i am not so i don't know what to do. He has really small lips and they are sort of curved inward so i cant imagine kissing him. But he has muscles which is a turn on. Any advice as to what to do would be greatly appreciated.
im afraid if he asked me out i woldn't know what to say. but lately he's always on my mind and i want to see him all the time. I'm so confused. Please help me.

Just because someone is not attractive, and they're sort of dorky, it means nothing. Those are usually the best guys to date because they usually treat you the best. Most of the good looking guys can be idiots/jerks. If you don't like him, & he asks you out, tell him you don't see him that way. Don't say yes because you wanna make him happy, say yes because you really like him.

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