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not sure how i feel
ok there is this kid, lets call him josh for example. Well josh definitly likes me and there is no doubt about that and well i cant decide if i like him or not. he's a great friend and he listens to me and he cares about me and he doesn't think im pathetic when i cry and get depressed. He's a really nice guy but i can't see myself being intimate with him. He's not very attractive and sometimes he can be really dorky and he is also obsessed with the army which i am not so i don't know what to do. He has really small lips and they are sort of curved inward so i cant imagine kissing him. But he has muscles which is a turn on. Any advice as to what to do would be greatly appreciated.
im afraid if he asked me out i woldn't know what to say. but lately he's always on my mind and i want to see him all the time. I'm so confused. Please help me.
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When I started dating my b/f I was 15, he was 16 and he was shall we say, pretty dorky (though he too had muscles, lol). But he was the nicest, most genuine, funny, wonderful person in the world. I was one of the pretty, popular girls (apparently) and I had the same feelings - I liked him as a person, even loved him I guess, but the physical attraction wasn't 100% there. However, I hung around with him more and more as friends, and after really getting to know him I found him irresistable! At the time noone could see why I went out with him, but I have been with him for four years now and 1) he is now VERY handsome - dorky boys often just have to grow into themselves! and 2) I couldn't possibly be happier.
You should ask him to spend a day with you at the mall or something, as friends, and see how it goes. If you look past the fact that he's maybe not immediately attractive and focus on the great personality he has, pretty soon you'll find that he starts to looks pretty good too... and you'll probably have a great relationship.
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Just because someone is not attractive, and they're sort of dorky, it means nothing. Those are usually the best guys to date because they usually treat you the best. Most of the good looking guys can be idiots/jerks. If you don't like him, & he asks you out, tell him you don't see him that way. Don't say yes because you wanna make him happy, say yes because you really like him.
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The fact that someone's lips 'curve in' shouldn't be a deciding factor!
If you get along with him as well as you say you do, give him a chance. Trust me; those little physical things that you just COULDN'T get over seem to magically disappear when you start to have feelings for them.
P.S. The dorky ones are the best ones to date. They actually appreciate what you have to offer!
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